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Hot Foot Podwer to ward off (hoodoo)
I want to clarify that this is the "recipe" that I use.
the "recipe" can vary depending on who makes it and what is at their disposal. Recipe: 1:red pepper or flying pepper 2:black pepper 3:red ant (Optional) 4:Sulfur For the base of the powder, that is, to make it more like a powder, use white flour, but you can also use chalk.
Hot Pepper Burning Curse Spells
Have you ever had a spicy meal so hot that no amount of water could stop the burning in your mouth? The idea behind using Hot Peppers in spellcraft is to bring that level of suffering to someone who has done you wrong. Keep in mind when performing this kind of work that regardless of what your enemy did to deserve this there will be a severe negative karmic backlash down the road so before you even consider this kind of spell ask yourself "is it worth it?"
Cayenne Pepper is good for this sort of thing as it's very spicy and easy to find, however if you're looking to inflict way more pain it would be better to use a much hotter Pepper like the Ghost Pepper, Komodo Dragon Pepper or even the legendary Carolina Reaper.
Be sure to always use gloves and eye protection when handling Hot Peppers as they can burn the skin and Heaven help you if you get some of that juice in your eyes. Dried Hot Pepper can be sliced and added to oil recipes while fresh chopped up Hot Peppers can be sewn up inside a poppet designed to represent the enemy. Hot Peppers can also be placed around the base of a curse candle.
Cayenne Pepper has medicinal qualities as a circulation enhancer so if you have issues with blood flow or libido add a little Cayenne Pepper to a couple meals a day to help, just make sure not to eat it on an empty stomach as it will give you a massive case of heartburn.
Cayenne Pepper can also be used to make an ointment that helps with severe arthritis pain. Be warned that the other Hot Peppers mentioned in this segment are extremely dangerous to anyone who hasn't built up a resistance to spicy foods. Hot Peppers are associated with the element of fire, the astrological sign of Aries and the planet Mars. (Image from Unsplash.com)
"A witch who cannot curse cannot heal." -a saying within traditional witchcraft
BRUJAS (WITCHES) - PRINCESS NOKIA
History of Maria Padilha
In 1334, in the Spanish city of Seville (in the homonymous province), a woman (an influential courtesan or high-class prostitute) who determined the fate of a European court. Dona Maria Padilla, from lover to queen, influenced King Dom Pedro I of Castile (1334-1369) in the most important decisions, such as the mode of government and the negotiation of his marriage to Branca de Bourbon, aiming at an alliance with France.
offerings
Among the most common offerings for this phalanx are: farofa padê with palm oil, champagne, cigarettes, earrings, bracelets, necklaces and candles, in addition to red roses. His favorite colors are usually red and black.
Which Maria Padilha exist?
Among the various sub-phalanges are:
Maria Padilha do Cruzeiro das Almas - Omolu-Obaluaê/Iansã Line Maria Padilha da Encruzilhada - Line of Ogum Maria Padilha do Cemitério - Omolu-Obaluaê Line Maria Padilha da Kalunga - Oxum/Iemanjá Line Maria Padilha das Sete Catatumbas / Sete Tombs - Omolu-Obaluaê Line Maria Padilha da Navalha - Line of Oxum Maria Padilha das Sete Saias - Line of OxumHistory of Maria Padilha
In 1334, in the Spanish city of Seville (in the homonymous province), a woman (an influential courtesan or high-class prostitute) who determined the fate of a European court. Dona Maria Padilla, from lover to queen, influenced King Dom Pedro I of Castile (1334-1369) in the most important decisions, such as the mode of government and the negotiation of his marriage to Branca de Bourbon, aiming at an alliance with France.
offerings
Among the most common offerings for this phalanx are: farofa padê with palm oil, champagne, cigarettes, earrings, bracelets, necklaces and candles, in addition to red roses. His favorite colors are usually red and black.
Which Maria Padilha exist?
Among the various sub-phalanges are:
Maria Padilha do Cruzeiro das Almas - Omolu-Obaluaê/Iansã Line Maria Padilha da Encruzilhada - Line of Ogum Maria Padilha do Cemitério - Omolu-Obaluaê Line Maria Padilha da Kalunga - Oxum/Iemanjá Line Maria Padilha das Sete Catatumbas / Sete Tombs - Omolu-Obaluaê Line Maria Padilha da Navalha - Line of Oxum Maria Padilha das Sete Skirts - Line of Oxum
Maria Padilha
História de Maria Padilha
Em 1334, na cidade espanhola de Sevilha (na província homônima), uma mulher (influente cortesã ou prostituta grã-fina) que determinou o destino de uma corte europeia. Dona Maria Padilla, de amante a rainha, influenciou o rei Dom Pedro I de Castela (1334-1369) nas mais importantes decisões, como no modo de governo e na negociação de seu casamento com Branca de Bourbon, visando uma aliança com a França.
Oferendas
Entre as oferendas mais comuns para esta falange estão: padê de farofa com dendê, champanhe, cigarros, brincos, pulseiras, colares e velas, além de rosas vermelhas. Suas cores preferidas geralmente são o vermelho e o preto.
Quais Maria Padilha existem?
Entre as diversas sub-falanges estão:
Maria Padilha do Cruzeiro das Almas - Linha de Omolu-Obaluaê/Iansã Maria Padilha da Encruzilhada - Linha de Ogum Maria Padilha do Cemitério - Linha de Omolu-Obaluaê Maria Padilha da Kalunga - Linha de Oxum/Iemanjá Maria Padilha das Sete Catatumbas / Sete Tumbas - Linha de Omolu-Obaluaê Maria Padilha da Navalha - Linha de Oxum Maria Padilha das Sete Saias - Linha de Oxum
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Tarot Tips and Tricks
A compilation of some of my favorites found on Pinterest.
Shuffle your deck and find THE SUN. The card on top is what you need to heal within yourself. The card underneath is how to begin the healing process.
Numbers trick. Shuffle your deck. Seventh (7) card down is how to empower yourself; Eleventh (11) card down is what's next on your spiritual journey; Thirteenth (13) card down is a message you need to hear right now to find your purpose
Trying to attract money? Shuffle and find the 1st, 5th, 10th, 15th and 20th cards to tell you how. (Some specify just the 5th, 10th and 20th).
Shuffle your deck and find THE FOOL. The card under it says how you fucked up. The card over it says how to fix it.
Shuffle your deck and find THE EMPRESS. The card in front of her gives you insight and wisdom on how to nurture and love yourself.
Feeling stuck? Shuffle and find THE HANGED MAN. The card under is why you feel stuck. The card on top is how to overcome it. Alternative: find DEATH. What's behind her is what you need to let go or leave behind. In front of her is what you need to focus on.
Have a desired goal in mind? Shuffle your deck and when you feel ready split your deck in half and hold the cards face up in both hands. Your left hand is what will hinder your goal. Your right hand is what will help you.
Have lingering sadness? Find THE MOON and THE SUN. The cards in between are the number of steps needed to move forward.
Have two choices? Shuffle and find the JUSTICE card. Behind it is where your first choice will lead. Front of it is where your second choice will lead.
Quick glimpse into the future. Find you nearest birth card. The first card under it is what is approaching you soon.
BONUS: For daily practice
In the morning pull a card to represent what you need to know for the day.
At night pull a card for what you need to understand about the day.
✨💛 The Blasian Witch 💛✨
How do your current friends view you?
Pile One Pile Two
Pile One
your friends see you as passionate and intuitive. they might see you as super well-put-together with your emotions and understanding how you feel. you might be very busy or have lots of plans and aspirations. you're very prone to adventure but it seems like you don't actually go forth for what you want. your friends see you as a strong independent person who can do good by themselves. you're a hard worker and appear very confident to them. remember not to push yourself though. you might have gone through a lot of bad things in the past that have made you stronger and your friends can tell. remember that bad things you went through were still bad and valid tho 😢 don't invalidate your trauma and shit. you might come off as extremely stubborn or like you're always denying things. you also might be queer? you could also have a hyperfixation (possibly in a neurodivergent way) and your friends notice you obsessing over/talking about it a lot.
Pile Two
your friends see you as someone who's kinda dominant and takes charge but is also limiting themselves. you have opportunities but you push them away and others notice that. you could have issues with pushing people away out of fear of being abandoned first. they could see you putting in the work with manifesting and working hard on things but they never see you actually taking breaks for yourself. please make sure to get proper rest and maintain a good sleep schedule. your friends notice you isolate yourself sometimes and don't accept help from them or other people. they might notice you being overwhelmed with options or changing your labels or aesthetic or career path often. your friends see you as a bit indecisive 💀 . you could also be a bit edgy or have an alternative style that they associate with you. they want you to know that you don't have to deal with your emotions alone. you aren't a burden to them and they're willing to help you if you want or need it from them.
Your FS's love language
Pile One
Pile Two
Pile Three
Pile One
Your future spouse is likely more experienced than you with romance and relationships and may take on a more nurturing and teaching role. Your fs shows love through being protective and nurturing. Your fs struggles expressing love through words so they often use touch and acts of service to express how they feel about you. They wanna shower you in gifts and make you feel safe. They see you overwhelmed or upset and want to calm you down. Your fs likely will be the one to make the first move. Your fs likes seeing you smile and may use humor just to see you laugh, even if they make a fool out of themselves in the process. They value you much more over their reputation.
Signs: long walks, rain or after the rain, partly/mostly cloudy, romantic comedy kdramas, oversleeping, 15, 9, 6, pottery, being picked up/piggy back rides.
Pile Two
Your fs commonly shows love through gift-giving, especially cash. Your fs may feel like a burden very easily and be very sensitive This person may be avoidant of love and relationships. It seems like heavy commitment issues out of fear. Channeling "Don't wanna fall in love" by kyle. They want you to show them how you feel first. They had a bad relationship before with arguments and chaos and a lack of trust. They want you to show them how you feel first. They often hold their own past against them. Once they put their walls down, they're a caring and considerate partner who brings many gifts and material items. This could be a friends to lovers relationship.
Signs: virgo, cancer, big cats/tigers, cafes and coffee, webtoons, shaded areas, nostalgia, 777, 444, 333, bisexuality, covering eyes, itching, zoning out.
Pile Three
This may be a study-buddy thing where you become partners on a project or start studying together and then end up being with each other. Your fs may be a sapiosexual (someone sexually attracted to intelligence). They see you as someone mature and skilled. They see you in an elegant manner. They show their love by being aggressively flirty or by messing with you. They might find little things to tease you about to avoid admitting that they study every little thing about you and have feelings for you. This could be someone you met before or already had a relationship with for some people. If you're hurt after they tease you, they of course will try desperately to make you feel better even if they don't directly tell you they're doing trying to. They try to close themselves off and not tell you about themselves and just listen to you talk about yourself instead.
Signs: subliminals, crystals and stones, moss equal/even, blur, purple, stars and the sun, hyperpigmentation, sleep deprivation, increased spiritual abilities (especially clairvoyance), slow breathing, 888, 8, infinity, money growth.
What's your beauty/allure?
Pile One
Pile Two
Pile Three
Pile Four
Pile One
You have a very nostalgic and fresh-start kind of beauty. It's like you take away people's worries and give them a different way of seeing things or feeling things. You may attract a lot of traumatized people and many people with crushes on you may struggle with mental illness. You attract these people because of your healing energy. People see you as confusing but in a dreamy way. You seem like a fantasy person that people would have to work hard to reach. It's like you're always slightly out of reach. You have a calm and balanced energy and people see you as perfect in an odd way.
Song: The perfect girl - Mareux
Pile Two
You seem like you know everything about everybody and some find it unsettling. You have a kind of scary feel to you. You might have gone through dark and scary experiences before, especially at a young age. You seem fearless. You may remind people of Nanno (Girl from Nowhere) or Yumeko (Kakegurui). You seem to just know things regardless of if anyone told you. You also seem closed off. It's like nobody knows anything about you, especially not your emotions, but you know about everyone. You seem like you always have something going on but nobody is quite sure what it is that you actually do. Extreme high priestess energy. People see you as someone who is very just and fair. They think you aren't scared of the truth, even if it's morbid. You may be desensitized to g0re, blo0d, etc. You have a lot of walls up and it makes people think you're hiding things that they could benefit from if they got closer to you.
Song: Pretty Cvnt - Sewerslvt
Pile Three
You give major "heartbreaker" type vibes. It seems like you may get many confessions and offers, especially concerning romance and s3x but don't actually accept any. If you aren't getting them now, you will likely get them soon. You're too focused on caring for yourself to take up loving another person the same way. You most likely have many options to choose from but you don't really want them. People assume you're playing hard to get but you just fr don't want them. People see you as attractive and someone they would wanna be with long-term. You're the first choice for many people even if you don't see it.
Song: This one's for you in the front row - nineishuman
Pile Four
Right off the bat, you seem like you're pitying people. You make people realize dark parts of themselves. You have an unreal feeling to you. You seem kind of AI generated. You seem very strong in a pain-tolerance type of way. Listening to anti-fragile and the number 8 may be significant in this reading. You are very alluring but it feels like a trap. You may have a bad history with love, resulting in commitment issues. People see you as "a gift from God" I hear. It's like there's no way meeting you was a coincidence. I'm getting that people see you out the corner of their eye. You seem magical and nobody can fully understand who/what you are.
Song: Me Me Me -Teddyloid, Daoko + Vocaloid Utopia - Dennoko-P
ENERGY READING
PILE ONE
PILE TWO
PILE THREE
PILE FOUR
PILE ONE
You have extremely strong healing abilities. Many people come to you looking to be "fixed." You're able to take care of people and their emotions extremely well. Emotional things are easiest for you to work with. You haven't experienced many things, it seems. You give off the vibe of childlike innocence. You enjoy learning a lot and are extremely curious but you often are too scared to take the leap. You're very reserved and usually quiet. You could play instruments or be musically inclined. Music plays an important role in your life. If you've been thinking of playing violin or piano, you should go for it.
PILE TWO
You're very passionate about the things you're interested in. You're protective and a bit over protective at times. You're good at reading people and have a great intuition. You may do divination work. You are a bit closed off and many don't know what you're thinking. You spend more time observing and collecting information on others than giving your own information and letting people get to know you. You do this out of curiosity and fear. You want to keep yourself safe and you're scared of being hurt again. If this progresses to far, you could end up pushing away important people in your life and end up regretting it.
PILE THREE
You have a rich and luxurious vibe to you. You seem like a hard worker but also seem like a damsel in distress. You are very elegant and that pulls people towards you. You're like actual royalty. You have a sort of tragic vibe to you. You struggle with carrying everybody's burdens and expectations on your back. You're very generous but you give too much sometimes. You have to give only when you have enough for yourself and can afford to give to others. You're pretty but don't see that about yourself. You may have been torn down by others and manipulated into thinking you're less than what you are. This made you insecure about your appearance when in reality you have a beautiful appearance.
PILE FOUR
You're a complete hopeless romantic. You seem to have placed your self worth in a person you liked romantically and they treated you wrong. Now, you assume people who like you romantically will leave at some point and no longer will want you. Even if they do, you're worth more than your love life. You're an individual and you don't need to base who you are in your looks or lover(s). You could be a bit of a crybaby and probably have a lot of water in your chart. You have a bubbly and energetic feeling to you. That doesn't mean you're always up and rowdy. I get the feeling that you sleep a lot, actually. You put a bit of a soft, relaxed mask on but you should be yourself even if it's "weird" to people because you only live once and it's your own life. This is also a sign to cut ties with negative people.
What does your future spouse find cute about you?
Pile one Pile two
Pile three Pile four
Pile one
Your future spouse finds it cute that you're always eager to learn new information. You may also try to be playful or come across as strong but they don't really see you as physically strong so they find it funny. They find it cute that you try to get aggressive with them when you don't have the physical strength to back it up. This is just playful, so if someone is trying to hurt you and finds your resistance cute/funny, then this is not the person. You have the balance of cute and "violent." Your future spouse finds this cute. You might try to play hit them and they find that specifically adorable about you. The last pile may be for you if you felt drawn to it.
Pile two
Your future spouse notices you are a bit of perfectionist and they see it as cute. They don't understand why you focus so much on little things when they see every part of you as perfect already. You over analyze things often instead of looking at the big picture. Then you over think an the big picture becomes about 70 million other small pictures that don't match up to create the big picture anymore. Basically, you over think and create a new idea in your head of things instead of focusing on the big things. They also find it cute that you have a lot of duality. You can change up from scary to cute quickly or mean to nice or something along those lines.
Pile three
Your future spouse finds it cute how you like making cute little crafts. They also like how you are super romantic. You might make them cute romantic cards or foods. You're a very creative person. They like seeing what you can come up with. They have fun trying to convince you that your work is good even though you're stubborn. They genuinely enjoy what you make even if it's childish/childlike or bad to you. They love how dedicated you are and how much passion you have. You might be an artist. They love how stubborn you are. They find most things about you cute, overall. You could like baking/cooking. DDLC may be significant, especially natsuki.
Pile four
Right off the bat, I'm getting that they love how unique you are. They like seeing how unpredictable and "crazy" you act. It's like you always keep them entertained or busy. I'm hearing that you keep their hands full. They find you crazy in a cute way. They think you being as emotional as you are is cute, especially considering how you act all crazy all the time. You're very emotional and you enjoy expressing how you feel, even if the ways you do so are seen as odd. They find it cute that you throw little "tantrums" and have little mood swings. They think it's cute that you get cranky and need naps all the time. They find you being so protective/possessive adorable as well. You may use yandere stuff to cope (like #bpdyandere or something). If you felt drawn to another pile, especially pile one then check them.
୨ ୧ : how would you be as an idol ? pac
pile one pile two
pile three pile four
᧔♡᧓ : pile one
As an idol, you'd be a bit different from other idols. You'd have this unique way of doing things and a unique style. You might be a solo idol or you could be your own boss/manager as an idol. You understand that being an idol takes hard work and are willing to put in the work to get what you want/need as an idol. Because of how unique you are, you would get tons of fans once you put in all the work. I'm hearing that you'd get quite a bit of money as well. You would continue to be yourself and keep independent but still not be a cold person, which your fans would like about you. You would have tons of fans who are as dedicated to you as you are to your career. You probably would have a side-job. You need to find balance being an idol and yourself away from being an idol. You don't share much personal information with your fans and you don't back down on what's important to you, even if you're pressured by others. You probably wouldn't try to keep up with trends. You'd be your own boss and allow freedom but you would have to sacrifice some things to reach your dreams as an idol.
᧔♡᧓ : pile two
As an idol, you would treat your achievements like smaller than they really are. There's tons of money involved and your career would take of quickly but you'd be stuck comparing yourself to other idols. You probably would be in a group and would be the one making decisions on what's fair or not. Definitely could be the group's main leader or manager. You'd be known as that one confident member. Possibly like one of those kpop idol rappers who always has the best solo verses (like the rap in nude by g-idle). If you're thinking about writing lyrics but something is missing, learning new words for vocabulary would absolutely enhance your writing. Your group could be a small group of tightly knit friends. I'm getting that there isn't an insane amount of members but that makes you more memorable because the fans have less people to remember. The group has such good harmony and sounds perfect together but you're focused on the small imperfections. Looking at the small mistakes and imperfections could make the rest of the idols in the group upset and cause conflicts, so before getting into a group (if you aren't already) work on your perfectionism.
᧔♡᧓ : pile three
I'm getting that you're a fast learner. You could have been starting late to idol training but you still caught up just as fast or faster than the other idols. This is a new income and a new experience for you. You could have/ might quit your job to become a full-time idol. You're extremely harsh on yourself to catch up, when in reality you would catch up just as fast if you were more gentle on your self-discipline. You decided to just take a dive into this, regardless of what others want for you. This is a fresh new start for you and a way to release all that creative energy you've been storing. You might feel isolated even if you are in a group and like you're standing alone. It's possible that you could have been meant to be in one group but ended up in another group last minute and feel like you don't belong. As an idol, you're remaining authentic to who you are but also controlling yourself. You're overcoming your fears of stage fright or humiliation and learning that nobody cares as much about your slip-ups as you do. Eventually, all of your mistakes will be forgotten and you don't need to worry about getting canceled over something silly. You forget you still have fans that will stay with you even if you fail to do something or embarrass yourself and those fans will stand with you.
᧔♡᧓ : pile four
As an idol, you'd be like the young childlike bubbly one of the group. The type of idol people make "being cute and silly" compilations of. Your fans are die-hard and wanna keep you safe and protected. It's like jungkook vibes (not saying that cuz I'm a stan btw 😶 I barely listen to kpop). It's like chuu and jungkook mixed together and you were created. You have the choice to be living in luxury and make all this money without doing work (possible inheritance) but you would have chosen to be an idol instead because that's your true dream (if it actually is). Your main concern as an idol should be avoiding being/seeming fake. You don't have to pretend to be all cutesy, just show the cute side of you and your real cute aspects. Don't pretend you have a different personality than you do, just show off the good parts of your real personality. If you pretend to be something you're not, once you get tired and rest, people will notice that you weren't who you said you were. You being an idol would be something you planned for and would do long term. I feel like this pile in particular truly wants to be an idol. The only thing stopping you from being an idol is you limiting yourself.
general crush pac
pile one
they see you as an intuitive person and a hard worker. your crush sees you as inspiring. im getting kind of like an art peace at a museum. they see you as someone to enjoy the presence of. you may or may not have some significant past with this person. this could be a crush you walked away from for a bit or someone who you isolated from or who isolated from you. this could even be an ex for some. possible ghosting involved. either way, there was a painful past for both of you. they want to let this go and learn more about the new you. they also want to prove they're not the same as they were/they'll behave differently than before. they feel as if they did you wrong or should have handled a situation better.
pile two
you could have cheated on/ been cheated on in a relationship with your person. there was a lot of lies, deception, sneaking around, and more. someone was more oblivious or love-clouded during this and couldn't realize it was an unhealthy situation. the relationship ended. all of that is in the past now. there's a chance to do better in a new relationship with them. you both have the chance to have a strong and loving relationship now. this relationship would be passionate and emotional. this relationship would consist of supporting each other in hard times, even though it previously did not. the change from the old relationship to the current one would be a noticeable difference. before jumping into this connection, understand your emotions and how you fully and truly feel about this person.
pile three
they see you as a generous, mature, hard worker. you might take care of them often or they imagine you doing that. they see you as a very caring an nurturing person. as opposed to being jealous of you spending time with others, they observe it and it makes them feel better just seeing you as your comfortable self. you could have mutual friends as well. nine of pentacles flew out next to two of swords and the king of pentacles (9 of pentacles, 2 of swords between, and king of pentacles) just now. it seems like you two are very compatible. you could be more independent (especially financially) but they still just wanna spoil you with gifts.
pac,, which people should you cut off now and why?
(i randomly felt like I had to do this reading for some reason)
pile one,,
this is most likely an ex partner or crush. you're holding on to this. I'm not sure if you're doing this because you still love them but you have to let this person go. they've already done you wrong in the past. there's no reason you should allow them to do it again. they most likely had problems with infidelity in the past. you keep just thinking about the feelings you've had towards them in the past and how they could make you feel. potential means nothing if it's not taking into action. this person would not put their energy into giving you what you want and deserve. you shouldn't give your energy into them either. you need to stop carrying any burdens they made you carry. they aren't your responsibility and they need to care for themselves.
pile two,,
this person/these people made you feel owned and weak. not necessarily weak but like you're under someone else's control. this was most likely a group of people. friends or family. you could have recently already cut them off. this left you feeling much more free but you still have healing left to do. the song for this reading is the fine print. i forgot which game it was based on but it could be significant as well. now the only thing stopping you from being as free as you want it yourself. you let their words stay in your mind. it's not your fault that they couldn't recognize your worth but you don't have to forget your own worth too. you need to cut them off completely, including their words and what they "taught" you about your own self.
pile three,,
you have workplace issues. it's not that you can't do your job. it's just that people at your job put so much work and stress on you. you're trapping yourself here because you're scared you won't find another job and you'll sink into poverty. you're putting up with this because of your fears. you have to trust that you'll be protected even if you quit. you're overworking yourself here and it's unhealthy for you. your health is more important than your money and job. even if you're scared and don't feel like just quitting would be the right choice, you can always look for a job first. none of the excuses you can make are anything besides fear. just take a deep breath. you need a break or a better workplace. you'll make the right choice. stop stressing over it. take a moment to relax now or as soon as possible.
pac,, inner child messages
pile one,,
your inner child is proud of you for working hard. you could still be wanting the same dream as when you were young. this could possibly be art or music? be careful to not overwork yourself. they want you to be happy while doing what you want, not treating it like a task or chore. they love how independent you are and how you don't need other people to feel happy. it's like you don't care about the gossip around you. your a hard worker and you've been doing this on your own. pat yourself on the back a bit more often.
pile two,,
your inner child loves how caring and nurturing you are. they love how good you are with emotions, especially the emotions of other people. you could have had childhood wounds from a mother or parental figure. they see you making things happen "like magic." even if you take care of people all the time, you still wanna be taken care of as well. you just want those feelings to be returned since you never experienced them as a child. you could also be hoping for this in romance. you could have watched lots of romance/shoujo anime as a kid.
pile three,,
they love your cool relaxed energy. it's just so unbothered. you could have been treated as too dramatic or a crybaby when you were younger. maybe even bullied? most likely bullied or seen as the "weird kid." they love that you're smart but they notice you're a bit of a downer sometimes. you have strong walls put up because you're scared of being hurt. so you are tough and unbothered but only because you're scared. you could be studying something or be focused on school. you're focused on doing good for your future but haven't really planned your future at all.
pac,, how can you be more independent right now?
૮꒰ ˶´ ꒳ `˶꒱ა ♡ pile one
to be more independent, you might want to live in a more secluded way. isolation could work well for right now. sometimes it's better to be alone to learn things by yourself. let yourself enjoy things more. being independent means you're responsible for keeping yourself safe, healthy, and entertained. you could have an artistic hobby that you should focus on. work but also take care of yourself. remember to take breaks. keep yourself comfortable and don't overwork. remember to speak up for yourself, as well.
૮꒰ ˶- ༝ -˶꒱ა pile two
you have to let yourself sit in your emotions a bit more. you have a bad habit of detaching yourself from how you feel. this could be through dissociation. celebrate your own achievements more often. you could often rely on praise from other people. learn life skills like cooking. also find motivation. if you listen to a burning pile by mitski, then that's confirmation. work on your mental and emotional health before making any drastic changes, especially childhood trauma and being used emotionally in the past.
૮ ˶ᵔ ᵕ ᵔ˶ ა pile three
let yourself be more playful. you could have had a rough childhood where you had to mature or develop too quickly. you should take care of yourself like you wish a parental/adult figure had before. let yourself ask questions and be curious. you could have some people around you that are toxic. probably friends. they give you bad advice and are overall not good for you. you feel inclined to listen to them and do what they want/say. don't be scared to decline their offers and ignore their advice. you also might want to try non-s3xual age/pet regression.
☀ pac,, what should you focus on this summer? ☀
🌊 pile one,,
this summer you should focus on finding a balance between work and play. keep in mind, this doesn't just mean working your ass off. it means letting yourself relax too when you need to. you may have to let yourself have more fun. you have to learn to congratulate yourself for your major ( and even minor) successes and to not hold your failures above your head. giving yourself praise for doing good is not a crime. you may end up getting a summer job.
🥥 pile two,,
you need to get out more this summer. you could struggle with depression, which could stop you from leaving the house or a fear of taking risks. this summer work to get yourself out the house. you need to take more risks and try new things. possibly for your love life. you might need to see more people. a past lover might have scarred you, but these new people aren't them. you've been through it once so you've experienced the worst already. trust me, you'll live.
👙 pile three,,
if you're in school, you should study more this summer. you might have slacked off really heavily in class and missed out on some information or forgot it. maybe you're trying to go to a new school that has high standards for students. either way, studying over break could be good. don't let other stuff get in your way. personal things could have distracted you in school. well this summer, push those aside. ignore your distractions and start studying. don't overwork yourself.
🌱 things to do for self concept 🍃
validate yourself
when i say validate yourself, i mean give yourself the validation you seek from others. easier said than done, of course, but it's not impossible. instead of going to ask someone "hey do i look good?" or something, tell yourself it looks good. especially if you're just asking to hear them say it. don't look for validation in others or what others want. look for what you want.
take alone time
not saying you have to completely isolate from everybody but taking alone time to figure out what you're insecure about and to uplift yourself can help. try taking time to do what you want and reminding yourself that you deserve to enjoy these things. take time for things that make you feel confident and comfortable with yourself.
stop comparing yourself
don't compare yourself to anyone else ever. you aren't the same, you didn't have the same experiences, etc. nothing about you is the same, so it makes literally no sense comparing yourself to them. you don't have to be like everyone else anyway. you're unique and not like anyone else and that already makes you valuable. instead of worrying about what someone else has going on, look at how much you have going for yourself.
make a list
make a list of things you like about yourself. it doesn't just have to be about your body either. of course it can be about your body, but it doesn't have to be. it can be about your personality, something you've done, anything. it might take a while to think of anything but that doesn't mean there's nothing good about you. it just means you haven't realized it yet.
let go
when i say let go, im not talking about just one thing in particular. let go of toxic beliefs, thoughts, people, or anything that isn't harmful to you. it's hard to build confidence and get a good self concept when there's someone or something trying to push you down constantly. it might be tough, but get rid of as much toxicity as possible. if there's something you know is causing issues for you, remove it.