Queerplatonic Relationships: An Introduction

Queerplatonic Relationships: An Introduction

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I have a lot of love for aro ppl tonight

i think it needs to be said that there really aren’t as many rules to sexuality as you think or as people on here would have you believe. i get so many messages that are like “am i allowed to use this label if i feel like this” and unless you are 100% sure ur straight and only want relationships with ur opposite gender then generally the answer is yes, you don’t need to make sure everyone else is feeling what u are feeling to pick a label. labels are there for guidance for you but ultimately you are the one who defines them. like we’re all just making it up as we go along anyway and if u have a thought one day like “hm maybe i’m a gay bitch” that’s kinda all you need like u can figure out the rest later and change it if needs be because at the end of the day it’s all just words none of this is real, this shit is supposed to offer comfort and sense of identity and community not stress and isolation. it’s okay ur okay u got this

As an aro ace person I would like to apologize to all allo aros and they way they have been treated, like you said you're not gross for feeling sexual attraction. You're a not a bad person for being allo aro. You're all valid as f*ck and deserve to be treated better and to be respected! I wish you all a good evening want you to know that you're appreciated and loved <3

Having said that I would also like to adress my fellow aces.

So some of y'all have been acting like real @ssholes and decided to treat allo aros like sh*t.

This needs to stop.

Slutshaming is never okay. Someone else's sexlife is none of your bussiness so stay out of it.

Having sexual attraction is not gross and doesn't make you a bad person. Some of our fellow aces also feel sexual attraction. Just because it's not your thing doesn't mean you get to shame other people for it.

We're all aspec people, we're all living in a heteronormative society which can make things rather hard, we're all already treated like sh*t by most straight ppl and even a lot of queer people, together with agendered people we are the A in the queer community. So why can't we just stick together and stand up for each other? We might not be exactly alike but we still have a lot in common so don't go and be an @sshole just because you're insecure :)

They shouldn't have to even ask to be respected, they should just be respected! Honestly y'all be better than this.

I love aces to death but some (emphasis on some) have a habit of treating allo aros like crap because of our sexual attraction. We aren’t gross or dirty for liking people sexually and we’re certainly not whores or hoes (yes I’ve had an ace person call me those things in the past). I’m not blaming the entire ace community for this because I realize it’s not all of your faults but a lot of you guys just stand by in these instances. Please treat us (allo aros) better.

Shout out to my awesome sister and everyone like her! She's demi-het/demi-het (angled aroace) and I love her to bits. I make sure she knows it, but if you're A-spec and het: you are a valued member of the community and YOU ARE QUEER ENOUGH.

lmao i remember when i was like about 10-11 years old i cut out paper hearts and gave them to all my classmates on valentine...

This was obviously before I knew I was aromantic but I was just thought it was complete bullsh!t and didn't want anyone to feel bad, so I just did that I guess.

But turns out only my teacher appreciated it so that was kinda sad...

aro culture is sending your best friend a valentine's gift to spite the amatonormativity

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