Ok I Know I Leave Some Comments For You OP But I Want To Repost And Add My Thoughts, Hope It Doesn't

Ok I know I leave some comments for you OP but I want to repost and add my thoughts, hope it doesn't bother

Endos, pro endos and anti endos, all the three sin of the same mistake and that's the problem with all this syscourse thing, no one is winning, no one can win, it's about making all the whole community into a fight of stances and this is the shit that happens because of it

"What's the shit that you're talking about?"

People being excluded because they don't share the same specific mindset, the system community forcing people to choose a side from syscourse and shit like that, that's the shit I'm talking about, making the system community a endo syscourse one

Tag things as you want, don't include stances or things that doesn't fit you in tags, interact with the tags you like most, use the tags that describe you... It's so bad to see that syscourse makes the tags a problem and distressing

The system, no, the syscourse community is really toxic and shitty, you can't find a good place there, you might think that you can feel understood, like you're ok with them and similar things, but most of the time you're just hurting yourself by engaging with things that upset you and making you part of a discussion that will never stop, it can make you end up worts actually, doesn't matter what side of syscourse you are

Syscourse spaces are very exclusionist, I tell this from experience, and most of the time you'll only see hate, stress and problems, that's what I don't like the system community, I don't like the endo syscourse, I don't like how syscourse now it's a requirement for the system community... That's why I'm not part of it, I don't consider like that, but for content purposes I have to tag it like that tho I'm not

Honestly the best people you'll find in this community are:

The ones who are NOT into syscourse, or if they are they put "neu" because they don't want to deal with

People who don't make their stance their whole personality and put it everywhere

The real good people you'll find are not in the syscourse part of the community, because they can be very double moral and shitty the moment you don't align perfectly with their mind sent

For example me, I'm not anti endos but I don't believe that endo systems are a thing and I don't want them interact, my stance is very complex and yet I've been attacked and exclude from all parts of syscourse, that's why I don't have a syscourse stance public anymore

If you're not breaking boundaries interact with who you want, use the tags you want and don't enter syscourse for your own sake

The good people won't be caring about your syscourse stance

The feeling when interacting with both sides (endos and anti endos) and seeing the bad and good sides of both (both harass people, both can go out of their way to avoid dnis, but also both can bring people closer together, both can post silly fun things, the majority of antis are normally people traumatized by endos fakeclaiming them, harassing them, most antis Do Not go about harassing people. Most endos/pro-endos are trying to be nice, most dont go out of their way to harass people, most don’t agree with those who harass people, most are just living their lives)

Then feeling bad when tagging stuff because I never know what to tag it with because I don’t know which side to choose ;-;

I say I lean anti because of trauma, but as long as people are nice I’m ok to live and let live.

Not to make anyone worry, but saying you're a system can make you a target for abusers and bullying.

By stating you're a system

You're disclosing that you went through debilitating trauma at a young age

You're disclosing that you may act like a young child in certain situations, and that child may not know, or understand certain acts

You disassociate to a level where we do not know what was done by/to the collective body

You're telling people that you may have patches of amnesia, disorientation, and where you may split under pressure

Many systems have issues with self harm, suicidal thoughts, substance use disorders and unfortunately, many abusers will take advantage of this

Systems, due to their amnesiac nature, are very easy to gaslight, often by saying that a different part/alter did or didn't do something

But Kyle! What can I do about it?!?

Choose, very carefully, who you tell that you have a system. We try not to tell new people in our life until we're fully trusting that they won't take advantage of the knowledge of the system. Even then, we can count on one hand how many of our in person friends and family are aware of our system.

Avoid linking social media, this includes discord, where you are 'out' about your system to other social media, especially around workplaces. Some workplaces, schools, universities and other places still hold stigma around DID (thank you, Split /s).

Be careful what you tell people about your system: keeping alter counts private, not giving out certain alter's names, using pseudonyms/symbols for alters are some of the ways we've done this. If someone we don't want to know about the system asks about an alter name, the majority of the time, we'll say that they're an OC.

Most people don't know what DID and OSDD are unless they have been in certain circles or happen to have an interest in it, so you are usually safe… but I always air on the side of caution.

Do what you wish with this list, I wanted to put these thoughts out there. Stay safe, feel free to reblog with more ways you keep your system safe.

Drink water, have something to eat, have your meds if you need them, use your mobility aids if you need them, and do something nice for yourself today.

With love,

System Dad (Kyle / 💜)

Ask game nomnom, for those who want to answer them yippie: ⭐🌜🌿🍉🧭

Here's the ask game link

Brainmade questions answered by the Blumberg subsys, introject questions answered by the Arachnid subsys, headspace + discovery questions answered by Josevosky

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Brainmade:

⭐ - Do you have a "theme song", or a song you think describes you?

"Cats on Mars" & "Soldier, Poet and King" would be our theme songs 100% sure, tho each of us have our personal theme song lmao

🌜 - Did you form with any pseudo memories, despite not having a direct source?

Kind of, we couldn't call them like having a story, it's more fuzzy and strange memories of "a past life" or something like that, but Silz doesn't have any lol

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Introjects:

🌿 - Do you have any pseudo memories? are there any you'd like to share, if so?

We all have pseudomemories of our source, tho most of us don't like them or are conflictuated by them, personally we won't share them because we have a blog to do so

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Headspace + Discovery:

🍉 - Has your headspace changed over time, or has it generally stayed the same?

It changes a lot! Our hc keeps growing and so does the inner, also some new areas and layers keep getting created depending on the time and situation we're going trough, it never stays the same

🧭 - Were there any obvious signs that you were a system before your discovery?

Probably the host's project of the persmo, reading his notes you can see a lot of things about in-sys relationship, roles, functions and various things about our system done pre-discovery... Also dissociation and super bad amnesia

Thanks for the asks son of the host!!

I HAVE BEEF WITH SNAPCHAT

IT KEEPS GLITCHING AND IS MAKING ME GET UNADDED N SHIT AND IS TRYNA RUIN MY RELATIONSHIPS 😭

I need comfort rn ;-;

-silas (@starfall-sys)

SANPCHAT YOU HORRIBLE APP 😭

Ok ok, did you tried like opening again the app or restarting your device?? It can be that, tho I'm not sure, I don't use snapchat

Snapchat won't ruin your relationship I'm 100% sure buddy, but I get how can be a problem because of the adding bug... Don't you have another option to add this person?? That might be helpful too

I don't really know how to comfort in this situation so sorry 😭

Snap does really hate you 💀

Could you try to ask him for another social?? Maybe that can help

I HAVE BEEF WITH SNAPCHAT

IT KEEPS GLITCHING AND IS MAKING ME GET UNADDED N SHIT AND IS TRYNA RUIN MY RELATIONSHIPS 😭

I need comfort rn ;-;

-silas (@starfall-sys)

SANPCHAT YOU HORRIBLE APP 😭

Ok ok, did you tried like opening again the app or restarting your device?? It can be that, tho I'm not sure, I don't use snapchat

Snapchat won't ruin your relationship I'm 100% sure buddy, but I get how can be a problem because of the adding bug... Don't you have another option to add this person?? That might be helpful too

I don't really know how to comfort in this situation so sorry 😭

As a traumagenic system I'm so tired of all the CDD tags just constantly being filled with anti-endo and other syscourse posts. Like I follow those tags to see jokes and other people's experiences, not to see constant fighting.

Also people will reblog our posts "endos dni" or "endos fuck off" when it has absolutely nothing to do with the post.

We came here to feel included in a community, not to harass and bully others. Syscourse is stupid and honestly harms everyone. We've seen so many traumagenic systems get harassed for not being anti endo enough or just not having the exact right symptoms. Syscourse is formed on a basis of fakeclaiming, and once we realize fakeclaiming hurts actually disabled people we will be better off as a community.

like we have syscourse tags for a reason, can we please keep it in those tags? block people you disagree with and move on