Being Sick - Tumblr Posts
Being sick is an excuse: Episode 1
I get migraines with auras ( mine are sparkly lights and blindspots) He made me drive to get him beer after I came home from work early with a migraine. I could barely keep my eyes open, but I did it. And the completion of the task showed that it really wasn't that bad. I needed to stop over reacting.
Being sick is an Excuse: Episode 3
I had mono about 9 years ago. I was awake for 4ish hours a day, and just could not function for the rest. He could have threatened me with a knife and I wouldn’t have woken up or moved.
I spent my 4 hours of consciousness taking care of him while he sat on his computer and played video games. Cooked his dinner and lunches (I couldn’t swallow without immense pain, so I don’t think I ate?), did laundry, washed dishes, cleaned the bathroom, and then passed out.
Most people would help/comfort their partner. Him?
“Well if you’re going to be allowed to slack so much, you need to make up for it.”
Being sick is an excuse: Episode 5.
Once I had a bronchial infection and I was coughing terribly. I couldn't sleep, my head was always pounding, and I wasn't eating much.
He insisted we have sex. I was literally having coughing fits as it happened. When he finished he said "Well that wasn't much fun" and then sent me to sleep on the couch so I wouldn't infect him.
Can you imagine?
Being sick is an Excuse: Episode 6
He hated when I took time off work when I was sick. (As a side, he is ABSOLUTELY the asshole who goes to work sick as fuck, not caring who he spreads it to. And no, he’s definitely not living paycheque to paycheque).
On one occasion I was feeling particularly bad. He threatened that I better not take a sick day. So I “got ready for work”, left, called into the office, and then went to the doctor’s. After getting my script, I found a parking lot far away from our place where I was sure he wouldn’t find me and tried to sleep until he left for his afternoon shift. I jumped any time my phone made a noise because I was terrified he would find out I wasn’t at work.
For the record, I had a handful of paid sick days. There was no reason for me to have to go.
I’m in a healthy relationship now, and this is absolutely fucking ludicrous.
Being sick is an Excuse: Episode Seven
I hurt my shoulder at the gym today. The pain is bad enough that I'm feeling nauseous.
My partner went to get me muscle relaxers, and I'm in the shower filled with doubt. Is the pain really that bad or am i making it up.
Imagine questioning the existence of your own pain while feeling pain.
If that doesn't sum up your brain after abuse I don't know what would.
You hit a certain point in the healing process where these memories scandalize and enrage you.
It's progress.
Being sick is an excuse: Episode 5.
Once I had a bronchial infection and I was coughing terribly. I couldn't sleep, my head was always pounding, and I wasn't eating much.
He insisted we have sex. I was literally having coughing fits as it happened. When he finished he said "Well that wasn't much fun" and then sent me to sleep on the couch so I wouldn't infect him.
Can you imagine?
Hey students, here’s a pro tip: do not write an email to your prof while you’re seriously sick.
Signed, a person who somehow came up with “dear hello, I am sick and not sure if I’ll be alive to come tomorrow and I’m sorry, best slutantions, [name]”.