Someone Left A Hate Comment On One Of My Posts, So Ya Know What That Means: Another Positivity Post!

Someone left a hate comment on one of my posts, so ya know what that means: another positivity post!

m-spec lesbians/gays, lesboys, turigirls, and anyone else that is 'the reason the LGBTQ community gets mocked' are cool ASF and are an important part of the community. Fuck 'being valid' as a queer person; we're all invalid to bigots, and that doesn't mean shit. We're going to be here, we have always been here, and we're not going anywhere.

Nothing a blank 'hater' account says will change that, either.

Hey can semi verbal beings — especially ones who can get more 'talkative' — help me out with something? I've been struggling with verbal labels, as I don't know where I lay. The best way I can describe my ability to speak is being 'set off' which can either be positive or negative, and I'll speak a lot (or at least it feels like a lot for me. It feels like a warm up where I'll notice my vocal cords burning after a bit like an overheated engine). Otherwise I'm mostly a listener and will answer in short sentences. I also experience verbal shutdowns, where I can push through if I really have to (I've gotten better at this over the years). I've always been like this the more I think about it; I've had someone say that I 'never felt the need to fill the silence' and I was always predisposed to just... not speaking in class but I don't know if that's because I was pushed away by my peers often and just gave up lol.

I've considered demiverbal and even verbal flux, but that doesn't quite feel right either. I'm like a blend of demi and semi verbal and I've been calling myself semiverbal for a bit, but I keep feeling like I don't struggle enough to fit that label. So yeah, that's my situation lol, I would like some help with this and even consolation.

It sucks that there are so many anti endos in the traumagenic tag. Even though we've mostly distanced ourselves from the 'endo' origin term, it's still frustrating to see so much hostility towards others who happen to have different system experiences.

It's so much easier to just be chill about things like endogenic systems, I truly don't understand why someone would waste their time screaming about something they won't bother to understand.

This post is to remind every aroace being that they are cool and fine just the way you are. You are not less of a being for being romance and/or sex repulsed (if applicable), and you're not less aroace for being romance and/or sex favorable (if applicable). You deserve a space in this life, in queer communities, and aroace communities regardless of the amount of attraction you feel, if you're favorable, repulsed or something else, or if you seek/don't seek relationships with anybody.

This post is also for aroace systems with aroace fictives! Reminder that a fictive is their own person and, even if they are aroace like their source they may or may not be the same *kind* of aroace.

Shoutout to loveless aros who date. To loveless aros that feel an emotion that would be considered love, but they themselves don't classify it as such. To loveless aros who are allosexual, and may or may not be romance repulsed (or repulsed by love in general).

This goes for every aro too.

Yo, we do that! On discord we have our own plural kit profiles, as well as a "multiple people said this" profile and a "no clue who said this" profile. We used to try to figure out who said what all the time, but it's so much easier and less stressful to not do so.

we've made a discovery about ourselves recently and I just wanted to make a public post about it in case a fellow p-did system could find it useful. or even other systems!

tl;dr is in bold, but context of the whole post is also necessary

The thing with being a Partial DID system, is that there is, most likely, only one frontier and others are only able to take control of the body while the host is still fully conscious. at least that's the case for us. And training ourselves to be like other systems with distinct switching is a Long and Frustrating effort

we think a lot about the "influence on host" part of it all, and I think we came up with an alternative that works for us. 100% we're not the first and won't be the last to come up with this, but of anyone finds this Helpful it's worth talking about it

the long and short of it is: if you as a system struggle with letting others front, but find yourselves doing/saying some things in unison with no clear distinction of who takes "credit" for the action, this might be a good alternative to being fully in front.

we call this blending, speaking in unison, or speaking in legion! what happens to us is that, me and someone who fronts mix together on a conscious level (while still being two distinct alters, we're not blurring or fusing exactly). and just allow ourselves to do something at the exact same time without figuring out Who exactly thought of this first

it's kind of a very uneven mix. we can tell when someone's speaking separately too, so this Somehow doesn't make us doubt ourselves (so far). additionally it puts the weight off others shoulders when it comes to joining external conversations all on their own.

we think this might be a Very Good way of allowing others to take control and have a say in our collective life, and it might help other systems too