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Another side blog of mine
Genetic Prisoners
I need to vent because this is straight up keeping me awake right now. I am so sick and tired of the complete and utter lack of allowance for self-ownership, personal boundaries, common decency, and basic respect, adults have for children. Simply because you gave the generic material to give them life, does not in fact give you the right to own them. What a concept! They are in fact their own person! You can make up any excuses you want but let me be clear, you decided to accept any and all responsibilities to keeping them alive, healthy, and given the best chance at life. That’s what you owe them, for agreeing to have them exist. They owe you nothing in return for that. Nothing. That’s entirely on you. If you feel like that’s too much for you with out getting something from them, including the right to control them? You shouldn’t have had kids. Abuse is abuse. Hiding a camera to record your teenage kid? Creepy. And a huge breach of their trust. They now are stripped of the comfort of feeling safe when no one is around. Your child has come to you and asked you to stop smoking in the home. Telling them it’s your house and none of their business? Rude and deregards their right to respect in a shared space, ownership of their bodies, and takes away their choices for their health. LGBT+ children attempt to come out and are ridiculed or underminded. you are again taking away their allowance to be an individual person with their own choices about who they want to be. There is so much more. Children are not your prisoners. They are there because you accepted the responsibility of bringing life into the world. They are not meant to be forced into a mold of your choosing. They are meant to be guided, but allowed bloom into whoever they turn out to be.
Knowing I can never be pure again. Knowing I can't escape him. His blood and mine run in the same family tree, he was in the hospital when I was born, we share the same birthday.
He is the reason; the catalyst for my life's brutal and deteriorating path.
I got that dog in me (The dog is Stockholm syndrome when my old abusive ex from years ago tries to come back into my life)
Put the dog down
When Tony comes to see Bucky, it's easy to tell that something is very wrong.
A fill for SFW Thursday: Dialogue/Sentence - “Where did that bruise come from?” for the @winterironmonth that is also inspired by this post from @whumpster-dumpster. Also a fill for my @tonystarkbingo (card 3022):
Square Filled: A3 - Free space Ship/Main Pairing: pre-WinterIron Rating: Teen and up Major Tags: Mentions of abuse, mentions of child abuse, hurt/comfort, hurt Tony Stark, protective Bucky Barnes, Sunset Bain/Tony Stark (bad relationship), Howard Stark's A+ Parenting Word Count: 1234
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Yes!!
stop making "jokes" about male, female, and queer victims who were abused my cishet men, women, and queer people.
Men can be verbally, emotionally, physically, and sexually abused by not only men but women as well. The same goes for women abused by women and queer people. Traits like gender may play a role in the reasoning and forms of abuse and how victims express trauma, but it's not a main factor of who takes the role of victim and or abuser.
The continuous notion of men are the only problems when it comes to abuse is so wrong, because there are other factors to why people act out abusive behavior other than the lazy argument of "men biologically love sex" and or "men bad". And some may reject that but I've seen posts of men, women, and queer people having their reports of abuse dismissed because it wasn't man. Sometimes if a man sexually abuses a man it's either seen as "desirable if the two are queer" or used as "valid" reasoning for hating "queer people". Instances of abuse like this are often twisted into a false narrative to either laugh at or exploit to fearmonger.
Support victims of abuse and trauma no matter who they are and don't invalidate their feelings just because "they have it better than others". As well as finding help for abusers to possibly reform and learn from the mistakes and take strides to better themselves. Don't be dismissive. And for people who have low empathy or just struggle with comforting others and expressing emotion in general just let the person know you'll be there for them and ask how they feel and what they want to discuss and do moving forward. If the person doesn't want to talk about then that's fine just hangout if they want company and suggest types of therapy they can use or anything that would be more appropriate in the moment.
abusiveness and predation is not unique to men. abusive women (and the abuse of men for that matter) are much, much more common than you think. if your support for abuse survivors only extends to women or people who were abused by men, you don't actually support survivors.
so to all the survivors who aren't women, and the survivors whose abusers weren't men: i believe you, and i see you. you deserve to be safe and supported. you are not alone. your pain and suffering matters just as much as others' does. what happened to you is just as awful, and i'm wishing you so much healing and happiness.
Snaggle-Toothed Smile
TW: abusive relationship, grooming, death
Wolf is knocking on the front door
Sharp sharp teeth in a snaggle-toothed smile
Come here, little rabbit, let us play
Come here, little rabbit, for I’ll stay here awhile
Wolf brings food to me every day
Come, little rabbit, I’ve come to play
Wolf brings gifts to me every day
Come, little rabbit, have this beautiful bouquet
Wolf combs my fur for me every day
Protects me and never leaves me alone
Careful, little rabbit, it’s dangerous outside
Careful, little rabbit, don’t be on your own
Wolf tells me how lucky I am every day
That he takes care of me, little rabbit
And then he smiles that snaggle-toothed smile
Oh, little rabbit, you could become a habit
Wolf accidentally hurt me today
He asks me and asks me why did you make me do it?
Feather-light kisses upon each wound
Snow white rabbit has become blood red rabbit
Wolf smiled that smile today
Sharp sharp teeth with a snaggle-toothed smile
Asked me, are you afraid of me?
Run, little rabbit, run, run to the wild
Wolf didn’t come back today.
Wolf didn’t give me gifts today.
Wolf didn’t give me food today.
My only companion was gone today.
Wolf was oh so tender today.
Wolf apologized for not coming yesterday.
Oh, little rabbit, you will never be free.
Wolf killed me so gently today.