Chocoqtelle - Chocoqtelle

я не гребаный робот

me watching mfs say "divine masc/fem" and it's just gender norms and heteronormative

i notice how y'all only look at the romance readings 😒 y'all love living in the delusions

🌱 things to do for self concept 🍃

validate yourself

when i say validate yourself, i mean give yourself the validation you seek from others. easier said than done, of course, but it's not impossible. instead of going to ask someone "hey do i look good?" or something, tell yourself it looks good. especially if you're just asking to hear them say it. don't look for validation in others or what others want. look for what you want.

take alone time

not saying you have to completely isolate from everybody but taking alone time to figure out what you're insecure about and to uplift yourself can help. try taking time to do what you want and reminding yourself that you deserve to enjoy these things. take time for things that make you feel confident and comfortable with yourself.

stop comparing yourself

don't compare yourself to anyone else ever. you aren't the same, you didn't have the same experiences, etc. nothing about you is the same, so it makes literally no sense comparing yourself to them. you don't have to be like everyone else anyway. you're unique and not like anyone else and that already makes you valuable. instead of worrying about what someone else has going on, look at how much you have going for yourself.

make a list

make a list of things you like about yourself. it doesn't just have to be about your body either. of course it can be about your body, but it doesn't have to be. it can be about your personality, something you've done, anything. it might take a while to think of anything but that doesn't mean there's nothing good about you. it just means you haven't realized it yet.

let go

when i say let go, im not talking about just one thing in particular. let go of toxic beliefs, thoughts, people, or anything that isn't harmful to you. it's hard to build confidence and get a good self concept when there's someone or something trying to push you down constantly. it might be tough, but get rid of as much toxicity as possible. if there's something you know is causing issues for you, remove it.

𝐩𝐚𝐜,, 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐚𝐝𝐝𝐢𝐞 𝐞𝐫𝐚?

(𝘶𝘴𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘪 𝘥𝘰𝘯'𝘵 𝘴𝘢𝘺 𝘣𝘢𝘥𝘥𝘪𝘦 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘪 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘰𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯 💀)

ʚ★ɞ pile one ๋࣭ ⭑

TW,, THIS PILE CONTAINS DARKER TOPICS OF TRAUMA, DISORDERS, SA.

you need confidence. don't go overboard with it though. you may have bipolar or a cluster b disorder which can cause issues regarding overconfidence and/ or confidence. take it how it resonates. you could have had a bad past with sexual trauma. you have to take back your power regarding your trauma. you could try to work for male validation and during this time, it'd be best for you to learn to seek validation from yourself instead of men.

ʚ★ɞ pile two ๋࣭ ⭑

money could be a problem for you. the best thing to do is to understand that you'll be taken care of by the universe, god, your spirit guides or whoever you believe in. it'll be taken care of. have more faith. for now, stop worrying about it. you'll be good. let go of your issues for a bit and let yourself have some actual fun. you could also have some toxic friends that are weighing you down. you don't owe your friends money, advice, venting or anything else. you clearly have your own issues and don't have to worry about anyone else's. take this time for yourself

ʚ★ɞ pile three ๋࣭ ⭑

you're literally the only one holding you back right now. stop self sabotaging yourself. you have to be the one rooting for you. you feel abandoned because you abandoned yourself. you aren't showing yourself any love or care. even if others aren't doing it, you have to. if nobody is gonna do it then that's your job. you could be feeling betrayed by someone right now. choose to let go and be happy. it might be difficult but go where your happiness takes you. if it's healthy and you want it, then go for it.

hi, how r u?

I want to know if I will get a job or continue with my own stock trading (equities)

Thanks

Hs

i usually don't do readings publicly so i don't rat out everyone's business but if you want i can do readings in DMS :)