Aro Problems - Tumblr Posts
"love is love" until it doesn't include sex
"love is love" until it lives in separate beds
"love is love" until it is queer platonic
"love is love" until it does not comply with compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity
love IS love, for aspecs, for sex repulsed folk and for platonic relationships
"love is love" apply to more than same-sex relationships in a world where romantic and sexual relationships are considered more valuable
Remember to advocate for Asexuals and Aromantics this pride. Because we are also here, and we are also queer
Just out here- questioning my attraction again.
My friend is very pretty and I don't know what to do.
Listen, i know im aromantic. I know im asexual. I know i experience none of those forms of attraction. Im reminded of this on a daily basis.
But why are women in suits so gorgeous???
"love is love" until it doesn't include sex
"love is love" until it lives in separate beds
"love is love" until it is queer platonic
"love is love" until it does not comply with compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity
love IS love, for aspecs, for sex repulsed folk and for platonic relationships
"love is love" apply to more than same-sex relationships in a world where romantic and sexual relationships are considered more valuable
Remember to advocate for Asexuals and Aromantics this pride. Because we are also here, and we are also queer
I realised that I was aro/ace during quarantine, and I still feel like I'm missing something. For me, it doesn't even feel like something that society drilled into me.
Everybody else has this thing -- this wonderful, beautiful thing -- and I am missing it. I am without.
Sure, I have other ways to love, but I don't have something that a lot of other people //do// have. It feels bad. That sucks. I don't think I will feel better about it. I hope I do.
I am aromantic. I am asexual.
I wish I felt Pride in that. I can't. Not yet, at least.
It's not because there's something wrong with lacking these forms of attraction. There is not. I absolutely love and envy those that have been able to overcome their internalized bigotry towards this. I do.
It's just that me realizing this about myself is pretty recent. And I'm mourning.
Yeah. I'm mourning aspects of life that I'm never going to experience and that I never wanted in the first place. And I'm crying over it almost every day.
Again, it's not because there's something wrong with this. Aromantic and asexual people are not broken.
I've never been in a relationship, romantic or sexual. I never wanted to, not really. But it's fucking hard to have people every day saying things like "that's a sad way to live" or "you're missing out".
I'm not mourning my lack of romantic and sexual attraction to anyone because it's something that I ever inherently missed. I'm mourning it because this fucking society has drilled into my mind that I'm broken and incomplete without romance and sex. And that's fucked up.
"love is love" until it doesn't include sex
"love is love" until it lives in separate beds
"love is love" until it is queer platonic
"love is love" until it does not comply with compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity
love IS love, for aspecs, for sex repulsed folk and for platonic relationships
"love is love" apply to more than same-sex relationships in a world where romantic and sexual relationships are considered more valuable
Remember to advocate for Asexuals and Aromantics this pride. Because we are also here, and we are also queer
No one is mad. We couldn't care less what you identify as. You think about yourself too much and think you are in some way important or special. You're not.
Arophobia genuinely baffles me
I'm not being in a relationship. I'm not doing anything. I'm just sitting at home drinking tea watching Battle for Dream Island maybe doing a puzzle. What are you so mad about who am I hurting I'm literally just here
I’m trying to write a story and I want to add romance but it’s hard because I don’t like romance. The only reason I’m doing this is because I looked at my character and was like you. you are gay. And now I really ship them but I don’t want to WRITE IT
I have a lot of love for aro ppl tonight
As an aro ace person I would like to apologize to all allo aros and they way they have been treated, like you said you're not gross for feeling sexual attraction. You're a not a bad person for being allo aro. You're all valid as f*ck and deserve to be treated better and to be respected! I wish you all a good evening want you to know that you're appreciated and loved <3
Having said that I would also like to adress my fellow aces.
So some of y'all have been acting like real @ssholes and decided to treat allo aros like sh*t.
This needs to stop.
Slutshaming is never okay. Someone else's sexlife is none of your bussiness so stay out of it.
Having sexual attraction is not gross and doesn't make you a bad person. Some of our fellow aces also feel sexual attraction. Just because it's not your thing doesn't mean you get to shame other people for it.
We're all aspec people, we're all living in a heteronormative society which can make things rather hard, we're all already treated like sh*t by most straight ppl and even a lot of queer people, together with agendered people we are the A in the queer community. So why can't we just stick together and stand up for each other? We might not be exactly alike but we still have a lot in common so don't go and be an @sshole just because you're insecure :)
They shouldn't have to even ask to be respected, they should just be respected! Honestly y'all be better than this.
I love aces to death but some (emphasis on some) have a habit of treating allo aros like crap because of our sexual attraction. We aren’t gross or dirty for liking people sexually and we’re certainly not whores or hoes (yes I’ve had an ace person call me those things in the past). I’m not blaming the entire ace community for this because I realize it’s not all of your faults but a lot of you guys just stand by in these instances. Please treat us (allo aros) better.
friendly reminder that anyone on the ace spectrum can use the ace flag of that's the one you prefer. you aren't required to use the flag specific to your label if you don't want to.
friendly reminder that anyone on the aro spectrum can use the aro flag of that's the one you prefer. you aren't required to use the flag specific to your label if you don't want to.
friendly reminder that anyone on the aroace spectrums can use the aroace flag of that's the one you prefer. you aren't required to use the flags specific to your labels if you don't want to.
if you're grayromantic but want to use the common aro flag? go for it. if you're cupiosexual but want to use the common ace flag? do it. if you're demiromantic abrosexual but want to use the orange-blue aroace flag? that's your decision. these flags exist for the entire community to use if they wish. you are just as aspec as anyone else on the spectrum.
lmao i remember when i was like about 10-11 years old i cut out paper hearts and gave them to all my classmates on valentine...
This was obviously before I knew I was aromantic but I was just thought it was complete bullsh!t and didn't want anyone to feel bad, so I just did that I guess.
But turns out only my teacher appreciated it so that was kinda sad...
aro culture is sending your best friend a valentine's gift to spite the amatonormativity
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Y'ALL HAPPY AROSPEC AWARENESS WEEK!
Being on the aromantic spectrum means that you experience little to no romantic attraction.
The term aromantic can be used as an umbrella term for all arospec identities:
Aromantic
Greyromantic
Demiromantic
Frayromantic
Aroflux
Arospike
Lithromantic
Quoiromantic
Cupioromantic
And many more...
For more informantion about these identities:
https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Aromantic_Spectrum
Arospec people can still be in a romantic relationship or in a queerplatonic relationship or in a sexual relationship or honestly whatever sort of relationship they choose to be in, all of these can be with 1 or multiple partners but they can also do none of those things.
A common misconception is that aromantic people also "have" to be asexual, this is not true. Being aromantic has nothing to do with your sexual orientation so arospec people can still basically be any sexuality.
For example: aro lesbian, aro gay, aro bisexual, aro ace, aro pansexual, aro omnisexual, aro heterosexual, aro polysexual...
This does not mean that allosexual aromantics are sex obsessed or sex addicts!
They can be but being aromantic doesn't equal sex addict.
Aromantic people can be:
- romance repulsed
-romance neutral
-romance favorable
And to finish it I would to remind everyone that:
Arospec ppl are part of the lgbtqiAp+ community!!!
🌈 It's okay to be romance repulsed.
💛 Being romance repulsed doesn't make you heartless or evil.
🐥 Romance is not the height of human connection, and romance repulsed people aren't "missing out."
🌻 We all have different ways of relating to people, especially those we care about, and that's okay.
☀️ Romance repulsed people don't need to change. They're perfect as they are.
⚡Romance repulsed people's boundaries, especially around romantic topics, deserve to and need to be respected.
🌙 Amatonormativity is an extremely prevelant construct in our society, and it hurts those who are romance repulsed.
⭐ Romance repulsed people are important members of the LGBTQ+ community, and deserve much more recognition than they receive.
🍋 Romance repulsed people are valid no matter their orientation, whether they're aro, demiro, grayro, apothiro, or any other orientation.
🌈 Having pride is for romance repulsed people too, and it's important to support and uplift the pride of romance repulsed people.