No Nuance Version Of A Fandom Take I Hav Bc I Honestly Don't Hav The Energy 2 Explain This In Depth Rn

no nuance version of a fandom take i hav bc i honestly don't hav the energy 2 explain this in depth rn but if u think Jax is an inherently bad person just bc he's being an asshole in a video game but that gangle who has real person anime figurines of her friends who don't know that she has those is an inherently good person bc she's a shy uwu bean then u actually need 2 shut up, Jax is a guy who very clearly displays multiple ASPD symptoms and is dealing with his chronic boredom by being violent 2 npcs in a video game and also just kinda passively a bit of an asshole verbally Gangle social anxiety-ed her way into being an actual stalker they are not the same

anyway as some1 who has ASPD it rly fucks me up how the fandom has reacted 2 Jax, like when it was the pilot y'all were more than happy 2 fetishise his ASPD symptoms but then as soon as his symptoms r showing slightly more when again, i cannot stress this enough, HE IS LITERALLY IN A VR GAME IN EPISODE 2! then y'all r like "omg he's terrible, what an inherently horrible person, he literally is the worst person here" actually shut up, i hate this fandom so much

If the idea that trans men don’t exist for the benefit of cis women bothers you, sit down and ask yourself why. Why do you think a minority group exists for the benefit of those who are privileged over them.

Before you say the reason trans men in the workplace is good because they’ll reduce sexism against cis women, ask yourself why you’re putting the responsibility on trans men to make cis men treat women better rather than asking cis men to treat women better. Do you think trans men caused them to behave like this? If not, why do you think this is a reasonable expectation of trans men?

Before you talk about the ways trans men make better boyfriends, ask yourself how you’ll react when the real trans men you meet don’t meet that expectation you’re building up for them. Will you get offended if he rejects you for any reason (gay, aromantic, he’s just not interested, etc)? Will you get upset if he doesn’t want to have sex with you (ace, not in the mood, etc)? You expect him to not be misogynistic and ~understand women’s experiences~ but will you expect yourself to never be transphobic and understand trans men’s struggles? Will you fight for him if he goes to an OBGYN and they tell him they can’t help him cause he makes the cis women there uncomfortable by being a man seeing an OBGYN? Will you use gender neutral language around the subject of abortion and reproductive rights? Do you expect him to be your protector solely or do you plan to protect and defend him when he’s the one in danger due to transphobia? Do you see trans men as people or potential boy toys who know where the clit is and will eat your pussy upon request and listen to your problems while having none of his own?

And before you say “nobody says this, this didn’t happen,” why is it you’re so quick to assume trans men are lying about the types of cis women we’ve encountered? I wrote this because I made a post saying trans men don’t exist for cis women’s benefit and had someone respond with “but you can’t expect me people to ignore the perks!!! Trans men are trans men not men!!” As if it’s ridiculous for me to suggest I’m not an object.

UPDATE!

so i started having some problems with the disney baby baby bottles, mainly that they started getting really noisy when i tried to drink from them in a way that was really upsetting to me and made it difficult 4 me 2 drink from them (sensory sensitivity) so i decided 2 try out some baby bottles made by NUK and 1 of the 1s i tried out was this new 1 called "perfect match" so i tried those out and they r working out really well 4 me so far! im using the "universal" spout 4 them and so far they r a lot quieter than the disney baby brand baby bottles, they also seem 2 b able 2 do both warm and cold drinks and i haven't had any major issues with them so far

any1 hav any tips on brands that make good sippy cups? asking as a disabled adult who started using sippy cups recently bc i can't drink anything from a regular mug or cup w/out spilling and also hurting my wrists, i previously used water bottles 2 combat this problem but i was still having the problem of them being 2 big 4 my hands and also i then had 2 individually clean all the straws which is a lot 4 some1 w/ my lvl of chronic fatigue and brain fog, w/ sippy cups so far im having an easier time since they r smaller which means they fit better in my hands and also they usually hav a spout but not a straw and i find the spout way easier 2 clean since i don't gotta get in there w/ a special brush like i do w/ straws

tl;dr: help a disabled himbo who probably? also has dwarfism? by giving me some recs 4 sippy cups

-no sippy cups w/ straws since that makes it difficult 2 clean

-no sippy cups specifically designed 4 adults since they would probably b 2 big 4 my hands given that the 1s that r made 4 kids r a better size 4 me

-1s with handles r preferable since they help me keep my grip better but recs 4 1s that don't hav handles r also okay :)

-must b no spill or at least very difficult 4 it 2 spill

this is a post abt disability and i do not want my disability or disability aids fetishised

kink blogs DNI, fetish blogs DNI, nsfw blogs DNI

does any1 else find the concept of being "high support needs" or "low support needs" as an autistic person confusing?

like i feel like i struggle 2 rly know what that means and instead of getting the chance 2 learn what that means i think most ppl assume im "low support needs" bc i can apparently speak fluent english but tbh im not sure if even that is super accurate, most of the words i know i learned thru mimicry, instead of learning what those words actually mean i just learned how 2 use them in the structure of a sentence and where would b considered an appropriate sentence placement 4 that word 2 appear from trial and error, i feel like i never truly learned words or how they work i feel like i just learned how 2 fake an understanding of them bc my biological parents put a lot of emphasise on the importance of me being "intelligent"

i was praised 4 using big words and being "intelligent" so i learned 2 fake intelligence, i saw what i was praised 4 and did more of it, i noticed i was praised 4 mimicking words in similar sentences that i had heard them used in b4 so i just kept doing that, i learned that i was praised 4 repeating phrases my biological parents had said, especially if they were political statments and for doing so i was called intelligent, i learned that other people considered me less intelligent because the statements i was saying were ones they did not agree with politically, so i learned from a young age that intelligence was just about how much adults agreed with what i was saying even if i didn't understand what i was saying

it also seems clear that people's idea of a "low support needs" autistic and a "high support needs" autistic is still rooted in the ableist concept of intelligence and assuming that if someone can say a big english word at you then they must be intelligent and if they can't then they therefore must be "less intelligent" which is honestly also just xenophobic

how does me being disabled in multiple ways factor into this? does it make me a "higher support needs autistic" even if its in no way linked 2 my autism? what about if i don't know which one of my disabilities is causing which symptoms?

or r ppl going 2 assume that bc i was able 2 put this thought 2gether that that means i couldn't possibly b "high support needs" even tho i can't make my own meals partly bc i literally 4get how making food works

it's difficult 2 wrap my head around what the words "high support needs" and "low support needs" means because like,,, high or low support in comparison 2 what? what's considered the "norm" 4 support needs? should there even b a concept of what is "normal" 4 support needs?

personally with what little i know abt it i would probably say that im high support needs but in a multi disability way but i also don't want 2 speak over ppl with high support needs if i don't "count" ig and i know most ppl will just see me using kinda big words and assume im low support needs and get mad at me and i honestly don't have the energy 2 deal with that and tbh im not sure if putting my support needs on a scale in comparison 2 other ppl's support needs is even helpful 4 me especially since i can't really understand the concept but i see it pushed into autistic spaces a lot? idk, it's just confusing 2 me

Please return us to a world where Notp and squick are used for a ship you don’t like instead of just making up a load of bullshit about how immoral it is or w/e lol 

nvm they r ghosting me again!

it's been a whole year since they were supposed 2 contact me

so i out of desperation phoned up my gender identity clinic again this morning when they hadn't been responding 2 me 4 ages, turns out it was the right thing 2 do tho bc it turns out that it WASN'T that my gender therapist was ghosting me when i heard nothing back from her and it's not that the gender identity clinic was ghosting me when i was getting no response from them when i tried to email, it turns out that MY DOCTOR QUIT AND I WASN'T NOTIFIED and then THE CLINIC SHUT DOWN FOR 5 MONTHS AND I WASN'T NOTIFIED, this whole time i thought that i was being deliberately ignored after having recently discovered i might b intersex and that i was gonna have 2 go private and basically visit a different country 2 get affordable private health care trans surgeries like trans ppl had 2 do historically, i dunno i hav a lot of mixed feelings,,, like im relieved that i don't hav 2 go thru all that and that my gender identity clinic wasn't just ghosting me and that i might actually b able 2 get my top surgery thru the NHS like i was trying 2 but on the other hand it feels rly fucked up that i wasn't notified at all abt my gender therapist quitting or abt the clinic being shut down,,, and i was just left that whole time thinking it was my fault 4 telling them i thought i might b intersex,,,