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Tell your friend respectfully to stop it. Stand your ground and don't be afraid to have some boundaries in your friendships.
WIBTA if I bluntly told my friend to stop informing me about my own culture?
For context: I am Malaysian-Chinese, but I immigrated to the US when I was a really young age (like younger then 3). My friend is a second gen Chinese person. I'll call them A. I've been friends with them for a couple of years, and I would say we're close friends (although they might disagree)
However, recently I've started noticing that A keeps trying to inform me about Chinese culture? For example, I brought up Chang'e once, and A just started explaining the entire story to me. That's one of the more explicit times though—most of the time it just feels very subtle. Like they'll start explaining to me about how valued hard work is in Chinese culture, despite the fact that I am also Chinese and therefore (probably) know about that value. Or when a someone talks in Mandarin, A will translate what that person is saying to me, even though I can listen fluently. All in all, it feels like A will talk about their culture like I'm a outsider to it.
I don't exactly know why A does this, though I feel like they're not doing this on purpose. There's some part of me that feels like A acts like this because I do not look stereotypically Asian (I have darker skin then most East-Asians as I'm Malaysian), but I do want to give them benefit of the doubt.
It really bothers me, because I am very insecure about my culture as my family aggressively tried to assimilate when we immigrated. But I also feel like I might just be overblowing this problem or reading into A's intentions too deeply. Additionally, I don't know if I want to confront A about this because I am extremely blunt when it comes to this sort of stuff and I don't want to hurt A's feelings. They're going through a rough spot right now, and I really do not want to make them snap.
What are these acronyms?
WIBTA if I kept notes about my friends?
I have ADHD and memory problems due to a brain injury. For this reason it's difficult for me to remember things about my friends sometimes. When I want to get them a gift sometimes I draw a blank and default to getting them a giftcard or nice bottle of alcohol (we're all adults) but sometimes I'd like to get them more sincere gifts if I could remember more details about things they liked.
I feel like if I wrote notes about them after hanging out I could pinpoint more things they like. I could also use this to follow up on more sincere conversational topics that I do care about, but forget about because of my issues.
The flipside is I feel like this could be misconstrued as "creepy" instead of sincere, which is something I want to avoid. I wouldn't want someone to find my friend notes and think I'm being weird (derogatory). I just want to work on being a better friend because I feel like a lot of my friendships right now are more surface level because I can't remember enough about the people I know to strengthen the relationship.
So, WIBTA if I kept notes about my friends?
& assholes will be guillotined. NTAs will be free to go. ✌
in 2024 we will replace the supreme court with r/aita
˚‧ ✰ ˓ ˖ AITA FOR FUCKING MY SON’S GIRLFRIEND? aka me randomly thinking about how fanon!toji in some fics would be one of those guys to post in AITA on reddit for validation 😭
my son [21M] and i [43M] have always had tension. its probably because i left when he was a kid and he was raised by my enemy [34M] but since then we've been trying to patch up our relationship through phone conversations and occasional meetups. my son's got all of my looks and none of my game, but he managed to pull a girl way out of his league. i've met her once or twice and she's a sweet lil thing, too fuckin' hot for that little runt of mine. so 'cause my son and his girl are trying to get a house in the city, he asks if they can stay with me for a while. get their money up. i agreed. i got a pretty big place and i thought it'd be cool.
wrong. my son's girlfriend is a fuckin' minx. always walking around in short skirts and tempting me by bending over in front of me while i'm just trying to watch the fuckin' game. handing me my beers when i don’t ask for them and complimenting me on my muscles after i come home from the gym. i put distance for a while, but here's where i might be TA: so one night while my son's asleep, i gotta take a piss and i go to my bathroom but she's already in there doing a skincare routine or whatever tf girls do to keep their skin shiny and shit. i'm about to apologize and take a piss outside but she says that i can come in, we're family now, etc etc. so i'm taking a piss right and she's doing her skincare shit. she's just chatting like we're old friends, then she says she sees where megs got his good looks, that i'm hot for an old guy, etc etc. then as i'm about to put my dick away and get tf out of there, she grabs it. says she wants me. and c'mon, what am i supposed to do? not get my dick wet just because she's my son's girlfriend? funny. so we fuck. hand over her mouth and shit. telling her she deserves a real man, not that rugrat snoring in my guest bedroom rn. and then i send her back to bed. walking all funny and skincare routine not even complete. idk reddit i feel like i'm TA bc i’m trying to patch my rs up with my son and be a good dad . i also told my buddies and they said i'm a dick for fucking his hot little gf so reddit, AITA? should i tell my son?
all these exams and yet the only thing nta is testing is my patience
NTA finally posted the CUET Answer Keys after making everyone beg for days, Queen ke death ki khushi me dala hoga pakka.
ok if this gets 15k notes i'll burn the nta down with my favourite cousin (we're both arsonists so we'll get the job done, dw)
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I'm gonna need to remember this prompt for when I'm having a bad day
Our education system has everything except education and system.
YES WE'LL PUSH THROUGH. God I just want a good percentile in 2nd attempt for backup in case adv goes sideways but somehow I feel less prepped than 1st attempt but yea we'll do something and get through.
It's good you took a break I tried to be the overachiever/maximum sacrifice guy and welp it didn't work out. But yea now that you're refreshed things will fall in place again dw :D
Ramu brings back some cringe memories of my building waale "friends" but, I know you mean well so go ahead and use it hehe
you have at least two chances i have like one and that too once a year 😭
i hope so too like i really need to get things in place real quick
erm no if you don't like that then i'll call you ram only it's fine dw
AITA for spamming my ex-boyfriend whose planet I tried to take over?
I, Bill Cipher-