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More malls need to have sensory places or quiet spaces or something.
Today I was at the mall and felt on the verge of crying from over stimulation from all the people at the mall so I went into the bathroom in the hopes of a quiet space and it was quiet for a while until a family with 5 screaming children came in and yeah I understand they need the space too and kids can’t always control themselves and it’s difficult for parents to control their kids emotions and what not so it’s absolutely not their fault but goddamnit that pushed me over the edge and I wound up crying and shaking for quite a while from all of the overwhelm.
We need to have sensory safe spaces for people to access for both kids and adults
My roommate and I had an interesting conversation a while ago that I’ve been ruminating over. We were discussing how our brains handle stress, and I said something that threw him off guard - that I can act independently of how I’m thinking. That didn’t make sense to him; he said that he can’t do that, but he can stop the thought in question and not let it push him. I’ve been fascinated by the discussion ever since, and I think I’ve finally fleshed out my explanation enough to describe what’s going on.
It explains a lot of things.
What’s at play here is where the conscious rift between input and actions lies. Let’s say someone throws a rock at you. Why not throw the rock back? Because that’s mean, and we should be above that or something - whatever, it’s just an example. But there’s two ways of preventing it that vary from person to person:
Getting irritated and maybe wanting to throw the rock back, but choosing not to.
Choosing not to get irritated at all, and thus not wanting to throw the rock back.
The person in the first example may not be able to control their emotion, while the person in the second example may not be able to control the action following their emotion. I am the first, and my roommate is the second. It’s almost like two different kinds of consciousness.
For me, emotion and thought are undercurrents for my actions. They lead me in a particular direction if I’m not thinking about it, but I don’t have to follow it. However, I can’t control the emotion itself. It does whatever it wants to. This can be particularly bad when it is really strong, because it becomes difficult to swim against the current (to continue the analogy).
For my roommate, the emotion or thought inevitably shows in whatever actions follow. But he can choose not to feel it at all, thus preventing the action. Like with me, he can be overwhelmed by strong emotion, but it’s more like holding up the roof when it caves in.
This may seem trivial. It leads to the same end, so what’s the difference? Well, whenever I’m told to just not be stressed or to stop telling myself something, I can’t do that and it annoys the heck out of me. But it’s not meant to be mocking, that’s how the other person does it. It’s a distinct disconnect between two very different styles of handling the situation.
I may have simplified this quite a bit; there’s a huge difference between thoughts and emotions (for one), and there’s probably more ways of handling it in general that I don’t yet know of. Nevertheless, it’s very interesting to think about. It gives me a lot more respect for the different ways people think and feel.
I can’t imagine that the number of people who can do both of these is very high, but I bet they have supreme self-control and self-awareness.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and in this case it's entirely in my eye and oh my god I can't see anything else
Dear time,
please be so kind and slow down.
Sincerely,
A desire to live without an overpowering and paralysing stress about never living life because I wanna live it slowly and peacefully
Jacob Elordi photographed by Isabella Elordi for Man About Town: 2021, Chapter I.
AJR new album is great and I wanted to make something in their style to commerate it. And the feelings it provokes in me/reasures that it's okay to have them. Cause man their lyrics really resonate with me and remind me that I'm definetly not the only one dobbering in the middle of the vast deep ocean. - - - - - - - - - - - #ajr #ajrbrothers #ajrart #ajrmusic #art #watercolourpaintings #neotheater #neotheaterart #neaotheateralbum #bloodsea #overwhelming #originalart #feelings #nextupforever #mylegos #karma #100baddays #myfavouritecolourisyou #wowimnotcrazy #red #theclick #burnthehousedown #goodmusic #causeimweak and #whatswrongwiththat #soberup #theentertaimentishere (bij Netherlands) https://www.instagram.com/p/BxAz2pdFKcC/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1symddsn68za0