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proud aroace here :] finally found something that actually fits me haha

Aroace definition:

Little to no sexual/Romantical attraction towards people.

I've literally never had a real legit crush on someone, like I'll think someone's pretty, then like force myself to think I have a crush, then I move on cause I have bad commitment issues!

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my favorite youtube comment ive ever seen by far

How do I politely tell someone that I’m aroace?

There’s this guy in my class that has a crush on me. (There are very obvious signs and I’ve heard his friends talking about how he likes me). I’m friends with this guy and I value his friendship dearly, so I want to be as nice as possible. I really hate to let anyone, especially such a dear friend, down, but I just can’t stand the idea of me being in a romantic and/or sexual relationship.

Do I wait until he confesses that he likes me and then let him down?? Do I casually mention it in a conversation and let him figure it out?? Do I just…not tell him?? I don’t know what to do!! Does anyone have any advice, please?!

You know the “man vs bear” debate going on right now where men ask women if they would rather be stuck in the woods with a random guy or a bear? I would honestly choose the bear. It’s not like I hate men or anything, but…the bear’s going to be in the forest anyways. That’s kinda where they live. I’d rather be in a forest with a bear that’s going to be there anyways than with a random dude that’ll just be kinda annoying. Not to mention, living in a forest by myself and hunting animals literally sounds like something out of a sick fantasy book and would be my dream. (Though I could probably never accomplish that due to my fear of bugs).

Help!

Everyone's talking about roommates and SOs and shit.

I don't have either of those.

I'm getting in trouble for being on my phone and not participating in the convo.

Like, I'm sorry! Have a conversation that I can actually contribute to and maybe I'll get off my phone.

Edit: Should clarify that I was with my parents my older sister and her fiance, my twin sister (who lives in an apartment with a roommate), my grandparents, and my uncle.

I want a hug.

I specifically want a hug from my friends.

I wanna cuddle with my friends, actually, but I can't do that.

For one, none of them are here.

For two, they all seem to be under the impression that "please don't touch me right now" means "please don't touch me ever". No. That's not what that means. That means "I will let you know when you can initiate physical contact with me. Until then, please wait until I initiate physical contact with you first in the offer or askance of a hug or hand holding".

For three, none of them are aroace. There's a fellow ace who has cuddled with me before, but that was almost 4 years ago now and I don't think they'd be comfortable with that at the moment.

For four, I'm really the only one in the group that's brave enough to openly embrace stereotypes and scorn society. While I am comfortable telling my friends that I love them and that I want to hug them, they are not.

Anyway, I'm gonna not sleep and instead read on AO3 with my ducks and other studies surrounding me on all sides under a blanket I stole from my parents

Look, I'm not sex or romance repulsed. I just don't understand them. I can't wrap my head around how or why people feel the way they do.

Frankly, I don't want to understand.

Please don't explain that stuff to me.

There have been occasions where I have asked someone to explain their feelings or how their romantic attraction feels to them, but that's me asking. If I do not ask, do not explain.

I'm not asking you to do this. I'm stating it.

I only bring this up because I can't say this to people in person without people getting pissy. Normally that wouldn't bother me, but when it's people I spend significant amounts of time (whether my own choice or not) with, it gets awkward fast.

Also, I feel like other aros, aces, and aroaces need to say this but can't.

"if you're like this, no man will ever want to date you."

say it louder so God can hear you pls

I know what you mean

i love being extremely aroace in a server where theres like, one other person who agrees with me :3