There's Already Been Ample Responses Of People Going; "well Yes But Racism."

There's already been ample responses of people going; "well yes but racism."

It was not what I was talking about. I advise looking through the reblogs and the reblog tags in order to see the responses which correlate to the purpose and core point of this post.

I am actually begging some people to just let some spaces exist untouched by real-world issues and horrors.

Like I've lost count of the amount of times peaceful game or fandom servers have been ruined by people stampeding in with political rants, bitching about world issues, demanding internal activism, demanding vent channels so they can whine about their shitty parents, ect.

Like. Respectfully. Not every single space has to be inclusive of and welcoming of outside topics. The real world sucks. We don't needed to be reminded of that absolutely everywhere.

tbh all the people complaining about "i NEED to vent in non-vent spaces" reek of selfishness and narcissism. there's a server i'm in with two vent spaces. one is 18+ because there's an 18+ section. legit watched one person vent about another who couldn't see the 18+ section. using it to deliberately hide from them. despite the fact. yknow. DMs with other people exist. small group chats can be made at any time. nope! have to vent in this subsection where the members who can see both vent chats can report me for it.

Yeah, internal member conflict is another reason why honestly things like venting channels and negativity spaces in open-access things like Discord servers are just.... Not a good idea, no matter how therapeutic or helpful or easy to ignore you think they are.

Allowing members to just spew out negativity and complaints and toxic thoughts just allows other people to respond to them. I've lost count of how many times I've seen someone venting and someone else has started commenting lashing out at the original person or accusing them of bad behavior or blaming them for what happened. Then other members pile in to agree or disagree and before you know it half the server is at verbal war.

Its just not healthy for anyone involved. If you try to outlet your emotions and get shut down, its going to impact you worse in the long run. It is absolutely more beneficial to privately release your thoughts and use those public spaces in order to farm more positive outlets and distractions.

E.g; keep a diary. Write down all your bad shit then go to the Discord server and say hey, I've had a bad day, spam me with fun shit to cheer me up. Find something worthwhile to engage with. Have a fun, dynamic conversation with other people.

I think far too many people think the only proper way to process and move on from negativity is to involve other people and actively dissect it and honestly, it really isn't. Especially when other people already have their owns shares of misery and suffering.

I am actually begging some people to just let some spaces exist untouched by real-world issues and horrors.

Like I've lost count of the amount of times peaceful game or fandom servers have been ruined by people stampeding in with political rants, bitching about world issues, demanding internal activism, demanding vent channels so they can whine about their shitty parents, ect.

Like. Respectfully. Not every single space has to be inclusive of and welcoming of outside topics. The real world sucks. We don't needed to be reminded of that absolutely everywhere.

Is true that people might take less serious some irl problems because of the desensitization that they gained from fiction

(I hope that this question makes sense)

No. Desensitisation happens through prolonged exposure regardless of the source. However, desensitisation is not inherently the problem. It doesn't necessarily matter if something is no longer shocking because we are so used to seeing it. It matters that despite it no longer being shocking, we still acknowledge that it is wrong and is something we need to take action against.

For example, while photos of bombings and dead bodies may no longer give you the same shock value, you can still resonate with the fact that it is an awful thing, right? Its not shocking anymore, because you know it happens and you know what it looks like, but it doesn't disincentivise you from taking action.

We live in a world that is constantly barraging us with gore, violence, bigotry and death. Its only natural that after a certain point we may not have the same visceral reactions to it as we once did. However, it should not impact the choices you make regarding what you do about those things.

I'd never see someone gunned down in the street and shrug it off because I'm so used to action movies and Call of Duty. That's just not how it works.

I very vividly remember in 2020, being told by this one person who began controlling our fandom rp server, that we had to turn our rp blogs into places where we had to reblog every horrific thing happening during blm. and that he "better not catch us trying to rp". he also was against tagging it because then "white people would ignore it". i remember forcing myself to watch videos of police brutalizing black men and women, real people dying in the streets, and trying to convince myself that if I looked away, I was part of the problem. He'd also convinced me that I lucked out in getting my job, only because I was white, and that I was taking this job from a much more qualified black person. the only reason i got away from him is because I started feeling like i should kill myself, because one less whitey. and that was when i snapped to attention and did whatever i could to get out of there, even though it cost me my reputation being slandered by him.

it's been 4 years, and I'm doing my best to heal, but apparently he's still at it. pulling this same kind of controlling bs that I'm seeing echoed in some of those reblogs.

don't traumatize yourself for the sake of proving you're a good person.

Please feel free to name and shame. That kind of behavior is abusive, predatory and could very well drive someone to kill themselves as you almost did. Him continuing to have a platform and unchallenged reach is outright dangerous.

If you are ever in a situation like this, please, clock the early signs and leave. Your health and wellbeing are far more important than your forced activism. If someone is ever:

Making you feel guilty over something like not reblogging a post, being a certain ethnicity/gender/race/sexuality.

Accusing you of contributing to or being the core problem in a much, much broader issue.

Trying to manipulate you and others by "tattling" on you for not doing something or not doing enough.

Threatening you in order to pressure you into doing things.

Screenshot all of the conversations, block them, and leave.

Things like this are why I will always give call out posts which do not contain blatant and corroborating evidence the benefit of the doubt. Its all too easy for people to join in almost automatically on dogpiles against people being accused of something like being racist or being passive/dismissive about world events.

(E.g; in the 911 fandom literal Latino artists and authors were being harassed over being "racist" re; their depictions of Eddie Diaz only for the people dogpiling them to scramble to retract and apologise once they realized the person wasn't actually an Evil Terrible White Person.)

I'm so proud of you for having the courage to get yourself away from your abuser.

Actually I'm gonna unleash my frustrations here a little bit and say that if you're doing a roleplay or co-authoring a fic and you find yourself embodying one or more of the following statements:

Only I can make all the decision and choices and anything you try to input I veto or aggressively challenge until you back down.

My character is the ultimate Mary Sue and yours has to pander to mine constantly.

My character is super super intelligent and talented and pretty and everyone loves them and they're superior in every single way.

If I'm not interested in what you just sent I'm going to send the most half-assed replies and passive aggressively hope you strive to meet my unspoken demands and expectations.

Super hyper stereotypes where my character is the super precious submissive uwu bean slut and yours is the mega possessive alpha muscle man dominant.

Sit back and consider if you should really be involving other people or acting that way.

(The last one may seem like personal preference but I usually find its inherently tied with points two and three.)