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if we taught people that gender is an abstract concept, you'd probably see less hatred for xenogenders. 'How is your gender a dog that makes no sense' the same way your gender is man, or boy. Maybe I've just intellectually ascended or something, but the idea of someone being a pupgender neogirl just doesn't confuse me.

Stop treating concepts like 'man' and 'woman' as more solid than 'mushroom' or 'cleaver' in terms of gender, because gender in itself is abstract. It makes so much less sense to enforce the 'invalidity' of xenogenders because all these rules are made up.

RESPECT PEOPLE'S PRONOUNS FFS

Someone going by neopronouns (even ones you don't like) does not mean that you use they/them pronouns instead!

It means that you use the person's pronouns!!

i love y'all and y'all are so cool! 💓

much love to it/its and neo pronoun users who know they can never use their pronouns in person, who never have them used irl, whose gender expression and identity are only respected online. i see y'all and i love y'all

hey guys i really appreciate that we’re starting to recognize that neopronouns and nontraditional genders (like stargender and voidgender) are A Thing and Good, but i always see that in the context of “if a fourteen year old wants to use xe/xir pronouns then that’s not BAD” and. i’m not being nice anymore, fuck you. don’t equate our genders with youth and ignorance. the message you’re sending is that we only identify this way because we don’t know any better, and the intent doesn’t matter when the message received is as horrible as that. get better.

(quick clarification: this post is specifically about neurodivergent transmeds refusing to use people's neos out of an apparent disrespect and using their neurodivergence as an excuse to legitimately be mean. feel free to add more stuff onto this in the replies!)

hey guys don't mean to be queer on main but i think people using their neurodivergency as an excuse to misgender people isn't ok actually.

i've seen stories of quite a few people who use the fact that they have ADHD (or some other condition that may cause memory issues) and can't remember things well as an excuse to "forget" someone's neopronouns, even after being asked by that person multiple times to refer to them with those pronouns. this isn't ok on so many levels.

first of all, i think it's incredibly guilt-trippy to make someone feel bad about accidentally being ableist by expressing themselves, when in reality, they haven't done anything wrong at all. using funky and obscure pronouns is not ableist in any way just because some people might have issues remembering them, and i think the take that neopronouns are ableist, especially for that reason, is an incredibly ridiculous and purely situational excuse to be mean.

that's like if someone told you their name, and then you got mad at them for using that name because you struggle to remember it and you demanded them to use a name that's easier and more convenient for you to use, rather than the name that the other person feels comfortable with. that's not an accommodation, that's just being an asshole.

second of all, some neurodivergent people (such as autistic people for example) struggle with change and complex concepts like language and pronouns. it's hard to get used to using neopronouns or someone changing their pronouns sometimes, especially when it happens for the first time because you're so used to it. however. finding change hard is NOT an excuse to misgender someone for your own comfort. someone's deeply personal identity should not be the cost of your own convenience, and refusing to acknowledge and respect that identity by not doing the bare minimum that is using their pronouns is incredibly close-minded and harmful.

third of all, the way someone chooses to express themselves is literally none of your business. someone uses pronouns that are confusing and seem grammatically incorrect to you? none of your business. someone's using "stereotypical" pronouns that "make the queer/autistic community look silly"? not your problem. we're all a little silly.

if you're neurodivergent and you find neopronouns, or any pronouns, difficult to remember or understand, here are some tips you can try instead of being mean:

make a fun little chart of people's names, their pronouns and how to pronounce them (ex. Name | Pronouns | Pronounce)! colour code them, use stickers and drawings, anything that will help you remember which pronouns someone uses. stuff like whiteboards and docs can work well for people who frequently change their pronouns or have a lot of them. making the chart fun, personalised and memorable can help a lot with memory issues for a lot of people.

try practising saying or typing their pronouns, whether that's in the mirror or in group chats. there's some really good pronoun dressing room websites that help illustrate how to use more obscure pronouns in conversation.

feel free to ask people! if you can, ask them what their pronouns are and how to pronounce them. i'm sure they will not be mad and will gladly help you learn :) (though please remember to not out someone and their pronouns if they are in an unsafe place. make sure they feel comfortable first before asking/telling someone about their pronouns because some spaces can be really bigoted and unsafe unfortunately.)

make a character that has neopronouns! making an OC that you get attached to can help you familiarise yourself with the concept and referring to that character frequently with their pronouns!

hopefully this is helpful. if you end up seeing anyone in the neurodivergent community use their neurodivergence and an excuse to misgender someone, please block them and don't start an argument. bigotry will not be tolerated in this community or on my blog.

disclaimer: this post is NOT saying that having memory issues/issues with change makes you a bad person, nor does it make you intentionally ignorant and rude. this post is specifically about people who willfully refuse to respect and use someone's correct pronouns on the basis that they're neurodivergent and find them confusing, and choose to intentionally misgender people for their own comfort/convenience.

edit: also!! i should add that this post isn't saying that nd people who legitimately find neopronouns as a concept difficult to grasp (such as people with learning disabilities) are bad people either! that was something i didn't think of when writing this because this post is more about neurodivergent transmeds/transphobes i've seen in the queer and nd communities specifically, but yeah!! i think accommodations absolutely should be made if a neurodivergent person finds themselves having communication difficulties related to neopronouns because some disabled people actually cannot use them. for extra clarification i have added a disclaimer at the beginning of this post. (thanks to @zolf for pointing this out in the notes)

[Image description: A piece of whiteout-poetry, superimposed over a photograph of white flowers growing against the sky. The resulting text reads, "follow me if ur pro mogai, use neo pronouns. you are people."]

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follow me if ur pro mogai, use neo pronouns you are people

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Fuck sake, this is getting annoying

When will writers realise that calling your piece 'Genderneutral' than slapping us in the face with "Good girl" or "Good boy" isn't yk AT ALL GENDER-NEUTRAL, how would you like it if I wrote something and called it 'Female reader' than called you everything gender related under the sun that wasn't at all close to female? You'd hate it wouldn't ya? Cause at this point, ya'll wanna fight istg.

I've seen so many people in trans spaces be like "We can't seriously expect to be respected or taken seriously when there's people using X label or X pronouns" and I find that bonkers. Why are you pandering to people who won't respect others regardless of what they do with their own identity.

Aghhh I'm pissed rn.

I just saw a tiktok where someone (I'm not gonna be naming any names and I will use they/them to refer to this person as to not expose who they are) was talking about how they "are chill with she/her, he/him, and they/them but with anything beyond that they're out", and it automatically pissed me off.

It is not your job (especially if you do not use those pronouns or aren't part of the community) to police people's pronouns and say what's "right" or "wrong". Let people do whatever the fuck they want and be reffered to as whatever the fuck they want.

Neopronouns and people that use neopronouns are completely valid and deserve more recognition and visibility.

Anyway, fuck this person.

(Also side note: if you do not support neopronouns, kindly get off my page ✌)