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People out there say that afamilal people aren’t valid and familial attraction isn’t a thing and then turn around and say stuff like ‘oh yeah this person is like a sibling to me’ and ‘my chosen family’ and ‘my mother-figure’ and ‘I love my pet like a child’.
Anyway, afamilial folks are awesome. Loveless folks are awesome.
I think a lot about the kinds of relationships that MB literally does not have vocabulary for, and how upsetting it’s got to be to have only words you associate with horror be the same words everyone keeps trying to attach to the best thing in your limited experience.
I don’t think it’s a sign that everyone’s wrong about what MB and ART have. I think it’s yet more confirmation that MB needs and deserves space, quiet, and safety to learn what those words mean and then evaluate whether they apply.
I’m happy to accept its provisional refusal of labels, and even to accept that that refusal may be permanent and appropriate - it’s just that there’s no way it has the grounds to make an informed decision right now.
And I don’t mean that in an aphobic “you can’t know until you try” bullshit way.
I mean that in a “aspec person still uncomfortable with the term asexual bc the first time I learned it I was told it applied to people who had been traumatized out of normal sexuality” kind of way. In an “I think often about how many years I lived without community due to that one piece of well-meaning but terrible advice, and how my distaste for the label made sense in that context but wasn’t particularly true to my actual self or needs” kind of way. In an “it’s possible to be traumatized by ignorance and acknowledging that isn’t invalidating your feelings or choices” kind of way.
And - can’t stress this enough: ART has the same problem. It has very limited frameworks through which to understand interrelationships with non-humans. It’s just not so bound up by the words for them that it can’t bear to consider them. Remember that it does not intrinsically parse emotional register. It goes silent because it is trying to understand, bc it knows MB doesn’t like those words, but can’t understand why. It is wracking its brains for a resolution bc MB’s hatred of concepts is as baffling to it as MB’s hatred of its function. It’s used to not understanding apparently illogical behavior from its humans, and is used to having to let people be wrong until it matters to correct or ignore them, so it’s not exactly more emotionally intelligent than Mb but it is more patient.
insane that u can literally tell that ART has a crush on murderbot without murderbot having a single clue. whenever ppl mention their "relationship" ART is suddenly dead silent. like no protests at all. not even any comments. when amena called murderbot 2.0 their baby ART was just like Well yeah. not only did it talk about muderbot with its crew, it showed off pics. like ok gay. homo. gay.
A-SPECS RISE UP!!! GO FOR THE THROATS!!
character: *shows the slightest disgust/disinterest in romantic or sexual anything*
me, grabbing them and shaking them violently around, chanting: ASPEC ASPEC ASPEC!!!!!!!!
I thought the community was way more relaxed about this… but if it really is like that then yes please accept people how they are please, it‘s kind of the point of this community existing, afterall
the aromantic community is really alienating to anyone who isnt the perfect aromantic
for one, they have to be asexual. they also have to be alloplatonic. they have to hate romance. they have to hate shipping. they have to think friendship is inherant to the experience of life. they have to be aplphobic, intentionally or not.
hi, i'm an aromantic who loves romance and shipping. this doesnt mean i hate being aromantic. i'm also asexual and alloplatonic! but just because i support aroallos and aplatonics, i feel uncomfortable in the aromantic community and aromantic spaces.
i know and love aplatonics, aroallos and non repulsed aromantics. and the aro community revolves around friendship and sex repulsion (specifically the aroace community, which seems to think it's the only aromantic experience) and romance repulsion.
i would also like to mention that the asexual community is the same about alloaces, and of course theres the aroace overlap where they all hate apls.
being aroace while not being repulsed and not being aplphobic is alienating. it fucking shouldn't be. accept that some of us have a different experience and some of us don't think friendship is universal or inherant to the aromantic experience. does any of this make sense.

heusexual ⭑ [humeur - french | heuro - finnish]
an asexual label for when your asexuality becomes stronger, or changes/fluctuates based on low moods/mood swings, and or depressive episodes or feelings of depression.
(Multiple saturations)
Credit to @/puphazard for the original term Heuromantic
tumblr keeps givin me posts abt aspec people n the aspec community which is weird bc im not aspec at all but now it has me questioning if i AM aspec someone help :-(
update on the aspec thing... turns out im both on the ace spectrum and on the aro spectrum. okay im questioning on the arospec. but the acespec 100%
Allosexual aromantic culture is not getting the point of waiting until marriage to have sex
Queerplatonic Relationships: An Introduction
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