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No, you misunderstood. When I said I can’t feel romantic or sexual attraction I wasn’t complaining, I was bragging.

i have been (at points): bisexual, homosexual, pansexual, polyamorous, heterosexual. with no words for what i really was, i was everything else. it was like shopping in the kid's section for shirts and trying them all on and just feeling horrible because none of them fit me right. nobody told me there were sections for adults. sex ed came and went with no mention of those who were celibate for any other reason than to not get an STD.

to this day, i still resonate heavily with the stupid car seat headrest lyric -

"but i don't care about hundreds of hypothetical people / and their hypothetical sex deals / i care about me, and my sex deal / what about my problems?"

(i used to think he was saying "sex feels", and even after looking up the real lyrics, i like my version better.)

to this day, every time i make a friend and become close enough with them, i think that maybe i've developed romantic feelings, because everybody says that when characters in media are this close, they're "in love". i was one of those good omens readers who felt that maybe book aziraphale and crowley WERE just amazing friends or in a queer platonic relationship, because why does every good love have to be romantic??

anywho. vent post over.

Valid. With or without validation. (A before there was an A.)

Asexuals, aromantics, and everyone else on the aspec are valid, and were valid even before we had a name for what we were.

In May of 1971, I was born different. There wasn’t a name for it. (The committee who wrote the Asexual Manifesto wouldn’t even form for another year and four months.) I was valid, but there wasn’t even a way to say what about me was valid.

In June of 1989, I graduated from High School. I was barely 18. I was still different. But in all those years, I’d never encountered the words aromantic or asexual. (Instead, I heard words like frigid, weird, secret f-g, psycho, virgin, and sheltered). In Career And Life Management class, where sex education was a brief module, they didn’t even mention X on the Kinsey Scale. We were told it was 1 to 6. Period. (I didn’t check, because I was X on the Kinsey Scale, which meant I didn’t care about things like the Kinsey Scale.) They managed to find a way to invalidate me without even naming the things they were invalidating!

By April of 1993, I graduated from college, still different. Now I was hearing kinder guess-names for what I was: Busy, focused, fussy, pure, a late-bloomer, and undecided. But I still hadn’t heard words like aromantic or asexual. I was at an art school. I heard all the other words. I saw people living all the other words. I saw bi couples, I had gay and lesbian friends and instructors, I had a pansexual classmate, and knew someone who was almost certainly pre-transition trans. I was aromantic and asexual but I had no way of finding those words, or being rescued from my confusion by those words. By this point, I didn’t even need validation, anymore. I just wanted understanding.

But I got sent out into the world, to go start my career, and figure out apartments, cars, taxes, utilities, setting up a business, and a million other adult things that took “housed-or-homeless” priority over “figuring out what was ‘wrong’ with me”. So, even though there were murmurs on the right talk shows, or screeds in the right ink-and-paper offline zines about asexuality and aromanticism, they weren’t in mainstream or sidestream discourse. I had to settle for “different, busy, and single-minded about his career”.

It would take until late 2022—over 29 years after I left college and 51 years after I was born—before I started noticing social media posts about “aroace” characters who didn’t feel love.

Now I had a name for my difference.

I knew exactly what I was, because everything I read about asexuality and aromanticism perfectly matched and explained the experiences I’d had, and the feelings I’d felt, since I first noticed I was different at age 12!

I’d been valid all that time. I saw the other posts saying we didn’t belong in this or that community, and the names should be broken up into more categories, and we were taking up space at pride festivals, and this was a made up thing that didn’t exist prior to… oh, fuck it, it didn’t matter. I was aromantic and asexual on the day I was born in 1971; before those two words were available to ordinary people. I was real, I was who I was, and I was valid, and even though I wasn’t allowed to know what I was for another five decades full of trauma and loss and hurt, I always was who I was, and so I always was valid, regardless of whether or not anyone else agreed.

And so are you.

I just told someone I thought I might be aro and a few meetings later they literally asked

So what did you think about [friend I hung out with]? Anything there? I would love that for you!

And I'm just sitting there like... what about our whole previous discussion didn't you get? Why do I have to 'find someone'?

Why is everyone determined to pair me with someone even when I say I'm happy by myself?

"B-b-but what if ur not actually aro!! What if u just haven't met the right person yet?? Ur still young 🥺"

Than I'll stop using the aro label. I'll realize that I was incorrect and go on with my life. No one's changed my mind yet though. I haven't met that "special someone 🥺🥺🥺🥺" "yet" so I don't care about this entirely hypothetical person.

Aphobes are stupid ngl. Realizing that this label doesn't fit me (which it will almost definitely still fit me as I get older) isn't going to be some world shattering event. I'll move on, I'll accept my mistake. Lol

I'm not ace, but this post wasn't about being aroallo so go wild, I se you aroaces and aces, y'all r cool so you can tag it as ace and aroace

This is so relatable

Being aro is so lonely. Not because you're not in a relationship but because everyone else is and it's the only thing they care about.

Make sure to ventilate your house regularly!

Lilith redraw for aromantic awareness week :))

Original from last year ↓

SOME AROS HAVE CASUAL SEX AND THEY SHOULDN'T BE DEMONIZED FOR IT

Some friendly reminders for the Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week (& beyond)

- Aromanticism is not part of the asexuality spectrum.

- Aromanticism and asexuality are two different identities.

- The "A" in LGBTQIA+ stands for aromantic as well.

- Some aros feel romantic love. Some even fall in love. Some feel only platonic love. And some aros don't feel love at all. And that's okay.

- Ace is not interchangeable for aro.

- Being aro isn't "sad".

- Loveless aros exist and should be appreciated and cherished.

- "Aros still experience other types of love!" or "Love is love!" are exclusive and we should stop using them for the whole aro community. Even if you're aro - stop using them on the behalf of all aros. This is harmful.

- Some aros are straight.

- Some aros are gay.

- Some aros are bi or pan.

- If you think it's wrong for a gay/lesbian character to be shipped with the opposite gender, than you should think the same about aro/ace characters, who canonically don't want/aren't in relationship to be shipped with other characters.

- Some aros are also ace.

- Some aros are also allo.

- Some aros are non-SAM.

- Some aros have casual sex and they shouldn't be demonized for it.

- Don't call it "aromantic awareness week". It's Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week for a reason.

- All aros deserve aro rep.

- All aros are queer.

- All aros are human.

- This post isn't all there is for aros. Do your own research as well.

Es difícil encontrar emojis arrománticos como la bandera :(

un corazón sin un latido,

No por falta de afecto, sino por un distinto sentido,

Donde la llama de la pasión no se enciende, ni se ha extinguido.

No se busca la mano, ni el roce, ni la mirada,

No se anhela el beso, ni el abrazo, ni la palabra,

Pero el alma se abre a la amistad, a la ternura, a la verdad,

Un amor diferente, que no necesita la llamada.

Un corazón que late al compás de la amistad,

Un espíritu que busca la conexión, la comprensión,

Un alma que se entrega a la belleza, a la bondad,

Un arromántico, que encuentra su propia dimensión.

Este animalito, más mono que he encontrado 😍😍🌲🍏⚪🌪️🩶

No por falta de pincel, sino por un lienzo sin marco,

Donde la pasión no se pinta, ni se busca un abrazo.

No se anhela la mirada, ni la sonrisa, ni el toque,

No se busca el romance, ni la melodía, ni la flor,

Pero el alma se abre a la amistad, a la confianza, a la luz,

Un amor diferente, que no se rige por el amor.

Un corazón que late al compás de la amistad,

Un espíritu que busca la conexión, la comprensión,

Un alma que se entrega a la belleza, a la bondad,

Encuentra su propia dimensión.

No es una ausencia, ni una falta, ni un vacío,

Es un camino diferente, que se abre a nuevas rutas,

Donde el amor se expresa en formas más profundas, más auténticas,

Donde el corazón se entrega a la vida, sin ataduras.

Why do you need labels?

"Labels are not about confining individuals; they're about recognition, representation, and respect. They help foster understanding, build communities, and empower individuals to embrace their identities authentically."

Esto es un desahogo personal

¡Ya Han pasado como 3 años desde que descubrí y acepté! Ser, aromático, "Orientación romántica". He tenido mis romances, intereses antes y después. Pero no siento realmente la necesidad. Romántica como en las películas y mangas. Puedo estar visualmente interesado y sexualmente. Unido, pero. Cuando se trata de romance, no puedo Si tuviera que Dar mi vida por esa persona no lo aria. No entregaría mi vida por otra persona (metafóricamente, y sentimentalmente)

Si Tuviera que Dar algo importante para que esa persona se siente bien. No lo haría. Y realmente tuve que decir, muchas cosas que realmente no siento. En esas pequeñas relaciones. Esos vínculos que se forman. Simplemente para Sentirme en una relación. "Sentirme normal". Les tenía que decir a otra persona. (Te amo) De una forma tan cursi que me daban ganas de vomitar.

Siento que engaño a esa persona. Ya que siento que Ella realmente me ¿AMA?. Pero yo simplemente. ¡Soy un espejo y digo lo que! La otra persona quiere escuchar.

He estado ocultando esto por mucho tiempo para que no se me viera mal, para sentirme como cualquiera. Pero estás pequeñas relaciones, aventuras las encuentro vacías y como suele pasar estas terminas con alguien herido. !las parejas que he tenido piden más de lo que estoy dispuesto a dar¡. (Ejm: ¿por qué no eres más expresivo con tus sentimientos, cuando estamos juntos?. siento que soy la única en la relación que se esfuerza, para que este bien. No me siento amada por ti. A veces pienso que solamente piensas en sexo )

Solo algunas palabras que se dicen cuando uno está herido y realmente no se que decir en esos momentos ya que pienso que ella tiene razón no estoy enamorado de ella como quisiera. Y aún si está pequeña relación lleva meses y termina creo que sería el único de los dos que no sufriría tanto no me pasaría días llorando o sintiéndome insuficiente como podría ser el caso de la otra persona. Creo que al hacer esto solo lastimó a las personas pero no puedo evitarlo. Me agrada estar en una relación me gusta estar con una persona linda etc a quien no me agrada el sexo etc.

Tal vez este mal yo por querer esto. Lastimó a la otra persona para llenar el vacío que tengo pero a la vez no puedo dejar de hacerlo. siento algo de culpa pero a la vez creo que es normal querer estar en una relación ser amado pero está el problema de no saber si seré amado por quien soy si soy alguien que merezca eso ya que no puedo devolver lo

Mi versión pony. no soy, bueno dibujando pero he dado lo mejor de mi para hacer esto, trataré de dibujar lo de otras formas aún no le pongo un nombre pero me parece lindo

yes!!!!

Omg astruc just said on twitter that max is rather ace and alix is rather aro (it was an answer for someone who asked if they were together or they are going to be)

Just had a look on Twitter to confirm and yeah this is legit!

That's neat! I do hope that we get more on-screen LGBT+ rep in future seasons, it would be pretty awesome.

And they were roommates (no really they were) (they’re aro)

The quote in question is factually incorrect (which I know is the joke, but still), so I fixed it.

"Happiness is magical and everybody should experience it."

'love is magical and everybody should experience it'

Pipe Bomb 🫶🫶

You thought I stopped yesterday? Think again!

(Yes I know my handwriting sucks)