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Soooo, I may have done a thing and convinced my best friend to watch Supernatural with me for the first time.

I, personally, while not having even made it through the first three seasons (don’t hate me pls 😭), have been reading ffs about it forever and obviously tumblr tends to give things away…

So /I/ know that it ends with Cas and Dean dying prematurely, (and also about the love confession but we won’t go there 😢.)

And literally all the other shit these three have to go through.

But she has no idea.

And I’m kind of excited to see if she hates me by the end of this.

We haven’t even finished the first season yet (together) so we haven’t actually been introduced to Cas, but I have told her that there is ONE main pairing that is shipped almost universally within the fandom (and in canon…).

I asked her if she wanted me to tell her when Dean’s beau appears on screen but she said she was pretty confident in her gaydar (she’s bi) and not to tell. I did make sure to tell her he’s not introduced until season 3 or 4 (didn’t want to give away toooo easily) so she doesn’t try and guess every single man Dean has sexual tension with in the first few seasons 😂

Wish me luck and hope my friendship survives this betrayal 🥹🥹

reblog and tag your favorite hozier song, your love language and how old you were when you had your first kiss

Nah cuz y’all don’t understand how hard it is when, your toxic trait is self isolation, but your love language is physical touch and quality time 😭😭😭

This is the type of analysis I live for

Dean’s Love Languages

I’m sorry, guys, I usually don’t write meta, but I couldn’t stop thinking about this and had to get it out of my head?

So I’m sure many of you have heard about The Five Love Languages book by Gary Chapman, especially since it’s been around for years and years. 

To quickly summarize, the author theorizes that there are five types of ‘love languages’, which are methods that people use to express their love and affection. The five love languages are:

Words of affirmation (compliments, saying ‘I love you’, telling someone how much they mean to you, etc.)

Physical touch (touches of affection, anything from kissing to hugging to cuddling to just hand-holding, etc.)

Gift giving (giving tangible gifts, giving physical reminders of how much someone means to you, giving gifts that show you were thinking of them, etc.)

Acts of service (doing things/ services/ acts/ chores for someone, taking care of them, lending a hand or helping out, etc.)

Quality time (spending time with someone, giving them your undivided attention, having special ‘date nights’ or time with just the two of you, etc).

The author believes that most people tend to show love in the same way they prefer to receive love (ex: a person who likes to give gifts would be happiest to receive a gift in return), but I don’t necessarily agree with that. Based on everything I’ve seen and also personal experiences, I tend to think that most people have TWO love languages: the way they show their affection, and the way they want to receive affection.

Now again, all of this is theorized and not empirically studied in any way, so you can decide whether or not to buy into this. :) It may have some truth to it, it may not! But, regardless, it did get me thinking about my Supernatural boys and wondering: which of these love languages fit Dean Winchester?

So let’s take a look.

What are Dean’s love languages?

1. Words of Affirmation?

Okay, right off the bat, I’m gonna go on record and say no, nope, noooooope. Dean is definitely NOT a ‘whisper sweet nothings’ kind of guy. It took us 12 seasons to finally get a canon ‘I love you’ out of him, and that was to his mom. In a dream. And she couldn’t even explicitly hear him at the time. 

Now, that’s not to say Dean never says words of affirmation, because sometimes he does. But it’s usually in a tense life-or-death moment, or a someone-just-came-back moment, or a someone-is-brainwashed moment, or some other type of emotionally tense scene, you get the picture. Even then, I don’t think Dean says these things to show his affection. It’s more like he just… says them honestly, because they’re true? Almost like, to him, these are ‘duh’ type statements. Why make a big deal when he’s only stating the truth?

So yeah, Dean isn’t the type of person to show he cares through words. And not only that, he’s also very uncomfortable when anyone else does the same thing for him. Anytime Dean receives a compliment or someone says something affectionate, he tends to scoff, laugh it off, or ignore it.

And God forbid someone actually says they love him.

*crickets* *crickets* Awkward…

2. Physical touch?

A good case could probably be argued for this one, because Dean is actually a pretty touchy-feely guy. He hugs, he gives cutesy forehead kisses to women, he puts his arms around shoulders, he touches faces.

However, I recently read a great post by @thejabberwock about tactile!Dean, and I think this explains it much better, so I’m not gonna go in-depth on this one. :) Basically, I would just agree that Dean is just a tactile guy in general, in all areas of his life, and it’s not necessarily how he prefers to show or receive affection. 

Plus, when he’s the receiver of physical affection and doesn’t actually initiate it himself, it’s almost like he doesn’t know what to do.

3. Gift giving?

There’s only a few occasions where we’ve seen Dean give or receive gifts, and they’re pretty few and far between. In general, I think this is probably part of the hunting lifestyle - there’s just no need and/ or room for material possessions that don’t serve a purpose.

One of the few scenes where we do see gifts exchanged is when Dean stole some Christmas presents for Sam and then received the amulet in return.

However, I’d argue this scene shows that Dean DOESN’T use gift-giving as one of his love languages. For people who truly use gift-giving as a love language, there’s a lot of time and thought spent in picking the perfect gifts for someone. Instead, Dean just randomly takes whatever is under the tree, regardless of what it is. Even the amulet, which becomes so important to him, isn’t necessarily important because it’s a gift, but because it came specifically from Sam.

In this situation, it’s really not about the gifts at all - it’s about Dean trying to give Sam that ‘classic Christmas’ experience. I would argue that Dean is actually performing an ‘act of service’ for Sam here, while at the same time spending ‘quality time’ together, which leads me into the next two love languages…

P.S. I am purposefully NOT including the recent mixtape from 12.19 as an example of Dean being a gift giver, because in my opinion, it’s also an example of ‘quality time’ instead. Here’s my post explaining why I think so.

4. Acts of service?

This one, in my opinion, is DEFINITELY Dean’s love language for showing affection. 

Taking care of the people he cares about, doing things for them, and putting them first is just a huge part of who he is. He’s been taking care of others since he was four years old carrying Sammy out of their burning home. Actually, scratch that - he was taking care of others even BEFORE that, when he was comforting his mom after his dad moved out.

There are literally so many examples of him taking care of others. He cooked for Sammy when they were kids/ still cooks for him now. He raked leaves at Lisa’s. He offers Castiel coffee in the mornings. He fixes things. 

So, I would say that performing acts of service is definitely the way that Dean shows his love. Dean loves others by doing things for them. To Dean, actions speak the loudest. And after all, this love language is perfect for him: no awkward words or confessions necessary, no ‘chick-flick moments’, most of the time he still gets to be tactile and active and use his hands, and it’s subtle enough that he can always defensively play it off as just being helpful if he gets called out.

Alternatively, while Dean shows his love through acts of service, he certainly does not want to receive love through acts of service.

Taking care of others is role that Dean knows well and he’s good at it. It rubs him the wrong way when other people try to take that role from him, or try to take care of him for a change. He enjoys doing things for others, but isn’t so hot on letting other people do things for him.

5. Quality time?

Finally, quality time.

In my opinion, this is definitely Dean’s other love language, his love language for how he wants to be shown love.

Dean has a long history of abandonment issues, so it’s not surprising that quality time ends up being one of the most important things to him. We see this immediately in the very first episode, when Dean shows up to get Sam from college after ‘Dad hasn’t been home for a few days’. But why now? Sam’s been at college for four years. There’s been plenty of hunts in the meantime, John’s probably been on plenty of solo hunts. But as soon as he’s gone longer than usual and Dean isn’t able to reach him, he tracks down Sam. And through the rest of the season, even though Dean is worried about John being missing, it’s also evident that he’s hurt by it.

Dean does not do well alone. He needs the people he loves to be there with him. Hell, he even admits it himself:

So yeah, literally nothing else is as important to Dean as having his loved ones with him. Even if they’re not doing anything, even if they’re just watching crappy TV or drinking beer or driving in the Impala, he just needs them to be there. 

And when they leave or don’t want to spend time with him, it hurts him. We saw a lot of it recently, especially in season 12. Even though things were awkward with Mary at the beginning, he was hurt when she decided to leave the bunker. When Cas went MIA and didn’t answer his phone, he was upset not about why Cas was gone, just that Cas was gone.

That’s also why it’s such a huge deal to him to be accused of leaving - because, in his eyes, being left behind by someone he loves is the worst thing imaginable.

So yeah, I would argue that the best way to show love and affection to Dean Winchester is to just hang out with him, be with him, spend time with him - even if you’re not doing anything important, quality time means the world to Dean.

Also as I mentioned above, I also believe that the mixtape from 12.19 is a perfect example of Dean needing quality time, instead of gift giving, and here’s why (this explanation got kinda long and needed its own post, lol).

TL;DR summary:

Acts of Service and Quality Time are Dean’s two love languages. 

Performing acts of service is how Dean shows love to those he cares about. Basically, if Dean cares about you, he’ll show it by doing things for you, taking care of you, etc.

Spending quality time together is how Dean wants love from those he cares about. Basically, if you care about Dean, you should show it by spending time with him.

baffles me how my favourite people don’t know how much i love them. “oh sorry we don’t have to do this if it’s boring” bitch please, i love looking at cute ceramic kitchenware if it’s with you

Currently, (June 7,2024) I do not physically have a husband, but I know that he is out there somewhere and he and I are destined to become one sooner rather than later, but for now I have a journal designated to him. I write him randomly telling him about my day, asking him questions, planning dates, talking about our life together…

At one point in time I was certain that I would give him this journal one day so that he could read it, but the more I right the more I’m not sure lol. I don’t want bae to be mad at me for somethings he reads before he was actually even bae 😂

I’ve written some real raw things in there. Bae might not like it lol.

He has to know when he finds me, he is getting a real one. I’m honest. I love hard. I care. I’m patient (most of the time😜). I’m simply waiting for him to come swoop me off my feet.

I know that God has him handpicked for me and has handpicked me for him, I (we) just have to continue to be patient. At Gods perfect timing, he will make us one!

Until then, babe I’ll keep you updated in this journal dedicated to you!!!

We haven’t become one yet, and I already love you.!😍❤️

❤️,

Wifey

P.S.

Babe, I need for you to come quick… Chris Brown is on tour right now and you could be the amazing man I know you are and take me to see him in concert, or you could send me and my sista (Amber) to the concert so we can see him ❤️😂 love you bookie😂🙃❤️

P.S.S.

Oh and by the way, if you have a girlfriend right now, let her know that her time is ticking because YOUR WIFE will be with you soon.! Love you 😘 ✌🏾

┃𝓴. taehyung ￤best part.

thank you for the support on my recent post!! it really means a lot to mee (TT)

˚｡⋆✩ my favv daniel caesar song :) end is a bit rushed cuz I finished this at 3 am 😭 anyways enjoy!!

warnings: flare gun? lmk if there r moree

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it was a long day, you were extremely exhausted from your school work, you had two upcoming test and haven’t had the time to study for them yet. you and taehyung have been keeping in contact but haven’t seen each other in weeks, you miss him so much and you know he misses you too.

one of the things you miss about hanging out with taehyung is how he would come over a rant about his day while you organize or clean, you absolutely love it when taehyung comes over when you clean. it’s like a highlight of your day, listening to him talk about whatever on your bed. it makes your day 10x better, so when you got home you called tae and asked him to come over, taehyung answers and says he’ll be there in 20.

while you wait you decide to watch a romcom in your room but then remember how messy it’s been. you sigh from thinking about it and start cleaning but then hear a ring from the doorbell.

“wait a minute!” you shout loud enough for the person to hear from outside.

you rush to get up from the area you were organizing at and make yourself towards the door, you open it to find a pair of brown eyes looking at you with amusement. he holds in a laugh as he sees your disheveled hair and the way you lean against the door frame.

“yea, yea whatever…” you scoff, a smile forming on your face.

you tell taehyung about the mess but to your surprise he doesn’t seem to care at all, only wanting to be by your side and to talk to you. tae sits on your bed to tell about his day while you finish cleaning up the section in your room you were tidying up before.

“I know! and then she had the nerve to say, ‘im sorry but, sleeping in my class is unacceptable.’ like maybe actually teach and I won’t fall asleep??”

taehyung was complaining about how his history teacher had given him detention for dozing off in class. you completely agree with tae though, why become a teacher if your not gonna teach the class?

you hum in agreement while cleaning up your vanity from the plastic cups, forgotten press on’s, and books. you look around your room to see that your halfway done cleaning, a smile appearing on your face when you hear taehyung ask if your still listening.

“obviously I am, now keep talking about lucas. i didnt know he left the group!”

he keeps talking about many topics after this actually.. like how some girl at the school got caught making out with the p.e teacher, and how some freshman left a flare gun in his locker and it went off. breakfast club reference??

you enjoy it though, listening to him talk about everything while you were cleaning. it makes you feel calm and more productive, in some way it’s sort of comforting.

so when the time comes for you two to say goodbye it makes you upset, so taehyung cheers you up by pinky promising that you both will make time to see each other again. he kisses your pink to seal the promise and with that he leaves while waving goodbye.

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Lowkey surprised, it used to be words of affirmation 😅

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So that explains some fic choices I’ve made😭

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It's nearly Father's Day. How do you plan to celebrate? What special things do you have planned?

I always romanticised my life , i always felt that i wanna get lost in a love story novel , for a sure thing like that ... Like this anyways<3 <3 <3 I have been obsessed with romance and i really hope ... to find someone , a cute boyfriend , with whom I'll show all my affection and giving nature , no matter what ;) The thing is that i need a sweet romantic person , who showers me with compliments , appreciates me , high empathy nature and dreaming vibes !!! Plans for the future gosh , i want someone to have this vibe, i absolutely hate lazy people who can't make up their minds or making at least a goal to achieve :) Romance , long live .... Forever in everyone's heart :)

– Audrey Hepburn

Dad loves relaxing with a beer.

Come cuddle up, snuggle up to my belly and relax with dad.

Celebrating Togetherness: A Guide to Family Day Activities Shaina Tranquilino February 20, 2024

Family Day is a special occasion that emphasizes the importance of spending quality time with our loved ones. Celebrated on various dates around the world, this day serves as a reminder to cherish and strengthen the bonds within our families. Whether you are surrounded by family or spending the day alone, there are countless ways to make the most of this special occasion.

Activities for Families:

Outdoor Adventures: Embrace the beauty of nature by planning an outdoor adventure with your family. Whether it's a hike in the mountains, a picnic in the park, or a day at the beach, spending time in the great outdoors can create lasting memories.

Creative Family Projects: Engage in a creative project that involves the entire family. This could be a DIY home improvement task, a family art project, or even a collaborative cooking session. Working together towards a common goal fosters a sense of teamwork and unity.

Board Games and Puzzles: Gather around the table for a friendly board game competition or work together to solve a challenging puzzle. This is a fantastic way to have fun, promote healthy competition, and strengthen family bonds.

Movie or Game Night: Create a cozy home theatre atmosphere by watching a favourite family movie or playing video or board games together. Prepare some snacks, and enjoy a relaxed and entertaining evening with your loved ones.

Family Photoshoot: Capture the moment by organizing a family photoshoot. Choose a scenic location or set up a backdrop at home, and take turns posing for pictures. These photos will not only serve as cherished memories but also provide an opportunity for creativity and self-expression.

Activities for Those Alone:

Self-Care Day: Use Family Day as an opportunity to focus on self-care. Treat yourself to a spa day, read a book, or indulge in a hobby you love. Taking care of your own well-being is essential, even if you're spending the day alone.

Connect Virtually: If your family is not physically present, take advantage of technology to connect virtually. Schedule a video call with your family members, share stories, and celebrate the day together, even if you're miles apart.

Volunteer or Give Back: Consider spending part of your day giving back to the community. Volunteer at a local charity, donate to a cause you believe in, or perform random acts of kindness. Helping others can bring a sense of fulfillment and connection, even when alone.

Explore Your City: Be a tourist in your own city. Visit a museum, explore a new neighbourhood, or try a restaurant you've never been to before. Taking the time to discover new things can be a rewarding and enriching experience.

Reflect and Set Goals: Family Day can be an excellent opportunity for self-reflection. Set aside some time to reflect on your achievements, goals, and the relationships in your life. Use this introspective time to set positive intentions for the future.

Family Day is a wonderful occasion to celebrate the joy of togetherness. Whether surrounded by family or spending the day alone, there are countless ways to make the most of this special day. By engaging in activities that bring joy, connection, and personal fulfillment, you can create lasting memories and strengthen the bonds that matter most.

I want to spend a lazy day with someone.

And when I day someone I mean him.

Getting up late, I'll cook breakfast and wash the dishes while he watches YouTube or even better plays guitar and we are just lazy together.

Bathing together. Rubbing his back and braiding his hair while watching some stupid movie.

Baking together and telling each other off for eating thr dough. Little top of the head kisses and then I'll cook us a good dinner and when I clean he is there hugging me from behind.

We go to bed, maybe reading a boon to one another and just existing together.

Cuddling and living.

"Ed wants to help!" Edward announced, bounding into the kitchen.

"With dinner?" Jet was dumbfounded. No one ever offered to pitch in on chores - though Jet had caught Spike sweeping once or twice and had seen Faye's hands wrinkled in a way that indicated prolonged exposure to water which proved she was the one who occasionally did the dishes whenever Jet himself got distracted after meals in the bonsai room or repairing the zipcraft.

But help with dinner? Hell, Spike wasn't even allowed in the kitchen if cooking was his intent and Jet had the distinct impression Faye was clueless about how anything went together when making a meal.

He eyed Ed suspiciously. She was prone to distraction but also a lot smarter than probably anyone else on board. He doubted she had much kitchen experience but everyone had to start somewhere and she was clearly interested. That was the first step - wanting to be in this room.

"All right, Ed. I don't have much left to do for dinner tonight, but tomorrow you can join me for the full prep if you still want to help." He offered.

She looked briefly crestfallen before flashing him a smile. "Okay!"

No way could he let that flicker of sadness fester.

"Hey wait, there's one thing I could use your help with tonight. I've got to keep an eye on the meat here in the pan. But I need some garlic to put a zing on our meal. And peeling garlic is a lot more fun than peeling vegetables, which is what you'll be busy doing tomorrow." Once he determined how safe it would be to arm her with a knife, that is.

Ed beamed at him. "Garlic - got it! How does it work?" She looked around the kitchen, clearly unsure what she was trying to find.

Smiling, Jet pointed to a mesh bag hanging from a hook above the little table he used to cut everything up. "Those are garlic bulbs. They've got all sorts of layers keeping them together and protecting all the little pieces called cloves that we need for dinner. What you wanna do is take one and start twisting it until it sheds the skin. Then you'll be able to start twisting each little piece one by one to get the outside off of those parts. What we're after is the hearts of those clumps."

"Oooh, garlic hearts, good for smarts!" Ed set to her task with gusto, standing over the garbage with a bulb in her hands. "It's good for lots more, you know." She abruptly yelped and Jet nearly jumped out of his skin.

"What happened? You okay?" He was immediately at her side and trying to ascertain what made her scream. There was no blood anywhere he could see.

"Sharp! The garlic doesn't want to be naked." She remarked. She held a clove up and tapped the tiny end. "That part hurt Ed."

"Oh shit, Ed, I should have warned you. I usually crack them with my metal fist - I forgot about that part."

She hadn't cried aside from her yell of surprised pain. In fact even now she seemed more curious than anything else. Jet watched as she began squeezing the cloves more carefully and judged it was safe to return to the pan of meat on the burner. Still, it would probably be smart to give her something else to focus on while she worked.

Though his eyes were elsewhere, he gave Ed the majority of his attention. "So Ed, wanna tell me more about the health benefits of garlic?"