Hey. Just Wanted To Give You Some Anon Love And Support. Sorry People Insist On Taking Everything In

Hey. Just wanted to give you some anon love and support. Sorry people insist on taking everything in bad faith. Your post about vent channels and needing space away from the horrors of reality was spot on. The 'don't you dare look away' mentality has done immeasurable damage to my mental health over the years, and it pisses me off that it's still so prevalent. Thanks for speaking out in support of people taking care of their mental health. It's greatly appreciated. <3

People will always take something in bad faith, for better or worse the world isn't a hivemind. I always look at them as opportunities to educate—and that even if my words don't reach that individual, hopefully they may yet reach someone else.

As I've taken to saying; if you stand too close to the flames you'll choke on the smoke.

Everyone needs respite. Everyone needs spaces which are disallowing of trauma. Everyone loves to talk about how important mental health is until you point out that an individual's mental health takes precedence over their "obligation" to be an activist on behalf of the whole world.

We all need respite. We can't put out fires if we're burning alive ourselves. Its basic humanity.

I'm actually sick of living in a world where all people do is complain and crap on each other for things without actually making any effort to contribute to society or change things at all.

"Our politics suck! The people in charge don't care!" "Well, do you vote?" "Of course not! Why would I?!"

"I never know which products are helpful for my disability! The reviews tell me nothing!" "Well, do you leave a review or share the information when you find one that is?" "What, no? Why would I?"

"My city is rife with homeless people and trash and its disgusting. I never want to be out in it anymore." "Why don't you petition for your local council to employ the homeless as litter pickers? Two birds, one stone. Homeless people get jobs, trash gets cleaned up." "That's so much effort and they'll never do it anyway!"

Like I'm sorry to tell you but things don't just magically happen. You actually have to make them happen.

Gods can bestow a bountiful harvest but they cannot bless barren fields.

That is to say; you can do all the praying and complaining and wanting you like, but unless you actually put forth a little effort, you're not going to get any results.

Vote. Leave reviews. Campaign. Answer questions. Ask questions. Be stubborn. Sign petitions. Organise that litter picking volunteer day. Upvote and share posts with valuable information.

Sitting around whining and trashing other people for not doing enough when you yourself do nothing is not changing the world.

Helloooooo!! Everytime I come across your blog my brain goes "it's Tea!!" And then I open it and see the pinned post and am like "Sephiroth. It's Sephiroth🤦🏽" lol

Hope you have a lovely day, I really enjoy your blog and the information you provide. You're so smart and cool

Ahh shit I'm repeating what Ive said before

You're so thoughtful and your blog brings me lots of joy

K byyye

I am more than willing to be addressed as Tea. ☕

(Honestly, call me as you wish. I'm kind of like a dog that way, say it enough and I'll just associate it with myself!)

I hope you have a lovely lifetime, sweet anon. Call it narcissistic or self-indulgent but I do always love the little messages like this. Especially when I recognise the sender!

Thank you for this, it was a welcome little happy moment.

Ahem.

You don't have to share those spaces. Bigotry is still bigotry. The original point was in absolutely no way saying "you have to share spaces with bigots" and if that's what you took from it honestly; that's a you issue.

"Depending on the server, vent channels could be useful." Sure. Just not in spaces where, as per my post, they are not welcome. Saying vent spaces can be useful is completely irrelevant to my point that spaces wherein they are barred are just as useful and important.

Have a day.

I am actually begging some people to just let some spaces exist untouched by real-world issues and horrors.

Like I've lost count of the amount of times peaceful game or fandom servers have been ruined by people stampeding in with political rants, bitching about world issues, demanding internal activism, demanding vent channels so they can whine about their shitty parents, ect.

Like. Respectfully. Not every single space has to be inclusive of and welcoming of outside topics. The real world sucks. We don't needed to be reminded of that absolutely everywhere.

Can I tell you why I don't like the anti community anymore? It's okay if you don't but I just need to get it off my chest given I saw someone acting like a victim when their blog was deleted for targeted bullying lol.

But it shouldn't have taken me as long as it did to realize, but I've watched anti's for a while - especially a handful in the ficitonal other / self shipping community, who just absolutely vague and bully those who don't agree with them off this website and out of the comm. It's a community that's supposed to be safe and comfortable with the idea of shipping with fiction characters but 'oh no if you ship with that one you're problematic, you will be vagued about it and we will do everything possible to put you don't til you leave or we start targeted harassment til you're forced to leave'.

It's so wild to me that this space, any space, that preaches being as inclusive as possible and non-judgemental has a long, long list of rules of what can and can not be and if you over step that line, you will no longer be allowed within that space. Their anti space is super bad this kind of stuff. They sit on the idea of being 'morally better' while also being absolutely nasty, not communicating properly when something makes them uncomfortable ( ie making the choice to vague post instead ) and bullying everyone who disagrees with them.

I don't know. It just bothers me so much. You hate to see it but if I had to say 'this is what changed my perspective', that would be it. How can on think themselves the 'moral better' while making others feel like the lowest dirt and isolating them from the community they enjoyed?

Welcome, oh ye enlightened one.

(But on a more serious note, yeah. Most anti spaces are just a cesspit of people tearing apart the weakest link and scrambling to be the Pure One.)

Saying someone has "zero brain cells present" because you didn't understand their addition to a post doesn't seem like a very good way to "facilitate collected, open-minded discussions between opposing or conflicting views". The addition was clearly about how some fandom spaces are so separated from reality that they end up treating fandom drama like shipping as some huge priority to sink effort into and how arguing over a ship will somehow make the world a better place. It won't and some fan areas would do well to keep it all in perspective and have a reality check over what's an actual problem in life. What a mean spirited blog you run if this is how you treat anyone trying to interact with the topics you bring up.

Its the tag I use so people can block my more nonsensical or argumentative reblogs if that's not something they want to see. Its also pretty accurate, frankly. If you get that tag, you've earned it.

I understood it perfectly. I also understood it was a completely irrelevant and pointless addition to the post because it directly contradicts the very nature of the post.

If you look back through the reblogs you'll see well over a hundred other people have done the exact same thing and been given the exact same response. If you say something stupid on my posts, beyond a certain point I will simply react as I see fit.

I do not care that I've hurt your feelings or theirs. Life is unfortunate that way sometimes. Its not mean spirited. Its called reaching the threshold of my patience.

Responding to someone saying people need respite by essentially regurgitating that they're allowed respite as long as they never ever forget that people are being murdered and as long as people are forced to moderate how much respite they need is... Really not the kind of moral victory the reblogger thought it was.

People are entitled to respite. Period. As much of it as they need. Respite doesn't magically erase the knowledge that the world is burning. We don't need people like that reblogger permitting us respite as long as we only take just enough of it to reach that shitty perfect balance they have in mind.

Once activism becomes forced it is no longer activism and it is no longer as effective. Also, waving around one of those very same world issues as some kind of brownie point to your argument is disgusting.