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Level-Up Tip: Sometimes, It's Best to Let People Learn on Their Own

One of the biggest breakthroughs in my self-improvement journey was realizing that not every battle is mine to fight.

It's easy to feel compelled to step in when you see someone making mistakes or heading down a questionable path. Here's a truth that might surprise you: you don't always have to intervene.

When I stopped trying to correct everyone - whether it was offering advice on health, debunking misinformation, or simply trying to steer someone in a better direction - I found my own peace.

It wasn’t my responsibility to manage other people’s choices. Once I let go, my life improved significantly.

You might wonder, “Isn’t it wrong to let someone make a mistake if you can prevent it?”

Consider this: how often do people truly appreciate advice, no matter how well-intentioned? More often than not, it’s met with resistance or brushed off as rude. In social climbing, this is your death sentence.

The truth is, people rarely focus on the wisdom behind your words. Instead, they often fixate on your tone or the fact that you pointed out their missteps in the first place.

So, rather than burning your energy on advice that will likely go unheeded and offend others, sometimes the best thing you can do is step back and let them experience their own journey ... Even if it includes a few stumbles.

In the end, your peace is priceless. Save your energy for your own growth, and let others walk their paths, even if it means learning the hard way.

What are some sentences people can say to sabotage me in career, productivity, personal goals, creativity, beauty etc?

Here are some sentences that people might say to undermine your efforts in various areas of your life:

💀Career

"Are you sure you're qualified for this job?"

"I heard they're not hiring/promoting right now."

"It's so competitive; you'll never get noticed."

"Maybe you should lower your expectations." (I HATE THIS ONE with a fiery passion)

⚰️Productivity

"You don't need to work so hard; it's not worth it."

"Why are you wasting your time on that?"

"I don’t see how that’s going to benefit you."

"You can always do it later."

💀Personal Goals

"You’ve tried this before and it didn’t work."

"It sounds too ambitious for you."

"What’s the point of this goal anyway?"

"Are you really committed to this?"

⚰️Creativity

"That's a strange idea; no one will understand it."

"I don't think you're creative enough for this."

"Isn't that too risky?"

"It’s been done before; why bother?"

💀Beauty

"Why are you even trying? It doesn’t suit you."

"You're never going to look like that."

"It’s too expensive to keep up with that."

"Beauty isn’t everything; maybe focus on something else."

These kinds of statements can be particularly damaging because they often target your self-doubt and fear. This can hinder your progress in various aspects of life.

If you realize someone is sabotaging and manipulating you, the best course of action is distancing yourself from them to protect your peace. The second best is using these same statements against them.

How to counteract sabotage and manipulation attempts?

Educate yourself on everything that's important to you, so that you can make informed choices and decisions.

Learn how to make decisions without dwelling, overthinking etc.

Trust your decisions and don't seek input from others once you've decided.

... Therefore it is meet

That noble minds keep ever with their likes,

For who so firm that cannot be seduced?

(Julius Caesar, Act 1, Scene 2)

So it's an age old thing to keep in check the type of people you decide to pour yourself into huhh:⁠-⁠\. You can literally feel your energy being drained when you're around people you shouldn't be around!

Don't sabotage your future peace because familiar chaos is comfortable.

PSA:

You cannot put everyone on. You will drown trying to rescue the people who were never taught to swim.

This is why I had to leave Twitter, Sterek Twitter specifically. Now on tumbler I interact with a lot fewer people in my fandoms and I prefer it that way. I also avoid group drama that way.

everyone does want to talk about how fans of [thing] are the worst on tumblr or twitter or tiktok specifically and it’s like Well your first mistake is interacting with people en masse in regard to something you enjoy/care about. you gotta leave that shit with like a handful of trusted guys lest you get jumpscared every five seconds and/or develop blood pressure problems