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It funny how I was able to accept that I was ace, granted I was in denial about it for some time. Then I realized I was aro and was like...”NONONO...I know I have no desire to date anyone, but NONONONONONONOnonono....I haven’t dated anyone...I don’t know what a crush feels like, let alone attraction!!! I’ve never had any fantasies!!! Wait-...people fantasize ABOUT ONE ANOTHER?!! I wouldn’t date any stranger or my friends!!!” and then I had the most funny thought at a certain point (before I knew the term aromantic) and it was, “Well maybe if I move countries I’ll be able to fall in love!!!!”, and meanwhile when romance/sex would show up in media I’d be like “Where is the plot?! Why did we lose the plot?! People actually want this?! WAIT-?! Do people act like this?!”. I also thought people were just deadass lying when they said they experienced crushes in kindergarten, which they probably weren’t lying. I will say though I do love food. I mean pesto is an absolute god. Chocolate is amazing (though if don’t like chocolate that’s cool too, same with any other food). But bread...oh my god! I love naan, rolls, and most breads.

Sometimes figuring yourself out can suck. There are days I wish I could have crushes and have the regular teenage experience because sometimes I feel like an outsider. I can’t fall in love and I don’t wanna do the deed. I’m just tired of hurting. I got hurt and emotionally manipulated by someone at my school and I’m scared that history will repeat itself. I don’t want them to hurt anyone else. I’m tired of holding anger towards this person because I just want them to grow up and learn not to overstep people’s boundaries. I left them because I had grown up a bit and learned that I deserve better. They made me question everything about my identity. They did these non-consented cuddles, and I felt stuck. I love myself a bit more, but I’m sometimes a little lonely. This person put me down along with another person. I left them both. My friends that I have now, respect me and I love them and appreciate them for that. I’ve always wanted to befriend everyone, but the fact is, that little childish dream of mine can’t come true because not everyone will like me or want to befriend me, and the same is for me, as I have the same feelings for some people as well. Augghh...growing up also sucks! 

I have only recently learnt that I might be asexual but I think it will take some time and a lot more introspection to fully claim the word but I think the major reason I preferred written smut over visual is because in the written form, someone would actually be explaining what the characters were feeling in that moment. I was(and still am) so clueless about what sexual attraction feels like that I had to have someone explain to me step-by-step what sex would actually feel like. 

Does this make sense to you? If it does please respond and I would love to hear about your experiences too.

A-spec Destiel

I’m asexual, so when I stumbled across a fic where Cas was ace, it kind of blew my mind. I’d never thought of him as ace, but it did kind of make sense. Plus, the fact that Dean was so cool about it made me wish that people like that were way more common. Anyway, here are some of the Supernatural fics I read with ace, aro, or demi characters.

Ace of Hearts by whelvenwings on AO3. (26,757 words).

Tags: Asexual Castiel, High School AU.

My Rating: 5 stars

Description:  Castiel has felt like an outcast and a freak for years, and is living life mechanically, going through the motions. That all changes when he meets Dean Winchester, who decides to show him some of the better things in life - and get Cas to pay attention to all the things he's been missing.

Notes: Honestly, this is one of my favourite fics ever, I think. It is so cute, and the ace representation is really well done. 

how far are you by whelvenwings on AO3. (43,166 words).

Tags: Fantasy AU, Mythology references, POV Castiel, Creature Dean Winchester, Mutual Pining, First Kiss, Demisexual Castiel, Bisexual Dean Winchester, Coming Out, Protective Dean Winchester.

My Rating: 4 stars.

Description:  Castiel, freshly fired from his job, is moving to a perfectly ordinary house in a perfectly ordinary forest where he just happens to meet a perfectly ordinary guy called Dean. Sure, the house seems to be a little filled with monsters. Yes, the forest shrieks and whines at night. And without doubt, Dean saving Castiel's life is a strange kind of first date. But it's all perfectly ordinary - right?

Notes: I’m not a massive fantasy fan, but this was a really sweet and gentle read.

The Tea is Decaf by mnwood on AO3. (3,673 words).

Tags: POV Castiel, Fluff, Sign Language, Castiel in the Bunker, Canon Compliant, Sharing Clothes, Asexual Castiel, Gentle Dean, Non-Explicit Sex, Domestic, Established Relationship.

My Rating: 4 stars.

Description: Based on this text post from thebloggerbloggerfun: "Listen, imagine Eileen sneaking out of Sam’s room at night to go to the bathroom or something and steps out into the hallway in one of Sam’s shirts only to see Cas trying to quietly leave Dean’s room while wearing one of Dean’s shirts and they both just stare at each other awkwardly for a few seconds before trying to muffle quiet laughter and now they have a late night club where they talk about life and gossip about the Winchesters in sign language"And this anon I received: "what if Eileen and Cas discover there are some things Sam and Dean both do in bed because Dean jokingly gave Sam pointers when they were younger and Sam took the advice".

Notes: At the point I’m writing this, I’m only at the start of season 10, so I haven’t met Eileen yet. All I’m saying is that this is adorable, and I can’t wait to meet her now!

Found Naked in his Azaleas by mnwood on AO3. (9,361 words).

Tags: POV Castiel, Depressed Castiel, Aromantic Castiel, Bottom Dean, Switch Castiel, Mentions of Cancer, Animal Transformation, Angst and Fluff and Smut, Modern Setting, Police Officer Castiel, Farm/Ranch AU.

My Rating: 3 stars.

Description: Castiel doesn't mind working a graveyard shift as a security guard. An owl accompanies him to work at night, and he gets to talk to the food truck guy, Dean, when he's heading home in the morning. And yeah, maybe he likes Dean, but relationships never really work for him anyway so why bother.

Notes: This is a pretty weird fic, not gonna lie, but I didn’t hate it. Not a massive fan of smut personally, but Cas is aromantic in it, so it counts as a-spec.

Seeking Friendship by mnwood on AO3. (36,364 words, plus two other works).

Tags: College/Uni AU, Fluff, Insecure Dean, Awkward Flirting, Online Dating, Plot Twists, POV Alternating, Nerd Dean, Nerd Castiel, Possessive Castiel, Fluff and Angst, Asexual Castiel, Literal Sleeping Together, Platonic Cuddling, Asexuality.

My Rating: 5 stars.

Description:  The information pops up in Castiel’s head as if he’s reading it on his computer screen right in front of him. He had come across Dean’s dating profile the very day he made his own three months ago. He must’ve looked at 20 or 30 different profiles that day, but Dean’s was the only one that kept replaying over and over in his head for a week after. "Dean W., seeking friendship."

Notes: I’m not saying anything because I don’t want to spoil it, but this is adorable. Definitely one of my favourite Destiel fics.

Even When Seasons Change by buttsp8jr on AO3. (11,875 words)

Tags: Asexual Sam Winchester, Asexual Castiel, Mentioned Suicide, Description of bad injuries, Trans Gabriel, High School until old age, John is the biggest Dick in existence, Hospitalisation, Surgery, Demiromantic Castiel, Age Difference.

My rating: 2 stars.

Description: After being attacked by his father Sam moves in with the Novak brothers to stay away from him.Sharing a room with his way-too-old-for-him crush may be an added bonus.

Notes: The general idea was okay, but the writing wasn’t the best I’ve ever seen. It kinda has the repressed trauma, written by a 12 year old vibe that you only really see on Wattpad. Asexual Sam was something I hadn’t ever really considered, though.

That’s all, folks! Enjoy all the ace-ness, and feel free to send me any I might have missed.

Genuine question for the a-spec community.

Can someone be considered asexual if they strictly like "doing it" by themselves but not with others?

Or is that considered something else??? (asking for a friend)

Vote👆

PLEASE i beg of you do not fight in the notes or I will put a curse on you, this is for science and also myself

also happy aromantic day to alloaros

keep nsfw content in nsfw tags , not asexual ones.

Am I aromantic or am I just overstimulated by romantic relationships

I feel like I’ve just been knighted

A-SPECS RISE UP!!! GO FOR THE THROATS!!

I know right??? Like there's a whole series on ace Peter and/or Tony on AO3 and I read it all in one go because I was so happy to find those absolute gems

Why is the whole irondad fandom full of a-specs??

Like there's so many aces?? We all just came together for the found family trope??

“So you’ve heard, then?”

“That our parents want us to get married? Yes, I’ve heard.”

The protagonist lounged in their travelling tent, a glass of wine in hand. They were, in their mind, the very picture of regal despondency. 

“You don’t seem happy about it,” said the protagonist’s friend – their fiancé, now, they supposed.

“Are you?”

Their friend meandered further into the tent, looking over the protagonist’s books. “I don’t know. I guess if I have to be with someone …” A shrug. “It may be my best option for it to be you.”

“Your passion is overwhelming,” the protagonist deadpanned.

Their friend gave a wan smile. “I’m just trying to face facts.”

“Do you love me?”

Their friend looked up in surprise. 

It normally would have been embarrassing, to ask such a question so bluntly. But now, more than ever, was the time to have all their cards on the table.

To their friend’s credit, they didn’t shy away. “No,” they said. “Or … yes. But not how you mean.”

The protagonist took in a breath. “Explain.”

Their friend settled onto the sedan across from them, and was silent. The protagonist thought for a moment that they wouldn’t answer at all. But then they said, “If I could love anyone like that, it would be you.”

“But you can’t.”

Their friend cast their eyes over. “I’ve long suspected you of being the same.”

The protagonist leaned back, staring at the tarp ceiling. “Somewhat. I don’t feel romantic love, this is true. But I do feel …” They smiled to themself. “I find people sexually interesting, you could say.”

Their friend stilled. “Oh.”

“Do you think me a whore, for this?”

“No.” Their friend’s response was quick, and certain. It startled the protagonist.

A small lock of dread released in their heart. They smiled. “I’m glad to hear it.”

Their friend cleared their throat. “Do you find me … interesting?”

The protagonist raised their brows. But, well, fair enough. Cards on the table.

“Yes,” they said, in all honesty.

Their friend nodded, seeming to pay close attention to the woven rugs splayed on the grass.

“I take it the feeling is not mutual.”

Their friend rubbed the back of their neck. “Do you think me cold, for not being able to feel any of it?”

“Never.”

Their friend nodded again.

But that did leave one question …

“Marriages usually involve sex,” the protagonist said. They placed their wine on the end table, leaning forward. “How were you planning to deal with that?”

Their friend shrugged. “Every station comes with its chores, I suppose.”

Horror washed over the protagonist.

“The wedding isn’t happening,” they said, bursting upwards. “I will speak with my father, I will – ”

“You will bring your country to ruin,” their friend said, rising to meet them. “Your kingdom needs this alliance even more than mine.”

“I will not take someone who is unwilling.”

Their friend stepped closer, and took the protagonist’s hand. “I would be willing.”

“Would you? Would you truly?”

Their friend faltered.

“I could not do that,” the protagonist said. “Not to anyone.” They squeezed their friend’s fingers. “And never to you.”

“So what, then?” Their friend met their gaze. “You’ll resign yourself to a life of celibacy? Because this marriage is happening, whether we like it or not.”

Now it was the protagonist’s turn to falter for words.

They both stayed like that for a time, stuck.

Then, a light flicked on in their friend’s eyes. “What if we got married, but as friends?”

The protagonist huffed out a laugh. “That’s an oxymoron, if I’ve ever heard one.”

“No, I’m serious.” Their friend took their other hand. “A marriage in name, but in practice …”

They dropped down to one knee, grinning. “[Protagonist], will you do me the honour of being my friend?”

The protagonist had to smile, in spite of themself. “What are you even suggesting?”

“We do the ceremony. Our kingdoms join. But we have separate beds. Separate rooms, even. And you can have a harem, with as many interesting people as you’d like. And I …” Their smile changed from scheming to sincere. “I get to spend the rest of my life with my best friend.”

The protagonist blinked. The idea sounded crazy, but …

“It could work.”

The next day, the two of them informed their parents the betrothal was happily accepted.

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I don’t have a version for aromantics rn, but anyways LOVE LOSES LETS TAKE #1 TRENDING