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The blinds were always drawn

And the windows always closed. He told me he didn't like people looking in and up in his business. Really he needed some place to hurt me where no one would see or hear.

Can you take a hit to your person without calling out? How about to your heart?

Strike One.

In the first year we were together, he cheated on me with his sister’s girlfriend.

Yes, you read that correctly.

I bet she was asking for it.

I mean, you can totally tell it's what she actually wanted. Her mouth was saying no, but the bruises on her skin where he grabbed her and held her against her will were saying yes.

Seriously @staff - why do i have to keep doing this?

I am a survivor of domestic violence. I am a survivor of sexual violence. I have said " let go of me" and been ignored. Stop showing me abuse and calling it sexy.

Uninstalled. Not ready.

I’ve just impulsively installed Tinder. Someone talk me out of this.

im gonna try and keep this short so people dont look at this and go "long post i wont read"

i just wanna talk about how lunar and sun are treated so differently even though they are both trauma and abuse survivors (im not arguing about whether sun isnt or not, because he is and im not diving into that)

lunar is what people usually think of when they think of "trauma survivor." when he gets triggered he panics, he runs, and he cries.

sun is *not* what people think of when they think of trauma survivor. when sun gets triggered he panics, he fights, and he gets violent

(ever heard of fight or flight?)

sun is *still* a trauma survivor and how he reacts is a *trauma response. and it is a common response.*

with trauma disorders its common for the people with them to become irritable and violent when upset. *that* is what sun is experiencing.

stop demonizing a traumatized person for having unpalatable trauma responses. its wrong and ableist towards trauma survivors who are violent and angry because theyre scared.