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This is why narcissistic abuse is not only an incorrect phrase but an incredibly harmful one. You search for npd recovery and get a bunch of bullshit about porn and how we’re all unloveable.

Honestly it baffles me that anyone can sincerely write out a step by step guide on how to give someone with severe mental illness a purposefully triggered breakdown and still think that they’re the ones in the right.

“Ah yes let me go through a list of their symptoms and cultivate situations in which I can trigger their worst nightmares but don’t worry it’s fine because I’m an empath”

What the actual fuck. If you replaced narcissist with “depressed person” or “person with anxiety” people would be screaming at you. Being abused does not justify you abusing others.

Hurting a Narcissist (from Quora)

There are 3 main things that will hurt the narcissist:

1. Being abandoned.

A major fear of the narcissist is abandonment. They hate being alone as they rely on others to validate them and provide them with attention, affection, admiration, and just general engagement.

Narcissists need people, but the increasing dilemma is that it is becoming near impossible for narcissists to be abandoned completely, as many have turned to online chats, social media, and they’ve created a virtual reality for themselves that feeds them with an unlimited supply.

So even though they lack physical interaction, which for most of us would be difficult, the narcissists on the other hand can happily settle for the narcissistic supply that they receive online. It provides them with enough fuel to feed their deluded fantasies and sick obsessions.

2. Being exposed

The second thing that hurts the narcissist real bad is being exposed. We all know how important the fake image is to them, and the many lies that they’ve told to maintain it.

Basically, the narcissist’s whole goal in life is to deceive people with their fake image. So if they are exposed for the liars, manipulators, and downright imposters that they are, that is their world shattered before their eyes, and it cuts them deeper than any words can express.

3. Being insulted

The third and final thing that will hurt the narcissist is being insulted. Narcissists know the power of words. After all, they use words to manipulate, deceive, and hurt people. The tricky thing is that to a narcissist, a critique is an insult, telling them the truth is an insult. So this is something that happens a lot, but anything that more or less attacks their false image will be seen as an insult.

This is a genuine question, so please don't just jump to being hateful and assuming anything about my beliefs.

When an abuser is particularly self-centered or narcissistic (not necessarily NPD, there just isn't a better English term for that level of self-obsession that I know of), it always seems they abuse in the same way. "It's like they're using the same handbook," I've heard before. As a victim of an abuser who followed all those same steps, here's my question:

What's a better term than narcissistic abuse? Because ableists will obviously use the term to demonize all people with NPD, but without a good term for it, it's harder for victims of this subsection of abuse to find one another and stand together.

(PS, tags are mostly for getting this to more people who may have an answer)

I've not been in a good place mentally. I find my mental health deteriorating day by day. There are too many things I'm struggling with. I feel so bogged down, constantly in my fucking head, I just want to jump off a cliff tbh. Childhood trauma really fucks you up like nothing else? It has been resurfacing and i find myself crippling and spiralling. I can't imagine how my 12 year old self must've coped up with it.

When I was really tiny, I was extremely wise. I used to behave like a 50 y/o when I was barely 10/11, carrying the guilt, the shame and the baggage of my abusive family. I was often appreciated and praised for being mature. I was deeply conditioned to please all my family members. I would be patted whenever I gave into their decisions, let them choose for me and went with their choices. Everytime I spoke up for myself, took a stand, I was criticized.

I don't know if it's my Neptune and chiron in the 4th house or Lilith and Capricorn in the 4th house, but my childhood was a nightmare. It was so traumatic that my body panics even today when I think about it. As a family ritual, my family would engage in fights everyday where 10 people would yell at each other at the top of their voices.

I have always been a sensitive child with deep emotional wounds, I often found myself taking the role of a mediator, trying to calm them down. I could not stand conflict. I hate conflict. I hate fighting with someone. It triggers the fuck outta me. I feel so trapped and suffocated. I'm 22 now and nothing has seemingly changed.

I feel terrible looking back, knowing I was never allowed to live my childhood like other kids. I don't know what people love about their childhoods. Why they'd want to be kids again. I would never go back if I had a time machine. I have always wanted to grow up, I'm so grateful I did. I can't wait to be financially independent.

I slipped into depression after my family kept taunting me about wasting my university fee. I was called a disappointment and a waste of space. Why are people allowed to have kids when they don't know how to raise them? Why am I surrounded by so many narcissists who rely on so-called "reputation" and would rather let go of their dreams to do what the society expects them to do?

I don't know where to start healing. I am such a mess. I hate being here. I hate I ever desired to reincarnate in this household. Honestly? Give me my childhood back. I fucking hate this. I don't want to be responsible. I grew up too quick. My mind can't catch up to all the stress. I just want to be there for myself and do something that makes me happy.

Also, in my observation I've found that narcissists never change. I once told my mom I wanted to die and had a panic attack, I fell on the ground crying and begging her to talk to me. She was so numb. She told me I should stop crying if I didn't want the neighbours to think my family was inflicting some kind of pain on me.

Words will never do justice to the sleepless nights I've spent, being there for my parents when they should've been there for me instead. I'm so bitter, hateful and vengeful. I will not forgive them for what they did. I will not forgive them for passing their trauma onto me. I will not forgive them for snatching my childhood away from me, for dismissing my PTSD, for treating me like shit when all I deserved was unconditional love.

You know what sucks the most? When you've been through so much and still choose to love, trust and fall for someone? But they end up repeating the same cycle, treating you like doormat, mirroring your wounds and taking advantage of you. Breaking you in infinite ways. Healing is so painful. Healing comes at a huge price. I don't know what's easier. Hoping to heal, or wanting to fucking die.

I'm sorry for the vent, I needed an outlet.

God I’m so tired of the narcissistic puritans. Narcissistic abuse doesn’t imply all narcissists are abusive, assholes, it just sheds light on how people with that mindset abuse others. As someone with an abusive and narcissistic mother I’m not going to stop talking about what she did to me. Get fucked.

Don’t like it, get the fuck off my page.

just got narc abuse shit on my dash so heres a reminder that its not a real thing and does nothing but harm people who have to go through hell every day. narc abuse truthers genuinely self reflect instead of blaming everything bad ever on evil disorder

Y’all in my psychology class we are talking about mental disorders this week. Tell me why my teacher showed a celebrity example of each disorder, and for NPD she showed HITLER. For aspd she showed Marilyn Manson! The rest was like Selena Gomez and shit. Is that really the best example of NpD and aspd? She said on Wednesday we will talk more about NPD.

Should I tell the class I have NPD? I don’t know what to say I want to defend myself but I suck at debates. Any advice?

I think you should definitely talk to your teacher about the whole hitler npd thing and maybe give them some better examples to use instead but that completely sucks and I think if you want to tell people, you don’t have to defend yourself, you didn’t chose to have npd

That’s a good idea. Yeah I’m really not that open about it irl becuase of the stigma. The issue with the celebrity thing is that there really ISNT any openly NPD celebrities, at least not in the way for example howie mandel is open about OCD. It’s sort of a loop. There is stigma so nobody says they have NPD, which means there are no good role models for NPD, and the stigma gets worse.