Calling Out - Tumblr Posts

Preach it sisters/brother!!!!! I have been having a major problem with THAT little problem from the VERY BEGINNING of the manga!!! Like what type of parents don't notice half of the shtick these poor things have been through!?!?!?

not to throw shade but, it wouldn’t hurt for mob and ritsu’s parents to get a little more involved in their children’s lives. they have no fucking idea of what’s going on with them, emotionally or otherwise (like the near death experiences and kidnappings and shit). really, a 28 year old sweaty mess of a conman is managing to do a better job at being a present and caring parental figure than these two.

Holy cricket!  I called him on it!  I am ... shocked.  This would have been approximately 2 weeks after my abortion; I would characterize my mental state at this time as part zombie, part repressed rage.

While I have absolutely no recollection of doing this, I am proud of my past self for standing up for me.

Typo Legend:  ND = and  ;   sud = said

To be fair, she opened the door for this conversation...

I'm currently calling out that woman I was doing a thing with in May for hurting me.

Who the fuck am I and what have I done with me?!

the art of educating versus dragging

HELLO GOOD PEOPLE OF TUMBLR.

today we are going to talk about the art of educating versus the pointless art (can we even call it that?) of dragging, as the title suggests.

i’m glad to say that the generation of millennials are growing up each day more socially aware, accepting, and liberal than their predecessors. adults can mock us for ‘selfie culture’ all they’d like- it doesn’t erase the change we as a group of young minds are starting to demand. we understand things they do not and cannot as they are products of their time. black lives matter! support trans lives! inclusive feminism! and so much more!

yet while a large part of the millennials are educated in social instances, many of them are not. there are multiple ways to fight against ignorance in this day and age, like lobbying or protest, and smaller instances, like standing up for what you believe in when you see an idiot at your school in a meninist shirt or hear casual racism in conversations with people who are you friends. calling someone out is necessary; if no one tells them they’re wrong, how are they going to change? 

but, as the title suggests, there is an art to it. when someone displays problematic behavior, you call them out because you want them to get educated. and if they respond positively, your job is done! but dragging them without telling them what they’ve done? how the hell are they supposed to learn?

granted, there are people who just can’t be saved from ~idiocy~. you have fuckboys who will continue to adorn meninist attire even after you rant about it’s damaging effects, or white kids that will never stop using the ‘n’ work no matter how much you insist that they, for the love of GOD, stop. 

but certain peopled don’t know any better and want to learn. and while this doesn’t excuse their actions, helping them acknowledge how their behavior is harmful and then letting them know how to check themselves leads to a more educated society. here is how you can let someone know their behavior isn’t wrong without, you know, losing your shit (unless the shit deserves to be lost).

first off; name-calling and death threats? these things do nothing to advance a policy of equality and justice. no one is going to want to learn from someone that calls them a ‘slut that needs to kill themselves’ (i have seen this online!). as a feminist, i’m happy to say that i work my hardest to be inclusive towards all groups of women, whether that be WOC like myself or trans woman, gay woman, disabled woman, and anybody that identifies themselves as a woman! was i always like this? definitely not. i used to participate in a feminist culture that was very ‘white feminist’, which is ironic since i’m not even white. i talked about the right to wear shorts to school and how makeup isn’t made to impress men, or how cat-calling was a serious problem. yes- these things are feminist issues. but did i ever speak about the issues black women face in comparison to white women? how white women have advantages over say, an islamic women, when it comes to environments like the workplace. i never talked about trans women. and i participated in HEAVY slut shaming. how did i learn? i was educated. not dragged. educated. if 13 year old feminist me was told to kill myself because of my stupidity, i would not have wanted to get educated. i would have gotten annoyed and told everyone to piss off. that doesn’t mean i was right, or that i had the right to be mad, because being problematic obviously means there will be consequence. it’s just that rants, threats, and just blatant horrible behavior alienate people and do nothing to inspire people to listen or change perspective. the substance of your argument can be lost if you’re covering it up with threats and name calling. this doesn’t mean that you should coddle said problematic person. be strong and firm! they’re wrong and they should know that! but don’t make it a situation where it’s the end for them. it’s not game over. calling out is not striking out and let them know that they have the opportunity to become better.

so how do you call out a friend? let’s be real. while a lot of millennials are becoming more open minded and smarter in terms of social justice, there is still a huge group of them that use slurs and have senses of humor that basically depend on being racist. something i used to do whenever a guy i was friends with displayed problematic behavior was scream at him. “THAT IS SO RACIST/SEXIST/TRANSPHOBIC YOU PIECE OF TRASH HOW THE FUCK AM I FRIENDS WITH YOU TAKE THAT BACK YOU ASSHOLE OH MY GOD” it just pissed me off to a point where i couldn’t even see past my anger. looking back on it, i know that my behavior literally did nothing to change anything. think about why you’re friends with someone. it’s because they’re good people right? and a good person is willing to listen to how they can improve if you let them know instead of attacking them and refusing to talk to them for the rest of your life (i am guilty of this behavior). i don’t want to criticize anyone who angrily responds to offensive language. it’s exhausting to constantly spoon feed education into the mouths of people that don’t have any qualms about throwing their ignorance at you and anger naturally will surface; but not everyone whose problematic is hopeless. see moments like these as moments of discussion; not THE ONE MOMENT WHERE EVERYTHING WAS OVER AND THE FRIENDSHIP CRUMBLED. you can’t live a life thinking that everyone in the world is as socially aware as you think YOU are. 

and now let’s talk about my worst pet peeve in the world. you know what i hate? when someone who is obviously smart and educated is confronted with something they’ve said in the past, i want to roll my eyes until they fall out of their sockets and tumble into the ocean. if somebody has apologized for their behavior and made it OBVIOUS that they do not share the same beliefs as they did before, why bring it up and ‘drag’ them? isn’t that counterintuitive? you wanted them to educate themselves and they have- what is the point of continually penalizing them for behavior they displayed when they were a more unintelligent individual? a good example of someone growing from problematic behavior is the company warner brothers. they released a statement before airing their cartoons that read

“the cartoons you are about to see are products of their time. they may depict some of the ethnic and racial prejudices that were common place in american society. these depictions were wrong then and are wrong today. while the following does not represent the warner bros. view of today’s society, these cartoons are being presented as they were originally created because to do otherwise would be the same as claiming these prejudices never existed”

to me, this is an adequate apology that shows clear understanding of the harmfulness of problematic behavior without making warner bros. the victim in the situation, something that a lot of people do when called out on problematic behavior. doesn’t it seem like a waste of time to then pull up screenshots of cartoons with racial prejudice in them and to then proceed to ‘drag’ warner brothers? i see this most often with celebrities. ashley frangipane, better known as halsey, used to run a harry styles blog on tumblr before she started killing the music industry and used to say some pretty bad things about taylor swift. it was typical slut shaming. but anybody who knows jack shit about halsey also knows that she is not that person today. as a mixed race bisexual woman in the music industry, she has done a lot to speak out about feminism and acceptance. she has apologized for the things she has said about taylor when she was 17 and dumb. but people like to pull up her old text posts about hating taylor or erase all the other work she’s done FOR social justice just because of her mistake. she doesn’t have that attitude anymore! those text posts do not represent her attitude today! this is why drag culture can be so harmful; it does NOTHING for equality and is basically just a way for someone to give themselves a tap on the back for feeling like they’ve done something to help a movement, when they’ve actually done squat.

educated peeps- spread as much knowledge as you can! just remember to do so in a way that actually, you know, spreads knowledge and not hate. 

send an ask for advice requests!

⚠️SCAMMER CALL OUT⚠️

(Pls reblog to prevent artists from falling for this scam!)

Hey guys. I know this isn’t the thing I usually post, but I’ve been texted by a NFT „buyer“. They offered me whopping $3500 for a random doodle. To me it was very fishy, the price, the artwork they chose, etc. So I did some research online and saw that this scam is very common. They dote on artists, because they know that artists don’t know about NTFs.

I don’t wanna call out innocent people, this is why I made some reasearch. The person on the picture they use as banner is actually an artist of the name Joanna Sokolowska, and I believe that it’s not the artist who owns this account. They forgot to crop the website tag out of the picture lmao.

The scammers @ is @legendaryobjectdelusion

Here are some screenshots to prove my claim:

I suggest to block or report them if this user is dms you. If it turns out that this user is the person in the picture, and isn’t scamming artists, then I will take down this post. But until then, be wary!

I also found the artists website (the woman in the banner) Again, I don’t believe this artist Joanna Sokolowska is the scammer. I think the scammer used her picture to appear legit.

Stay safe

your SharkLoves Pink

So it's just not me right?? Like there is no genuine portrayals of teenagers in the media, it's either innocent baby nerd or bad boy delinquent

I mean don't make teenagers cinnamon rolls and stuff but like don't make them out to be characters in euphoria.

The way people portray teenagers in regular media and fanfiction confuses/annoys me, the only semi accurate portrayals seem to be in PJO.

But as an example in fanfiction, Tom Holland's Spider-man is treated so oddly in fanfics. By Homecoming he's 15, and i get that some people have him younger but to have him act like a five year old seems weird. I mean, no teenager I've ever met would refuse to swear or snuggle up to practical strangers or giggle constantly. And I think its fine, people can make whatever they want and its not my place to shame them for it, that sort of thing isn't ok. It just irks me that almost every SM fanfic is Spider baby and Irondad, and sure sometime they're very sweet, but Tony treated him really toxicly in canon homecoming so idk, i just wish we could have a fifteen year old spidey that swears constantly (like most fifteen year olds do) is actually sassy and actually gets his inspiration from Uncle Ben instead of Tony.