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Yes, so much of this. In today's "me-too" movement people rarely stop and think about the timeframe in which songs were written and the meanings behind the words. They take it at face value and only hear what they want to hear: a man coercing a woman into sex. But this song is so much more than this and none of this at the same time.
If you listen to it from a reversed perspective or if the two singers were the same sex, it sounds like it is what it is: one person helping another to come up with excuses on why they stayed, so society won't be too harsh in their criticisms of an unmarried person sleeping over at another's home.
So can we all agree that this song is a classic of a closed-minded bygone era, and just let it be what it is: a cute tongue-in-cheek conversation between two consenting adults?
And for God's sake, leave the lyrics alone?!
your yearly reminder that Baby It’s Cold Outside is a song about a woman having CONSENSUAL sex, at a time when premarital sex was frowned upon. The female singer is offering up the token demurrals society expects her to, because it’s expected, not bc she doesn’t fully intend to stay and have awesome sex with a dude she’s into. The male singer knows this, and is in turn offering her an excuse to give to the neighbors in the morning (“it was too cold for me to go home, the only responsible thing to do was spend the night at his place. because of the weather, get your minds out of the gutter”). A 1950s audience would have understood all this, but the nuance gets lost in a modern age where women are actually allowed to say yes when they mean it.
Also the “hey what’s in this drink” thing was a common joke at the time, where the punchline was that there was in fact nothing in the drink. the woman’s making a joke that she wouldn’t do this if she was sober, oh goodness no! it’s only a joke bc both she and the man are in on the punchline: she is sober, and is only staying bc she wants to
So sick of this, oh my god—
Let trans women play! I guarantee you’ll survive!
Ignoring the evidence that there isn’t even much of an advantage if at all and that there are actually a number of disadvantages for trans women, I hate to break it to you; sports have never been fair.
There’s always been a taller guy in basketball, a smaller woman in gymnastics, hell, Michael Phelps has a million advantages on his competition. People have never once cared! These things are celebrated for cis people!
If you cared so much about equality in sports, make sure all the basketball players all the same height. If you cared so much about women’s sports, increase pay and improve treatment of athletes. If you cared about women at all, pay them equally and get your legislation off their bodies.
You don’t care. You just want to be transphobic.
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Donate, but Donate Wisely
Hi guys! I recently found out that Facebook’s Network for Good service (you know, those fundraising links with a handy progress bar that pop up all over your feed) often charges a 3-5% processing fee to take your money and give it to charity.
It also takes 60-75 days after your donation for the money to actually get to the charity it’s supposed to, which kind of undermines the ACT NOW rhetoric behind many of those fundraisers.
So, look, if using Network for Good means you donate money you wouldn’t have otherwise? Wonderful. But if you’re looking for a way to make sure that ALL of your donation goes to doing good, try visiting the charity’s website directly, and researching where your chosen charity spends its money (not-for-profits have to publish spending reports; a quick google search should turn up the info you need).
Also! If you’d like to donate to a cause which does a FANTASTIC job of making sure ALL donations go to serving people, try out Unite for Sight. They provide free eye-care in deeply underserved areas in Ghana, India, and Honduras, working with local doctors and clinics to provide everything from surgeries to reading glasses. You can use my direct link here or give them a google and donate there! Go do good!
Taking this a step further (and being a bit of a killjoy) fiction that uses a historical setting as an aesthetic without thinking too hard about it runs the risk of falling under the umbrella of conservative propaganda, in part because of this exact trend. Always be leery of settings that paint the past, especially a romanticized and highly sanitized version of the past, as a better / more civilized / more beautiful time. If you’re going to write such a setting, pay attention to the human cost of the world you’re building. The wealth, power, and social positions of gentry / nobility / royalty etc have always been built on the efforts of laborers and servants. Ignoring that reality even in fiction primes readers who engage with your material to uncritically accept a status quo with a wealthy in-group of desirables and to ignore the plight of the have-not out-group. It lays the groundwork for accidental indoctrination, and contributes to the perpetuation of abusive power structures in the real world.
None of this is to say that historical fiction is inherently bad, just… for real, be cautious in your approach. Acknowledge the power structures in the world you’ve created and, if you’re going to portray it as a just or egalitarian society, put the work in to establish how it is so.
One of my personal nitpicks for historical fantasy is a lack of servants, staff, subordinates, and... idk... subjects? Like, their absence is not... a total dealbreaker for me, depending on the situations the characters are in and whether or not I can just assume that other people are there in the background... but so many of the protagonists in historical fantasy stuff are higher-ranking (very often royalty), and/or have busy jobs, and/or have enormous houses that would necessitate having at least part-time staff.
Like, girl, you should have a maid! WHERE is your chaperone?! WHO is driving this carriage?! Where are your footmen? Are you trying to imply that a WEALTHY DUCHESS is taking a CAB?! You know that you probably have tenants, right? Where is your steward?! Where is your lawyer? Your accountant?! (Like, yeah, you're not going to have your lawyer living in your house, but you HAVE one, right???)
Or, man, you're supposed to be a military commander and you don't even have a single secretary?! Where is your SQUIRE?! (In the spirit of historical fiction, I am jumping wildly across time periods with every sentence here.) Man, I know you aren't looking after your own boots. Where are your GUARDS?! Who set up this tent for you?! Who is looking after your horse?! Who is making and carrying the incredibly valuable maps people are recklessly stabbing daggers into?!
SOMEONE has to be scrubbing these floors and delivering the mail and cooking the meals, and they're probably all DIFFERENT people! My dentist has at least three different receptionists and we can't even get ONE for our court wizard here? A sorcerer's apprentice to take notes? Sherlock Holmes can get away with just having a housekeeper and taking taxis, sure, but your character is supposed to be a KING?! Why is he answering his own front door? He's going to get assassinated.
Like, yes, I understand that a lot of servants in certain places at certain times were supposed to make their labor invisible, but there have always been servants who still had to interact directly with the masters of the house?! Yeah, there are potentially really messy ethics here, class divisions are bullshit, but I don't think ignoring the reality that humans have ALWAYS been doing work for other humans (even if it's just having a collective cooking pot for the group and the cook not necessarily being subservient to anyone) is better than just including some servants and employees? Because a complete absence of them, especially where logically for the worldbuilding there MUST be servants, often makes me think that your main characters just don't care enough to notice the "lower class" people or know their names.
Also, even Frodo Baggins had a gardener and Samwise Gamgee might be the best damn character in the story?! Sam saved the world?! Servants are PEOPLE. Servants are often the funniest and most interesting characters, tbh, with the most to say about a society and its workings, and also the joke of some romantic scene being carefully orchestrated by a stage crew of servants frantically diving into bushes to stay out of sight never gets old to me. Team work makes the dream work!
I don't want to gatekeep historical fiction, especially not historical fantasy, because the worlds don't necessarily have to conform to our own and may have magic and characters are often in very unique circumstances, but... sometimes I pick up a story and it's like... "Author, please tell me that you know there is a difference between a butler and a valet?!"
I should go and feed my snake carrots now. I bet she can live for many years, like 2 or 3. Until she starves to death. But I’m a happy about it. Cause no meat is a good thing. (slaps head against wall)
Maggie Menu
On the menu for Maggie tonight is puréed sweet potato, puréed brown rice, sprouted organic tofu, chia seeds, and digestive enzymes. Does she look excited? She is!
; happy International Asexual Day !!
asexual // ay-sek-shoo-uhl
= a person who experiences little to no sexual attraction. specifics varying person-to-person
; make sure to do your research on Asexual identities to better understand lovely ace / ace-spec people ( /nf ) !! Love y'all <33
; some links ↓↓↓
- https://internationalasexualityday.org/en/
- https://queerdom.fandom.com/wiki/Asexual
- https://queerdom.fandom.com/wiki/Asexual_spectrum
; there are many Asexual identities, but they're all valid !! <3 Asexual, Graysexual, Demisexual, Cupiosexual, Orchidsexual, Aceflux and every other ace-spec identity ! I also see you sex-repulsed asexuals, sex-indifferent asexuals and sex-favourable asexuals !! I see you all and you're so so valid !! :]
COVID-19 News Awareness
Look y’all…
@tlbodine and I work in the news sector. We handle press releases–hundreds of them daily. And we see a lot of news before it even hits the internet.
Do not believe every fuckin’ thing you see online about COVID-19/coronavirus.
DO. NOT.
If you need information, stick with the CDC, the WHO and your local health department website. (Look for “.gov” as the end of the URL.) Thousands of people are “newsjacking” this pandemic in order to get eyes on their website/product/etc.
Stick with information ONLY from the legitimate medical organizations that are actually handling the timely data from the pandemic.
Remember when the dip comes along, it’s a good time to buy in low. WKHS LCA DPHC PIC
Not everyday is a good day in the stocks, that’s how we learn to invest! Invest wisely and do your research!
These are a few of the stocks I invest in. To give you a better understanding of my position I’m displaying the percentage I am currently at. Do your research and let’s trade.
There’s never a bad time to start investing in your future. Get out there and make some moves to benefit you. There’s a lot of opportunities in the stock market all you have to do is find them. But always do your research, don’t take my word for it.
Financial freedom is just a trade away. With research comes reward, with reward comes financial freedom. Invest the time not just your money!
Hope everyone didn’t jump on the GME train. That’s why research is so important!
I still own this stock and still believe it has more potential! Do your research, don’t take my word for it!
My dad just told me that I can refute a hospital bill in the USA.
It takes months of red tape, but if you can prove that you cannot pay the bill, the hospital will write it off.
Also, insurance will pay for most of an ambulance ride. Where I live, they'll pay up to half of it.