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GIVE

Use this skill to maintain a good relationship and reduce conflict with another person.

G - Gentle: No attacks, threats or judgments.

I - Interested: Listen to the other person.

V - Validate: Acknowledge the person’s feelings, wants, difficulties and opinions.

E - Easy Manner: Use humor and smile.

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FAST

Use this skill to help maintain your self-respect when communicating with others.

F - Be Fair: Avoid judgments and stick to the facts.

A - Don’t Apologize: Assert yourself and ask for what you want. Don’t apologize for making requests, having opinions or disagreeing.

S - Stick to Your Values: Make sure to confidently stick to your truth.

T - Be Truthful: Don’t exaggerate. Don’t lie or act helpless when you aren’t. Dishonesty over time erodes your self-respect.

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I grew up when parents were mostly depicted in TV shows as wise and never questioned...I absolutely loved Lois being so honest and apologizing to her son. Communication and vulnerability is such a beautiful thing. Total kudos to the Superman and Lois writers and actors for modeling excellent interpersonal relationships between parents and their children.  

Promise me you will never go rogue on me like that again. I just wanted to help. Jon, if there’s anyone in this family who gets what you’re going through, it’s me. I know what it’s like to be in the orbit of someone who can juggle semitrucks, and you want to help out. You want to save the world, and all you can do is just stand there holding the wrench. And I know the fear of being vulnerable, and I will teach you some ways to handle that. But right now, I just want you to know that we’re on the same team. We are the extraordinary humans in a family of superpeople, and we have to stick together.  — Superman and Lois 1x08 “Holding the Wrench”