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PREACH!
little rant
*inhales*
FATPHOBIC PEOPLE ARE SO GROSS LIKE IT DISGUSTS ME GO AWAY JUST GO LET PEOPLE LIVE
FAT PEOPLE ARE GOOD AND BEAUTIFUL AND WORTHY AND THEY DESERVE LOVE AND TO FEEL SEXY CAUSE THEY ARE LOVABLE AND SEXY
One day we will be able to look into a mirror without wanting to break it.
One day we will look at our hands without wanting to break them as well.
One day we will stop comparing our breasts and behinds to those around us.
One day we will examine our stretch marks and rolls and think of them as a beautiful creation.
One day we will hear someone call us by our given name and it will not hurt us.
One day we will examine our biology and not think life would be easier if it were different.
One day we will listen to "The Body Terror Song" by AJJ and not sob, only listen and feel connection.
One day we will feel powerful and comfortable in skirts and other feminine things that now only make us feel less than.
One day we will be able to look at ourselves and say "I love you. I forgive you."
One day we will accept ourselves in the way we do others: unconditionally.
One day we will be whole again.
One day we will recover.
Been on the hunt for some kick ass platforms for a while now, which has proven difficult when you try not to throw money to just any company and you have freaking massive feet. So when I found these platform American Eagle sandals at the thrift for four bucks I knew my time had come. So some locktight, painter's tape and half a bottle of white fabric paint later, here we have it! My reason for exiting my house at all in the summer! Seriously though, so obsessed with how these turned out.
I. HATE. This. Mentality.
NOT EVERYONE HATES THEIR BODY AS IS.
NOT EVERYONE WANTS TO LOSE WEIGHT.
Can we denormalize congratulating people for loss of weight without even ASKING if the weight loss was intentional? Can we denormalize commenting on others' bodies in general? IM SO SICK OF IT.
Crazy I saw this post... my teacher and I were chatting after class today. She asked mid conversation if she could make a comment about my appearance. I told her that was fine and she proceeded to say "I've noticed this year you've gotten leaner" and then waited for my reaction. I responded "Yeah! I was trying to lose about 30 pounds, I achieved it." THEN my teacher gave her thoughts about it.
If you're going to talk about others' bodies, this is how it should be done. First, be sure they're comfortable hearing the comment or having the conversation in general. Then make a NEUTRAL observation on the loss of weight and see their reaction. Determine whether it's a positive or negative development in their life first. Always.
You never know when you could be fueling the fires of an eating disorder when you were just trying to give a compliment.
I once lost about ten pounds from sickness. When I went to tell my aunt the bad news, I didn't get past the first sentence before she congratulated me. I had to inform her that I lost the weight because I couldn't stop throwing up.
Thin privilege is assuming weight loss is a universally good thing.
^^^
Can we take a moment to address the fact that fat people aren't allowed to have a type or taste unless it's other fat people?
If a person with an "acceptable" body type (thin, midsized or muscular) is typically most attracted to another one of these "acceptable" varieties of body that isn't their own... for example a thin person having a type for muscular people... it's normal.
It's just a preference, right?
If anyone with one of those "acceptable" body types listed above is attracted to fat people, it can either be seen as odd or cute. Toxic attitudes towards it range from:
"Aw, I love that you look for personality!" to "Seriously? Look at you! You could do so much better, don't settle for less!" to "Good for you, giving them a chance anyway!"
Even if some of that sounds positive, it's all horribly fatphobic. Not healthy. Not equal. Yet, for the most part, being attracted to fat people when you aren't fat yourself isn't seen as a huge issue or really discussed at all. People might just tell you that you're selling yourself short or have bad taste.
BUT.
If you're fat, all those rules change.
Into muscular builds? Skinny bodies? Midsized frames?
"That's not fair, how do you expect him to stay in shape and be sexy for you when you don't even try to take care of yourself? You would swallow him. He deserves someone who keeps themselves as trim as he is. You should be with someone more your size."
Just because I'm fat, that doesn't mean I suddenly lose all capacity for taste as to what I'd prefer my partner to look like. I'm not less worthy of having a partner I'm attracted to. I don't deserve less say or lose rights to my opinions because of my body type.
I'm attracted to skinny men. That's my type.
That doesn't mean I wouldn't go out with a fat guy or a muscular guy or a midsized guy. Doesn't mean I think fat guys are ugly or muscular men are gross. I'm generally not particularly inclined to other builds rather than thin ones, but if he was sweet to me and checked all my boxes, I would totally go out with him! Without hesitation! Despite his body type.
No one is ugly for their appearance. "Ugly" is something inside you. I don't think that shallow. Fatphobes? They're who's truly ugly.
And racists, sexists, punkphobes, etc.
But still... generally... I have a preference.
It was okay for you.
Why not for me?