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maybe the rest of the mlb seasons will be adrichat centric where he finds out the truth and gets closure on his situation! (delusional)
Being the eldest daughter is like them putting a lid on the love shower you soaked up when you were a little kid, all so you don't end up this big-time spoiled brat. Instead, you're supposed to grow up all responsible and mature (which earns you those "you're mature for your age," "you're an old soul" comments). So, you end up being the person everyone turns to when things need straightening, even if you have to push your feelings aside. Eldest daughters become experts at sacrificing, so when they actually let go of things they care about, it throws everyone off. They pretty much become the third parent for their siblings, and sometimes they're even parenting their own parents. And here's the twist – you can't really vent about stuff because you're the oldest daughter. Making compromises becomes your middle name. All of this adds up to bottling up feelings and not really letting your parents in on much. But, when the whole act slips and you finally show how you truly feel, parents come back with, "Why are you so down? You've got a roof over your head, everything you need – some kids don't even have that." So, you end up feeling guilty about opening up. They do care, seriously, but it's mostly about your physical well-being. They're always bugging you about drinking water and eating on time. And their logic? "Who's gonna be stuck next to you in the hospital if you get sick? I've got a ton of important stuff to deal with, you know!" So, you dodge emotions. Then you get blamed and yelled at because your younger sibling gives your parent attitude and somehow it's your fault because you're the oldest daughter. You're taught that oldest daughters have to be soft, kind, and gentle, even when someone's wrong, even when the other person is acting like a jerk – you're told not to lose your cool. How does it start? You know, from simple things like "don't be like that, share your stuff with your siblings," "you're a bad kid for scolding your sibling because they wrecked your project, come on, they're just naive, you can do it again, right?" "You're a grown-up, stop whining about that." So, giving up on things becomes a casual thing, and then your whole life you're seeing yourself giving up on people, hobbies, everything, and you let other people take your stuff without a complaint or a single tear because that's selfish and oldest daughters aren't supposed to be like that.
(sorry I keep adding to your posts)
I’m what you would call an “insecure jikooker”. I agree with more than half of this post actually. I don’t think they owe me any sort of couple interaction and their relationship is not why I got into BTS. I would miss them a lot if they would stop being as publicly affectionate as they are now,and I wouldn’t be able to not feel disheartened,but it’s ultimately their relationship,not mine,and I would still enjoy BTS content even if they stopped dating or never even dated at all.
This isn’t about the Soop,but I just needed to add this. I just feel many “insecure jikookers” are immediately labeled as such by the fandom whenever they express the slightest negative feelings about their interactions. If gushing over some 2 second clip of them looking at each other is a welcomed reaction,then I don’t think expecting people to have zero emotional reactions to something like,a few months of Jikook suddenly not interacting is reasonable. You’re not going to get positive vibes only without some unhealthy heavy policing of others’ emotions and words,and I honestly care more about other Armys. BTS are not on Tumblr and won’t read our posts.
For me,it’s not and never was about me demanding Jikook to do something. When I tell other fans that they didn’t seem as close during some extended period of time,all I want is just for someone else to say “me too,I felt like that too”,maybe be depressed together for a day,and then move on the next day. And what I don’t want is to be given a label and told I don’t respect Jikook or that I’m a Taekooker in disguise. Just because I got sad during Festa when Jimin said he doesn’t believe in destiny anymore and I was looking for someone to share that feeling with? It’s not a religion,ffs.
I don’t think just expressing doubt,or speculation over anything BTS do is disrespectful or selfish,since we don’t even know them. And what I want is just to talk to other people about them,not push the ‘respect’ so far that they become actual idols you’re not allowed to say anything that isn’t ‘canon’ about(in various cliques the canon changes). That’s all.
If it’s just about In The Soop,though,I fully agree with the parts about them never being truly alone and not being expected to perform public intimacy for us.
“Insecure” Jikookers
(This is a long one, btw)
I say this kindly, because while some people are obviously fans and may be concerned, most of the anons you all get read as trolls. Plain and simple. Trolls who, I think some of you enjoy getting. I myself enjoy presenting topics and letting people say their piece, but sometimes… sometimes I think people find it fun to put opposing asks on blast just to double down on their own opinion, even though we also don’t know anything.
Don’t get me wrong, I do like to bicker sometimes, but I’m also not going to pretend as if I know they’re dating 100%, because that’s impossible. There are absolutely stretches of time when I don’t care what Jikook are doing and more or less forget how intensely questionable they can be. In those times, I simply think, “Eh, they could be just friends.” Because it’s true. No matter how much we feel like we see romance and intimacy, that doesn’t mean it’s there.
HOWEVER. Short of Jikook coming out or being outed (if we are to operate under the assumption they are without a doubt a couple) WHY DOES ANYONE THINK THEIR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE CASUALLY REVEALED DURING OFFICIAL CONTENT!?!?!?!?
Could it be? Yes, sure, because literally anything is possible. So if the stars align and they no longer have to worry about the military, a queerphobic govt. turning on them, losing endorsements, homophobic stalkers, invasive media, and etc. Then yes. Their relationship (if real) could be announced via official content. But realistically… no, so, moving on.
Do I believe Jikook play shit up to stir the pot sometimes? Yes, because they’re human. If I were dating my bff and band mate and wanted to piss haters off while teasing people who think they know something, I would be touchy and flirty. And if we weren’t dating, but didn’t care what people thought and still wanted to piss haters off and tease fans, I’d do the same thing. That said, I also believe Jikook’s behind the scenes footage during actual work days are more than likely their most genuine moments.
I think Memories and Bangtan Bombs show more of all the members truest personalities, because they are usually in the midst of being busy. It’s unlikely their minds are all that focused on presenting good content to their daily “vlogging” cameras, because they’re used to them. So in those moments we might see their “resting” personas, because they know for a fact that footage will be edited to hell and back before seeing the light of day, due to it being such dense filming. One week is already 168 hours, and it’s impossible for anyone to be “on” that long and that consistently. So to me, it makes the most sense that all the members would likely let their guards down during that time.
In comparison, RUN was shot specifically to entertain. It’s unlikely they were presenting anything other than fun, competitive, and maybe a tad bit of recklessness. Then, with Soop, I think it’s authentic up to a point, because they are aware that their every move is being filmed. Even if JM and JK have the power of veto and can shut off cameras and disconnect mic packs, they’re still being filmed and overheard by an estimation of thirty to forty people on staff. We have already seen the camera crew, but there is absolutely no way in hell the most famous people in South Korea, who are also ambassadors for the country, and who are seven of the most famous people in the world, are up in the mountains without an entourage of security. It is naïve as ever to think any of the members can go anywhere truly on their own, let alone vacation events that they’re being paid to take.
Point is.
If you are a fan and you believe that Jikook is real, why would you ever think “Hmm, they’re not hanging out like a couple would during their filmed downtime so they must not be dating.” Where is the logic? What do you want them to do to satisfy you? Because that’s what the real issue is.
People want queer couples to act queer enough to be valid, when that is not only an expectation put solely on couples that society deem as “other”, but also flat out entitled. People expect fat/skinny couples to always show affection to prove to society that fat people can be loved. People expect “ugly”/pretty couples to show affection to prove that the “ugly” person is actually worth loving. And people expect queer couples to be out and proud and show affection to prove that the people involved are actually queer.
Its ridiculously selfish on all fronts, but moreso as a fan of someone who you supposedly enjoy. In my opinion, everyone’s sexuality is up for question as long as it’s done respectfully. Aka… BY USING CONTEXT.
Do NOT ask someone if they’re queer, when the context given is:
1) the environment is not queer friendly
2) they don’t seem queer friendly
3) they’re giving signals of not wanting to be asked
There are more intricate ones, but ultimately, fans discussing sexuality on the internet is not (or at least should not) cause any sort of ruckus or anger. As I’ve stated before, a terrible example is Larry Stylinson. The media butchered that entirely, to make fans out to be weirdos by focusing on an over sexualization of the members involved. Although, it does not help that some fans are genuinely delusional and refuse to let it go.
Anyway. My point of points, is that if you are a fan of Jikook and think they are dating, you should not expect them to preform intimacy or public affection for you. You are not part of their relationship. You are not part of the their inner circle. They could never touch each other again on camera, and it still would not prove if they are or aren’t dating. Because while what happens on camera does add to the assumption that they are two people who seem to like each other, celebrities are known to start entire families outside of the limelight.
Mindy Kaling went through an entire pregnancy and birth, without the media knowing. Others get married and don’t release the news until a year later. Some actors film whole movies without the public knowing. It just is that way, because despite what social media and entertainment journos will have you believe, famous people can live incredibly private lives. JM and JK especially, given they don’t live in the west, where celebrity culture is predatory and violent af.
If them not “proving” themselves to you stops you thinking they’re together, that’s not their problem. They are here to entertain us as entertainers, not as a couple. More than that, you do not have to think they’re dating to enjoy their bond or believe they’re close friends. Stop hinging your enjoyment of OT7 events on how close Jikook (or Taekook if you’re someone who doubts and ship hops) will be. Consume it as OT7 content and let the rest fall where it may.