Not All Men - Tumblr Posts

NOT ALL MEN. Yes, but if I gave you a box of cookies, and told you some of those were made of shit, you wouldn't eat any of them.

NOT ALL MEN. Yes, but you still don't go play Russian Roulette because there is a chance you might die.

NOT ALL MEN.

Yes, we know. But that doesn't mean I don't have the right to be scared if a man starts walking behind me at night when I'm alone. Because it's 1 in 5 the chances that he wants to rape me. So, yes, not all men, but that doesn't mean anything.

Can we please stop preventing ourselves from saying "not all men"? I honestly don't get people who are trying to stop targeted transphobia to transmasc people, yet still say that they're not trying to say "not all men". Trans men are men, right? Not all trans men are terrible right? We also have cis male feminists and allies, right? Are they helping us? So they aren't bad people? Hm.... Well if you said yes to all of these things, lemme tell you something that may surprise you... I know it's gonna be really absurd and you might just freak out about it, but uh... not. all. men.

There. I said it! Not all men! We can't generalize anything about all men, because if we do, trans men will be in that generalization! Then we'll get people posting shit like "omg men are trash especially trans men lmaooo" We shouldn't be blaming men for the way people perceive gendered norms. If we can have a cishet man waving a rainbow flag to support his friends at pride, we can also have women who say that women should stay in the kitchen and live life like a 1900s housewife. People are pretending that the moralities are associated with gender and is black and white, when that isn't the fucking case at all. How about we blame our main offenders: Misogynists? Misogyny can come in many different forms and can be spewed by many different people, even trans people! If we fight against those people instead of blaming one gender for all our problems, we could actually have a chance at making a change and making people have revelations about the reason why they think men are trash. It's like even people within the LGBTQ++ community have a "Girls rule boys drool" attitude towards gender. Damn...

And for the record, I understand why those generalizations are made, because masculine cishet men are the most accepted people in society and their social pressures aren't as bad as everyone else's because men are the ones who made those gendered standards in the first place which caused them to oppress those who were different from them, but times are different and men are being encouraged not to hide how they express or how they feel even if they're cis. Masculinity in society is always expected to be as thick as an eyelash, but men are starting to realize what masculinity means to them on their own without letting society dictate that. Please give those people a chance, and stop making generalizations about them, that way, those stereotypes against them being aggressive, degenerates, airheaded, and egotistical won't be translated into the trans community towards trans men.

Terfs be like: Consensual bdsm is bad because women's consent doesn't matter. Sex is inherently unfeminist by the way so women shouldnt think they can like it. Taking ownership of your desires oppresses you. Also all men are bad. By giving no positive reinforcement to feminist ally men and men who don't hurt women we are encouraging society to be better. Women need to cover up their body. Because choosing your own comfort level is unfeminist. Being a feminine woman is bad because feminine clothing is oppressive. But if you're trans then you hate women. Then they see no issues with any of these arguments??

Exactly! And that is what gets me... When setting out to prove something, of course you're going to find evidence focusing on the phenomenon you're dealing with! Anita Sarkeesian's series isn't about tropes and gender in general, it's about women, so it is self explainatory that she would narrow down the discussion to fit her topic. This is not cherrypicking, it's basic argumentation and I find it astounding that these men are furious that a person is staying on topic. The real problem, it seems, is that they don't like the topic. It's like they've turned their "not all men" into "not all games" and, once again, it's not helping the discourse.

http://catfishcafe.tumblr.com/post/91813824114/femfreq-i-get-so-many-emails-like-this-i-could

I get so many emails like this I could publish a coffee table book full of them.

It’s especially amusing that this misogyny laced email is unironically signed “See you soon m’lady. *tips fedora*”

For real???

For real???

For real???

For real???

“Not All Men”

You’re absolutely right, Dr. Spencer Reid would never treat me like this

I'm physically unwell😖😖

OMGGGGG!!!!!!

LITERALLY DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO ME WITH THOSE HANDS 😣😣 idk if I want him to choke me or literally just play with my hair😭

Like how does one be so sweet and nice yet literally look like he could rail the ever loving shit out of me??

I now understand what they mean when they say not all men cause he would never😁😝

“not all men”?

how about not all women?

not all women wear certain clothing, makeup, or jewelry to please others, especially men.

not all women enjoy being catcalled, touched without consent, and sexually abused.

women don’t hate men. we hate oppressers.

Not all man but most women. NOT ALL MEN BUT MOST WOMEN! I have never met a women who has never at least had one story to tell about how they been sexualized, sexually assaulted, sexually harassed or raped. Not all men but most women.

I would like to go back to the year where women would be burnt at steak if accused to be a witch, cause I know damn well I would be brunt at steak and I rather be dead than have to live in world where I have to fight with people who can’t express basic sympathy to the struggles a person goes through regardless of their gender.

“Not all men”

“Not all women”

“Well I never —“

Irrelevant! Y’all wanna be praise so bad for doing the bare fucking minimum and not being a rapist, abuser, sexual assaulter, pedophile, groomer, serial killer, etc…

IRRELEVANT!!! Just be a human being and show love and support to a victims story, rather than making it about yourself or some fucked up gender competition.

sitting down next to me at a coffee shop where there’s tables available next to me, is normal.

Sitting down next to me as an older man at a coffee shop where there’s tables available next to me, is also normal.

Sitting down next to me as an older at a coffee shop where there’s tables available next to me and speaking to me, again, is normal.

But sitting down next to me as an older man at a coffee shop where there’s table available next to me and first thing you say to me is “don’t worry I’m not gonna drug you”, not fucking normal.

Like, WHAT!? Who said you were!? Now I’m thinking you might! Where is this coming from!? I don’t know you, get away!