Not To Make Anyone Worry, But Saying You're A CDD System Can Make You A Target For Abusers And Bullying.

Not to make anyone worry, but saying you're a CDD system can make you a target for abusers and bullying.

By stating you're a system

You're disclosing that you went through debilitating trauma at a young age

You're disclosing that you may act like a young child in certain situations, and that child may not know, or understand certain acts

You disassociate to a level where we do not know what was done by/to the collective body

You're telling people that you may have patches of amnesia, disorientation, and where you may split under pressure

Many systems have issues with self harm, suicidal thoughts, substance use disorders and unfortunately, many abusers will take advantage of this

Systems, due to their amnesiac nature, are very easy to gaslight, often by saying that a different part/alter did or didn't do something

But Kyle! What can I do about it?!?

Choose, very carefully, who you tell that you have a system. We try not to tell new people in our life until we're fully trusting that they won't take advantage of the knowledge of the system. Even then, we can count on one hand how many of our in person friends and family are aware of our system.

Avoid linking social media, this includes discord, where you are 'out' about your system to other social media, especially around workplaces. Some workplaces, schools, universities and other places still hold stigma around DID (thank you, Split /s).

Be careful what you tell people about your system: keeping alter counts private, not giving out certain alter's names, using pseudonyms/symbols for alters are some of the ways we've done this. If someone we don't want to know about the system asks about an alter name, the majority of the time, we'll say that they're an OC.

Most people don't know what DID and OSDD are unless they have been in certain circles or happen to have an interest in it, so you are usually safe… but I always air on the side of caution.

Do what you wish with this list, I wanted to put these thoughts out there. Stay safe, feel free to reblog with more ways you keep your system safe.

Drink water, have something to eat, have your meds if you need them, use your mobility aids if you need them, and do something nice for yourself today.

With love,

System Dad (Kyle / 💜)

I said I wouldn't try reading/listening to A Court of Thorns and Roses after getting bored by chapter two with it at least four times... but it's free with my audible trial so here I am again...

cAN I ENJOY SOMETHING WITHOUT BEING FORCED INTO KNOWING EVERY FUCKING DETAIL ABOUT IT AND BEING QUIZZED ON EVERY. LITTLE. THING. ABOUT IT

IM SORRY I CANT REMEMBER THE EXACT TERM FOR [redacted] WHEN YOU'RE YELLING AT ME AND IMPLYING IM STUPID.

oh, but this only applies to things he gives a shit about. he doesnt give a fuck about things i actually care about.. or if he does, it becomes a competition

i dont like the person i become around him

// Brittle ~ Icon for Hire //

Feeling these lyrics today

So this is how I find out someone else in our system made a vent blog, fINE 😭

Cool animation whoever you are

// chronic pain // vaguely inspired by colin mccahon's style and animated in procreate

this was meant to have a uterus visible in it, but i drew it on a transparent background like a dummy and all of my dark lines disappeared when i added a background