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Book Log 4: The intensity of being a girl.
Something terrible happened to Ana’s friend. Just really horribly terrible. It reminds me of how bad it’s been being a girl through the ages. We’re much better off right now, relative to then and also a long ways to go.
It’s so intense being a girl. And so weird that being ‘girly’ isn’t considered intense but rather trivial! Being of the feminine in body &/or in spirit (no matter your sex) is basically having a concentrated, saturated experience of life.
You feel EVERYTHING including the most intense love for everything ranging from baby animals to fictional characters. You’re raging from exclusion and trivialisation and fetishisation. You’re witness to everyday crimes, chipping away at other humans whose only fault is being the same as you. That creates a storm within that Ana also felt in this book.
And if you’re blessed with the body too, WOMAN, pat yourself on the back - You’re body is constantly changing, no one talks about all the changes. And to top it all off, every month we bleed.
There’s a thing that Ana does with blood (not period blood) that I just loudly whooped about! It felt juuuuust (ever so slightly) as though it was planted. I hope this friend and the elements in her story show up later too. That said, I get the intent of adding this to our main story. It is important.
All of us have felt what Ana feels. I won’t say more. Please go read this book.
'Never Depend On A Man' is WOUNDED FEMININE ENERGY
Women with this mindset are afraid to be vulnerable and trust a man.
Maybe because of past heartbreak or because they didn’t have their own father as a trustworthy person in their lives.
But this mindset is unhealthy. Especially for women who desire relationships and love.
We must heal if we want a good relationship.
The healthy feminine is comfortable being vulnerable but also has boundaries.
You have to trust each other to have a healthy, harmonious relationship.
A woman is supposed to be able to depend on and trust her man.
Let’s face facts, women are the vulnerable ones especially during pregnancy and when we have kids. So we seek out security from our men.
It is natural and healthy to trust a man for security, resources and financially.
Our culture today has taught women to be too independent and it’s actually unhealthy for us. We stay guarded in relationships and attract the wrong men as a result. Men we cannot trust who leave us to struggle alone with the kids.
You cannot attract a healthy, masculine, dependable man if you do not believe you can trust or depend on a man.
Women are wired and designed to want security not struggle. And that doesn't make us gold diggers or evil people.
How to look more Feminine
Wear heels
When you walk into a room with heels on, you immediately command attention in a lovely feminine way.
Don't let life harden you
Remain happy Remain grateful Remain positive
I'm not a strong woman.
I'm a delicate and soft woman.
Being in your feminine energy feels free & fun.
Why do you deserve to be provided for in a relationship?
Why do you deserve princess treatment?
Simply because you desire it.
I've seen this question thrown around on social media by people who don't think certain women deserve certain things. I've even asked myself this question.
But the answer is just because you desire it.
Not because you work hard, cook, clean or struggle with a person.
Women deserve to be provided for because we say so.
We don't have to earn it or struggle for it.
Being provided for is like a woman's birthright.
Want to get princess treatment?
Stop giving so much.
Learn how to receive.
Stop feeling unworthy of receiving the best from others.
You don't have to give in return. Just receive and know that
You Are Worthy.
Choose to Be Feminine in a Masculine World
Society has convinced women that it's more powerful to be masculine, ambitious, competitive, hard working, etc.
I'm here to remind you that being feminine is also powerful in a quiet, calm way. Being feminine, creative, relaxed, soft is a woman's power.
Femininity is not weak. It's your strength.
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Feminine Tip:
Accept Help
- Women nowadays are taught to be independent, strong & never look to others for help. But this is the opposite of femininity
- The feminine woman receives help & assistance.
- The feminine woman is okay with getting help from others instead of trying to be strong and prove that she can do it all herself
- She knows she's not weak just for receiving help.
- We are only one person. We can try to do it all but usually end up tired and struggling.
- If you need help, ask.
Stop trying to be like men
Stop trying to work hard like men
Stop competing with men
We are not men
And we never will be.
Embrace being a woman
Embrace working easy/less like a woman
Embrace being delicate & powerful like a woman NOT strong like a man
Embrace being divinely feminine
When you learn to embrace being what God created you to be, your life will flow much easier.
There's a reason women get burnout quicker & experience more dissatisfaction when they're living primarily masculine lives. Trying to work like men, work hard, work as many hours as men, work the same jobs, etc. Even the 9-5 work schedule was designed around men's biology not a woman's. No wonder women struggle trying to fit into this lifestyle. And why we're usually happier working part-time.
And there's a reason why men are also unhappier when they are living primarily feminine lives where they aren't the breadwinner, the provider or a respected, hardworking, masculine man. They usually feel lost without the role of being the provider.
Feminine Flow
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