Etiquette - Tumblr Posts
Something that helps
If you blurt out something that you thought would be funny but it comes across as insensitive, just quickly say, “I’m sorry, that was rude, what I meant was…”
If you say something in anger or frustration, take a breath and say, “I’m sorry, that was hurtful, let me rephrase…”
If you say something heartfelt, but it comes across as insincere or ironic, say “That sounds like I’m just saying it, but I’m being truly honest…”
If you accidentally tell the waiter “enjoy your meal” just laugh and say a quick “so sorry, my brain isn’t working today!” and you will most likely get a commiserating chuckle in return.
Most of the time, the other person will accept your apology with no harm done. Sometimes they even insist they understood what you meant the first time and clarification was not needed. At times, maybe they have a right to be upset, but it never hurts to apologize again so they know that you’re taking their feelings into account.
Repeat after me. It’s okay to be bad at conversation. Knowing how to apologize makes it easier.
Can we stop using "still lives with their parents" or "unemployed" or "doesn't have a drivers license" or "didn't graduate high school" as an insult or evidence that someone is a bad person? Struggling with independence or meeting milestones is not a moral failing.
all written porn should take place between two consenting adults:
the writer and the reader
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(copied from the fanlore page on blanket statements)
Basic Language Etiquette
If you wouldn't call someone an "it," you shouldn't call someone a "they."
Attributing sex to an individual is giving him the dignity of not being a mere thing.
Only inanimate things are entirely unsexed and ungendered.
I am not an inanimate thing. I am a woman. I am a woman by birthright. And I don't have to tell you what pronouns to use when referring to me, because you already know.
I want to do an internet etiquette post at some point.
Tag appropriately
This means not spamtagging
This means using anti and critical tags
This means tagging specifics instead of generics, although this rule is looser in my opinion (it's nice if you do, but tv ratings aren't specific either)
Don't repost. Reblog.
If you must repost, credit. This is going to do your future self AND the creator a favor.
It's considered good form to ask before reposting.
If you don't like, scroll. Unfollow. Block. Report, if necessary.
I had so much explanation planned. I'm tired.
If you take the bus, wave to the driver and thank them as you're getting off the bus.
Being a bus driver is an underappreciated and difficult job but still very vital to society. They still have to do customer service and deal with rude and even aggressive passengers, and on top of that have to deal with traffic and other drivers all day (and let's face it, there's a lot of bad drivers out there who aren't considerate about sharing the road). All while providing an invaluable service of getting us where we need to go. Showing them some appreciation can go a long ways for someone doing such an important job that usually gets little to no recognition or thanks.
Table Etiquette
A crash course on fine dining/ being invited to dinner at someone’s place. Even if you don’t fine dine, I’d recommend you start practicing these habits in any establishment so that they come to you naturally.
Remember : A typical four-course meal consists of a soup, an appetizer, an entrée, and dessert.
If you’re standing at some sort of a networking session/ mixer:
Keep at least one hand free. If you are standing, have only a drink or food in one hand, never both. Hold a drink in your left hand so that you have a clean hand for a handshake. You can eat and drink while sitting, but it is always better to stand and greet.
Sitting/ dining out/ invited to dinner:
1. Wait to be seated by the staff/ host.
2. Napkin on your lap the minute you sit down at the table.
3. if you're looking at the menu, make sure to have the bottom, or at least one part of it, still touching the table, even if your impulse is to bring it closer to your face. Don’t lift the menu off the table to your nose.
4. Once you sip from a glass, you must sip from the exact same place on that glass for the rest of the evening.
5. If there’s a breadbasket and butter on your table - don’t dip the bread in the communal butter plate. Take a piece of the butter with your butter knife, put it on the side plate, then spread that butter on your bread. Don’t double dip! Your bread plate is the one on your left, by the way. And your glass will be on your right.
6. If your table has a lot of silverware - start from the outside and work your way in.
7. Dishes should be passed in a counter-clockwise flow. Don’t reach across the table.
8. Lay you fork and knife diagonally across the plate, side by side, pointing at 10:00 and 4:00 on a clock face. This signifies to the wait staff that you have finished.
9. Keep the rim of your plates as clean as possible, as a sign of respect to the staff.
Cultural differences:
1. Whilst eating Indian food/ in India, always eat with your right hand. The left hand should never touch the food. This is also seen in the Arab world - use only the thumb, index finger and middle finger to pick up food.
2. In Korea, one waits for the senior most person in the room to sit and eat, and is followed suit. Sharing is caring - food is often ordered to share with each other rather than individual plates.
3. Chopsticks etiquette (general): don’t stick and leave your chopsticks in your food perpendicular to the table, it signifies death. Don't set your chopsticks down pointed at another person at the table. Don't point your chopsticks at other people around the table.
4. France: bread on the table is meant to accompany the main dish, not as an appetiser.
What are some table manners that one should keep in mind if they’re eating food/ eating with someone of your culture?
Dining Etiquette Tips
Since I’ve been complimented on it, I thought I’d share some dining etiquette tips.
(This is all a mix of me being forced to attend family dinners in France, two years of living in Eastern Asia, and Google.)
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Hi Elle,
Did you take any etiquette classes, or red any books about etiquette? If so what did you take away from it? In general what is some basic etiquette everyone should know?
Yes, my mother made my sister and me take etiquette classes when we were growing up, where we learned how to make small talk, use cutlery properly, do the fox trot, and all that. It felt like torture at the time, but now that I'm an adult, I'm incredibly grateful for it. There are countless teachings I believe everyone should know, but I'll keep it simple and list the basics:
Socializing:
Greetings and Introductions:
Initiate Greetings: In formal settings, greeting the host and senior individuals first is polite.
Introduce Yourself with Confidence: When introducing yourself, make eye contact, smile, and offer a firm (but gentle) handshake.
Remember Names: Pay attention to names during introductions, and try to use them in conversation to show attentiveness.
Conversation Etiquette:
Avoid Monopolizing Conversations: Engage in a balanced dialogue exchange; avoid dominating the conversation.
Graceful Interruptions: If you must interrupt, do so politely with a soft “Excuse me” or “May I add…?”
Ending Conversations: Close conversations gracefully, e.g., “It was a pleasure speaking with you,” before moving on to another guest.
Small Talk and Topics:
Safe Topics: Stick to light, neutral topics like travel, the arts, or current (non-controversial) events.
Avoid Over-sharing: Keep personal matters private; maintain an air of mystery and sophistication.
Dining:
Seating Etiquette:
Wait to Be Seated: Wait until the host signals to sit, or until you’re guided to your seat.
Seating Order: If you’re hosting, guide guests to their seats based on seniority or guest of honor status.
Table Manners:
Utensil Use: Start with the outermost utensils and work your way in as the courses progress. After you've cut your food, make sure you move your for to your left hand even if it feels counterintuitive,
Bread and Butter: Tear off a small piece of bread, butter it on your plate, and eat it, rather than buttering the entire slice.
Resting Utensils: When pausing, place utensils on the plate in a “resting” position, such as crossed or angled.
Handling Courses:
Soup Etiquette: Spoon soup away from you and sip from the edge of the spoon without slurping.
Pacing: Match your pace to the host or the most senior individual at the table. Don't rush or lag behind.
Events:
RSVP and Invitations:
Timely Response: Respond to invitations promptly and never bring uninvited guests unless explicitly allowed.
Respect Time: Arrive on time, especially for formal events, but not more than 15 minutes early.
Host and Guest Responsibilities:
Host Etiquette: As a host, introduce guests to each other, especially if they don’t know anyone else.
Guest Behavior: Engage with other guests, but don’t cling to one person for the entire event. Mingle politely.
Handling Alcohol:
Moderation: Drink alcohol in moderation. Know your limits and avoid overindulgence.
Toast Etiquette: Stand if a toast is being made in your honor, and wait to drink until after the toast is given.
Dressing:
Dress Code Adherence:
Understand the Code: Whether it’s black tie, cocktail, or casual, always adhere strictly to the dress code specified on the invitation.
Subtle Elegance: Opt for classic, understated pieces that are elegant but not overly flashy.
Grooming and Accessories:
Impeccable Grooming: Make sure your hair, nails, and makeup are neatly done and appropriate for the occasion.
Minimalist Accessories: Choose simple, elegant accessories that complement but do not overpower your outfit.
Hi Elle,
Did you take any etiquette classes, or red any books about etiquette? If so what did you take away from it? In general what is some basic etiquette everyone should know?
Yes, my mother made my sister and me take etiquette classes when we were growing up, where we learned how to make small talk, use cutlery properly, do the fox trot, and all that. It felt like torture at the time, but now that I'm an adult, I'm incredibly grateful for it. There are countless teachings I believe everyone should know, but I'll keep it simple and list the basics:
Socializing:
Greetings and Introductions:
Initiate Greetings: In formal settings, greeting the host and senior individuals first is polite.
Introduce Yourself with Confidence: When introducing yourself, make eye contact, smile, and offer a firm (but gentle) handshake.
Remember Names: Pay attention to names during introductions, and try to use them in conversation to show attentiveness.
Conversation Etiquette:
Avoid Monopolizing Conversations: Engage in a balanced dialogue exchange; avoid dominating the conversation.
Graceful Interruptions: If you must interrupt, do so politely with a soft “Excuse me” or “May I add…?”
Ending Conversations: Close conversations gracefully, e.g., “It was a pleasure speaking with you,” before moving on to another guest.
Small Talk and Topics:
Safe Topics: Stick to light, neutral topics like travel, the arts, or current (non-controversial) events.
Avoid Over-sharing: Keep personal matters private; maintain an air of mystery and sophistication.
Dining:
Seating Etiquette:
Wait to Be Seated: Wait until the host signals to sit, or until you’re guided to your seat.
Seating Order: If you’re hosting, guide guests to their seats based on seniority or guest of honor status.
Table Manners:
Utensil Use: Start with the outermost utensils and work your way in as the courses progress. After you've cut your food, make sure you move your for to your left hand even if it feels counterintuitive,
Bread and Butter: Tear off a small piece of bread, butter it on your plate, and eat it, rather than buttering the entire slice.
Resting Utensils: When pausing, place utensils on the plate in a “resting” position, such as crossed or angled.
Handling Courses:
Soup Etiquette: Spoon soup away from you and sip from the edge of the spoon without slurping.
Pacing: Match your pace to the host or the most senior individual at the table. Don't rush or lag behind.
Events:
RSVP and Invitations:
Timely Response: Respond to invitations promptly and never bring uninvited guests unless explicitly allowed.
Respect Time: Arrive on time, especially for formal events, but not more than 15 minutes early.
Host and Guest Responsibilities:
Host Etiquette: As a host, introduce guests to each other, especially if they don’t know anyone else.
Guest Behavior: Engage with other guests, but don’t cling to one person for the entire event. Mingle politely.
Handling Alcohol:
Moderation: Drink alcohol in moderation. Know your limits and avoid overindulgence.
Toast Etiquette: Stand if a toast is being made in your honor, and wait to drink until after the toast is given.
Dressing:
Dress Code Adherence:
Understand the Code: Whether it’s black tie, cocktail, or casual, always adhere strictly to the dress code specified on the invitation.
Subtle Elegance: Opt for classic, understated pieces that are elegant but not overly flashy.
Grooming and Accessories:
Impeccable Grooming: Make sure your hair, nails, and makeup are neatly done and appropriate for the occasion.
Minimalist Accessories: Choose simple, elegant accessories that complement but do not overpower your outfit.