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Sidney and Randy headcanons :3
Oh your ship broke up? That’s sad. Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson have been in a queer-platonic partnership for 136 years though so I’m good. Y’all take it easy.
oh my fucking god can we kill the whole thing of “platonic friends don’t DO that!” shut UP oh my god. fuck offfff pleaseeee <33333 platonic friends can be the most important people in the world to each other, platonic friends can think about each other a lot and be inspired by each other and choose to live for each other and be possessive in life or death situations and be intense i’m so tired of people acting like platonic friendships can’t be that i’m tired of them being viewed as less as!! this is exactly what i mean when i say platonic relationships are not less than romantic ones!!!!!!!! and i’m so so tired of people misinterpreting that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! fuck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
People on this site are unable to see a close relationship between two people of different genders without interpreting it as romantic, sibling-like, father/daughter like (rarely the other way around), or mlm/wlw solidarity. Because apparently even on this site, which is supposed to be really queer and not heteronormative, two people of different genders can’t be close friends. (Not to mention the fact that if two characters a close and the same gender they’re pretty much always seen as romantic on here, and so are enemy kind of relationships.)
It isn’t all the time, and I guess it’s better than interpreting it as romantic all the time, but it’s still a thing on here that people do. Those are still important relationships, but in fandom friendship seems to get ignored a lot. This isn’t even so much in the original media, because there are close platonic relationships of both the same and different genders, it is mostly in fandom.
A part of it seems to be that if two people are close but not romantically there must be a good reason why they can’t be attracted to each other, such as not being attracted to that gender or seeing each other as family, which is fine, but people can be just not attracted to each other without a specific reason, I think that’s how a lot of friendships work.
I think it’s also connected to the thing where people nuclear family roles on characters and think of found family as being like a nuclear family with specifically designated roles. Just in general having to put all relationships into specific constrictive boxes with hard set roles and definitions. And this really seems to link in with amatonormativity to me.
I think in a way friendship is one of the broader relationship types and can mean a lot of different things, and I don’t know, maybe people don’t like that. I might be wrong about this bit, I don’t know it’s just a thought. But in general friendship is probably a lot more common a relationship than some of the others mentioned, and a lot more variable, but I think it gets ignored more in fandom spaces than other types of relationship.
What does it mean to be in a queerplatonic relationship and is it okay to be in one while being in a romantic relationship?
Because I think I might be in one but I’m not sure and google is being useless.
Hello Anon! I can answer your first question, basically a queer platonic relationship is one where you have a STRONG and intimate relationship with another person, except without assumption that you’re together on romantic or sexual terms, and instead have a relationship that’s platonic, but goes beyond heterosexual norms for platonic intimacy. This is a person who you can live with, own a home with, adopt children with, and share your whole life with, if you choose to do so. thats just a generalized definition, because the relationship terms are whatever both people decide.
For your second question, I’m not the best person to answer that, as I have never been in a QPR and am not looking to be in one either. But, if any of my followers have a good answer, or can include a link or a blog that knows about these sorts of things, please, reblog!
hate all the phrases that are sex-coded fr. The other day I was telling a friend “I just want more physical intimacy” and had to be like “fuck wait no” because I literally just want to be able to wrap my arms around my friends from behind and play with their hands or hair and have them come up behind me and tuck their chins over my head. “I want to sleep with you” but I literally mean I want to. Sleep. In the same bed. With you. Cuddling. Why is everything so difficult I am killing everyone
; give me messy qpr, give me qpr that don't work out, give me qpr that have ups AND downs, give me qpr that end in sadness, give me qpr that are " young love " and die out, give me qpr that are toxic
; give me queer platonic relationships that are actual relationships between 2 people and have ups and downs and don't always work, not js fluffy " awe these two are great friends " !!
; pt: give me queer platonic relationships that are actual relationships between 2 people and have ups and downs and don't always work, not js fluffy " awe these two are great friends " !! :end pt
chat guess whos helping mod a new qpr blog ... @a-special-sort-of-soulmate
advertising a qpr blog i mod because its fucking awesome @a-special-sort-of-soulmate
I'm so sick of telling people that I'm Aromantic but I'd enjoy a QPR and them treating me like that's the same thing as romance and I'm just being weird.
Like no mf I literally just want a die hard, best friend but you can't go up to people and ask "Hey wanna achieve levels of besties so crazy that we might as well live together and get married for tax benefits?"
Asking people to date me is literally the only way I can get the necessary commitment out of them.
(which isn't to bitch, I get it, dw)
hate all the phrases that are sex-coded fr. The other day I was telling a friend “I just want more physical intimacy” and had to be like “fuck wait no” because I literally just want to be able to wrap my arms around my friends from behind and play with their hands or hair and have them come up behind me and tuck their chins over my head. “I want to sleep with you” but I literally mean I want to. Sleep. In the same bed. With you. Cuddling. Why is everything so difficult I am killing everyone
How do you tell the difference between romantic and deep platonic feelings? Trying to figure stuff out.
hate all the phrases that are sex-coded fr. The other day I was telling a friend “I just want more physical intimacy” and had to be like “fuck wait no” because I literally just want to be able to wrap my arms around my friends from behind and play with their hands or hair and have them come up behind me and tuck their chins over my head. “I want to sleep with you” but I literally mean I want to. Sleep. In the same bed. With you. Cuddling. Why is everything so difficult I am killing everyone