Abuse Awareness - Tumblr Posts
First step to supporting survivors is by understanding that we all come with different reactions towards our trauma and/or abusers.
Understand that if you meet one survivor, you have only met one survivor and that we aren’t monoliths. You cannot compare one survivor to another. We’re all incredibly different.
Understand that one survivor can be incredibly complex, and have conflicting/contradicting feelings and thoughts.
Understand that brains are an incredibly complex organ that we still don’t fully understand, and that trauma and/or abuse can heavily impact our brain and who we are as people. This isn’t something that someone can just “get over,” because it has impacted the very organ we navigate every corner of our existence with.
Understand sometimes people look fondly on their most traumatic years/moments, this is normal and absolutely not indicative that the individual isn’t suffering.
Understand some survivors still love the people who traumatized them and some may be uncomfortable with you insulting the people who have hurt them. We all have different boundaries when it comes to our abusers.
Understand that survivors often swing between love and hatred, and overall have complicated feelings about their abusers.
Understand that everyone’s circumstances are different and that not every survivor can readily leave their traumatic/abusive environments. Some of us will never escape for a multitude of reasons.
Understand that some of us will never lead a “normal” life because of what happened.
Understand that you’re not going to fully ‘understand’ but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t offer your support and a listening ear. You don’t have to ‘get’ something to be compassionate towards someone who has suffered and is still suffering.
~ I said you were too much so you made yourself small ~
Tell them...
Tell them about the constant bouts of silent treatment you put me through when you wouldn't get your way or when I would beg for communication.
Tell them...
Tell them how you told my ex my depression was a burden, I wouldn't let you leave the relationship or I would threaten suicide, pretended to leave me just to trigger it ( all so you could take screenshots of the manipulation to send to her and call me crazy, while simultaneously telling me you love and 'I can't believe I almost lost you')
Tell them...
Tell them how my ex sent me videos of all the conversations so when I saw everything you were doing to me, I immediately left out of respect for myself because I WAS NOT going to be abused any longer.
Tell them...
Tell them how to this day you take ZERO ACCOUNTABILITY.
Tell them...
Tell them how a few months later you said you did and said all of that ' because you were lashing out'. That it was a symptom of your BPD. How everything was always your BPD.
Tell them...
Tell them how you begged me to stay. Begged me to go to therapy after I saw the video. And when you realized I was putting myself first, you immediately switched to attacking me and tearing me down.
Tell them.
Tell them the truth.
tw: child abuse, domestic abuse, violence, topic of divorce, (its not about SA, but you can also interpret it this way, so it also might be triggering), trauma, dark themes, alcoholism
This is by no means self-inserted, by the way. It was created to practice story-telling and perhaps spread awareness.
Snaggle-Toothed Smile
TW: abusive relationship, grooming, death
Wolf is knocking on the front door
Sharp sharp teeth in a snaggle-toothed smile
Come here, little rabbit, let us play
Come here, little rabbit, for I’ll stay here awhile
Wolf brings food to me every day
Come, little rabbit, I’ve come to play
Wolf brings gifts to me every day
Come, little rabbit, have this beautiful bouquet
Wolf combs my fur for me every day
Protects me and never leaves me alone
Careful, little rabbit, it’s dangerous outside
Careful, little rabbit, don’t be on your own
Wolf tells me how lucky I am every day
That he takes care of me, little rabbit
And then he smiles that snaggle-toothed smile
Oh, little rabbit, you could become a habit
Wolf accidentally hurt me today
He asks me and asks me why did you make me do it?
Feather-light kisses upon each wound
Snow white rabbit has become blood red rabbit
Wolf smiled that smile today
Sharp sharp teeth with a snaggle-toothed smile
Asked me, are you afraid of me?
Run, little rabbit, run, run to the wild
Wolf didn’t come back today.
Wolf didn’t give me gifts today.
Wolf didn’t give me food today.
My only companion was gone today.
Wolf was oh so tender today.
Wolf apologized for not coming yesterday.
Oh, little rabbit, you will never be free.
Wolf killed me so gently today.