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A couple of weeks ago I went out for dinner with a friend. Her boyfriend, a friend from her college and a girl we grew up with came with us as well.

It was a waitlist situation so we all piled in Friend A’s car while we waited. I was opening my phone when the girl we grew up with, we’ll call her Girl C, commented about my lock screen being myself.

It went a little something like this:

Girl C: “not your lock-screen being a picture of you. ”

*said with disbelief and an eye roll*

It was probably meant as a joke, but I got a little hurt and here’s why (also my response to her).

Me: “i think i deserve to have myself as my lock-screen after hating myself and the way I looked for years”

*said bluntly. silence enveloped the car for a moment. then there were nods of agreement and “period” said here and there*

Long story (not) short, if you’re like me and you have yourself as your lock-screen, do not let anybody make you feel bad.

I’m only 18 (19 in a couple of weeks🤪😌) and up until a year or two ago, I hated the color of my skin, the texture of my 4c hair, my face, and my body. So when I graduated from high school, I made the pictures I loved my lock-screen because in that moment I felt beautiful, and every time I look at my screen now, it makes me feel happy and beautiful.

Hi can i ask for your help? I'm in a sad and crying place. If you cannot give it, i understand and will keep looking. By the way is "Deredere" said like the lady's name Deidre?

Yes ofc I'll do my best to help anyway I can! First of all try taking some nice deep breaths. Try doing something to distract you from whatever it is that is making you upset. This can be something such as listening to music, talking to someone, playing an instrument, going for a walk, watching a TV show or movie that you find comforting, etc. Also, I just want to tell you that what you are feeling and experiencing is completely valid. Also even if it seems like it now you are not alone. Things won't always be like this, it will eventually get better. I strongly suggest reaching out to someone who is trustworthy to talk about how you are feeling, or if you can someone who specializes with mental health. Such as a therapist, as they will be able to be a better long-term assistant to bettering your overall emotional state. Remember it is perfectly okay to get help, we all need help sometimes. I also suggest practicing self-care, trying out a couple of new positive coping mechanisms, figuring out what your triggers are and how to better cope with them, maintaining a good sleep schedule, etc.

And to answer your question, deredere is pronounced like "dairy dare"

Reblogging for my half binary ass, my binaryless partners soul. Oh also my trans masc best friend ig too. Or whatever.

Trying to prove a point to my transphobic parents

Reblog if trans men are REAL, VALID AND HANDSOME MEN, NO MATTER HOW THEY CHOOSE TO PASS

Reblog if trans women are REAL, VALID, AND BEAUTIFUL WOMEN, NO MATTER HOW THEY CHOOSE TO PASS

And finally, because it's a part of my argument for this point, and also because they are,

Reblog if nonbinary and genderqueer people in general, are REAL, VALID, AND GORGEOUS PEOPLE, NO MATTER HOW THEY PASS

Happy Pride Month Everyone!

Remember that you're all valid and deserve love and appreciation. <3

Gay? Valid!

Lesbian? Valid!

Bi? Valid!

Pan? Valid!

Poly? Valid!

Demi? Valid!

Aro? Valid!

Ace? Valid!

Enby? Valid!

Trans man? Valid!

Trans woman? Valid!

Demi boy? Valid!

Demi girl? Valid!

Genderfluid? Valid!

If anyone believes otherwise then you can kindly unfollow and get off of this blog. <3

Ya'll are valid and awesome!

Like and reblog if your account is a safe space for trans lesbians. It feels like trans lesbians in particular get shamed and ridiculed a lot by people in and out of the community. If you’re reading this I want to let you know you’re valid and I hope your safe and doing well.

Pronouns do not equal Gender

If you’re agender yet still feel some connection to a specific gender or set of pronouns, are you 100% VALID ‼️🫶

I've three A's

A: Asexual

A: Aromantic

A: Anxiety

Friendly Reminder: Do All The "Childish" Things you want

The fear of being childish is, in itself a childish fear that we can and must learn to outgrow. If you like something targeted for kids, that is okay. Just because you're an adult doesn't mean you forget how to be a kid.

So buy gel pens and and glitter glue and construction paper. You don't have to be in elementary school to do little art projects with crayons or finger paint or wavy scissors, adults need self expression just as much as kids if not more.

Watch cartoons. Put stickers on your wall and your phone and your ceiling. Decorate your driveway with sidewalk chalk. Eat Gushers and Gogurt and drink chocolate milk. Sleep with stuffed animals and pillow pets if it's comforting. Want a little doll with tiny assets and bendable joints just to see how many poses you can put it in? Do it. Do it all.

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; happy International Asexual Day !!

asexual // ay-sek-shoo-uhl

= a person who experiences little to no sexual attraction. specifics varying person-to-person

; make sure to do your research on Asexual identities to better understand lovely ace / ace-spec people ( /nf ) !! Love y'all <33

; some links ↓↓↓

- https://internationalasexualityday.org/en/

- https://queerdom.fandom.com/wiki/Asexual

- https://queerdom.fandom.com/wiki/Asexual_spectrum

; there are many Asexual identities, but they're all valid !! <3 Asexual, Graysexual, Demisexual, Cupiosexual, Orchidsexual, Aceflux and every other ace-spec identity ! I also see you sex-repulsed asexuals, sex-indifferent asexuals and sex-favourable asexuals !! I see you all and you're so so valid !! :]

; hey everyone !! It's officially pride month, and since I'm an absolute fucking ambitious idiot I've made a list, enjoy.

; I love you

Lesbians ( ALL LESBIANS !! )

Sapphics

Biromantics

Bigenders

Bigenderfluxes

Bisexuals

Polysexuals

Polyromantics

Polygenders

Omnisexuals

Omniromantics

Omnigenders

Omnigenderfluxes

Pansexuals

Panromantics

Pangenders

Demiboys

Demigirls

Demigenders

Demifluxes

Demisexuals

Demiromantics

Graysexuals

Grayromantics

Asexuals

Aromantics

Acefluxes

Arofluxes

Aroaces

Aroacespecs

Acespecs

Arospecs

Quoiromantics

Qouisexuals

Cupidsexuals

Cupidromantics

Lithromantics

Lithrosexuals

Gays

Genderfluids

Genderfluxes

Apagenders

Xenogenders

Intersexuals

Agenders

Transgenders

Transfemmes

Transmascs

Non-binaries

Genderqueers

Akoisexuals

Akoiromantics

Queers

Attractiofluxes

Abrosexuals

Abromantics

Polyamorous-es

Ambiamorous-es

Fraysexuals

Frayromanticss

Uranics

Nebulas

Neptunics

Orchidsexuals

Orchidromantics

Genderflors

Genderflirs

Genderfauns

Boyfluxs

Girlfluxs

Faesaris

Questioning ppl

Maveriques

Pomosexuals

Achilleans

Torics

Trigenders

Libramascs

Librafemmes

Libragenders

Paragirls

Paraboys

Berrisexuals

Berriromantics

Almondsexuals

Almondromantics

Bellussexuals

Bellusromantics

Genderhoarders

Xenohoarders

Sequencesexuals

Polarsexuals

Two spirits

Enbians

Reciproromantics

Aporagenders

Finromantics

Finsexuals

Reciprosexuals

Androgynes

; is this list meant to demean or invalidate anyone who isn't on it ?? No. It's showing you that in just a few minutes ( seriously, minutes. ) I've listed 100 identities. 1 0 0. The LGBTQIA+ community is vast. So so incredibly vast !! Even if your identity is not listed on here, you're still so so valid and I love you so much. You're a part of this community, you're important and you're you. Whether you use 20+ labels or prefer not to just roll with it and use none, whether you use " common " labels like bi or lesbian, or you use an array of xenogenders that js describe you so perfectly. Whatever. As long as you're comfortable and you're happy with your identity or lack thereof, then I'm so proud of you.

; or if you haven't yet figured out what labels to use or you're shuffling between loads in confusion, that's okay !! Finding yourself takes time, it could take forever, you as a person are constantly changing and so how you identify is " allowed " to change w that. It's okay. You're still valid and you're still a part of this community.

; to the people who are out and proud, whether those people were accepting or not, you're so valid and brave and I'm so proud of you !! And you're an inspiration to those around you I'm sure. And to those still closeted for whatever reason .. It's alright, everything will be okay. You don't have to tell anyone anything, you don't owe anyone anything, you're not lying to them or anything ( it's only a lie if they're entitled to know ) !! And when the time comes, whoever you tell, I wish you luck. For now simply stay safe, be yourself and don't let anyone stop you !!

; happy pride everyone, the fun has only js begun !! Get ready to taste the mother fucking rainbow !! >:]] /nsx

; I'd also like to say if you want me to add to this list then feel free to shoot me an ask or message !! /gen /nf

; js a reminder that today it's Summer ( where I live ) but in about 55 days it'll be Autumn, and in about 146 days it'll be Winter. Does that change the fact it's Summer right now ? Nope ?? Then your identity is allowed to change too and still be valid in the moment. You're not faking it or lying to yourself.

because it's ace week here's something to remember;

when someone comes out to you as ace and your first question is "have you had sex?" and if they say no they haven't and you tell them to try it before coming out as asexual then you obviously don't know what asexuality is. same goes for if you only accept they're asexual if they said they tried sex and they hate it!

asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, there are asexuals who are sexually active and asexuals who aren't. some are sex repulsed, some are sex positive and some are indifferent to it. whether your asexual friend has sex or not isn't any of your business unless of course even talking about it makes them uncomfortable and they ask you to steer clear of the topic.

if your ace friend has had and enjoys sex and your first thought is to ask them if they're still asexual, you're once again not understanding what asexuality is. asexuals can have sex for their partner, because they want kids or any other reason, they can also not have sex because they don't like it, it isn't pleasurable or any other reason. it doesn't make them less ace and you honestly shouldn't be obsessing over their sexuality that much.

lack of sexual attraction doesn't mean lack of sexual arousal.

basically, asking someone asexual whether they've had sex before coming out as ace doesn't say shit about their sexuality and it just tells you whether they like sex or not.

your asexual friend is repulsed by sex? respect that.

your asexual friend is indifferent to sex? respect that.

your asexual friend has sex and/or enjoys it? respect that.

don't. be. acephobic.

Like and reblog if your account is a safe space for trans lesbians. It feels like trans lesbians in particular get shamed and ridiculed a lot by people in and out of the community. If you’re reading this I want to let you know you’re valid and I hope your safe and doing well.

Please reblog if you think that “they/them/theirs” is a valid set of pronouns.

this post must be reblogged by everyone

My pronounce is: they/them but I don't mind if you use others

My flags are:

Well, well, well, will you look at that? It’s Pride again.

If you’re on a computer, go and hover your mouse over on the “t” in the upper left corner. Cute, right?

You know the drill by now. It’s June 1, and suddenly everything from banks to big box stores has slapped a rainbow on their logo. Rainbow capitalism knows how to target LGBTQIA+ customers. For exactly 30 days of the year. How quaint.

Of course, it’s nice to make things bright, and colorful, and pretty. But it’s meaningless if that’s all it is.

Pride should be about uplifting and celebrating you, the community. And it should be year-round, not just 8.22% of the year. So, we’re signal-boosting your posts that celebrate, support, and honor all genders and sexualities over here. Follow to keep your dashboard lovely and gay as hell all year round.

And, yes, we’re also making a bit of a fuss right here on @celebrate (apparently, we just can’t help ourselves). So if you’re interested in talking about what Pride means to you or want to celebrate Pride but don’t know how to go about it this year, we made a fun little 30-day Share Your Pride Challenge list. Because you do, in fact, deserve to be celebrated.

Tag your posts with #ShareYourPride if you want to make them a little easier for other people to find. And Tumblr? Happy Pride. We’re glad you’re here.

:3c

BEING YOU DOES NOT NEED ANY RULES!!!

AAAAA

You can be an alterhuman while still feeling content with being in a human body!

You can use terms or not, relate to certain situations or not, and it doesn’t make you any less than what you already are! You’re you and that will stay true even if you feel like you’ve changed, no longer relate to the person you once was, or on the contrary, go back to being the being you were before. There are no limits or concrete steps you must take, as it’s all just part of existence!

Being uncomfortable with things others don’t see problems with is fine, as even if they don’t understand, your experience is valid. Enjoying things that are unusual for the self you present is also quite alright and you shouldn’t be brought down by anyone!

you don’t need to prove yourself to anyone, nor explain why you are the way you are. Any little detail and aspect about you is allowed to exist even without a label, and should you use one, there is no obligation to fit the stereotypical definition of said term!!

you’re allowed to have unusual symptoms or strange behaviours, desires for unsettling things and fascination with harmful things! It’s all a part of you and you don’t need the praise of others to feel like you can be yourself.

You can be a therian with no past memories, be a conceptkin of an entirely new thing you have seemingly created, make up terminology that allows you to express yourself in a way that you’re more comfortable with, you can feel like you need physical attributes to validate your identity, it’s entirely fine and possible to even have species dysmorphia and be fine with still presenting human, relate to species that simply have no concrete form, be a dog and yet like licking yourself clean, be a cat and adore dogs, be a bird and yet hate the sky, be a bug and yet seem big, be a slow creature and yet love the wind in your hair, be a god and yet proudly take on the form of a mortal.

even those “unusual” things that seemingly have no presence online, you’re still valid.

Stereotypes hold no value over you and any aspect of you is still you even if it ‘doesn’t make sense’. People can relate, or they can’t. And that’s not a you-problem. It’s theirs.

You can have reasons, or not have them. It still doesn’t change the fact you can be whatever you are. No matter if others demand an explanation. The only things you should feel inclined to share are your preferences or voluntary answers. The rest? Hidden away in a little box! Nobody needs the key, why should they?

As someone who is scared of certain bugs, I would never tell someone to do this. I would just scroll and shit. Like I'm not gonna tell someone that they need to hide a part of themself just cause of my fear, I know how to avoid shit if need be. This isn't the same as other triggers, at least not for me, so yeah. I hope this is making sense, lol. Just know that you're valid, and you shouldn't feel the need to hide a part of yourself that's not hurting anyone else [or yourself].

“It’s obviously valid to be bugkin but you also can’t just expect people to get over it when they have a genuine fear!”

I’m afraid of dogs.

Dogs put me extremely on edge. I avoid them while outside and if one’s in a room with me I’ll try to leave or else start to panic. Especially medium-sized and larger breeds. Mere images of dogs may not give me a panic attack, I will admit that, it's not a phobia. But if you want to talk hypocrisy, if you're opening up that discussion:

Hey dog therians, dog otherhearted folks and clinical cynanthropes, what if everywhere you went, the unspoken attitude of the alterhuman community was—

Don’t post dog photos or talk about being a dog in the main alterhuman tags. Don’t talk about your shifts, your instincts, or your kind in the main tags. If you’re a CZ, don’t talk so openly about your biological reality. It’s extremely triggering for people with cynophobia. The idea of physically being or becoming a dog grosses them out to briefly think about, so try not to discuss your literal existence. If you must, at least trigger tag yourself with #tw dogs or #tw dog mention so people can stay safe by censoring things that will hurt their mental health. It’s okay if you’re dogkin but in my DNI I'm going to write something like, don’t follow me if your blog hosts too many graphic close-up images of dogs doing dog things, even if you censor them. Don’t add dog photos to open posts in the alterhuman tags, you have no idea who might be sent into a panic attack by images of yourself so you should play it safe and only put them on your own posts. And stop being so offended by people who comment on posts about pet dogs or dog facts saying they want to bleach their eyes or kill it with fire, they can’t help having a phobia.

Not great, is it? Fortunately, and I do genuinely mean that, this is a sentiment you will only see once, on this post, completely satirically. Except it’s just a real sentiment for bug therians/hearted and other invertebrate alterhumans. Of course what I said was satire. But if it pissed you off when you thought it might not be, please, contemplate on that reaction, really spend some time on it.

Also, if you're wondering what I mean by "other invertebrate alterhumans", (and I'm sorry for how heated I got when I was writing this part last night even after editing it down)

You know I’m a bug zoanthrope too, not just a bird? And see above if you're wondering why I never said shit about it, just said I was a centipede therian and even then said I was just questioning and didn't really talk much about it. Am I allowed to talk about it without tagging it #tw body horror, even though I obviously don’t fucking find my own body to be horror? Can I talk about it without tagging it #tw bugs like just the very thing that I am needs to be censored for people's well-being? I'm sorry if I come across judgmental. Offline I constantly interact with people saying they’re a nature lover but centipedes are the only thing on Earth that they still hate. And I have to come online knowing that any of those people could be bloggers in the alterhuman tags and it’s my responsibility to tiptoe around them. “Because centipedes are scary and disgusting.” Because I’m scary and disgusting. My brain is not capable of hearing a difference and I can’t change that. It is so much my reality that it's the same emotional mix of anger and anxiety and hurt that would be (has been, lol) triggered by someone ranting about how much they hate Jews or trans people to me.

If any of my friends comes out as transmasc, i without any hold back, start buying T, so they won't struggle with this fuckery, it's not even legal being trans here, so it's a double "fuck you" to the system. And to all closeted, eggs, or open, you are who you are, don't let anyone say otherwise, even those intrusive thoughts, you're valid and loved, even if you don't see it yet. It's not only to trans, or any other kind of queer people, you're all wonderful and capable of great things, even if i can't support you financially or, sometimes even mentally, because I don't have the words, or knowledge of full picture, i still want you to feel supported and valued... Keep going, no matter how hard it gets, take breaks, slow down, run fast, doesn't matter, just don't give up on your life! You matter, no matter who you are! Pun intended...

I went on a fucking supporting tangent again, didn't i?...

Well, you really are all those things, so fuck you, you deserve support!