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okokokok listen, trans oikawa-
A little message for terfs from a trans man:
WE DON'T WANT YOUR PITTY
We are not your "lost misguided sisters"
We are not gender non confrorming women.
We are not repressed lesbians, many of us are gay, bi, ace, pan, or many other sexual orientations
We did not transition to avoid sexism, I have experienced far more transphobia then I ever did sexism.
We did not transition to avoid homophobia, cis LGB people are more accepted than trans people.
Detransitioners, while still desirving of their own spaces, don't get to speak for us
Now do us all a favor and go fuck yourselves.
I hate britain and i hate twitter and i hate TERFS. i have to live with this bullshit of terfs calling trans women rapists and there being a bbc article covering it from their perspective and now a trending hashtag βIStandWithLesbiansβ which is just filled with blatant transphobia.
this shit makes me miserable but more than that it makes me grieve for all my my trans siblings who had to deal with this not just online; the too many of us who wonβt get to live our full lives because of constant hate and exclusion we face from βfeministsβ and the rest of the queer community.
The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT. The T belongs in LGBT.
just a reminder: men are cool as fuck and there is nothing shameful, gross or unfortunate about being attracted to them. fuck anyone who tries to tell you otherwise, i love yall <3
- a lesbian whos tired of seeing posts like this derailed
They can't define women either. Woman is, like every other word, defined by how we use it. By understanding. By agreement. Ask any transphobe to define a woman, their default may be "anyone with a vagina" or "adult human female" as the terfs say. Both of these comepletely ignore the large percentage of the population that are intersex, but also require more definitions! Define a vagina. Define a female. Define an adult. Define a human. I bet you can't, not without referring to something else you also need to define.
A woman is whoever calls themself a woman, because if a woman is anything else, then nothing is a woman (which perhaps may be better, in the long run!)
i think that all the people who argue about gender by saying "the woke left cant even define a woman" need to get hit with the "who are you" question by a buddhist monk. no, thats your name, who are you. no thats your profession, who are YOU. no you fucking idiot thats your species, who are YOUU. dumb bitch u cant even define yourself
is there a word for the intersection of ableism and queerphobia?/gen
cus given my own experiences and also how some ppl who r fine w/ other queer ppl will b rly vocal abt hating any labels that nd and mentally ill ppl come up w/ 2 describe their experiences w/ their queerness that is impacted by that e.g. cloudgender [a label 4 ppl who find it difficult 2 pin down specifics of their gender bc of dpdr]
not 2 mention ppl using us being nd or mentally ill as a way of saying that we can't possibly know our own identity a prime example of this being jk rowling attempting 2 use autistic afab trans ppl like myself against the rest of the trans community by saying that we're "being lead astray" and using the fact that we're autistic 2 try 2 make it seem like we don't know who we r
For those who don't know, if a transphobe says:
-"think of the children"
-"gender-affirming surgeries are mutilating"
-"trans women are a danger to 'real' women"
They are trying to scare/anger you into making you believe their arguments, because their arguments hold no true weight in the real world.
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(quick clarification: this post is specifically about neurodivergent transmeds refusing to use people's neos out of an apparent disrespect and using their neurodivergence as an excuse to legitimately be mean. feel free to add more stuff onto this in the replies!)
hey guys don't mean to be queer on main but i think people using their neurodivergency as an excuse to misgender people isn't ok actually.
i've seen stories of quite a few people who use the fact that they have ADHD (or some other condition that may cause memory issues) and can't remember things well as an excuse to "forget" someone's neopronouns, even after being asked by that person multiple times to refer to them with those pronouns. this isn't ok on so many levels.
first of all, i think it's incredibly guilt-trippy to make someone feel bad about accidentally being ableist by expressing themselves, when in reality, they haven't done anything wrong at all. using funky and obscure pronouns is not ableist in any way just because some people might have issues remembering them, and i think the take that neopronouns are ableist, especially for that reason, is an incredibly ridiculous and purely situational excuse to be mean.
that's like if someone told you their name, and then you got mad at them for using that name because you struggle to remember it and you demanded them to use a name that's easier and more convenient for you to use, rather than the name that the other person feels comfortable with. that's not an accommodation, that's just being an asshole.
second of all, some neurodivergent people (such as autistic people for example) struggle with change and complex concepts like language and pronouns. it's hard to get used to using neopronouns or someone changing their pronouns sometimes, especially when it happens for the first time because you're so used to it. however. finding change hard is NOT an excuse to misgender someone for your own comfort. someone's deeply personal identity should not be the cost of your own convenience, and refusing to acknowledge and respect that identity by not doing the bare minimum that is using their pronouns is incredibly close-minded and harmful.
third of all, the way someone chooses to express themselves is literally none of your business. someone uses pronouns that are confusing and seem grammatically incorrect to you? none of your business. someone's using "stereotypical" pronouns that "make the queer/autistic community look silly"? not your problem. we're all a little silly.
if you're neurodivergent and you find neopronouns, or any pronouns, difficult to remember or understand, here are some tips you can try instead of being mean:
make a fun little chart of people's names, their pronouns and how to pronounce them (ex. Name | Pronouns | Pronounce)! colour code them, use stickers and drawings, anything that will help you remember which pronouns someone uses. stuff like whiteboards and docs can work well for people who frequently change their pronouns or have a lot of them. making the chart fun, personalised and memorable can help a lot with memory issues for a lot of people.
try practising saying or typing their pronouns, whether that's in the mirror or in group chats. there's some really good pronoun dressing room websites that help illustrate how to use more obscure pronouns in conversation.
feel free to ask people! if you can, ask them what their pronouns are and how to pronounce them. i'm sure they will not be mad and will gladly help you learn :) (though please remember to not out someone and their pronouns if they are in an unsafe place. make sure they feel comfortable first before asking/telling someone about their pronouns because some spaces can be really bigoted and unsafe unfortunately.)
make a character that has neopronouns! making an OC that you get attached to can help you familiarise yourself with the concept and referring to that character frequently with their pronouns!
hopefully this is helpful. if you end up seeing anyone in the neurodivergent community use their neurodivergence and an excuse to misgender someone, please block them and don't start an argument. bigotry will not be tolerated in this community or on my blog.
disclaimer: this post is NOT saying that having memory issues/issues with change makes you a bad person, nor does it make you intentionally ignorant and rude. this post is specifically about people who willfully refuse to respect and use someone's correct pronouns on the basis that they're neurodivergent and find them confusing, and choose to intentionally misgender people for their own comfort/convenience.
edit: also!! i should add that this post isn't saying that nd people who legitimately find neopronouns as a concept difficult to grasp (such as people with learning disabilities) are bad people either! that was something i didn't think of when writing this because this post is more about neurodivergent transmeds/transphobes i've seen in the queer and nd communities specifically, but yeah!! i think accommodations absolutely should be made if a neurodivergent person finds themselves having communication difficulties related to neopronouns because some disabled people actually cannot use them. for extra clarification i have added a disclaimer at the beginning of this post. (thanks to @zolf for pointing this out in the notes)
hey just a reminder because i keep seeing this garbage pile up in the lgbtq+ community: people are not inherently bad for being a man and being masc. it is not a bad thing to identify as a guy and do masculine stuff and present yourself in a masc way. the view that being a man somehow makes you bad/abusive/creepy/bigoted hurts so many men in our community (gay men, trans men, literally everyone actually) and it's just a ridiculous statement in itself. gender does not equal morality, belief or action. people are not predisposed to badness because of their gender. that is a silly idea and i thought we as a community progressed past this but apparently not.
i might get some hate for this depending on where this post goes but i think lesboys are so valid and the discourse about them is so ridiculous. like you guys shouldn't have to deal with all that and it frustrates me that people throw hissy fits over an identity that literally does not affect them at all.
"but men cant be lesbians-" wrong. butch lesbians and trans men have a really closely connected history with each other that practically intersects and you should really do some research on that before you make blanket statements, not to mention that gender and sexuality is weird and wobbly and fluid and a very personal experience. it means a different thing to each person. being a man can be something completely different and saying stuff like this ignores people like demiboys, demigirls, genderfluid and genderflux people etc. these people will really preach "demolish the gender binary!! love is love!!" until someone's relationship with gender and sexuality is a little too freaky for them to handle and be challenged by lmaoo
"ohhh but what about the cishet men who say they're lesbians to prey on women-" YEAH WHAT ABOUT THEM????? THIS AIN'T ABOUT THEM BRO!!!!! this argument also REEKS of terfy "trans women are just predatory men!!!111!!1" rhetoric and it grosses me out. yeah some men are gross and do try to pull this but that does not negate someone's entire identity completely just because of a few bad actors, you know that right? actual black and white behaviour.
queer discourse is silly and i don't know why it's a thing. just let people exist. it isn't that hard. we have worse things to worry about than whether someone calls themselves a lesboy or not. i think we need to unplug our ears and yank our heads out of the sand and remember that the queer community is what it is because of our unique and amazing diversity. arguing over labels like school children isn't gonna help that. damn.
I like the world "girlboss".I like using the term "girlboss".No im not a terf.Yes,I exist