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Day number 78493628 of my dad not understanding why I’m shocked and protest profusely when he says “I didn’t know anything about female anatomy until (disabled sister) needed to cathed regularly
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I am SICK of people saying shit like “girlsplain” and “girl dinner” and thinking it is a cute, funny joke that everyone is in on. To YOU it is a joke, but to many of the people consuming your content, it is another way of making fun of women and femininity. By saying “girl dinner” instead of just dinner, you perpetuate the idea that women are some “other” group apart from the “regular”group (men). And saying “girlsplain” and then explaining something with slang words like “slay” and simplifying things just perpetuates the idea that women need things dumbed down and that they can’t hold coherent thoughts or express themselves eloquently. Anyway just be aware of the ways in which you are adding to your own oppression.
as a rule of thumb i never listen to men who call women females
fun fact: 90% of internet discourse could be solved if we stopped generalizing when making statements
I’m glad the whole “straight women (which means any afab person even those not straight or women) are sexualising the gay men by realising they exist and making content about gay men at all ever and they’re dirty and sick for wanting to write anything that isn't Woman enough and this is also why dark media should never exist because Women will want to do the fuck on it because they’re all lustful beasts (shows a fandom of like 100 fics to Prove this is a major issue)” is getting lambasted. Not only is it blatant misogyny, it’s so anti media literacy it’s crazy a dude who made his whole career over pretending to be media literate claimed it. Like, it’s so fucking stupid. A hundred people writing fic about a real life killer is fucked but it means nowt for a group of billions of people, especially since we don’t know if they were all women. And when you get into fictional stuff it’s even sillier like a minority of people having no media literacy and thinking abuse is hot or whatever doesn’t mean shit when it comes to Women As A Whole or like, what sort of media you should produce or how. Some people- not women, people- are always going to be idiots and it’s anti art to expect authors to cater to people who don’t want to engage with their depictions of sensitive topics,
okay so this what my friend said tobme in my dream but isnt miraculauos a lil bit hints just somtimes hints of misogny? sexism?
now hear me out,
marinette is potrayed as a boy super obseesed
which like ok thats how alot of shows potray young girls but like....her entire world revolves around adrien, she fumbles as ladybug when he is around like ...he is ..i cant explain or put into words but i thonk you know. i mean the concept of mari being a stalker hasnt goten the show to remove by snp becuse she is a girl so her action seem non threathing to oeople wjich is wrong either way her stalker tendacies arent ok.
adrien /catnoir in the early saesons atleasy also dint know how to take no for an answer and as much as i love him just ugh that was sooo not fun to watcg like many times he takes rejection not realy well and is just a mess and in some of those cases if not all that much anger he did project towards lady big was uncalled for . like sure she saod no buddy take the l dont be a prick about it.
other than that lov both of em
by the way before you say i am looking tok deep, i am 15 have bern wayching since 7 years old and me and all my friends did notice and realise to an extent how creps some of these charecters actions were. but still young enough to not realy.
a friend of mine even started to "stalk"(watch from behind a tree) her crudh and folwed him atound from a distance trying to learn about evrything him like marinetet did,we were 9 to 11 years old at that time soo yeah these things dose have afeect on kids ,do better.
sincerly ,a member of the target demographic.
ok so this is a bit late and a rant but this needs to be said
the whole man vs bear thing is honestly very funny to me but also sad and was on eof the reasons i realised just how diffrently men and women process and veiw the world.
like what women thought of when asked the question was diffrent from whatmen understood, also just man...
let me explain
women thought of safety, women knew this was a thought exersise, the conversation was meant to lead to the bigger conversation of how women feel safe in this world and how unsafe this world is for women and girls,
what men took it as a personal comaprsion betwwen them and the bear which it is but they took it in a diffrent contecxt, they thought it was betwwen THEM, and a bear, that a bear is better than them .
alot of them thought it meant ALLL men, including them personaly.specifcaly them. when no.....pal...no...i assure you no.
no women dont think all men are violent monsters.
no this was not misandrist.
just the fact that even after a alot of explanation alot of boys dint get WHY, and WHAT, exatly was being said,asked,discussed,and meant
sweti, its a bit mixture of hyperbloe, meatphour, a bit genuily serious, and asked in the context of female saftey
infact i beilive if alot of women asked the question if not aware about the discorse and context, would have chosen the man,
but pals,,....its not about YOU.
women and men expirence diffrently thats why men and boys cant fanthom certain female issues.
also no, bringing up the whole man vs tree thing is not the same , cuz its not a safey isuue....u would be alive
which again goes to show that boys took it as a hit on THEM secifcly, THIER charecter ... rather then the issue...so they took a issue (of men not having a safe palce to express emotion) to hit on charecyter of women?
which...um nice..try pal?
not the same level of threat? but stem problem for both IS patriarchy and sexism.
it was about how women feel unsafe. and yes alot of times its around men, but not evry man is like that, but the question dint specify that it was chris evan hansen so yeah...
and man i shoud stop rambleing and touch grass
sory if somethings wrong bit of a vent/ramble
You aren't oppressed because a person of color made a joke about white people.
You aren't oppressed because a queer person made a joke about cisgender heterosexuals.
You aren't oppressed because a fat person made a joke about skinny people.
You aren't oppressed because a woman made a joke about men.
You aren't oppressed because a person from a different religion/an atheist made a joke about Christianity.
You aren't oppressed because a neurodivergent person made a joke about neurotypical people.
You aren't oppressed because a disabled person made a joke about abled-bodied people.
You all just have victim complexes and think that if someone makes a slighty "mean" joke it equates to the oppression that marginalized groups face.
And if you wanna come up here and be like "well we're ALL humans and ALL oppression is bad 🥺🥺 skinnyphobia reverse racism and cis/hetphobia are real" I'm going to cuss you out.
TERFs aren't welcome here :D
also misogynists and misandrists
Poem 1- How to be a Woman
Straighten your hair, you look unsightly Lose a few pounds, you might look pretty Lighten your skin tone, so we can't fear you Cover the bruises, You're making a scene Don't wear a skirt, You'll lead him on Don't talk back, it poisons the air Kill it in the womb, bastards are overpopulated Don't say no, you'll be back to step four Cry yourself to sleep, it's your latest routine Don't be a woman, you don't want to be me.
So glad I’ve accepted my fate and place as a breeder! 🤍 Nothing makes me happier than providing for men and being forgetful and dumb. Becoming a brainless dairy cow and always having her womb full should be every female’s dream 😍
It's what you need, it's what your body needs, and it's what your little woman brain needs. Get pregnant, give birth, and do it all over again, because you're just a little breeder.
Tie me up in-front of people, maybe a party. Make me feel cheap, tell people it’s $5 to fuck me in any hole of their choice.
My tight holes getting used relentlessly, being stretched unnaturally. Random things getting shoved in me, beer bottles, dirty trash, ping pong balls, and the wine bottles.
People humiliate me, writing things on me “free use”, “cow”, “slut”, “cheap whore”, “ran through”, ect.. They have even done a tally on my ass for how many people have came inside of me.
Being grabbed by the underwear, basically being wedgied. Having a good spanking and slaps on the face. That’s what I get for not behaving.
IM HOME ALONE, give me any task!!
Acceptable female targets: what we don't talk about when we talk about butch misogyny
A butch friend of mine went through this really unfortunate phase once, where she made all these jokes about women drivers.
I don’t tolerate that kind of talk. When I hear someone trashing women, I feel no less offended and disgusted than I would if that person had thrown up on my shoes.
So I told my friend that I didn’t think those jokes were funny, that she would have to stop telling them if she wanted to be my friend. Because she is a kind, thoughtful, politically aware person, she stopped telling them.
I’m still friends with her and she still feels embarrassed when she remembers what she said. To be honest, I think she’s a little hard on herself. We’ve all done it, and I don’t mean the butch we, I mean the lesbian we, the woman we, the ALL OF US we.
It’s too easy to engage in these little horizontal hostilities. It’s too easy to sympathize with the people who oppress us. We are all responsible for our ability to harm each other, and we are all responsible for calling out harmful behavior when we see it. I take that responsibility very seriously.
But the term “butch misogyny” makes me want to break something.
Because misogyny is poison, and every single person born female in our society is forced to drink it, and smile, and thank the person who poisoned her and lie about how good the poison tasted. And when you’re forced to drink poison with a grateful heart every single day of your life, it’s going to affect you in ugly ways. Sooner or later, you are going to throw up on someone’s shoes.
And when someone throws up, no matter how gross you think it is, a caring friend says: “Are you okay? Was it something you ate?” Instead, when butch women make misogynist comments, we call it by the special term created just for them— “butch misogyny”— suggesting that butch women INVENTED misogyny, that it has never harmed us, that we benefit from it, and that we are the primary perpetrators of it in queer communities.
Let that last part sink in.
There is no special term for “misogyny perpetrated by het males.” There is no special term for “misogyny perpetrated by gay males.” There is no special term for “misogyny perpetrated by males who like to wear women’s clothing.”
And that’s curious, isn’t it? Males are the only people who stand to benefit from misogyny without incurring any damage to themselves. Males are consistently the worst perpetrators of misogyny in queer communities, causing the most harm, on the highest institutional levels, the most often.
When you promote the term “butch misogyny,” you deliberately turn a blind eye to the real problem and promote the scapegoating of some of our community’s most vulnerable members.
What we call “butch misogyny” is not an expression of woman hatred but an expression of self hatred. Butch women are no strangers to self hatred, it comes easily to us, we have to make peace with it. Maybe that’s why we’ve accepted our role as scapegoat within queer communities. We’re already scapegoats in the straight world, where we are the most visible and most despised targets of our society’s hatred for lesbians; maybe we’re used to it.
Or maybe butch women cooperate with the term “butch misogyny” because it equates us with men. Maybe we take it as a twisted compliment; maybe we feel that it boosts us up a rung on the queer hierarchy. We’re no stranger to that, either. Since childhood, we have known that the barrier between the men’s world and the women’s world is permeable. We have been able to slip across and taste the forbidden fruits of personhood. Maybe we hope that, if we shoulder responsibility for men’s crimes, we can keep some of that personhood for ourselves, at least in our own little corner of society.
If that’s what we think, we’re horribly misguided. As much as it hurts to face the truth, we have to admit that we are not men. Butch women are women. We are brave, smart, scrappy, tough-as-hell women. The way we are is natural, healthy and adaptive. We deserve to be loved and respected for what we are and it is completely unfair that we ever have to pretend to be men to get that respect. It’s worse than unfair— it’s oppressive.
Because my friend still feels bad about her woman driver jokes, she brought it up again recently to apologize. I asked her why she ever thought those jokes were funny in the first place.
“Oh,” she said, “I guess… I was working as a line cook and all of my coworkers were men. They made those jokes all the time, and I had to make those jokes too, or they’d turn it against me and make me the target. I forgot to leave that stuff in the kitchen where it belongs. You know. Butch privilege!”
“You had to make jokes at your own expense to protect yourself from male violence at work? I see the logic, but how is that privilege?”
“Because once I was in the boys club I got treated a lot better than other women,” she said.
“Did you, though?” I said. “You don’t think your male coworkers enjoyed watching you humiliate yourself? You think you were getting what they had? Let me ask you something. How many of those men have ever had to disown their maleness as a survival tactic? When do men ever do that?”
She didn’t have an answer, but she was suspicious of my argument, she thought I was trying to tell her that it was okay for her to trash women.
Listen, that’s not what I’m saying. It is not okay for you to trash women. I mean “you” in the most collective sense possible, you, dear reader, YOU. Butch women are not acceptable female targets. Stop looking for acceptable female targets. Stop it.
I am saying that if you are a woman (ANY woman) who trashes women (ANY women) you need to realize that you are throwing up all over your sisters because you drank poison. It’s not your fault that you drank poison, but you need to stick around and help clean up.
I am saying that you need to look long and hard at men, and especially at your queer brothers. Look at the gay men who say that your genitals look like potted meat mush. Look at the drag queens who mock you in front of gleeful audiences. Look at the het males who demand that you validate their identities by sleeping with them and who fly into histrionic fits every time you say the word “vagina” or admit that you menstruate.
I want you to ask yourself why you’ve never proposed a special term for their brand of misogyny— actual misogyny that reflects an actual hierarchy. Ask yourself why you’re so comfortable sacrificing butch women at the altar of male feelings.
Because it may be time to consider the possibility that you are engaging in a little horizontal aggression of your own.
I lasted two (2) episodes into Season 1, and I still felt dirty. This is Kimiko-Ross-generating-energy-with-authors-spinning-in-their-graves-level disrespectful. (no disrespect to Kim or her mad science)
Uh, guys? Don't confuse your crappy televised fanfic for the story that Tolkien actually wrote.
Galadriel was never "under Sauron's thrall." That's something ROP made up. In Unfinished Tales, she was the only one in Eregion who suspected that Annatar was lying about being an emissary of the Valar. Celebrimbor was deceived by him. She was not. She was certainly not "under his thrall." No, not even because she had Nenya.
Yes, when Frodo offered her the One Ring, she was tempted. It could have given her the power to prevent the fading of Lothlórien. But when she makes this speech in the book, and in the Peter Jackson movies, it's her own thought, she's not repeating something that Sauron said to her once:
“You will give me the Ring freely! In place of the Dark Lord you will set up a Queen. And I shall not be dark, but beautiful and terrible as the Morning and the Night! Fair as the Sea and the Sun and the Snow upon the Mountain! Dreadful as the Storm and the Lightning! Stronger than the foundations of the earth. All shall love me and despair!”
These are Galadriel's words. Her words. Not Sauron's. And she was tempted by the One Ring because she could have been a more powerful queen, not Sauron's queen. Like, you guys really took one of the most powerful and complex female characters in Tolkien's works and you made her story all about a man and his power over her and his manipulation of her. Fuck off.
And stop tagging ROP as Lord of the Rings.
I'm gonna assume most of these moids are from the US. If so can somebody PLEASE put up a petition to get these monsters behind bars? If I don't see any I'll do it myself.
Wow guys, men sexualizing and objectifying women sure is empowering! Just look at these if you don’t believe me!
TW: Rape, abuse, femicide, torture, pedophelia, racism and slurs, etc.
TW: Rape, dismemberment, femicide, racism, slurs, abuse, incest, pedophelia
Some of these subs and images have tens of thousands of subscribers and likes. This is not an isolated incident. I have thousands more of these screenshots, but I’m limited to ten on tumblr. Keep telling me how being the object and target of men’s sexual desires is empowering, how porn and BDSM aren’t directly related to misogyny and male violence against women.
I always wondered why I heard old people here in America say things like "I'm sorry for you" when a parent says they are expecting a girl. (not all of course but you would be surprised how many I've encountered with this mindset)
I know it is obviously rooted by misogyny just how in some other countries they say girls are "easier" than boys. They are not easier, people just decide to control them more.
They are not more difficult either, children are children, when they have tantrums is because they don't know how to properly communicate their discomfort, but parents often punish it instead of trying to communicate.
But I think I finally understand why people in some places tend to say girls are "worse"
Because they judge and blame girls and women for EVERYTHING, they put all this weight on their shoulders and watch them crack, and instead of helping they just say "why are you being so difficult?"
"Take care of your siblings" "don't be bossy" "you are too loud" "you should smile more" "be nicer" "be obedient" "what was she wearing" "she didn't have to be such a b*tch" "she's playing hard to get" "she's dramatic" "hormonal" "on her days" "get over it" "you should be flattered he looked at you" "he just touched you a bit that is not assault" "why are you so emotional" "he is nice you are just delusional" "why would you lie? He is not like that" "no one likes nagging" "you brought this upon yourself"
Please stop!