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them: dress for yourself, not anybody else!
asexuals: okay :D
them: oh not you guys lol
Whilst in many ways we live in the worst timeline, seeing an ace person lead London Pride has been a real highpoint of my year. Thankyou, @theyasminbenoit and everyone else who made that happen :)
I kinda agree with a-specs like you can be asexual but still like sex. every person I ask says it. asexuals are actually liking sex some times
[Image description: A tumblr post, edited blackout-poetry style. Resulting text reads, "if a man reaches his 20s or 30s or beyond without sex that is something natural it's likely that he's not interested"]
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if a man reaches his 20s or 30s or beyond without sex that is something natural it's likely that he's not interested
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On the views of Rio in relation to Miguel within fandom
There's something I'm commonly seeing that has been worrying me which is the depictions of Rio "latina mom-ing" Miguel.
This includes Rio:
- slapping him
- coming at him with "the chancla"
- "dressing him down" verbally or yelling
- humiliating him
- straight up just... Beating him up
And I'm bringing this up because guys... This shit be low-key racist. I know racism towards latines has already been a problem (Yes. I am gesturing to the everything that is how Miguel is treated within the fandom), but I personally wanted to bring up this issue as well as I'm unsure if others have talked about it- and we all know how suck ass searching anything on this site is.
Anyways, I won't lie. I don't know how many latines are making these jokes, but it being so prevalent being her "main" interactions makes me feel even if it started as a latine joke, it sure as hell didn't stay that way.
But the depiction of Latina women as fierce, aggressive and (yes it is) straight up physically abusive (in general words) is a major fucking Problem. Latinas are often depicted in media as these "feisty exotic women" who takes no shit. Perpetuating that with Rio does not feel as #girl power as you guys might think. It feels like a step back in treating latinas not as these power houses but as... Y'know... People who aren't depicted as aggressors 24/7....
But also I really hate this cutesy look at what is a serious issue within latine communities. It's always "ha ha funny" seeing a Latina mom beating someone's ass but guys. That is still physical abuse. That is a serious issue and discussion that is held within the latine community. And seeing it so casually assigned to Rio kind of makes me feel sick.
And this isn't even tacking on that you're having a Latina beating/acting aggressive towards a canonical child abuse survivor (yes. Miguel is a child abuse survivor.) Which adds a whole new layer of how shitty this actually is.
Because I hate how people are boiling Rio down to just being an aggressor towards Miguel to "put him in his place". That's discrediting her character so badly.
Yes, latinas can be strong. Yes, latinas can be angry. Yes, latinas can get aggressive.
These are things people are and do because people are complex.
But I really need the fandom to stop for a second and really think about how they saw Rio, witnessed her give her heart on the screen, - a mom who's trying so hard to break these cycles of yelling and humiliation with kindness and understanding (even being a foil to Jeff's strong headed approach on purpose) -
took her and said "she would perpetuate a real cycle of abuse towards a fellow latino because he's the 'bad one'" and laughed.
I know you guys are depicting her like this as a means to defend Miles, but maybe not like this. Her character doesn't deserve being so bastardized like this for your stolen joke.
(which this whole "need" to defend him in the first place points right back to the racism towards Miguel if we're honest. I have complex thoughts on Miguel's interactions with Miles especially involving the end train scene but boiling a traumatized Latino man down to just being an "aggressive threat" that needs to be "put in place" as I've mentioned above is racist as hell too.)
You guys can reblog this, but don't fucking guilt trip people into reblogging this okay? I'm not giving you brownie points for that shit.
billy flynn from chicago is asexual (headcanon)
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...Welp y'know what I should consider myself lucky I mean I legitimately didn't think I would see any ace rep in my lifetime when I was a teen
Aaand it's still part of the best we can get, honestly
I havent seen anyone on Tumblr talking about the author of Heartstopper's xenophobic and puritanical remarks so im gonna share
and close ups of the screenshots in question
happy aro week!! 💚 🤍 🩶 🖤
[Characters are from Koisenu Futari a really nice series about two people who are aroace that start living together]
Explicitly Aspec Characters in Japanese Dramas
Japanese shows have been coming through recently with that aro and ace rep! Thought I would put together a list for anyone interested in seeing more aro, ace and aroace characters. Feel free to add on if I've missed any!
Koisenu Futari (TV series) - Takahashi Satoru and Kodama Sakuko
You've probably heard of this show. It has not one but two explicitly aroace characters with very different personalities. The entire show revolves around them figuring out life after identifying as aroace. Takahashi is also canonically touch-averse.
Kimi no Hana ni Naru (TV series) - Onodera Takara
I have not watched the show personally and so am not sure whether he's aro or aroace. Every time I see the translations, they are different, so will update as and when I watch the show for myself. But he does explicitly say he does not experience romantic attraction. This show is also written by the screenwriter of Koisenu Futari.
Cherry Magic (TV series and Movie) - Fujisaki Nozomi
Another gem from the creator of Koisenu Futari. Fujisaki is canonically aroace.
Konya Sukiyaki Dayo (TV Series) - Asano Tomoko
Again, I'm not sure whether Tomoko is aro or aroace but she explicitly says she is aromantic in the show and that she doesn't understand romantic attraction.
Raise de wa Chanto Shimasu (TV Series) - Takasugi Ume
The main character's best friend is explicitly aroace. She says she "isn't capable" of experiencing romantic attraction, admits to never having had sex, and is uncomfortable with people being attracted to her.
Drew some of my favorite Hollywoo residents 🫶
religious conservatives: no sex before marriage !!
asexuals: okay
religious conservatives: wait no, not like that.
As someone with phobias (like thalassophobia, not homophobia) the way able-minded people treat phobias is abhorrent.
Phobias should be regarded as actual disorders and disabilities, and not just "they don't like this" or "they are just so scared of these! It's so funny!" or "overcome your fears" or "just get over it" or "it's just this!"
Like Ik... it's irrational... that's what defines a phobia or a traumatic experience can be the cause.
People hear me say "I have a phobia of needles/Trypanophobia." And think it's appropriate to say stuff like, "Oh, but it doesn't hurt." or "You'll get used to it."
I'm almost 20 and have been doing blood test my whole life. I'm already "used to it." And, it does really hurt. I am traumatized, not uninformed or inexperienced.
And, when my mom, thank god, defends me, they're all like, "Oh... you'll get over your fears one day."
Like, I need a therapist for that, and even then, I get to decide how to handle my own conditions. I don't want exposure therapy. I want support and comfort. I want my dad to stop calling me dramatic and a crybaby. I want BOTH of my parents to defend me when people try to put down my disabilities.
Also, don't trigger people's phobias on purpose. That's extremely ableist, whether the person has trauma or not. Triggering it can Cause trauma and is extremely distressing. I know it's not rational. You don't have to remind me.
anyone who pushes you to engage with your fears when you're not ready has no right to do so - therapists included. you know yourself better than anyone else. you are the only person who can decide what is best for you or what you're ready for.
it's okay to not be ready. it's okay to take your time, say no, or not doing things. there's nothing wrong with prioritizing your mental health. engaging with your fears when you're not ready to can cause you even more harm. please be gentle with yourself.
she lived she served cunt and then she died <3
I dunno, sometimes it feels much better to have a neutral word to describe a neutral reality rather than being defaulted to "gay" at best and "frigid bitch" at worst
