Oh But Not All Narcissists Have NPD So Im Not Really Demonising You By Calling Every Narcissist An Irredeemable

“Oh but not all narcissists have NPD so I’m not really demonising you by calling every narcissist an irredeemable monster”

Fuck off. Just fuck off. That’s like saying not all autistic people have autism. It makes no sense and is completely redundant.

"i support pwNPD!"

then people get pissed when we have low empathy or low sympathy, people get pissed when we act egotistical, people get pissed when we show traits of NPD that are 'stereotypical'.

do u support NPD or do u just "support" NPD to be seen as a good person?

the Study of Wild Narcissists (accurate version)

Reporter: And here we see the narcissist in its natural habitat. This creature is nervous and easily startled so we approach it carefully.

Reporter: When approaching your narcissist, make sure to appear unthreatening and friendly. Extend a hand and give it a compliment or ten. Let it know it can trust you and it’s appreciated.

Reporter: Once the narcissist is comfortable with you, make sure to keep reminding it that you are not a predator. Whilst displaying as predators, many narcissists have the instinct of prey. Be gentle and patient.

the Study of Wild Narcissists (ableist version)

Reporter: Oh my god! It’s a wild narcissist! I bet it was stalking me. We need to scare it off. Quick, charge at it!

Reporter *wielding a stick*: It’s growling at me! Do you see that? What a vicious and evil creature… I’m going to prod it and see what happens.

Reporter: It’s attacking! What an unfair and unexpected reaction! We should have done more research on how to kill it!

Reporter: Oh, wait. False alarm, guys. That wasn’t a narcissist. That was a random, slightly mean creature. Damn, this is the fifth time that’s happened.

Reporter:

Reporter: But what’s that over there? Is ThAt A nArCiSsIsT?

Sometimes I find it great that I have low/no empathy and "doesn't care" that much about people since I don't have to spend energy trying to manage feeling other people's emotions and use said energy to do something actually substantial, such as actually fucking helping said person

Sometimes it's just... kind of horrible... Everyone expects you to have a "normal" amount of empathy and puts words into your mouth about how you're supposed to "feel other people's emotions" and "feel grief over other people's suffering" or else you're a "bad" person. Like yeah, I am helping this person because if I have to hear them complain one more time I'll fucking lose it, but I still helped them. Does that make me a bad person? No, get a fucking grip

This is why narcissistic abuse is not only an incorrect phrase but an incredibly harmful one. You search for npd recovery and get a bunch of bullshit about porn and how we’re all unloveable.

It goes really really really fuzzy (usually gradually but sometimes not) and then when the fuzziness fades and I feel like my brain is clear again x amount of time has passed and x has been fronting for however long

Open ended question for other systems: how does it feel for you when you're not the one fronting?