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moving out!!
Picking up a U-Haul in an hour and some change and loadin' on up. Landlord asked me to leave about a week earlier than expected so doing my best~ Got the truck reservation for a few days and am couch surfing with friends, then into the new place this weekend 🤞
I am feeling The Stress™️ but by this time next week I should be relieved and feeling alright. I can do itttt. 💚
If anyone can help out with food expenses or the extra days for the truck I'd really appreciate it - even just a couple of dollars is incredible. 💚💚💚 Kofi / Venmo / Cashapp
Tomorrow I face the ordeal of calling a landlord to see if I can get an apartment. It will be the first time I’ve done so and I am terrified. Not so much because of the call but what it’ll mean if I get the apartment. I’ve never lived on my own. I have so many siblings and have never been alone. Will I be able to survive it? I feel as if the loneliness will consume me quickly. Already, I’m close to tears. But I will also never know if I can survive that loneliness or come to love it if I never try to embrace it. What suffering there is in such a mundane thing.
I plan to move out of my parents house soon!
https://www.gofundme.com/f/pj6v6u-help-me-move?sharetype=teams&member=6820578&utm_medium=copy_link&utm_source=customer&utm_campaign=p_na+share-sheet&rcid=72e118bd48c44769b3065c50946c9466
MOVING OUT ! Realizing these are not even my complete book shelf
Reminder: Growth Drive
There’s two days left until the results for Week 1 of this growth drive! I’m currently working with the concepts I have for the bonus human duo, but unfortunately that milestone hasn’t been reached yet...
To reach said milestone and permanently unlock humans for the remainder of the drive, a cumulative total of $100 must be donated. Only $5 have been donated so far, so we still have a long way to go to reach it. Also, due to lack of interest, I’ll be changing that milestone’s requirement from “during a single week” to “throughout the whole drive period”. In other words, this will give people who have been holding out and waiting for them to be unlocked the chance to help make it happen.
For more details, please visit the following post.
Commissions are open + Updates
Hey guys, just wanted to let you know that my commissions are still open! I’ve been working on a few new drawings so you guys can have an accurate and updated look at what each option would look like; I will be posting them as they’re finished. For a list of prices, be sure to click the following link. If there’s anything you want to know, please don’t hesitate to ask!
Also, in case I haven’t mentioned it, I’ve made a list of all my current commissioners that will be periodically updated on my Google Drive. I decided to do this since sometimes I might forget to update said lists when I post em individually on each site, plus this way I can edit it easily no matter where I am. You’ll find a link to it in my commission prices page, linked above.
Updates
RL: Getting harder to hang in there
My family and bro’s friend are still bugging me constantly, with the former being really condescending and aggressive lately. They’re also putting words in my mouth and assuming I’m not doing or planning anything with my life, being completely unsupportive about the things I like, and trying to force me to do what they want, among other things.
Growth Drive is over
The double growth drive is officially over. Week 3 donations only reached $8 (16lbs) and since the minimum to keep it going wasn’t reached, there won’t be a drawing for Week 3. All donators will be contacted via the email they provided when they filled out the poll and will be asked what they’d like to have drawn in regards to the donation tier they reached.
Airplane Ticket and Shipping/Eating Money
Over the last month, my earnings from commissions (plus the few growth drive donations and a shirt or two that got sold) for the plane ticket have been going up, slowly, but surely. While my remaining on-hand money hasn’t gone up much compared to last time. As for the totals, they’re currently as follows:
For Ticket: $268
For Shipping/Food: $174
If you can’t grab a commission, please reblog and spread the word! I’d really appreciate it and thanks for sticking around with me guys.
Life Update: So close, yet so far
A friend suggested I make an update post last week, but I decided to wait a bit in case I got some more news from the one I’ll be moving in with (which I did). His boyfriend got a promotion, so they had to move to another state; they already have an apartment and shipping address available. But he wants to make sure that his current landlord is alright with me being there before I move over, as to avoid any problems with them. He told me to probably expect, at best, 3 months of me being able to stay with them if the landlord agrees (or hopefully more, depending on whether they care about such things or not). I’ll be sure to edit this post when I hear any news about it (or just make a new one, depending on the site I’m posting at).
My friend’s dad was able to take me to the DMV on Friday to finish getting my ID (I had gone with the jerk on Monday two weeks ago, but the ID system was on the fritz and after all the paper work and waiting in line, I was told to come back later during the week. I was unable to and so, since nobody was available to take me there), which I’m glad was a faster process than my last visit due to having all the paper work done.
My family’s still being as manipulative as ever, trying to get me to do whatever they want and not even splitting up the chores evenly or neglecting to acknowledge it when I complain. About two weeks ago, I was the only one washing everyone’s laundry for 5-6 days in a row and that pile just kept getting bigger everyday (mostly thanks to my bro, since he has this stupid rule in regards to his clothes: anything that falls on the floor [even if just for a few seconds] is considered dirty and has to be washed again…) Sometimes I’m even trying to multitask these chores (ie. Laundry, cooking, and washing dishes), yet they still have the nerve to interrupt me when I’m in the middle of all that or even taking a break. Even then, I’m usually using said breaks to time things and may be nagged that I -have- to stay present wherever said chores are being done, depending on what they are (this usually applies to cooking, though they have been a bit lax about it lately; also, my room is literally next to the kitchen, so I’m not sure what their deal is).
Thanks to everyone who has helped so far, whether it was by getting a commission or simply donating, I’ve earned a total of $495 for the plane ticket. I have yet to pick a flight, because I need to be sure if anyone I know would even be available to drive me to the airport on the date and time of said flight. I’ll be looking at some possible flight schedules that are well within that budget range and then ask around.
Any commissions I am able to squeeze in now will be strictly for shipping stuff, if possible. After getting my ID, my shipping/food funds have gone down to $141. I have yet to be able to visit the pawn shop again and am still hoping that what I plan to sell on my next trip helps with the funds I need to be able to send what belongings I intended to keep, because otherwise I may even have to leave some of those behind. As it is, it probably wouldn’t be enough to send a box (unless it’s super-light); according to the USPS and UPS websites that is (will probably just go to the post office and get that checked, just in case, because there might be the slightest chance that their online calculator pricing might be a bit off). The boxes themselves seem to be cheap enough (at Office Max/Depot; dunno of a cheaper place), but the bubble wrap and/or packaging peanuts seemed pretty expensive. I’ll have to check again if they’ve got them cheaper elsewhere or in smaller quantities.
As for the current commissions, I have been trying to squeeze any time available to them and trying to finish personal drawings in between when I’m not emotionally exhausted. I’m thankful that you guys are being really patient with me and I’m hoping that when I’m not bound to this horrible place anymore I’ll be able to pick up the pace at some point.
Life Update: Sick and slow
Hey guys, just thought I'd make an update since it's been a while. I've been sick since last week (stomach problems, as far as I know) and have been trying to take it easy and rest in hopes that I would feel better soon, but tbh I'm not really sure if that's even working out anymore. I'll be going to the doctor today, if possible, to see if there's anything else involved Thanks to being sick, that had halted any progress on commissions, but now that I'm (still atm) in a sort of middle ground, I can try to work on them again. I will be messaging the current commissioners on the list that I had started work on as soon as I have something done. I hope you guys can understand and I'm thankful for how patient you've always been with me. As for moving out, it seems my friend hasn't gotten an answer from his current landlord yet and that worries me... I might have to start asking around and see if any other friends are able to give me a place to stay, in case the landlord's answer ends up being no. If anything new turns up, I'll be sure to let you guys know.
Still sick and waiting
Health
I was sick pretty badly last month and a few days/about a week or so later I started feeling better. Of course, that didn’t last long and I started to feel sick again this month. I went to the hospital on Thursday and the doctor said I have gastritis and prescribed me some pills to see if that would help. I started taking them yesterday, so I can’t say for sure whether they’re actually working or not. Hoping to see some results in the next few days, if not, I’ll probably have to go to a gastroenterologist.
Life/Moving Out
I haven’t been able to move out yet. I’m still waiting to hear more news from my friend. The last message I got from him in regards to that was on October 3rd and he told me he’d talk to the landlord about it once they’d come to pick up the rent money. I’m not sure when that is though, probably near the end of this month? I suppose I’ll remain anxiously awaiting another answer...
Commissions and future works
Thanks to the above, commissions and other drawings had been halted completely. I will be trying to get these done as soon as I can. As always, I thank you guys for your patience, even though I don’t feel like I deserve it most of the time. Also, I have been contemplating whether to temporarily close up my commissions or not while I finish up the current ones, since a friend of mine suggested it a few times. As much as I need the money, it would probably help me focus a bit.
Also, making a Patreon of my own would surely help if there’s enough interest, though that’s been in the back burner for quite some time... I still can’t decide how I’ll be handling it, nor what content I would provide. It’s pretty problematic for me since I love to draw both muscles and chubs, and despite there being a small margin of other users that also loves both sides, I don’t want to force anyone to see or be paying for something they didn’t want. I doubt the site has an option that would remedy this situation, besides making two separate Patreons. If it came to that though, I’m not sure how feasible it would be.
Still hanging there
Moving Situation - Update
For simplicity's sake, I'll refer to them as Friend A (Ey) and Friend B (Vi).
I just asked my friend, Ey, again for an update on the whole landlord thing, but it's still the same answer. I probably won't be asking him again; I can't keep getting anxious about whether or not there will ever be any news on that and it's been making me feel that I'm just bearing things for no reason at all. If he's got news for me, then it'll come, if not then oh well... Another friend of mine, Vi, has been asking me every now and then to keep him posted on how things with Ey are working out and in light of recent events they had offered to let me stay with them in the event that I don't find anyone else. He's going to be roommates with a friend of his once summer rolls in, so I'd have to wait even longer... Unlike Ey, however, I would need to be prepared more than I currently am and would have to save up money in advance to help out with the rent (in case things don't work out when I get there and I'm not able to get a job). I haven't checked how much it would cost to fly to Vi's place instead, so I cant give an estimate on that possible turn of events yet.
Health
It's been a week and a half since I finished the medicine I was prescribed and I've been feeling better, for the most part. Perhaps I've still got a bit of it going or I've probably become lactose intolerant over the years. Then again, there's still other foods I've been feeling tired of even if I've only had a small portion of them. Maybe I should give myself some more time? Also, I haven't really been able to get much sleep though. Either I end up tossing and turning til I eventually fall asleep or my family keeps trying to talk to me whenever I'm trying to sleep or am asleep. Basically, it's been irritating as usual.
Commissions, Drawings, and Patreon
I'm still working on these whenever I can, though I've been a bit slower since I'm trying to get back into drawing and it hasn't exactly sunken back in. At least, that's my opinion (always judging myself harshly, haha...). If you are someone who's currently on my waiting list, please refer to the following commission list. While I'm working with the current backlog, I'll be keeping their names on the list and marking them as finished once they're done. The growth drive rewards aren't listed since they aren't commissions, but I'm keeping tabs on those as well. If you want to help me save up some more or help me buy something for myself in the upcoming holidays next month, feel free to message me. However, please keep in mind that by reserving a spot in advance you'll have to wait for me to finish all the current ones.
I really need to get myself out of this funk and finish all the drawings I've been wanting to post. I'll probably try to change my coloring or drawing techniques a bit, though maybe I should just focus mostly on sketches. If I do get anything done, I'll be sure to post it.
As for Patreon, I still have to find the time to sit down and organize it properly. I mean, I had already done tier prices and whatnot, but that was half a year ago, so I'll be redoing em all and making sure they don't mess up my workload and have appropriate rewards. On the bright side, I was able to solve the whole "how to have muscle and fat without upsetting anyone or having to make a second patreon" dilemma, thanks to a friend's tips regarding uploads on there.
I'll be sharing a link once it's up and ready.
I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?
HI darling,
I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:
Home
what the hell is a mortgage?
first apartment essentials checklist
how to care for cacti and succulents
the care and keeping of plants
Getting an apartment
Money
earn rewards by taking polls
how to coupon
what to do when you can’t pay your bills
see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill
how to save money
How to Balance a Check Book
How to do Your Own Taxes
Health
how to take care of yourself when you’re sick
things to bring to a doctor’s appointment
how to get free therapy
what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment
how to make a doctor’s appointment
how to pick a health insurance plan
how to avoid a hangover
a list of stress relievers
how to remove a splinter
Emergency
what to do if you get pulled over by a cop
a list of hotlines in a crisis
things to keep in your car in case of an emergency
how to do the heimlich maneuver
Job
time management
create a resume
find the right career
how to pick a major
how to avoid a hangover
how to interview for a job
how to stop procrastinating
How to write cover letters
Travel
ULTIMATE PACKING LIST
Traveling for Cheap
Travel Accessories
The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase
How To Read A Map
How to Apply For A Passport
How to Make A Travel Budget
Better You
read the news
leave your childhood traumas behind
how to quit smoking
how to knit
how to stop biting your nails
how to stop procrastinating
how to stop skipping breakfast
how to stop micromanaging
how to stop avoiding asking for help
how to stop swearing constantly
how to stop being a pushover
learn another language
how to improve your self-esteem
how to sew
learn how to embroider
how to love yourself
100 tips for life
Apartments/Houses/Moving
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)
How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)
Education
How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)
How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)
Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)
How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)
Finances
How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)
How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)
Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)
What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)
Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)
Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting
How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)
How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)
How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)
10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)
Life Skills
Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)
Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)
Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)
How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)
How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)
How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)
Miscellaneous
What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)
Relationships
Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)
How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple and catastrofries)
Travel & Vehicles
How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)
How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)
Other Blog Features
Apps for Asshats
Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders
Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later
Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)
Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)
Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)
Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)
Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)
Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)
Adult Cheat Sheet:
what to do if your pet gets lost
removing stains from your carpet
how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps
throwing a dinner party
i’m pregnant, now what?
first aid tools to keep in your house
how to keep a clean kitchen
learning how to become independent from your parents
job interview tips
opening your first bank account
what to do if you lose your wallet
tips for cheap furniture
easy ways to cut your spending
selecting the right tires for your car
taking out your first loan
picking out the right credit card
how to get out of parking tickets
how to fix a leaky faucet
get all of your news in one place
getting rid of mice & rats in your house
when to go to the e.r.
buying your first home
how to buy your first stocks
guide to brewing coffee
first apartment essentials checklist
coping with a job you hate
30 books to read before you’re 30
what’s the deal with retirement?
difference between insurances
Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:
Reasons to move out of home
You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:
wishing to live independently
location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university
conflict with your parents
being asked to leave by your parents.
Issues to consider when moving out of home
It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:
Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.
Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.
Your parents may be worried
Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:
They may worry that you are not ready.
They may be sad because they will miss you.
They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.
Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.
Tips for a successful move
Tips include:
Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.
Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.
If your family home does not provide support
Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.
If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.
If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.
Where to get help
Your doctor
Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577
Things to remember
Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations.
(source)
Keep me updated? xx
I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?
HI darling,
I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:
Home
what the hell is a mortgage?
first apartment essentials checklist
how to care for cacti and succulents
the care and keeping of plants
Getting an apartment
Money
earn rewards by taking polls
how to coupon
what to do when you can’t pay your bills
see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill
how to save money
How to Balance a Check Book
How to do Your Own Taxes
Health
how to take care of yourself when you’re sick
things to bring to a doctor’s appointment
how to get free therapy
what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment
how to make a doctor’s appointment
how to pick a health insurance plan
how to avoid a hangover
a list of stress relievers
how to remove a splinter
Emergency
what to do if you get pulled over by a cop
a list of hotlines in a crisis
things to keep in your car in case of an emergency
how to do the heimlich maneuver
Job
time management
create a resume
find the right career
how to pick a major
how to avoid a hangover
how to interview for a job
how to stop procrastinating
How to write cover letters
Travel
ULTIMATE PACKING LIST
Traveling for Cheap
Travel Accessories
The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase
How To Read A Map
How to Apply For A Passport
How to Make A Travel Budget
Better You
read the news
leave your childhood traumas behind
how to quit smoking
how to knit
how to stop biting your nails
how to stop procrastinating
how to stop skipping breakfast
how to stop micromanaging
how to stop avoiding asking for help
how to stop swearing constantly
how to stop being a pushover
learn another language
how to improve your self-esteem
how to sew
learn how to embroider
how to love yourself
100 tips for life
Apartments/Houses/Moving
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)
How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)
Education
How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)
How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)
Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)
How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)
Finances
How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)
How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)
Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)
What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)
Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)
Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting
How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)
How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)
How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)
10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)
Life Skills
Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)
Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)
Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)
How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)
How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)
How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)
Miscellaneous
What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)
Relationships
Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)
How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple and catastrofries)
Travel & Vehicles
How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)
How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)
Other Blog Features
Apps for Asshats
Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders
Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later
Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)
Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)
Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)
Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)
Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)
Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)
Adult Cheat Sheet:
what to do if your pet gets lost
removing stains from your carpet
how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps
throwing a dinner party
i’m pregnant, now what?
first aid tools to keep in your house
how to keep a clean kitchen
learning how to become independent from your parents
job interview tips
opening your first bank account
what to do if you lose your wallet
tips for cheap furniture
easy ways to cut your spending
selecting the right tires for your car
taking out your first loan
picking out the right credit card
how to get out of parking tickets
how to fix a leaky faucet
get all of your news in one place
getting rid of mice & rats in your house
when to go to the e.r.
buying your first home
how to buy your first stocks
guide to brewing coffee
first apartment essentials checklist
coping with a job you hate
30 books to read before you’re 30
what’s the deal with retirement?
difference between insurances
Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:
Reasons to move out of home
You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:
wishing to live independently
location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university
conflict with your parents
being asked to leave by your parents.
Issues to consider when moving out of home
It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:
Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.
Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.
Your parents may be worried
Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:
They may worry that you are not ready.
They may be sad because they will miss you.
They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.
Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.
Tips for a successful move
Tips include:
Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.
Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.
If your family home does not provide support
Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.
If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.
If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.
Where to get help
Your doctor
Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577
Things to remember
Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations.
(source)
Keep me updated? xx
I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?
HI darling,
I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:
Home
what the hell is a mortgage?
first apartment essentials checklist
how to care for cacti and succulents
the care and keeping of plants
Getting an apartment
Money
earn rewards by taking polls
how to coupon
what to do when you can’t pay your bills
see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill
how to save money
How to Balance a Check Book
How to do Your Own Taxes
Health
how to take care of yourself when you’re sick
things to bring to a doctor’s appointment
how to get free therapy
what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment
how to make a doctor’s appointment
how to pick a health insurance plan
how to avoid a hangover
a list of stress relievers
how to remove a splinter
Emergency
what to do if you get pulled over by a cop
a list of hotlines in a crisis
things to keep in your car in case of an emergency
how to do the heimlich maneuver
Job
time management
create a resume
find the right career
how to pick a major
how to avoid a hangover
how to interview for a job
how to stop procrastinating
How to write cover letters
Travel
ULTIMATE PACKING LIST
Traveling for Cheap
Travel Accessories
The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase
How To Read A Map
How to Apply For A Passport
How to Make A Travel Budget
Better You
read the news
leave your childhood traumas behind
how to quit smoking
how to knit
how to stop biting your nails
how to stop procrastinating
how to stop skipping breakfast
how to stop micromanaging
how to stop avoiding asking for help
how to stop swearing constantly
how to stop being a pushover
learn another language
how to improve your self-esteem
how to sew
learn how to embroider
how to love yourself
100 tips for life
Apartments/Houses/Moving
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)
How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)
Education
How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)
How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)
Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)
How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)
Finances
How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)
How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)
Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)
What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)
Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)
Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting
How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)
How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)
How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)
10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)
Life Skills
Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)
Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)
Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)
How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)
How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)
How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)
Miscellaneous
What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)
Relationships
Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)
How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple and catastrofries)
Travel & Vehicles
How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)
How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)
Other Blog Features
Apps for Asshats
Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders
Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later
Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)
Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)
Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)
Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)
Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)
Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)
Adult Cheat Sheet:
what to do if your pet gets lost
removing stains from your carpet
how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps
throwing a dinner party
i’m pregnant, now what?
first aid tools to keep in your house
how to keep a clean kitchen
learning how to become independent from your parents
job interview tips
opening your first bank account
what to do if you lose your wallet
tips for cheap furniture
easy ways to cut your spending
selecting the right tires for your car
taking out your first loan
picking out the right credit card
how to get out of parking tickets
how to fix a leaky faucet
get all of your news in one place
getting rid of mice & rats in your house
when to go to the e.r.
buying your first home
how to buy your first stocks
guide to brewing coffee
first apartment essentials checklist
coping with a job you hate
30 books to read before you’re 30
what’s the deal with retirement?
difference between insurances
Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:
Reasons to move out of home
You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:
wishing to live independently
location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university
conflict with your parents
being asked to leave by your parents.
Issues to consider when moving out of home
It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:
Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.
Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.
Your parents may be worried
Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:
They may worry that you are not ready.
They may be sad because they will miss you.
They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.
Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.
Tips for a successful move
Tips include:
Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.
Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.
If your family home does not provide support
Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.
If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.
If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.
Where to get help
Your doctor
Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577
Things to remember
Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations.
(source)
Keep me updated? xx
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My brother moved out. First time, finally adulting! Funny thing is the next day he came home for dinner because "i know how to use the oven, I just don't want to, not yet" I'm near positive if he didn't have access to take-away he would starve because he is a disaster in the kitchen.
Hello friends! My future roommate and I have opened emergency commissions to move into an apartment this summer. It will be me, them, and their partner. I'm moving from a bad home situation and they are just moving because it's time. We need around two months rent which is about 1,500$ USD.
Check it out or share if you can! Thank you!
TW for NSFW Examples at the end of each website.
If something on the website doesn't work please let me know (:
Help!
Everyone's talking about roommates and SOs and shit.
I don't have either of those.
I'm getting in trouble for being on my phone and not participating in the convo.
Like, I'm sorry! Have a conversation that I can actually contribute to and maybe I'll get off my phone.
Edit: Should clarify that I was with my parents my older sister and her fiance, my twin sister (who lives in an apartment with a roommate), my grandparents, and my uncle.
First Aid Basics
I just got certified in CPR and First Aid last month with the American Heart Association. I wanted to share this information with you, because a lot of what we see on TV is not at all accurate as to what you’re supposed to do to actually help someone. Here are some of the topics that were covered:
First Aid Basics
Here are the steps you should follow when addressing a situation where a person may be injured/unconscious:
Check to make sure the scene is safe- you are no help to anybody if you also get hurt
If the person is responsive: “Are you okay?”
If they are unresponsive, hit their shoulders hard and yell: “Are you okay?” to see if you can rouse them
Phone 911 and put the phone on speaker (you can delegate this task to somebody else if you’re not alone)
Have somebody get a First Aid kit (don’t leave the person if you’re by yourself unless the 911 operator tells you to)
Is the person conscious? Unconscious?
Check them for any obvious signs of injury
Check them for medical jewelry
Remember
Time is of the essence! Be decisive and confident.
Don’t be afraid to call for help and assign people tasks
You can only perform CPR on a flat service. If a person needs CPR and is on a bed or in a chair, move them to the floor immediately. Don’t worry about hurting their head or anything, if they don’t get CPR immediately, their life expectancy is significantly less. (See my CPR post for full details)
Do not move the person unless the area they’re in is unsafe. If you have to move the person, drag them by their clothes and pull them to safety.
Adult Choking
There are both mild and severe cases of adult choking. In a mild case, the person choking will be able to make a sound or cough loudly. Typically these cases resolve themselves.
Ask: “Are you choking? Can I help you?”
If the person cannot make a sound or cough in response, they are suffering from severe choking.
Walk around back of the person and put your arms around them
Make a fist with your dominant hand
Place your fist slightly above the belly button and below the chest bone.
Grasp the fist with your other hand
Give quick upward thrusts
If the person is overweight or pregnant, put your arms around the person’s armpits.
If you are unsuccessful in removing the blockage, the person will quickly become unresponsive. You will need to perform adult CPR and call 911.
After chest compressions (see above link) check person’s mouth to see if the thing they choked on is visible. If it is visible, remove it. Never going digging around in someone’s mouth.
Amputation
Call 911 and put the phone on speaker
Get a First Aid kit
Both these steps can be delegated to someone else if they’re around
Put gauze on the wound and apply pressure until the bleeding stops
Do not remove the gauze if it’s bled through- this will remove any blood clots that have formed.
If the gauze is bled through, add more gauze on top and keep applying pressure until the bleeding stops
Clean the amputated part with water
Warp the amputated part with dressing
Put the amputated part in a small plastic bag
Get a larger plastic bag and fill it with equal parts ice and water
Put the small plastic bag inside the large plastic bag
Label the bag with person’s name and time of the injury
Asthma (How to Operate an Inhaler)
People diagnosed with asthma will typically be aware of it and may have an inhaler on them. If someone has an asthma attack:
Ask them: “Are you okay? Do you need your inhaler?”
The person will probably be able to give some sort of indication in response
If they need their inhaler:
Locate the inhaler
Put the medicine (metallic capsule pictured below) in the inhaler if it is not already in there, it will click into place
Shake the inhaler to activate the medicine
Attach the mouth piece if it’s unattached (not all inhalers have one, it is not pictured below)
Remove the cap (cap is darker blue piece pictured below)
Have the person put their head back
Put the inhaler in the person’s mouth
Push down on the canister and have them breathe out slowly
They should begin to feel relief immediately, but you should still have them sit down and take it easy for a while
Call 911 if they are still having difficulty breathing after the inhaler has been administered
Bee Sting
Usually bee stings present only mild irritation and pain. If the person stung has a severe allergic reaction, you will need to call 911.
Get a first aid kit
Scrape away the bee stinger and venom sack using a credit card or something similar in nature
Wash the affected area with lots of soap and running water
Wrap a bag of ice in a towel and place it over the affected area for 20 minutes or until the pain is gone
Watch the person for up to 30 minutes for signs of an allergic reaction
Call 911 if they present any classic allergy symptoms
Bleeding from Nose
Have the person lean their head forward
Get a First Aid kit
Or have someone else get one
Have the bleeding person apply pressure to the bridge of their nose using gauze from the First Aid kit
Do not remove the gauze if it’s bled through- this will remove any blood clots that have formed.
If the gauze is bled through, add more gauze on top until the bleeding stops
Call 911 if the bleeding lasts longer than 15 minutes
Heat Cramps/Dehydration
Can lead to heat exhaustion! These typically happen when someone is dehydrated and tries to do lots of physical activity.
Have the person sit down and cool off
Have them drink something with sugar and electrolytes
Water will work in a pinch but sugary drinks and gatorade are preferred
Heat Exhaustion
Call 911 and put the phone on speaker
Have the person lie down
Cool the person by pouring water on them or wetting them with wet cloths until they begin to act normally
Have them drink something with sugar and electrolytes
Water will work in a pinch but sugary drinks and gatorade are preferred
Wait with them until help arrives
Opioid Overdose
My instructor said that these will often happen in an unsafe or an isolated environment. Always check to make sure that the scene is safe- look out for needles.
Naloxone is used to revive people who have overdosed on opioids. If you find someone who has overdosed on opioids you happen to have naloxone on you and know how to administer it, the American Heart Association recommends that you use it instead of waiting for help to arrive.
Responsive:
Yell for help
Call 911 and put the phone on speaker
Wait with the person until help arrives
Unresponsive
Yell for help
Call 911 and put the phone on speaker
Perform five cycles of adult CPR
Wait for help
Seizure
Seizures are abnormal electrical activity in the brain. Typical seizure symptoms: spasms, muscle rigidity, and unconsciousness. Seizures typically last between 60-90 seconds before the person gains consciousness.
Do NOT touch the person who is having a seizure
Do NOT put anything in their mouth
Call 911 and put the phone on speaker
If there are people around, ask them to get a First Aid kit while you wait with the person having the seizure
Don’t leave the person having a seizure if you are alone
Move objects away from the person having the seizure so that they don’t knock into them
If possible, place a small towel/pad underneath the person’s head
If the person starts vomiting, turn them over on their side so that they don’t choke
If possible use gloves and an eye mask from a First Aid kit to avoid exposure to bodily fluids
After they come to, they may be bleeding from the mouth.
Use gauze from a First Aid kit to stop the bleeding
Have them apply pressure with the gauze until the bleeding stops
Stay with the person until help arrives
Splints
Splints should be significantly longer than the injured area. They’re used to constrict movement, so the person is injured should not be able to move freely once the splint is applied. Splints are use to treat broken/dislocated bones. It’s very difficult to tell if a bone is actually broken or just dislocated, so don’t worry about it and just splint the thing.
Call 911 and put the phone on speaker
Get a First Aid kit
Both these steps can be delegated to someone else if they’re around
Put on gloves/eye glasses from the First Aid kit to avoid contamination from bodily fluids
Cover exposed wound area with gauze
Do not remove the gauze if it’s bled through- this will remove any blood clots that have formed.
If the gauze is bled through, add more gauze on top until the bleeding stops.
Place a strip of rigid material underneath the injured area
Use gauze/dressing from the First Aid kit to secure the splint by wrapping material above and below the injured area
Never tie material directly over the injury
Have the person stay as still as possible until help arrives
Stroke
Strokes are caused from blockage/bleeding from things like blood clots. Typical signs of a stroke: face drooping (or numbness), arm weakness (or numbness), and speech difficulty. There is nothing much you can do except wait with the person and try to make them comfortable until help arrives.
Call 911 and put the phone on speaker
Note the time that the stroke symptoms began (this will help hospital technicians)
Stay with the person until help arrives
Tourniquets
Some First Aid kits will come with a pre-made tourniquet. If your kit does not have a tourniquet you can make one fairly easily. Tourniquets should only be used for injuries where the person is squirting blood. No squirting blood? Use a splint.
Call 911 and put the phone on speaker
Get a First Aid kit
Both these steps can be delegated to someone else if they’re around
Put on gloves/eye glasses from the First Aid kit to avoid contamination from bodily fluids
Fold cloth or a bandage so that it’s long and an inch wide
Wrap the the bandage/cloth two inches above the wound
Never apply a tourniquet bandage/cloth on a joint (like elbows or knees).
Find a small stick
Place the small stick atop the cloth/bandage and tie it there
You can now turn the small stick to tighten the cloth/bandage
Have the injured person lay down and try to move as little as possible
Do not remove the tourniquet- even if the bleeding stops.
Wait until help arrives.
I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?
HI darling,
I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:
Home
what the hell is a mortgage?
first apartment essentials checklist
how to care for cacti and succulents
the care and keeping of plants
Getting an apartment
Money
earn rewards by taking polls
how to coupon
what to do when you can’t pay your bills
see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill
how to save money
How to Balance a Check Book
How to do Your Own Taxes
Health
how to take care of yourself when you’re sick
things to bring to a doctor’s appointment
how to get free therapy
what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment
how to make a doctor’s appointment
how to pick a health insurance plan
how to avoid a hangover
a list of stress relievers
how to remove a splinter
Emergency
what to do if you get pulled over by a cop
a list of hotlines in a crisis
things to keep in your car in case of an emergency
how to do the heimlich maneuver
Job
time management
create a resume
find the right career
how to pick a major
how to avoid a hangover
how to interview for a job
how to stop procrastinating
How to write cover letters
Travel
ULTIMATE PACKING LIST
Traveling for Cheap
Travel Accessories
The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase
How To Read A Map
How to Apply For A Passport
How to Make A Travel Budget
Better You
read the news
leave your childhood traumas behind
how to quit smoking
how to knit
how to stop biting your nails
how to stop procrastinating
how to stop skipping breakfast
how to stop micromanaging
how to stop avoiding asking for help
how to stop swearing constantly
how to stop being a pushover
learn another language
how to improve your self-esteem
how to sew
learn how to embroider
how to love yourself
100 tips for life
Apartments/Houses/Moving
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)
How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)
Education
How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)
How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)
Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)
How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)
Finances
How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)
How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)
Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)
What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)
Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)
Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)
How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting
How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)
How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)
How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)
10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)
Life Skills
Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)
Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)
What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)
Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)
How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)
How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)
How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)
Miscellaneous
What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)
Relationships
Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)
How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple and catastrofries)
Travel & Vehicles
How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)
How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)
Other Blog Features
Apps for Asshats
Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders
Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later
Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)
Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)
Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)
Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)
Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)
Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)
Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)
Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)
Adult Cheat Sheet:
what to do if your pet gets lost
removing stains from your carpet
how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps
throwing a dinner party
i’m pregnant, now what?
first aid tools to keep in your house
how to keep a clean kitchen
learning how to become independent from your parents
job interview tips
opening your first bank account
what to do if you lose your wallet
tips for cheap furniture
easy ways to cut your spending
selecting the right tires for your car
taking out your first loan
picking out the right credit card
how to get out of parking tickets
how to fix a leaky faucet
get all of your news in one place
getting rid of mice & rats in your house
when to go to the e.r.
buying your first home
how to buy your first stocks
guide to brewing coffee
first apartment essentials checklist
coping with a job you hate
30 books to read before you’re 30
what’s the deal with retirement?
difference between insurances
Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:
Reasons to move out of home
You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:
wishing to live independently
location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university
conflict with your parents
being asked to leave by your parents.
Issues to consider when moving out of home
It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:
Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.
Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.
Your parents may be worried
Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:
They may worry that you are not ready.
They may be sad because they will miss you.
They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.
Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.
Tips for a successful move
Tips include:
Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.
Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.
If your family home does not provide support
Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.
If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.
If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.
Where to get help
Your doctor
Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577
Things to remember
Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations.
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I took a picture of the mess because I know one day I will miss it and I wont know where to look.
I took a photo of all the 'dirty' places of my home. the kitchen sink where my sister left muffin tins and the counter where she left her notes and her pens. I took a picture of the chalkboard my brother scribbled all over and his spiderman slippers on our shrinking shoe rack.
because I know one day I will miss it all. when my sister is long moved out and my brother wants nothing to do with me, when my mother is overworked and underpaid and can no longer find the energy to watch tv with me after her shift. maybe I wont have the energy either, I don't know. However, I do know that I will miss the time when I did, and when the sink was disgusting, and when the bathroom floor wore my sisters clothes better than I ever could. So,
I took a picture of the mess because I know one day I will miss it and I won't know where to look.