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Ok I want to say something controversial
But you are responsible for your own safe spaces. You can block tags, block words, block people.
“But i thought fandom was supposed to be a safe space” —yeah you have to curate it.
Unfortunately one persons’s safe space may be another persons’ trigger. That’s ok. Simply block them, block the tag, block the word etc. They can do the same for you.
Maybe I’m just out of touch, but I’ve been around since the days of “don’t like, don’t read” and that’s a good philosophy. If it squicks you, scroll past. If it causes you anxiety or upset, block! Plenty of people are responsive if you ask them to tag an upsetting trigger. And if they’re dicks about it, block em.
a bit of advice for my fellow polytheists out there:
use the first of the month as a day to check in with your deities or other spirits you work with!! let them tell you whatever it is that they need to tell you and use that guidance to help you throughout the rest of the month!
Honestly it boils down to reparenting yourself & rewiring your own neuronal pathways & telling yourself a firm “stop” when you notice your mind slipping down negative loopholes & being present in the moment & enjoying being mid task rather than waiting for it to end & not thinking of inertia as your baseline and natural way of living
Dorky but very fun things to do to fall back in love with your writing/story:
Create a mood board of how you think your characters would dress. Bonus points if it's the opposite style of how you usually do.
Put your characters into Artflow and see them come to life through AI!
Make a playlist for the movie adaption of your book from the opening sequence to the end credits.
Write a letter between two characters (if you handwrite it, try to come up with unique handwriting for each character)
Create a manifestation book! I have a ring-bound book in which I write all my writing goals and record any milestones. Feel free to go wild with this and dream big as no one has to see it! Buy washi tape that fits your book's theme.
Go to a pizza store or Starbucks and order using your character's name. I like seeing how close they are to the spelling on the receipt, or hearing them call out the name across the store!
Pretend that there's such a thing as the Book Oscars and pick out what you would wear to it and practice your acceptance speech as the best book of the year in your genre.
Create an Instagram for your characters and post photos you think they would post. (Hint: use Unsplash to find aesthetic royalty free photos)
Play Akinator (basically a 20 questions game) and find out which existing character is most like yours.
Splurge on your birthday and commission an artist to draw your characters. It's amazing to see them come to life!
Just to let men know...
Sometimes, women mean the complete opposite of what they say, if you tell a woman (a gf/wife, sister, friend or even mother) that you are going to bed or smth, while they stay up to read or something else and you decide not to do what you said you would, they might say, "Fuck off, you said you were going to bed, then do so." They sometimes may not mean it, if they were already against you going to do something it is even less likely for them to mean it. What the person might mean is "Oh, you are back? I wanted to do something with you (This could be just being around you, doing an activity with you or anything really) but I thought you were going to do something else." It is also possible that they still want you to join them in said activity. Either way, it is better to explain what you mean when you can, I hope this let you know enough to understand that sometimes women don't mean what they say (Still, they can mean it) and though it can be confusing, try to figure it out if you really care about them and want to understand them.
Every time I write a draft I do it differently. What works wonders for one story fails spectacularly for another.
So much writing advice is bullcrap based on what works for one person.
Just write.
Write as often with as much or little planning as gets the job done.
Try different things. It’s OK if NaNoWriMo works for you. It’s OK if it doesn’t.
None of it is a moral failing. None of it is set in stone.
Anyone saying there’s one way or the highway does not deserve your time, nor your emotional investment.
Maybe there’s one way for THEM. You’re NOT them.
It is OKAY to say NO, you don’t have to make excuses
Don’t bring your younger siblings on a murder spree
You don’t want to be the main character, you want to be the funny side character that everyone loves!!
don't panic buy games because of the eshop shutdown!!!! the memes are not lying It is genuinely very easy to hack your 3ds!!! please do it!!!!
3ds.hacks.guide
(don't follow video guides they are very often outdated and it's easier to make mistakes that way. this guide is very detailed with step by step instructions and they even have a support server in the event you have any trouble! i understand it might seem intimidating but risks of bricking or banning are very minimal at this point you will be glad you did it)
"Stop saying 15 year olds with weird interests are cringe, they're 15" this is true however you should also stop saying adults with weird interests are cringe because who gives a shit
Parenting done right, 9-22-2022.
Some advice for when you’re writing and find yourself stuck in the middle of a scene:
kill someone
ask this question: “What could go wrong?” and write exactly how it goes wrong
switch the POV from your current character to another - a minor character, the antagonist, anyone
stop writing whatever scene you’re struggling with and skip to the next one you want to write
write the ending
write a sex scene
use a scene prompt
use sentence starters
read someone else’s writing
Never delete. Never read what you’ve already written. Pass Go, collect your $200, and keep going.
my trick for getting through grad school is learning to navigate the quadrants with all their nuances
I'm quite terrible at small talk and this will help immensely!
Thank you all for posting and adding insights.
I've tried asking people what they like to do, but it almost always ends up awkward. Asking how they spend their time is much less ambiguous and I'm much more thoughtful.
Unlearning How White People Ask Personal Questions
http://www.samefacts.com/2014/05/culture-and-civil-society/unlearning-how-white-people-ask-personal-questions/
you know the drill, op disabled reblogs etc etc etc
