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Insight on the character Snape or KP organized their feelings on the fucktard that is Severus Snape
So I recently finished Daredevil S2, and I absolutely fell in love with Frank Castle (aka the Punisher). The Punisher is one of the main villains in S2, and when a friend questioned why I liked him so much, I was stumped. Said friend continued on to ask what made Castle win a place in my heart opposed to Severus Snape from Harry Potter, who in my opinion, is one of the worst characters.
What makes a mass murderer better than a double agent?
What makes a serial killer better than a man continually putting himself in danger for the greater good?
And what I concluded the deciding factor is: intention.
A character can be a major screw-up, but if their intentions are good then they are going to be a good person. They’re trying to change, trying to be better. But if they are an average, or even nice character, and their intentions are bad, they are automatically malicious and shady.
Frank Castle is a man driven by vengeance for the death of his family. He is a man hellbent on punishing those who are to blame for his continual suffering. But, he is not a bad guy.
Now granted, he does violently murder many people, and of course that’s not ok in any sense of the word. But, they’re all bad people. The Punisher’s victims are rapists and drug dealers and murderers, people who will harm others with little self regard. The Punisher “prevents deaths before there is a possibility of them happening”. His intent is good.
Besides the fact that Castle is a mass murderer, he is also a decent and honorable person.
-He does not want his actions used to represent or diminish people with PTSD even though it will save him from going to jail
-He is willing to be tortured, but does not allow a dog to get hurt
-He is very respectful (of good people). Calls women ma’am
-He is aware that he is a killer and does not make excuses or play victim (ie family murdered in front of him, shot in the head at point blank (yes, he’s alive. long story), war vet)
-He kills a guy who offered him child pornography
-He has a Medal of Honor
In conclusion; Frank Castle, yes is a serial killer, but also is a good man with good intention, which is why I respect and love the character.
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Snape on the other hand….
First let me start off by saying yes, Snape’s character adds to the plot and JK Rowling wrote an interesting character. He has some redeeming qualities for instance, he did put himself at risk to help the Order, he did save Harry many times. But, like Castle, it comes down to intent.
Almost every action, every decision is driven by the man’s love obsession for Lily.
-He continually saves Harry only to help destroy the man who killed Lily/because Harry is the last piece of Lily
-He makes every Gryffindor’s life a living hell (which stemmed from his hatred of the Marauders)
-He joins in teasing students (bc he’s bitter?????)
-He bullies Neville because Longbottom inadvertently caused Lily’s death (but actually not at all)(some could argue because of Snape’s actions, he killed Lily)
-He uses his power as a teacher to assert dominance over fucking 11 year olds
-Traumatizes students enough to legitimately consider harming themselves to get out of seeing Snape (Sorcerer’s Stone chpt. 13 pg 217)
-He threatens to poison Neville’s toad (animal cruelty and probs not allowed at Hogwarts) and then takes points away from Gryffindor because he suspects (w/o proof) Hermione helped Neville save Trevor
-He continually bullies and verbally abuses a thirteen year old boy because the boy isn’t able to work magic quite right using his father’s wand
-Insults students (in this case Neville) right in front of other teachers (Remus) and classmates
-He becomes a student’s (someone who is supposed to feel safe around teachers) worst fear, even though said student’s parents were tortured to the brink of insanity, something he is constantly reminded of
-Snape then makes fun that he is the student’s biggest fear
-Immediately blames Remus when Sirius broke into Hogwarts
-Harshly criticizes Remus’ teaching style, infront of students who admire him
-Ignores Remus’ teaching plan and skips to werewolves
-Docks points for Granger “being an insufferable know-it-all” when she answered the question he asked
-He has students purposely write essays on how to kill werewolves for Remus to grade when he gets back from recovering from the full moon
-Blames Remus (and wants him locked up) for Sirius’s major fuck-up
-Takes credit for saving the Golden Trio from Remus
-OUTED REMUS TO THE ENTIRETY OF THE SLYTHERIN HOUSE/SCHOOL/PUBLIC/PARENTS/FUCKING WIZARDING WORLD
-Hints that he might poison 14 year olds to see if the antidote is correct
-Immediately blames Harry and his “determination to break rules” when his name comes out of the Goblet
-Makes fun of student’s appearance (“I see no difference” to Draco’s curse that enlarged Hermione’s teeth)
-Teases Harry for his (unwanted) attention from the press
-He provokes Sirius about being housebound, when Sirius would give his left arm and leg to go fight
-IS AN ENTIRE FUCKTARD DURING OCCLUMENCY
-He picks apart a minor’s (who has had no experience blocking people out nor has even been explained it very well) memories
-After seeing how the Dursely’s abuse Harry, still believe the child is self-entitled
-Mocks Harry’s first strong romantic feelings (?????)
-Through what JK has said, and context we can conclude that James, although a major dick, wouldn’t go as far as killing Snape. But Snape, casted an unstable, unknown curse (Sectumsempra) with the intention of extremely harming James. (also Snape is the only one with the counter curse) (Order of the Phoenix pg. 647).
-Offers to poison Harry since he’s out of Veritaserum
-Insults Tonks’ new patronus (saying it looked “rather weak”) that changed to a wolf to support/pair with Remus
-Docks 50 points from Harry, before the year even starts, for being late
-Makes fun of Ron’s struggle to apparate
-Claims Harry’s knowledge of Inferi v. Ghosts is something a five year old would know (kids raised by muggles don’t learn about magic until they’re 11???)
-Harry sees Snape’s memories of when Snape told Voldemort about the Prophecy and subsequently caused James and Lily’s death (the only thing Snape seems to regret)
These are just the main points that have been drawn up, a lot thanks to @greygryffindor
Now this post is purely a reflection of Snape and his actions. Not James’, not Lily’s, and not Sirius’.
That being said, I believe this commonly used quote perfectly sums up the whole James/Lily/Snape triangle:
“James was willing to sacrifice himself for Lily and Harry, while Snape was willing to sacrifice Harry and James for Lily.”
Back to the original point.
Castle is a bad man, with good intentions. Which is something I find very important in determining the worth of a character, and determining the worth of a person.
Snape was a bitter man, to which his intentions only ever benefited himself.
“‘After all this time’, Snape shows Dumbledore that he cared nothing for anyone who wasn’t Lily. He hadn’t grown as a person, or made any attachment whatsoever to the boy who constantly battled Voldemort because of him. He hadn’t made any real attachment to anybody, because he was still living in the past, driven relentlessly by the ghost of a young woman whom he never actually understood as a person - because if he had, he wouldn’t have thought she would find becoming a Death Eater impressive, let alone think she’d consider it acceptable to bully the son she gave her life for.
“Even worse, if he hadn’t mentally matured by now, he wasn’t ever going to. Because spying is a dangerous business and the chances were that Snape wasn’t going to last long once Dumbledore was gone (not a guarantee, there was certainly a chance for his survival, but realistically, not a large one). He was ‘always’ going to remain this same man, frozen permanently in a stage of bitter petty hate and punishing the innocent for the crimes of the dead until the day of his death. JKR herself confirms that Snape held onto his hatred and didn’t let it go until his literal last breath - far too late to do anything about it.”
- @lupinatic
And yes, the Marauders were petty, crude and obnoxious towards Snape. However, Snape was not innocent in the feud too. He was just as cruel back. The Marauders grew out of their teenage bullying, Snape’s aged with him.
The final issue I (currently) have with Severus Snape is his relationship with Lily.
He is obsessive, abusive, and unhealthy.
His persistence, even after her death, is honestly gross. She rejects him and he continues to pine over her, making her (and in this case, the reader) uncomfortable.
Part of the reason I have such a strong opinion about this, is because of how revered the Snape/Lily relationship is. His stalker behavior is romanticized and glorified as ‘true love’ and ‘devotion’.
But in reality, the basis of Snape’s personality are the fundamentals of rape culture and domestic violence.
No means no.
Bullying someone will not win them over.
Treating people badly does not equate to love.
Obsessing in private is not romantic.
Hurting people because you were hurt is not ok.
So many people praise Snape and view his actions as romantic and inspiring. This character is glorified as a hero and it scares me that some impressionable reader will mistake this man’s actions for proper behavior.
A character can act badly but still be a true person. A character can also act true but still be a bad person. It all comes down to intent. And Severus Snape’s intention is anything but good. -KP
See all this? Solid points.
“Those poor boys”
“She deserves to be punished too.”
“I’m not saying I support rape, but-”
“Sorry to say - she deserved it.”
“She put herself in harm’s way”
“But if she was fingered, then that’s not rape.”
“She ruined their lives.”
I'd forgotten all about Meg's lines here. Now that I think about it, I'm kind of wearded out by Disney casually bringing up rape culture. I mean, some of the villains have been kind of rapey but here it's actually verbalized. I don't know how I feel about this.
Harmonia: Uh, so how’d you get stuck with the…
Megareus: Pinhead with hooves? Well, you know how men are. They think “No” means “Yes” and “Get lost” means “Take me, I’m yours.”
Harmonia: O_O ?
(( Hehehe. ))
Man’s Greatest Fear
The God of the Sea,
Attracted to beauty is he.
His trident,
Encrusted with shimmering pearls.
The locks of his hair,
Braided with the finest of jewels.
The kingdom he built,
Is a radiant sight to see.
The deceptiveness of colorful anemones.
Schools of fish who dance and part with fluid ease.
The temples carved of gold and marble,
Are strong and study against the water’s breeze.
Hidden inside,
Who knows what could possibly be?
Poseidon grows bored of the picturesque scenery before him,
After all,
He’s known it for all of eternity.
Perhaps on land,
Someplace can be found more captivating.
So onto land Poseidon strolls,
Through mountain ridges,
Deserts,
Lake sides,
And past hills that roll.
The God the Sea has yet to find,
A place more beautiful than his home.
He finds himself within a forest,
With trees whose trunks stretch taller than the Titans.
Perhaps all the way to Olympus.
Poseidon was to be on his way,
Defeated from these last few disappointing days.
Until he heard a song,
A melody sung oh so sweet,
That he began to creep.
Along the vines,
His heart began to beat.
Pass the thorns,
That nipped warningly at his feet.
Over a thrashing river,
That calmed with a wave of his hand.
Before Poseidon,
Was a clearing,
With grass greener than green.
In its center was a temple, solid, stone gray.
The color of Athena.
From within it,
Came the voice,
So enchanting was it,
That he had little choice,
Poseidon soon had concealed himself,
Within the trees.
From the temple,
Emerged a maiden.
Whose beauty put Aphrodite’s to shame,
Whose beauty and song lit Poseidon’s heart aflame!
Her marvelous song ceased,
When her inquisitive eyes laid upon the spot where the man remained unseen.
Hesitantly,
The maiden stepped forward.
Poseidon simply couldn’t believe,
How the curls that cascaded down her back,
Framed her porcelain face perfectly.
How her eyes, a startling blue,
Contrasted with the rose petal hue,
Of her lips.
In was in that moment,
That moment,
Poseidon knew that this,
This maiden was made to be his.
And so that night,
He slithered into the temple.
Whilst the maiden was asleep,
Poseidon couldn’t keep,
His eyes nor hands from roaming,
From curve of her hips,
To those rose petal lips,
Which didn’t willingly grace his own.
Poseidon was not only a king,
But a God!
How dare this maiden tell him no?
Her pleas,
Her screams,
To the gods went unheard,
The man had done the unforgivable.
As a priestess of Athena,
The maiden’s chastity was integral.
Her life and soul had been torn apart,
By the man,
Who now went to Zeus,
The man sought to make her his by marriage.
Athena had arrived,
To her temple,
Defiled by Posideon.
The poor maiden trembled before her goddess.
“I cannot undo the horrible crimes,
Committed by he who wields the triton,
But I can prevent you from forcefully having to rule along beside him.
With snakes for hair,
And eye contact,
Every man who sees you will turn to stone.
This includes the one who wouldn’t accept,
That your answer was no.
With your very touch,
The weapons of man,
Will wither to the floor.
Dear Medusa,
You’ll strike more fear in man’s heart, than any man has ever known.”
To all parents, your sons are only special if you treat them like your daughters and vice versa.
Don't protect your daughters, educate your sons to treat women with respect.
Touching only with consent.
No means no.
But it is a fake...
mod
The video was taken from surveillance cameras. Three girls on the Paris metro were exposed to “harassment” (group sexual assault), which is a common crime in Paris by some young men to lure girls into these places… but unfortunately for them, the girls who were attacked this time were from the special paratroopers squad. In the French army… and well trained!
It was good for the culture of excitement and toxic masculinity to work on the portrayal of ken.
This is exactly how they attract the attention they actually want to avoid.
It's just real men just punching without sense or understanding.
As soon as there's a ken doll of Ryan Gosling, I'll buy it!
mod
Real men are feminists
You don't have to protect your daughters, you have to teach your sons to respect women
A boy tries to take
A photo
A kiss
A peice
Immortality
from the moon.
And she says
No
And the moon
Knows too well of
Mans' desire to
Capture and
Simplify beauty
That was not made
To fit
In the palm of a hand
Or
Under a pane of glass
Laid too close to skin
Suffocating.
Left
To collect dust
On the wall.
Just another galaxy of impossibility,
Tamed and
Framed.
And so
She is content to rest in poems
And in the gleam in lovers eyes
And in the path of midnight travellers.
At peace in the ocean of the night sky.
Free to slip back into the waves
At her leisure.
Dripping in wishes
Tossed into the well of the darkness.
Drowning in ethereal promises
Owed to
No one.
And in photographs she yields nothing,
Knowing all her magnificence
Will not be reduced to a pocket sized
Rendering of her infinity.
As though to say,
You cannot
Have me
You cannot
Keep me
You cannot
Recreate
My
Luminescence
By trying
To
Take it.
Did you think
I would make my
Cosmic unfathomability
Fit
Within 4 lines
For you?
Did you think
You could just
Take me home
With you?
Without
Asking?
As though to say,
Nice
Try,
Love.
As though to say,
In
Your
Dreams.
Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You say “no thanks.” Later, he brings you a soda. “I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.” For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your “no.” If you say “Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks” and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.
The art of “no,” continued: Saying no when you’ve already said yes. « CaptainAwkward.com
I love this post SO MUCH.
(via heavenearthandhoratio)
This is absofuckinglutely true. Predators deliberately find the women they can manipulate out of a “no” in order to pick the most vulnerable women to coerce. If you see a guy doing this to someone else, step the fuck in. Amplify her “no” if you see her struggling to assert herself to someone pushy.
I’ve done this for a total stranger. When I said “I think she said no” he started acting sort of aggressive and told me to mind my own business, but she was looking at me with panic and when I asked if she knew him she said no. After it was clear I wasn’t budging he left, and after he left she told me she had been uncomfortable and didn’t know what to do, and that he’d grabbed her inappropriately.
Protect each other. Not everyone is able to voice a “no” firmly and repeatedly. Learn the skill and protect others who are still learning it.
(via thedatingfeminist)
Things I don’t understand #2
The sheer fact that when some people get another people’s number and have to immediately call the number after getting it, to make sure it isn’t a fake number doesn’t make them double think their actions.
Huge TW: We are talking about s/a.
Dear Chai users.... Can y'all please stop making your bots non consensual? Like- For fucks sake?
You see, this is not a turn on, this is a literally crime.
No, no one would like to be raped, even if it's a bot. This is not nice, it's weird.
No means no, you creeps.
Having childhood trauma is being surprised when someone accepts your "no" as no, and doesn't push until you change your answer
Sometimes it's possible to take a look at pop culture and weep at what humans have inflicted on themselves.
WHY, DAMMIT??
Tw: slight mention of sa and sh
How often do I have to say no until you accept it?? How fucking often? Because I said it so many times, stop it. No. No. Nonononono. Why do you keep going? Why can't you just leave me alone? I am just trying to exist!
Why is it so terrible hard to just exist? Why is always everyone trying to make it so much worse? I just want to relapse. I just want to cut myself open. I want to see the blood. I want to feel the pain. I just want to stop thinking.
Is it so bad? Is it so bad that I am trying to survive? To shut my brain up? Is it so bad that I am not able to stop?
The Problem with Smut/Lemons
So I see a lot of these everywhere, and I just feel the need to speak out about something.
Now I understand why people write and read these, but these type of fics just come to a point where it's not okay.
Occasionally I'll see fanfictions that have rape or sex slave kinks with x reader fanfiction. It's not glamorous or okay to imagine being sexually violated. Sure, it may seem "okay," because you like that fictional character, but what if it really happened? IRL?
I know people, myself included, who have experienced some level of sexual violation and it's very traumatizing. To glorify it in this way, with fanfiction, personally annoys me. I respect everyone's freedom to read and write what they want, but we have to be careful about what we're promoting as a community. Especially in light of all the date rape and misogynistic issues we face today. Is this really something we want to be promoting? Why not write about respectable men who respect women?
Not to mention, isn't it disrespectful to the actors who play these characters? Imagine if you were an actress and you found out that men were masturbating to your photos or imagining f-ing you. If you feel uncomfortable when you get cat-called in the street or stared at by men, you ought to be HORRIFIED at these fics, in my opinion.
I just ask that everyone who sees this will try to think about this message and contemplate my point... pls. Have a nice night.