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How & Why Gatekeep Yourself

I loved this tweet so much that I sat down and brainstormed how to gatekeep myself. ✨💋🍷

This is something that has been on my mind since entering the business world and representing our family business at events, in negotiations and meetings.

As a naive 20-something, I had to make a conscious effort to learn not to share too much about myself and family.

Even if I had a row with my sibling that same morning, at the afternoon industry mixer I'll only talk about how harmoniously we work together.

People in business, as well as any acquaintances, are not your friends. Most people you encounter daily as a young woman don't have your best interests in mind.

Here are the minor details you can share with anyone that seem personal but don't reveal anything significant about your life:

Favorite foods: Mentioning your favorite snack, dessert, or a specific dish you enjoy.

Music preferences: Sharing a song or artist you’re currently listening to.

Pet peeves: Mentioning small things that annoy you, like loud chewing or slow internet.

Daily routines: Talking about how you like your coffee or a morning ritual like reading the news.

Hobbies: Discussing a hobby you’re interested in, like gardening, knitting, or collecting something simple.

TV shows/movies: Mentioning the show or movie you’re currently watching or have recently enjoyed.

Childhood memories: Sharing a funny or light story from your childhood that doesn’t reveal much about your personal life.

Weather preferences: Talking about how you prefer rainy days to sunny ones, or vice versa.

Travel dreams: Mentioning a place you’d like to visit one day, without giving away any travel plans.

Favorite color: Sharing your favorite color or type of clothing you like to wear.

These details create the illusion of being open without revealing anything that could be used to deeply understand or analyze your life.

Gatekeep yourself, stay classy. 🎀🪞🩰🦢🕯️

Level-Up Tip: Sometimes, It's Best to Let People Learn on Their Own

One of the biggest breakthroughs in my self-improvement journey was realizing that not every battle is mine to fight.

It's easy to feel compelled to step in when you see someone making mistakes or heading down a questionable path. Here's a truth that might surprise you: you don't always have to intervene.

When I stopped trying to correct everyone - whether it was offering advice on health, debunking misinformation, or simply trying to steer someone in a better direction - I found my own peace.

It wasn’t my responsibility to manage other people’s choices. Once I let go, my life improved significantly.

You might wonder, “Isn’t it wrong to let someone make a mistake if you can prevent it?”

Consider this: how often do people truly appreciate advice, no matter how well-intentioned? More often than not, it’s met with resistance or brushed off as rude. In social climbing, this is your death sentence.

The truth is, people rarely focus on the wisdom behind your words. Instead, they often fixate on your tone or the fact that you pointed out their missteps in the first place.

So, rather than burning your energy on advice that will likely go unheeded and offend others, sometimes the best thing you can do is step back and let them experience their own journey ... Even if it includes a few stumbles.

In the end, your peace is priceless. Save your energy for your own growth, and let others walk their paths, even if it means learning the hard way.

There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.

(via purplebuddhaquotes)

Success Starts with Every Challenge, Not from the Comfort Zone

Shaina Tranquilino

November 28, 2023

In our pursuit of success, it is natural for us to seek comfort and familiarity. We tend to gravitate towards situations that make us feel safe and secure. However, contrary to popular belief, true success is not achieved by remaining in our comfort zones. It starts when we embrace challenges head-on and step outside the boundaries of what we know. In this blog post, we will explore why success begins with every challenge and how stepping out of our comfort zones can lead us on a path towards growth and achievement.

1. Embracing Challenges Fuels Personal Growth:

When faced with challenges, whether they are personal or professional, we have an opportunity to learn and grow. Stepping outside our comfort zone means pushing ourselves beyond what we think we are capable of. It forces us to tap into untapped potential, discover new skills, and develop resilience. Each challenge serves as a stepping stone towards personal development, enabling us to become better versions of ourselves.

2. Overcoming Challenges Builds Confidence:

Success is often accompanied by self-confidence, which comes from tackling obstacles head-on and overcoming them. By willingly taking on challenging tasks or pursuing opportunities that stretch us beyond our limits, we prove to ourselves that we can handle difficult situations. As we conquer each hurdle successfully, our confidence grows stronger, allowing us to take on more significant challenges in the future.

3. New Perspectives Lead to Innovation:

Remaining within our comfort zones restricts our exposure to new perspectives and ideas. When confronted with challenges that require us to think differently or approach problems from alternative angles, innovation becomes inevitable. The discomfort pushes us to explore uncharted territories and find creative solutions that were previously unimaginable. This ability to adapt and innovate is crucial for achieving success in today's rapidly evolving world.

4. Building Resilience through Adversity:

Challenges are not always easy; they can be daunting and even overwhelming at times. However, facing adversity head-on helps us build resilience - the ability to bounce back from setbacks. Success is not a linear path; it often features roadblocks and failures along the way. By embracing challenges, we develop the mental fortitude to persevere through tough times, learn from our mistakes, and come out stronger on the other side.

5. Expanding Networks and Opportunities:

Staying within our comfort zones limits our exposure to new people and opportunities. Challenging ourselves by stepping outside familiar territories opens doors to new networks, collaborations, and growth opportunities. It allows us to connect with like-minded individuals who have faced similar challenges or have expertise in areas where we lack experience. These connections can provide guidance, support, and potential partnerships that may accelerate our journey towards success.

While the comfort zone provides stability and familiarity, true success lies beyond its boundaries. Embracing challenges is the catalyst for personal growth, innovation, resilience-building, and expanding horizons. It requires us to step into uncharted territory, face discomfort head-on, and push ourselves beyond what we thought possible. So let us embrace each challenge as an opportunity for growth, knowing that genuine success starts when we dare to leave our comfort zones behind.

Don't Give Up on Your New Year's Resolutions – Keep Pushing Forward!

Shaina Tranquilino

January 24, 2024

Every year, as the clock strikes midnight and we bid farewell to the old year, millions of people around the world enthusiastically embrace the idea of making New Year's resolutions. These resolutions often revolve around self-improvement, whether it be losing weight, quitting bad habits, or pursuing personal goals. However, statistics show that by now, many individuals have already abandoned their resolutions. But don't lose hope! In this blog post, we'll explore why people tend to drop their resolutions and provide you with some valuable tips to help you stay motivated and committed throughout the year.

1. Reflect on your initial motivation: When we first set our New Year's resolutions, there is usually a strong sense of determination and excitement driving us forward. Unfortunately, as time progresses, these feelings tend to fade away. To combat this decline in motivation, take a moment to reflect on why you initially made those resolutions. Remind yourself of the positive changes you were hoping to achieve and how they would enhance your life. This reflection can reignite your passion and remind you of what truly matters.

2. Set realistic expectations: One common reason for abandoning resolutions is setting unrealistic goals from the start. It's important to remember that change takes time and effort. Break down your resolution into smaller, achievable milestones that act as stepping stones towards your ultimate goal. Celebrate each milestone reached; this will keep you motivated and encouraged along the way.

3. Find an accountability partner: Sharing your resolution with someone else can significantly boost your chances of success. By finding an accountability partner—a friend, family member, or colleague who shares similar aspirations—you create a support system where both parties hold each other accountable for staying on track. Regular check-ins can serve as reminders and encouragement during challenging times.

4. Embrace setbacks as learning opportunities: Life is unpredictable, and setbacks are bound to happen. Rather than viewing them as failures, consider these moments as valuable learning opportunities. Identify the reasons behind your setbacks and use them to adjust your approach moving forward. Remember that resilience and perseverance are key to achieving lasting change.

5. Celebrate small victories: Often, people become fixated on the end result of their resolutions, neglecting the progress they have made along the way. Celebrate each small victory—no matter how insignificant it may seem—as it signifies progress towards your ultimate goal. Rewarding yourself for milestones achieved will create a positive reinforcement loop, motivating you to keep going.

As we enter a new phase of the year, it's common for people to drop their New Year's resolutions due to various factors such as loss of motivation or setting unrealistic expectations. However, by reflecting on your initial motivation, setting achievable goals, finding an accountability partner, embracing setbacks as learning opportunities, and celebrating small victories, you can break free from this pattern! Don't give up on your resolutions; instead, keep pushing forward with determination and resilience. Remember that true change takes time, but the rewards will be worth the effort in the end!