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Pride Flags pt.2

🏳️‍🌈Happy Pride Month!!🏳️‍🌈

I WANT THE LGBT COMMUNITY TO JUST STOP FIGHTING

WE ARE NOT AGAINST EACHOTHER, WE ARE NOT ENEMIES NO MATTER HOW YOU IDENTIFY

TRANS PEOPLE ARE NOT YOUR ENEMY, INTERSEX PEOPLE ARE NOT YOUR ENEMY, BISEXUALS ARE NOT YOUR ENEMY, LESBIANS ARE NOT YOUR ENEMY, ASEXUALS ARE NOT YOUR ENEMY, AROMANTICS ARE NOT YOUR ENEMY, ETC

TERFS ARE YOUR ENEMY, TRANSPHOBES ARE YOUR ENEMY, HOMOPHOBES ARE YOUR ENEMY, ACEPHOBES ARE YOUR ENEMY, AROPHOBES ARE YOUR ENEMY, ETC

STOP PUSHING AT EACHOTHER, START PUSHING FOR EACHOTHER, ANY HATE TOWARDS ANY GROUP OF US IS HATE TOWARDS ALL OF US

TRANS PEOPLE BEING ATTACKED IS AN ATTACK ON ALL OF US, INTERSEX PEOPLE BEING ATTACKED IS AN ATTACK ON ALL OF US, BISEXUALS BEING ATTACKED IS AN ATTACK ON ALL OF US, LESBIANS BEING ATTACKED IS AN ATTACK ON ALL OF US, ASEXUALS BEING ATTACKED IS AN ATTACK ON ALL OF US, AROMANTICS BEING ATTACKED IS AN ATTACK ON ALL OF US, ETC

THERE ARE NO "GOOD" QUEERS IN THEIR EYES, AS LONG AS YOU ARE QUEER YOU WILL BE A TARGET

DISCRIMINATION IS DISCRIMINATION, DOESN'T MATTER IF IT'S A PHYSICAL ATTACK, MEDICAL DISCRIMINATION, GOVERNMENTAL, ALL OF IT

STOP TRYING TO ATTACK EACHOTHER, WE ARE ALL EQUAL

Hello, everyone.

As Pride Month falls upon us, I just want to say something:

I will not stand for asexual, aromantic, or nonbinary erasure/discrimination from anyone--including others in the LGBTQIA+ community.

Our struggles may not always be the same as those of other sects of the community, but that doesn't mean we don't belong. We aren't "fakers" or "posers." We aren't looking to "usurp" you or make others take you less seriously by drawing attention to ourselves. We just want equal and equitable treatment to cishet people in law and in society, just like all of you.

If you still take issue with us simply existing, don't read my content anymore. Unfollow me. Block me. Whatever. Just get out. My page is a safe place for people of all marginalized identities, including those who identify as aromantic, asexual, or nonbinary. This isn't a place for bigots in any form, whether they be open about their views or masquerading as champions of equality. Animal Farm isn't a guidebook; certain groups are not "more equal than others." We must fight for equity and equality together, and Pride Month is a crucial time to emphasize this.

Happy Pride Month.

Fair warning, I’m sourcing the initial statements from youtube (I am including references I find and possible corrections). Also know that I wrote this more than a year ago, and never truly finished it.

But here it is.

First I’ll place what they said, and then I’ll add some sources/corrections if I have any. BTW, this will mostly be about asexuals.

tldr; Many countries allow rape within marriage and others allow rapists to marry the person they raped so they won’t be charged with rape; Russia sees asexuals along with other GRSM (LGBTQ+) people as mentally ill; Asexuals can have difficulty seeking asylum for their sexuality; asexuals are seen as less human; many asexuals experience corrective rape; aro and ace people are not always protected from discrimination

“1.Hetero sex is a law in 9 countries that enforce the religious law of consummation of marriage, which obviously puts aces, even straight ones in danger (I know, I live near one of those countries)”

Obviously this not only imposes a problem on sex repulsed ace people, but also just people who don’t want sex etc. According to Wikipedia, about 47 countries allow marital rape with no punishment, with some specifically excluding rape within marriage as being classified as rape. It should be noted the page mentions that the word rape comes from “to steal or seize”, and within marriage it would not be considered as seizing someone from someone’s else, so its maybe possible that its mentioned somewhere else. 

I assume this person who wrote the list from youtube was referring to the fact that in 9 countries (though a newer article from The Guardian says 20) as of 2017, rape can be forgiven by law if the two individuals get married.

Marital Rape By Country- Wikipedia

Marry Your Rapist Laws-SCMP

Marry Your Rapist Laws-The Guardian

“2. Russia sees Asexuals as sick individuals and they can’t even drive there”

They can get their license taken away if the law finds out. This is also a problem for other members of the GRSM community and many also experience threats and danger.

Russia on Driving- Human Rights First

“3. Asexuals are one of the least accepted asylum seekers in the world due to governments not understanding the dangers they face in the middle east for being suspected of being gay (because some are unable to have hetero sex)”

I had a bit of a hard time finding info on this (given, I didn’t search for very long, but I’m tight on time), but the basics is that many countries don’t consider asexuality to be something that is discriminated against, and so many cannot seek asylum through that. Based on my inferences, with no actual sources, I’m also guessing that aromantic and asexual individuals may have a hard time getting citizenship through marriage, though that’s a different topic and I have no actual factual basis for that.

Asexual People Excluded From “Safe Country of Origin” Concept- European Database of Asylum Law

Info On Groups in GRSM Who Seek Asylum-Epsilon Project

“4. Currently the only country that accepts asexual marriage as valid is Australia. no one else.”

The best I got on this is that in the UK and Wales as of 2020 had a law that allowed marriage to be void if the couple did not have sex. The rest of the info was on how you can get divorced based in part on lack of sex in a relationship/partner withholding sex, which does not seem discriminatory to me.

Consummation Laws in the UK and Wales- Asexuality.org

“also; Asexuals face almost as much violence as gays, according to the recent lgbt survey that showed: Gays:0.9% Aces:0.8% and they are believed to be the “most heartless cold robotic evil” sexuality according to the last study that questioned 90k straight individuals who ranked which sexuality they see as “good” vs “evil” the one that was seen as the worst, was Asexuality.”

Page 8 of the cited article below states that according to a study, within sexual minority groups, asexuals are perceived as least human and likely to experience less emotions. The same article states that there are many cases of corrective rape against asexual individuals due to their asexuality. Additionally, 43.5% of almost 8,000 asexuals surveyed reported having experienced some sort of sexual violence according to Buzzfeed.

Corrective Rape- Hasting’s Women’s Law Journal

Asexuality and Sexual Harrassment- Buzzfeed

Some additional things: Under many laws, aromantic people are not protect against discrimination, as well as, through a loophole, those who are homoromantic asexuals. Though it may seem exagerated, the person does give an example of an employer saying “I’m not firing him cause he has sex with men, im firing him because hes romantically attracted to men”. Though it may seem a bit absurd, it shows the fault in these laws in place.

Musings On The Law-Asexuality Archive

A thesis I found:

A-IDENTITY POLITICS: ASEXUAL EXCEPTIONALISM, PRECARITY, AND ACTIVISM by Ryan Sheehan

I will continue fighting for the point that aspec people actually do experience oppression, no matter what points some exclusionists might make about it.

Being on the asexual/aromantic spectrum is an absolutely isolating experience. Growing up, you see such a heavy pressure (in America, at least) for developing sexual interest. You grow up seeing ads of half nude women meant to catch your attention but for some reason, you don't really look at it twice. You hear your dad make a comment about some attractive woman on tv and you feel nothing. You grow up with your friends while they're obsessed with boys and you feel like an outcast. Maybe these are small things, but they are constant and they add up to that sense of foreboding and feeling different from everyone else. You think there's something wrong with you.

On my experience, I haven't had a lot of turmoil over societal pressures because I actively detest them and have a history of that mindset. But whenever I dated people, this became a problem. I'd force myself to roleplay and participate in sexual activity even when it made me feel nothing, else even when it bored me or disgusted me, because maybe this time would be it. Maybe this would be the action or string of words that fixes me. It never did, and then I would ask myself: what's wrong with you? Aren't you attracted to these people? Why am I so different? I'm okay with being different, but it becomes a problem when it effects the people I like to be different with.

Exclusionists might read that and figure it's not a big deal. And yet, gay people grow up with the same emotional isolation when they can't feel these things towards women. It is detrimental.

"I can fix you." "You haven't met the right man yet." "You're going to grow out of it." All things ace - and gay - people have heard.

Forcing ourselves to be husbands and wives and fathers and mothers.

Our own community denying us our existance.

The threat of rape still exists for ace people. Corrective rape continues to be a thing that exists for us.

When I came out to my mother, she called my a psychopath for not feeling that towards people, because I had to explain to her what it was.

Maybe it isn't on the same level of oppression gay people face. I mean, other countries where homosexual activity is illegal don't have the same policy for ace people. But oppression is still oppression.

And regardless of what we face, why does the validity of an identity have to be sourced from oppression and pain?

Saw this on r/LGBT and figured my aspec followers would enjoy.

HELL YEAAAAAH

I WANT THE LGBT COMMUNITY TO JUST STOP FIGHTING

WE ARE NOT AGAINST EACHOTHER, WE ARE NOT ENEMIES NO MATTER HOW YOU IDENTIFY

TRANS PEOPLE ARE NOT YOUR ENEMY, INTERSEX PEOPLE ARE NOT YOUR ENEMY, BISEXUALS ARE NOT YOUR ENEMY, LESBIANS ARE NOT YOUR ENEMY, ASEXUALS ARE NOT YOUR ENEMY, AROMANTICS ARE NOT YOUR ENEMY, ETC

TERFS ARE YOUR ENEMY, TRANSPHOBES ARE YOUR ENEMY, HOMOPHOBES ARE YOUR ENEMY, ACEPHOBES ARE YOUR ENEMY, AROPHOBES ARE YOUR ENEMY, ETC

STOP PUSHING AT EACHOTHER, START PUSHING FOR EACHOTHER, ANY HATE TOWARDS ANY GROUP OF US IS HATE TOWARDS ALL OF US

TRANS PEOPLE BEING ATTACKED IS AN ATTACK ON ALL OF US, INTERSEX PEOPLE BEING ATTACKED IS AN ATTACK ON ALL OF US, BISEXUALS BEING ATTACKED IS AN ATTACK ON ALL OF US, LESBIANS BEING ATTACKED IS AN ATTACK ON ALL OF US, ASEXUALS BEING ATTACKED IS AN ATTACK ON ALL OF US, AROMANTICS BEING ATTACKED IS AN ATTACK ON ALL OF US, ETC

THERE ARE NO "GOOD" QUEERS IN THEIR EYES, AS LONG AS YOU ARE QUEER YOU WILL BE A TARGET

DISCRIMINATION IS DISCRIMINATION, DOESN'T MATTER IF IT'S A PHYSICAL ATTACK, MEDICAL DISCRIMINATION, GOVERNMENTAL, ALL OF IT

STOP TRYING TO ATTACK EACHOTHER, WE ARE ALL EQUAL

YOU CAN FIGHT ME ON THIS, I’LL KICK YOUR SORRY BEHIND IF YOU TRY TO KEEP ME OR MY MUTUALS OUT

I'M DOING AN EXPERIMENT

To prove something to a friend, please

REBLOG IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES

LIKE IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS DON’T BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES