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Amen. A clear sign that someone is cruel, immature and close minded is when you're opening yourself up to them and telling them about a certain delusion or hallucination you have... and they respond with some sort of sarcastic quip CONFIRMING that delusion or hallucination. If someone you love does this, they're either insensitive, ignorant or they do not love you back.
Some of yall know absolutely nothing about hallucinations and I highly encourage you to do some research on it. And I do not mean the once off hallucinations, I mean hallucinations that some people have regularly.
Not putting a diagnosis label on it because many different disorders will have hallucinations and I don't have any answer for my own at this time.
When it comes to visual hallucinations I do not know that I'm hallucinating a lot of the time, most of the time I'll be having what is seemingly a normal conversation with someone to me and no one understands this.
Also telling someone that is experiencing hallucinations that you can hear or see it aswell is so cruel and in no way funny
Im sick of no one bothering to do any sort of research on this and just calling me crazy
Don’t mean to disrespect but…
Don’t blame me for it all because my attitude depends on yours!
You know what's really fun?
Being AroAce with Abandonment Issues
You know what's even better?
Having my family (supportive or unsupportive) casually dissing/invalidating my lack of feelings towards other people
And people wonder why I'm so apathetic all the time.
It's called a defense mechanism, sweetheart
My trauma Is different from yours, but it is no less debilitating
Overcoming Invalidation
Invalidation communicates that your thoughts, beliefs, values, or appearance are wrong or incorrect. When thinking of invalidation, it’s important to remember the possibility of it being dialectical: it can be both helpful and painful.
When is invalidation helpful?
When it corrects unfactual information and/or mistakes
When it opens your mind to other perspectives and boosts personal growth
When is it painful?
When you’re being rejected or neglected
When something factual in your life is being denied or overlooked
When personal experience is trivialized or disregarded
When someone treats you as less than equal
When someone repeatedly misunderstands you
When someone misreads your intentions or misinterprets your actions
When you’re telling the truth and others don’t believe you
So, what do you do when you’re invalidated?
Validate yourself the same way you would validate a loved one.
Check the facts. Are your responses to the situation in line with the facts?
Check with someone else whom you can trust to validate the valid.
If your response doesn’t fit the facts, acknowledge this.
Also, acknowledge when your reactions make sense and are valid.
Work to change any invalid thinking patterns, actions, or statements.
Remember that blaming a person rarely helps and try to let go of blame.
Be compassionate towards yourself. Practice self-soothing.
Drop judgmental self-statements and practice opposite action.
Remember: all behavior is caused. Also, remember that you are doing the best that you can do at any given point in time.
Admit that it’s painful to be invalidated by others (even if it’s right).
Remember that being invalidated, while painful, is rarely a catastrophe.
Enter a supportive environment.
Grieve any traumatic invalidation and whatever harm may have resulted.
Practice radical acceptance of those who have invalidated you.
