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I really wish this article existed when I was in my 20s. It might have saved me from the 13 year slow crawl from coming out to starting HRT that plunged me into a deep depression, destroying my mental health and most of my finances. I wish I had the awareness and confidence then to stand up for myself and transition so much sooner.

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The "How Not To Be Seen" Problem

Heterosexual transgender men are wonderful💫

Faced with the current state of the world, I was once again thinking “why can’t they just leave us alone?” And I still think that, but it hit me that that’s what they- the fearmongering bigots, that is- think and say as well.

But what do they want? Let’s look at what the queer community want, in detail. The ability to not be killed or imprisoned for expressing our identity. To be able to access life-saving medicine and therapy. To be able to get married. These are not abstract- these are real threats we face, propagated by specific people and policy. This is our daily lives.

What’s on the line for them? In their own words, their way of life, their culture. What does this mean? What is their way of life? If you press further, it just circles back- their way of life is excluding and ignoring queer folks existence.

This group, by nature, seek dominance and segregation. We want acceptance and inclusion. This is immediately obvious if you are paying any attention. We want gay couples to be allowed to go to prom. They want only straight couples at prom. We want gay couples and trans people to be allowed to exist peacefully on TV and media. They want only straight, cisgender people. They actively campaign for this, and treat the very idea of acknowledging us as people as not only obscene, as funny, so ridiculous it’s humorous. Plainly, we want to exist, while homophobes and transphobes don’t want us to. Their safety and well-being is not on the line. Ours is. What’s on the line for them is the ability to not see what might be a potential gay couple once while taking a walk and never again. For their kids favorite book series to not have one line regarding a characters transgender identity. For their not to be a gay couple mentioned among the straight couples in the newspapers marriage section. And, most importantly, for their sense of dominance and control not mentally challenged. Of course gay marriage doesn’t affect them, but it challenges their view of the world where only their way of life is right and true. It challenges what they’ve grown up believing. And that, truly, IS scary. They are truly scared- but they are not truly in danger.

Their most concrete compliant and demand, which has picked up steam extremely quickly in the past year, is to let the children be. Don’t groom the children. Don’t force the children to be trans.

This is a decades old panic shifted from primarily targeted towards gay men, to primarily focused on trans people. ‘Think of the children!’ has been used for a long time, and to some extent, that’s perfectly understandable- I, too, want children to be safe and happy. But this argument is, at best, projection. The people being forced to live in a body that makes them miserable is not cisgender kids- it is transgender kids. Transgender people, including kids, are the ones much more likely to be groomed or assaulted. There ARE kids having their genitals changed without their consent- intersex babies, a practice that once again targets people whose gender doesn’t match certain ideas, and a practice largely condemned by trans activists. This is not happening to 8 year old boys who wanted to wear a dress and are now having surgery on their privates. That is a fantasy, put simply, it is a lie.

Queer people want freedom. Queerphobes want suppression. Queer people want equality. Queerphobes want dominance. Queer people want truth. Queerphobes want misinformation. And no amount of lies, no amount of changing history (“we were fine with gay marriage, but now you’ve taken it too far!”), no amount of colorful cartoons seen on Twitter or Facebook is going to change that.

I’m cooler, I’m better, and I’m fucking hotter 💪🏾💪🏾

GRRR I NEED TRANS MASC X TRANS FEM STORIESSSS!!! WHERE ARE THEY!?! WHEEEEEERE

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happy pride month <3

What?? Lots of women, including pansexual/bisexual/queer women, date men already and are looking to do so...so even if she wasn’t dating you, she very well might be dating some other guy.

so as a queer cis woman myself (who is not looking to date ANYONE but has in the past), I am pretty sure that dating a trans guy who is self-aware enough to really live out an intention to be kind and respectful and stuff would be pretty great. Lots of women like men in theory, but don’t like abusive men. You can be not-that! You could be really great for somebody, as hopefully she would be for you. <3

i just saw a trans dude like My Age say some shit like "im a trans man and im bisexual so theoretically i could date women but then i would be subjecting them to having to date a man and i dong want anyone to suffer that much" and ive seen so many similar videos on my fyp from trans boys so if ur a trans boy reading this i love u its okay to be a man. ur not a monster ur great transitioning wont make you abusive or anything i promise its okay to be a man

Just a friendly reminder that all trans men are real men

Friendly reminder that

-trans men are men

-trans men are not, in any way, shape, or form, women

-trans men who are attracted to men are gay

-trans mlm are not straight girls fetishizing gay relationships

-trans mlm are not just cis girls with internalized misogyny 

-trans mlm are valid and good

-i hope every trans mlm reading this has a good day 

Japan becomes first country in the world to elect a transgender man to a public office

Tomoya Hosoda, 25, won 21 out of 22 seats to become a councillor for the city of Iruma, in the central region of Kanto.

Last week, Japan made history by becoming the first country to elect an openly trans man to public office. Tomoya Hosoda will now serve as a councillor for the city of Iruma, and he said he wants to focus on helping LGBTQ people and other minority communities, such as elderly and disabled populations.

“Until recently, people have acted as if sexual minorities do not exist. We have many hurdles to overcome, but I hope to live up to everyone’s expectations,” he told Stonewall, an organisation which supports LGBTQ people in Japan.

He added having received many messages of support and gratitude from the LGBTQ community ever since he announced his candidacy.

Mr Hosoda is the second transgender politician elected in Japan after Kamikawa Aya, a transgender woman who was elected as a Tokyo municipal official in 2003.

Good news all around. Congratulations, sir! 

reminder trans men aren’t just cute, they’re also handsome and hot as hell

There’s a trend on tumblr that is more than rampant, and since it’s been going on for so fucking long i feel the need to speak on it.

Tumblr hates trans men.

“But thehomosexuals!” you might be screaming. “I see positivity posts every 5 minutes on my dash! They’re always saying trans men are valid!” And to that I’d ask you how many of those were about trans men, and how many of those were about feminine trans men.

If you said that more than 90% of those posts are for feminine trans men, then you are definitey using the same website as I and thousands of other trans men are.

Now, feminine trans men are so fucking valid and they deserve all the love and support, but when every single positivity post is about feminine trans men….. that kind of reaks of something more malicious. While it’s true that feminine trans men would face more discrimination for wanting to adhere to traditionally feminine things while also identifying as a male, there’s something more insidious going on.

It’s not an unknown fact that tumblr has ill will toward every sect of men. It’s went beyond the type of “down with cis” joking attitude to actual malicious will. And in my opinion (and others opinions as well, believe me this isn’t the first time i’ve brought this up to anyone), this is bordering on fetishization and erasure.

there are people on this website who are more than happy to praise feminine trans men for their femininity, but the minute a trans man wants to be more “traditionally masculine” theyre seen as disgusting and horrible and adhering to toxic masculinity. there are people on here who believe that feminine trans men are superior and Braver. there are people on here who think masculine trans men deserve fuck all and could basically be the cisgender people of the transgender community. there are people on here who use feminine trans men as a token that they don’t hate men, when really theyre attracted to the “female” aspects of their identity and erase the fact that they are men from their minds.

you heard me right. there are people on here who use the femininity of some trans men to erase the fact that they are still men. there will be post after post saying that men who look like women are wonderful. not valid as men, not manly as hell, they’re wonderful. and thats true, but theyre still men. theyre not your UwU babbies to love and cherish like little newborns. they are not women. they are not for your eyes. they have their own identity.

again, im gonna end this with the fact that feminine trans men are wonderful and valid and theyre still manly as hell even if they adhere to all “traditionally feminine” things. they are still men. they are still valid.

and using feminine trans men as your scapegoat for “not hating men” while simultaneously only harping on the “female” aspects of their identity is transphobic.

TIPS FOR SHOPPING FOR YOUR TRANS BOYFRIEND

Just some tips I’ve learned over the years to help with my boyfriend’s dysphoria

•vertical stripes (makes you seem taller) •uneven patterns such as polka dots (hides any chest bumps) •jackets, sweaters, or vests (layers hide curves. But be sure they’re not too long. Oversized clothes make you seem smaller. Hem should be no more than 2 inches below waist) •graphic T shirt (make sure design is higher up on the chest to hide any chest bumps) •pants (straight fitted. Go up a size. Try to get little to no breaks.) •round or pointed toed shoes (square toed shoes make you seem shorter) •hats, glasses, necklaces, bow ties, skinny ties (any accessories should be kept to the upper half of their body to draw the eye up and make them seem taller) •binders (best binder brands I know of are Underworks, and G2cb) •shoelifts (amazon has really good cheap ones) • shop online for smaller men’s clothes (rue21, Zara, American Eagle, Express Men, Asos, H&M)

Shout out to my fellow petite trans brothers out here

To the trans guys who are so thin their binder will NEVER work to sculpt “pecs” for them.

To the trans guys who go to try on XS clothing sizes and still end up never having clothes that fit snugly enough.

To trans guys who have to custom order men’s jeans because they rarely carry a size small enough for them, or to trans guys who just wear “women’s” jeans since it’s easier.

To trans guys who can eat all the “right” foods and do all of the specific exercises and still just… don’t ever beef up in the right ways because it’s not what their body is willing to do. 

To trans guys who are so small that even other afab people laugh when comparing the size of their hands or their shoe size to yours.

To trans guys that have height dysphoria worse than anything else sometimes.

To trans guys who know they’ll still be small/short even after starting T, and just have to learn how to cope with it.

To trans guys with a metabolism too high to be anything other than skinny.

To trans guys who don’t want to have the image of a soft, skinny, “smol” trans boy but always end up lumped in that category anyways.

To trans guys who get called ‘adorable’ in anything short of a leather jacket with bloodied knuckles.

To trans guys who do fit a softer stereotypical image and don’t mind that! Who embrace flower crowns and pastel sweaters and feel like they’re trans the “wrong” way!

To trans guys who can wear all the passing-guidebook clothing, change their gait, and deepen their voices and still get misgendered.

You’re all awesome and even other trans guys sleep on y’all but you’re just as much of a man as the 6′0″ well muscled guys you always see people praising. You’re going to find a way to feel comfortable with your presentation some day, I promise.  Whether that means starting HRT, getting surgeries, learning to self love, or a mix of any of these! You’re going to be happy with yourself some day, even if it takes a little bit of work. Hang in there.

Idk what trans man needs to hear this but you're NOT evil or disgusting for being a man. You do NOT have to suffer for the sins of the patriarchy committed by cis dudes. Being a man doesn't invalidate the misogyny you experienced growing up or experience now. Being a man doesn't mean you deserve to be isolated. Being a man doesn't mean you're inherently predatory or scary. You didn't "choose" this, and finding your true self is NOT "betraying the community" because you happen to be a man and/or masculine rather than a woman and/or feminine. You ARE allowed to be upset when people "affirm" your gender by malgendering you.

You DO deserve a community that uplifts you. You DO deserve to experience trans joy. You DO deserve to have your voices heard and your struggles recognized. Wanting the bare minimum of solidarity is NOT "making everything about trans men".

Hey, cis women who say "I wish I was a man but definitely not a trans way, haha! I would never be a man :)"

I say this with all the gentleness in my heart: It is okay for you to be a man. If you want to be a man, you can just be one. You also don't have to stop being a woman to be a man. Multigender people exist. You can be a man and a woman at the same time. Or you can be just a man, or a non-binary man, or non-binary, or something entirely different. You can do and be whatever you want and whatever makes you happy.

Becoming a man is not a betrayal of womanhood and feminism. And everyone who makes you feel like it is an absolute asshole, and you should not ever listen to them. You do not have to push your own happiness aside for other peoples' comfort.

If you want to be a man, try it out! See where it gets you. Maybe it turns out that you really weren't trans, or not a trans man but something else entirely, and that's fine, too. Maybe it turns out you are a trans man. In any case, following those thoughts might get you to a happier and better place in the end. And if you turn out to be happier as a man than you were as a woman, that is wonderful.

Please don't feel forced to stay a cis woman for feminism - any feminism that mistreats or hates trans men and transmasculine people is bad feminism. Being a trans man or transmasc is not a moral failure.

Trans manhood and masculinity are wonderful, and you deserve happiness. And if you find that happiness in manhood/masculinity, you don't deserve to be shamed or harassed for it, and you should not be made to feel the need to put yourself down for it, either.

You ever be so trans thelat you and the clit crew of your friend group be talking about periods and your cis guy friends almost join in?

; it'd be criminal not to reblog !! BECAUSE TRUE ✨

Trying to prove a point to my transphobic parents

Reblog if trans men are REAL, VALID AND HANDSOME MEN, NO MATTER HOW THEY CHOOSE TO PASS

Reblog if trans women are REAL, VALID, AND BEAUTIFUL WOMEN, NO MATTER HOW THEY CHOOSE TO PASS

And finally, because it's a part of my argument for this point, and also because they are,

Reblog if nonbinary and genderqueer people in general, are REAL, VALID, AND GORGEOUS PEOPLE, NO MATTER HOW THEY PASS