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How Prevent Gifted Kid Burnout From a Gifted Silly whose Fire is still Blazing with Rage
1. EVERYTHING IS STUPID.
School is stupid, parents with unrealistically high expectations of you are stupid, teachers who overwork you are stupid.
You don't need their approval. You don't need to impress authority to have worth.
You don't need to be perfect, especially not in a broken system.
Test scores aren't a measure of intelligence. You are smart, even if the material was difficult to grasp.
You're not "wasting your potential" if you decide to pursue a career you love. Create art, write music, perform, you're contributing to the beauty of the world. There's more value in that than most people see.
You're not "wasting your potential" if you're an adult who isn't busting their butt in college or a fancy job. The economy is fucked right now, and being an adult is hard. You're doing your best.
And sometimes, you can't be at your best all the time, but you're trying, and that's all that matters.
2. Don't let school ruin a passion for learning.
Just learn. Learn and love learning. Learn without school holding you down. Find your passions, and run after them. Pursue knowledge because it's fucking fun.
Research something you care about for fun, challenge yourself to learn how to complete that math problem, learn, not because you feel like you have to, but because you want to.
Never let school make you lose a love for learning.
3. They explain it more effectively than I can lol
I made a video game metaphor but, when I was finding the video that made me realize this I read another video game metaphor that explained it better, "So basically, as a gifted kid, I skipped the tutorial because it felt too easy. Then the actual game threw curveballs at me" (adorablehoe, 2nd top comment).
HealthyGamerGG's entire channel has great information
Motivation Glass Bridge
Doing stuff, in my opinion, is like crossing a glass bridge for those with ADHD
To cross it, you needs balloons (motivation) so stepping on it and crossing it doesn't break the glass bridge
The balloons are things that make you feel like you're floating : music, energy from working out, a good mood, a delicious meal, sugary drinks etc.
But with each thing that's missing, a balloon is missing. Sure, you might be able to do stuff with a good enough mood, or a few balloons missing
If the task is urgent, you run across the bridge, and it doesn't have time to break under you
But we need our balloons to cross our glass bridge
Cuz if it breaks, you get stuck. Until someone (or something) breaks you out of that Executive Dysfunction feeling
How do people - especially neurodivergent people - manage to maintain a schedule or a routine, during which they do work for their job/school, work on their passions, sleep long enough, spend time with their friends, work on their hobbies and not feel exhausted after two days of this thing?
I'm genuinely curious, if you got any advice for this lemme know, i wanna learn
My advice for people who aggressively scrub at their skin when stressed
(Disclaimer: I'm not saying washing your hands is bad. By all means wash your hands as often as you need to. All I'm saying is that washing your hands with boiling hot water, tons of soap and aggressive scrubbing isn't exactly good practice)
This might be a bit specific, so let me explain what I mean.
In my case, when I'm stressed but I haven't realized it yet, I become obsessed with having clean hands. I got dust on my hands? Wash it off. Sauce got on my finger? Wash it off. Hands got wet? Wash them, scrub the feeling away.
Because of this, the skin on back of my hands gets really dry, and if this obsession lasts for some days, it can even crack and bleed.
People around me tell me to moisturize my hands, put some hand cream on them etc., but it doesn't always work because I have to be consistent with it and never forget to do it.
Stressful, right?
Recently however, I've come up with a solution to minimize the damage my excessive hand-washing causes to my skin.
Instead of boiling hot water that scalds my hands, I am making myself wash my hands with cold water. Not freezing cold water, but water that is at a lower temperature than what I would call a comfortable temperature.
AND IT MAKES A DIFFERENCE
My skin isn't cracked anymore! I no longer feel pain when flexing my fingers!
And besides that, I am no longer in pain whenever I'm washing my hands. And the cold water helps me be a bit more aware of my actions.
Before, I would turn on the faucet, put soap on my hands, wash them, put on more soap, wash that off and repeat that cycle 3-4 more times until my brain is aware that my hands have been cleaned and they no longer feel dirty.
This isn't a miracle solution. Far from it. But it's like a little aid, something to help me get hurt less whenever this obsession comes over me. And, truth be told, my hands aren't recovered yet from this latest "MUST HAVE CLEAN HANDS" cycle. But hey, they're not bleeding anymore!!
In conclusion, if you've got any kind of compulsions that act like mine, maybe try and change it up a bit so it hurts you less. Like using cold water instead of hot. Or adding some element like scented soap to bring your awareness back to your actions.
I'm aware I'll get back in the cycle at some point, but at least now I can minimize the damage without ignoring the urge to feel clean.
And that's a good step forward for me
Hey y'all I was just wondering, is it ok for me to self diagnose myself with AuDHD and Dyscalculia?
I've done lots of research on it and I check off a lot of boxes and I relate to a lot of the neurodivergent memes and characters
I noticed that I get along better with neurodivergent people and a few people in my life have mentioned that I might have AuDHD+Dyscalculia
I really want to get an official diagnosis but my mom could care less about helping me and I think it requires money (I'm poor ASF)
I did go to a place awhile back that said I was "mentally disabled" but they didn't say with what unfortunately....
Me:*Looks up autistic signs*
Google:"Autistic folks are more likely to have stomach issues"
Me:"Huh, must be very rare bc me and my autistic siblings don't have that"
*realization kicks in*
Me:"Oh wait....we all have stomach issues"👁️🗨️👄👁️🗨️
(posted this while on my way to the stomach doctor)
ADHD is actually nuts: I'm really sitting here holding my pee bc "peeing is boring" 😭
The ‘you’re mature for your age’ to sleeping with a bed full of plushies in your mid twenties pipeline is real
I see posts like this and I remember how lucky I am to live in a mostly ND family and have ND friends. Most dinners my mom makes have elements of rice or noodles that I can eat. My brother is always free to make himself his safe foods. My best friend walks with me so I can make sure ey don't eat apples and other stuff and ey can make sure I don't eat tomatoes and other stuff. Yeah, it sucks when I'm invited to a party and I have to make up a cover story about why I can't drink soda other than ginger ale, or eat food other than pasta, or have to wait seven minutes before taking another sip of my drink, but mostly I'm in ok situations. Always have ND friends to support you. It helps so much.
autism allies (and even a substantial number of autistic people) when you tell them your autism-induced picky eating is not “picky eating” but is in fact an eating disorder that you can’t magically get over in the next 5 seconds:
what a surprise that the only childhood/family friend (y'know like these kids of your parents' friends you literally grew up with) I still can't wait to visit every time, willingly keep in touch with and still consider a close friend after all those years is, in fact, also neurodivergent
just realised that the reason I like poetry so much might be because I genuinely enjoy literature but, thanks to ADHD, I'm hardly ever able to finish a book (not to mention a whole book series, I legit never finished a single one)
and poems are usually a few paragraphs long at best
When I say autism is a spectrum I mean. Some autistic traits include:
Excessive talking - Non-verbal and no talking
Little to no eye contact - Excessive eye contact
Can’t read a person - Can over analyze a person
Socks 24/7 - No socks 24/7
Super high IQ - Below average IQ
Constantly under-stimulated - Constantly over-stimulated
Hyper-sexual - No sexual attraction at all
AUTISM IS A SPECTRUM NOT EVERYONE SHOWS THE SAME AUTISTIC TRAITS
ADHD Heritage Post
hyperfixations are so scary like yeah this could be a month long thing or i might be thinking of it everyday seven months from now. no way to tell
There has been a lot of research about autistics over the years, but this one really took the cake!
This is what happened when researchers attempted to compare the moral compass of autistic and non-autistic people…
ADHD is going on pintrest looking for outfits to wear for tomorrow cause you can't think of anything and leaving pintrest with 500 X-men memes
I see one of my friends once a week most weeks, sometimes two or three weeks between seeing each other, and every time she asks "what are you currently obsessing over" to welcome and give room for me to talk about my hyperfixations/special interest.
This friend is neurotypical and doesn't quite understand why I am the way I am about things I love, but they try to give me room to be myself and she asks questions about things.
I think this is what it means to be loved and accepted...
the positive brain juices that stem from making a new friend are u n m a t c h e d
i ran out of my adhd meds and my brain has been in a constant cycle of “byler, witchcraft, jegulus, byler, witchcraft, jegulus, byler, witchcraft, jegulus, b-“