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i don’t want to discourage ANYONE from getting help. But thinking about how literally victims of rape will be blamed or maligned no matter what. If you’re attractive it’s your fault. If you’re ugly it didn’t happen. If you’re a gay man raped by another man or a gay woman raped by another woman you obviously wanted it and we’ll laugh in your face. If you’re a gay man raped by a woman or a gay woman raped by a man it’s corrective and you were asking for it. If you’re a straight woman raped by a man or a straight man raped by a woman you wanted it too. If you’re a straight man raped by a man or a straight woman raped by a woman well you’re just a joke. Some identities make it worse but even if you’re the most privileged attractive white rich celebrity, you will be cast out and mocked. If you’re pretty, rich, privileged- it’s your fault, it wasn’t a big deal, must be soooo horrible to be desired. If you’re fat, ugly, disabled, old- it didn’t happen, or if it did, you should be glad someone wanted you. It doesn’t matter if you’re an 80 year old woman bedridden raped by her son, or a baby boy who can’t even speak raped by your uncle, or a teenage girl raped by your boyfriend’s friend, or a 30-year-old man raped by your new girlfriend. It doesn’t matter who you are, who they are, your race your wealth your age your state of mind if you were drunk on drugs sober the circumstances if you were manipulated violently forced drugged your relationship if it was your husband or a back alley stranger. Someone will find a way to blame you, someone will find a way to laugh at you.
To the people saying caiti has changed her story you guys are fucking idiots. Either you failed English class or never actually watched her original stream. In her original stream she had heavily implied that he touched her boobs.
“His hand went up my shirt”
“Touched me in places I’ve never been touched before”
Indicating that she was talking about him touching her boobs. Anyone with common sense can put the two and two together. Clearly if you can’t you must have failed English class. She didn’t change her story she just made it more explicit; cause you fuckheads took everything out of context and claimed “he just tickled her”. He touched her boobs without consent.
Also shaming her for not remembering a lot of what happened that night is ridiculous. 1, she was fucking drunk, I’m not surprised that her memory is a little hazy. 2, people who experience very traumatic experience that cause them to feel absolutely terrible tend to have their mind almost delete some of the actual memory to help make you feel less terrible. There’s an actual psychology study on this. As a victim myself of sexual harassment and abuse since I was a literal kid there’s a lot I feel I can barely even remember and even if I do it’s super hazy and I have no details. Our brain’s makes us forget certain things so you don’t have to feel the overwhelming pain it causes you. Our brain’s also tries to make us find excuses to make it feel or sound like it wasn’t as bad as it actually was.
An article that explains it better than I can and has more information.
I would like to go back to the year where women would be burnt at steak if accused to be a witch, cause I know damn well I would be brunt at steak and I rather be dead than have to live in world where I have to fight with people who can’t express basic sympathy to the struggles a person goes through regardless of their gender.
“Not all men”
“Not all women”
“Well I never —“
Irrelevant! Y’all wanna be praise so bad for doing the bare fucking minimum and not being a rapist, abuser, sexual assaulter, pedophile, groomer, serial killer, etc…
IRRELEVANT!!! Just be a human being and show love and support to a victims story, rather than making it about yourself or some fucked up gender competition.