Bookrecommendations

Book recommendations

The last post was my song recommendations and I wanna do something similar to that in this too, which is books! As for me, I’m a book lover, I hope there’s someone who loves books like me, find this helpful. Maybe you’ve read everything but let’s get to it. 

1. Think and grow rich by Napoleon Hill

( I gotta say this is the greatest of all times one. Very helpful for us. Many people already knew this but I just had to put it in the list.)

2. Being a happy teenager by Andrew Matthews 

( Just as the title suggested, I’m pretty sure I don’t have to explain further. This book helped me a lot growing up. Definitely a must for teens like myself.)

3. Making friends by Andrew Matthews

( Another book by my favourite author. This is for those who’s socially awkward or when you’re having trouble in social life. It helped me make a lot of friends when I also used to have social anxiety.)

4. Don’t sweat the small stuff and it’s small stuff by Richard Carlson

( People overthink small stuff which they shouldn’t. In this book, you’ll see why you shouldn’t and how. I used to overthink all the time and honestly still do, I really needed this.)

5. How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie

( This one is a must have. I’m guessing a lot of people or book lovers have read this masterpiece, if you haven’t, I recommend you to check it out.)

My book recommendations list ends here, but if you want me to make another one and if you love this list, just let me know. It would mean so much for me. Also, I usually read these kinds of books but if you want novel recommendations or something similar, let me know. Thank you, I wish whoever’s reading good luck and good day. 

~Melody~

Parents

My parents are literally so funny; they think parenting is just financially supporting the household and feeding us. It is as if that is they have the right to us. Like sir, madam, parenting has much more depth to it then that; even I know more about parenting than you who lived about twice the time I have ever lived. Please, it’s true you made those children but your children are not yours to manipulate and control or mold them into perfect shape, they’re their own person, you are just there to support them, not own them. And that’s on toxic parents. 

To: parents who have no idea about their child

The one thing that bugs me the most about parents is the phrase "I know everything about you." The amount of times I hear that phrase is uncountable. Also the funniest phrase to ever been told to me. It's so funny how parents seem to think they know about their child. Sorry to break it to you, Sir, Madam but their best friend might know better than you. Let me ask you if you think that way toward your children, do you know that your child cry themselves to sleep every night? alone in the dark where no one else knows? Or do you know how many times they were on the verge of giving up? Or that they have depression, anxiety, ADHD and many other more? Yeah that's what I thought. Do you know they cut up their flesh in order to cope? Or that they're emotionally unavailable and is trying hard to stay alive which you thought was laziness. Well let me enlighten you. it isn't. And I also like to bet you don't know they have trauma which was most likely caused by you either. So yeah I would like to sincerely ask you to stop spouting that lie, please and thank you.

from the struggling-to-stay-alive-teenager

Day 2

day 2: things that make you happy

It usually doesn’t take much to make a teenager happy. For me, I’m happy when I’m alone around nature or flowers, when I'm reading a good book indoors with a cup of warm coffee while the rain gently pours outside. I love my own company and some little things make me happy. I’m happy when I’m daydreaming and when I’m doing whatever I want. Well, there’s not much I can say I guess. 

I hope whoever’s reading this a great day and wishing for your happiness. lots of love from me.

~Melody~  

day 5

30 days writing challenge

day 5: your parents

This is a sensitive topic; I never really tell people what I’m going through. One, cuz’ I don’t trust them, two, they won’t understand, three, I’m lost myself. My parents and I don’t have a very good relationship, at least from my perspective. Sure, they give me anything I could possibly want but it’s not that simple. In the past, I was stressed, depressed and my insecurities were drowning me. It’ll be unfair to say they’re the cause of those but they’re related to those in many ways. My parents make me feel emotionally drained. I’m not really sure it’s ok to put the blame on them; I mean I know they’re stressed themselves and had anger issues and had no clue on how to raise kids properly. I can’t be in the same place as them, it suffocates me. At least, thanks to them, I’m who I am today; mature for my age, learned to fight insecurities and depression. We all go through many hardships in life, and they shaped you into who you are. Well, I'm proud of who I am actually. And I made a vow to myself that when I get married and have kids in the future, I'll make sure they know they’re loved, and raise them the best of my abilities and not let the history repeat itself. 

I hope whoever’s reading a great day, stay safe and loved.  

Greetings

Hi everyone! At first, I didn't intend on actually using the account to post anything but now I changed my mind and decided to make this my personal blog, so that way, I can post some things that's happening in my life and maybe have a chance to talk with anyone who have similar situations like me or anyone intesested. So, I'm Melody, and 17 years old and I'm an asian. And I'm gonna count today as my first day of blogging. I hope I get to talk with anyone.

So, I have a younger brother called william. As asians, since our mother language not being english, william and I were 'forced' to learn english by our somewhat strict asian parents. At first, I didn't very much enjoy it, but later on, I found myself enjoying learning it. The problem is william. He's not fond of studying, like at all. So, he only feels obligated to learn it, and slacking off. My parents are not having it. Every weekend, when william has english classes, they tend to throw tantrums. Seriously, it's affecting me and I can't take it. I'm really sensitive when it comes to family issues. What I think they 'should' do here is, instead of yelling, making a scene, comparing kids and stuffs, they 'really should' mame a stretagy plan on how to get him interested and actually start learning. Them throwing tantrums is seriously not helping at all. If it were me in his shoes, I simply wouldn't be ae to take it, the pressure is too much. I really hope they stop. I tried comforting them but they won't understand my point. So, I just can't help but hope they realise it sooner.

That's it for today. I have many other things or cases, but since today's the first day, I wanna keep it somewhat brief and not too much to take in for someone out there who actually reads this. I'm not sure if people will see this or even bother to read but still this blogging will be the only thing that keeps me sane during the crazy things that's happening in my life. Thank you! I wish whoever's reading a great day and happiness!

~Melody~