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Never let others tell you it's impossible when they've never even tried themselves.
All of my basic necessities are met. Thank you God. I am so grateful ❀
I have:
Food to eat
Clean water
Peaceful, safe environment
A roof over my head
A comfy bed
Clean clothes to wear
Free Oxygen to breathe
Free Sunlight for health
Be grateful for what you already have to attract more things to be grateful for ❀
More Daily Gratitude Affirmations ❀
consciously invest in yourself: your hobbies, health, aesthetic, home, knowledge.
you’re worth it
GROWTH MINDSET VS FIXED MINDSET
The Growth Mindset term was coined by American psychologist Carol Dweck . It is the belief that talent, intelligence and abilities can be cultivated through efforts whereas the Fixed mindset is the total opposite of Growth Mindset. Fixed Mindset is the belief that talent, intelligence and abilities are Fixed and cannot be changed.
A person with Growth Mindset sees efforts as a good thing and an opportunity to improve themselves whereas a person with a Fixed mindset will see hardwork as a bad thing . For example: Let's say Aria is bad at maths , she feels that math isn't her forte so she doesn't even try. She feels that she isn't intelligent enough. She believes that intelligence and math skills are Fixed. Aria has a Fixed mindset. Her mindset limits her. She will never improve or get good grades in maths with that mindset. Now let's say there is another girl Ariel , she believes that she can improve her maths by practice. She believes that if she needs to put effort to improve her math skills , it's not a bad thing and it doesn't mean that she is " dumb " . Ariel has a growth mindset. Growth Mindset is essential for success in any kind of field.
A person with Growth Mindset solve problems & persist despite obstacles. Neuroscientists believe Growth Mindset. They confirm that the brain grows like any other muscle in the body with training . A person with Growth Mindset believes we are in control of our abilities whereas a person with fixed Mindset believes that we aren't in control of our abilities. A person with Growth Mindset are focused on the process of getting better . They appreciate feedback and constructive criticism and use it to improve themselves whereas a person with fixed Mindset don't appreciate constructive criticism , they get defensive and take it personally.
Fixed mindset Growth Mindset
I'm not good at this ➔ I can get good at this with effort and practice.
I am not talented enough ➔I can improve with effort with practice .
I don't know how ➔ I can learn !
I don't like challenges ➔ Overcoming challenges helps me to grow !
I give up ➔ I can't succeed if I don't try / I will use a different strategy !
It's too hard➔ With more practice, it will get easier.
I can't do this ➔ I can do anything I put my mind to !
Plan A didn't work ➔ There is always Plan B
I failed and I embarrassed myself ➔I'm proud that I tried and I will try again !
Everyone is better at it than me ➔ I can learn from them !
Questions a person ask with Growth Mindset What can I learn from this ?
what support can I reach out to ?
How will I prepare myself to learn today ?
What will I do to challenge myself today ?
How do I learn ?
🤍Affirmations for growth mindset 🤍
- I can do anything I put my mind into !
- I focus on progress !
- I can get through anything !
- I am ready to ask for help !
- I am problem solver !
- I strive to do my best .
- I am not afraid of challenges.
12 lessons women learn late in life
• Self-acceptance: Understanding and embracing oneself, including imperfections and past mistakes, leads to greater self-acceptance and self-love.
• Setting boundaries: Realizing the importance of setting healthy boundaries in personal and professional relationships, and learning to say "no" without feeling guilty.
• Prioritizing their needs: Recognizing the significance of self-care and prioritizing their physical and emotional well-being.
• Embracing aging: Accepting the natural process of aging and finding beauty and wisdom in each stage of life.
• Letting go of perfection: Understanding that perfection is unattainable and that it's okay to make mistakes and learn from them.
• Emotional intelligence: Developing better emotional intelligence and learning how to navigate and express emotions effectively.
• Value of female friendships: Appreciating the unique bonds and support that can be found in female friendships.
• Financial independence: Recognizing the importance of financial knowledge and independence, regardless of relationship status.
• Life is not a race: Understanding that life's journey is unique to each individual, and it's okay to take different paths and timelines.
• Resilience: Learning from past challenges and developing resilience to bounce back from setbacks.
• Reevaluating priorities: Reflecting on what truly matters in life and refocusing energy and time on what brings fulfillment and happiness.
• Living in the present: Letting go of regrets about the past and worries about the future, and embracing the present moment.
Small ways to activate your "happiness" chemicals
DOPAMINE: the reward chemical
• Complete a task
• Doing self care activites
• Eating some food
• Celebrating your little wins.
OXYTOCIN: the love hormones
• Playing with a dog
• Playing with a baby
• Holding hands
• Hugging someone
• Giving someone else a compliment
SEROTONIN: the mood stabiliser
• Meditating
• Running
• Be in the sun
• Walk in nature
• Swimming
ENDORPHIN: the pain relief
• Laughing exercises
• Essential oils
• Eating dark chocolate
• Running
tam kaur quotes ౨ৎ
🌷 it is your responsibility to make sure that your future self isn't regretting how you spend today
🌷 are you really going to let your mood control what your life ends up looking like?? no. so start prioritizing logic over emotion
🌷 you have to stop making decisions based on your current life and instead start pursuing the goals and routines of your ideal self
🌷 if someone is being disrespectful, you don't have to be angry in that situation. and guess what? you don't need to be hurt either. that is a conscious choice
🌷 next time everything gets hard remember it's life preparing you for the life you prayed for
🌷 just because you are going through a bad time right now, doesn't mean you're not gonna get a great ending
🌷 beauty is subjective. no one is better looking than me, they just look different
🌷 your past has no business here, it didn't get you to where you wanted to be so why are you still focusing on it??
🌷 you can decide who you want to be any day. as soon as you wake up you can completely reinvent yourself
🌷 the reason that you are so socially anxious is because of the story that you decide to tell yourself based on the feelings that you are experiencing
🌷 being hated on is a privilege. that person is taking time out of their day to think about you rather than themselves
🌷 the harder your journey is, the stronger you will become
ily, xo🧸
Becoming the “It” girl: using science to redefine your identity
Hello friends,
A longer post today but I’m excited about this one!
I like to define an "It Girl" as someone who embodies the highest version of oneself, a created identity that reflects your most aspirational qualities and personal vision of success and confidence.
However, this post isn’t bout conforming to standards or expectations but rather embodying the best version of who you imagine yourself to be.
Today, I wanted to talk about how social science-based principles like self-presentation, cognitive dissonance, and identity alignment can help u become an“It Girl” in our own lives and achieve the identity you’ve been desiring.
What is identity
Our identity impacts all areas of our life; it’s the person we think we are and how we communicate that to others.
For example, if you see yourself as confident and capable, you are more likely to approach challenges with a positive attitude and take risks that lead to growth.
On the other hand, if you view yourself as unworthy, you are more likely to shy away from opportunities and not reach your full potential.
Our identity manifests as how we present ourselves to the world, including our body language, communication styles, and behavior.
In addition, our identities are constantly changing as we grow and evolve, influenced by our experiences, goals, and relationships with the people around us. This is why it’s important to continue to refine your personal brand and set standards for yourself to stay authentic.
Taking the time to evaluate our current identity and identifying areas where we can make changes is a good way to get aligned with our highest selves. We can ask ourselves questions such as:
How do I describe myself in three words?
What are my core values and beliefs?
How do I typically respond to challenges and setbacks?
What are my strengths and weaknesses?
How do I feel about my abilities and potential for success?
How do I present myself to others in social and professional settings?
What is my body language like in different situations (e.g., confident, reserved)?
How do I communicate with others (e.g., assertive, passive, aggressive)?
What kind of feedback do I receive from others about my behavior and attitude?
Do my actions align with the person I want to be?
How do I handle criticism and praise?
What goals do I have for personal and professional growth?
What is Self-Presentation?
Self-presentation involves the things we do to portray a particular image of ourselves; it’s how we dress, speak, behave, and present ourselves in different contexts. Our self-presentation is closely linked to our identity because it shapes how others perceive us, which can influence how we see ourselves.
Projecting the identity we want and living by our values and beliefs requires consistent management of our self-presentation. Our behaviors, thoughts, and emotions should reflect those of the identity we’re internalizing.
For example, if your identity is someone who is stylish, you’ll want to curate your wardrobe in a way that reflects that. In a similar context, if your new identity is someone who’s highly education you might start to spend some of your free time reading books, articles, newsletters, etc.
It’s all about helping to align how others see us with how we see ourselves.
Although other people’s opinions shouldn’t dictate our lives, a big part of our identity is shaped by how others view us. Their feedback can either affirm or refute what we’ve internalized to be true.
Here are some techniques for mastering self-presentation and how they can be used to access your highest self:
Dress in a way that reflects your identity, curate a wardrobe that matches who you aspire to be
Use confident body language, such as maintaining eye contact and standing/sitting upright in social settings
Practice speaking with clarity and confidence
Clean up your social media and only follow content that aligns with your identity or helps keep you on track
Establish and maintain boundaries without people in your life that reflect your values and priorities
Invest in personal and professional development through courses, workshops, and reading
Surround yourself with people and environments that support and reflect your highest self/new identity
Regularly express gratitude and maintain a positive outlook
Questions to evaluate and improve self-presentation
What are my core values and how do they influence my behavior?
How do I want others to perceive me?
Does my current wardrobe reflect the person I want to be?
What body language habits can I improve to appear more confident?
How can I improve my communication skills to better align with my desired identity?
In what ways can I be more consistent in how I present myself across different contexts?
What feedback have I received about my self-presentation, and how can I use it to improve?
Am I living in a way that aligns with my highest self, or are there areas where I can improve?
What actions can I take today to better project the identity I want?
How can I ensure my actions are authentic and reflect my true self?
How cognitive dissonance impacts us
Rebranding yourself and changing your identity involves leaving your old life behind. It sounds simple, but it can be very a mentally exhausting change. This is where cognitive dissonance comes into effect.
Cognitive dissonance is the psychological discomfort experienced when our actions conflict with our beliefs or values. If we’re not acting in accordance with our beliefs, we’ll end up with mental discomfort. As a result, we either end up changing our habits or our beliefs.
For example, if you see yourself as an active person but keep skipping the gym, high dissonance might make you change your belief instead of your habit. You might start telling routinely yourself, "It's just this once," rather than actually going.
This may sound stressful and prove to be a challenge during your rebrand. However, dissonance can play a positive role if you’ve strongly internalized a core aspect of your identity. For example, if you see yourself as someone health-conscious or someone who frequents the gym, you’ll consistently find ways to show that this is true, whether that’s going to the gym daily or meal prepping.
In terms of identity formation, when we highlight inconsistencies between our self-perception and our actions, we actually push towards more aligned behavior.
When we recognize that our actions don’t align with who we believe we are, we can use that discomfort to motivate positive change.
In combination with the tips previously mentioned, we can also:
Regularly evaluate our actions and beliefs to identify any discrepancies. Ask ourselves if our behavior aligns with our values and goals
Define specific, actionable steps that align with our desired identity. This can help create a guideline for behavior that supports us
Be willing to accept change and continue to grow and learn more about ourselves
So how can we apply these principles to become an “It Girl”
Define our "It Girl" identity:
Self-reflection: take time to reflect on who you want to be. Write down the qualities, values, and behaviors that define your highest self
Vision board: create a vision board (physical or digital) with images, words, and quotes that represent your ideal identity so that you’re constantly reminded of your goal
Align your self-presentation:
Wardrobe audit: go through your closet and sort items that don’t align with your desired identity. Also invest in pieces that make you feel confident and reflect your new persona
Body language: practice positive body language such as standing tall, maintaining eye contact in conversations
Use cognitive dissonance to your advantage:
Identify inconsistencies: regularly assess your actions and identify areas where they don’t align with your desired identity
Set goals: create specific, actionable goals to address these inconsistencies. For example, if you want to be healthier plan to incorporate more whole foods into your diet
Monitor progress: keep track of your progress and celebrate small wins to stay motivated
Cultivate positive habits:
Daily routines: establish daily routines that support your identity. This could include a morning exercise routine or a consistent skincare routine
Mindfulness practices: incorporate daily mindfulness practices like meditation or journaling
Continue to learn: commit to lifelong learning. Read books, take courses, and seek new experiences that contribute to your personal growth
Build a support system:
Find mentors: seek out mentors or role models who embody qualities you admire. Learn from their experiences and guidance
Surround yourself with positivity: build a network of supportive friends and family who encourage and inspire you
Rebranding yourself is a long and tedious journey, but with a little help from some science-based principles it can be as beneficial as ever!
As always,
Love Luna <3
Small ways to activate your "happiness" chemicals
DOPAMINE: the reward chemical
• Complete a task
• Doing self care activites
• Eating some food
• Celebrating your little wins.
OXYTOCIN: the love hormones
• Playing with a dog
• Playing with a baby
• Holding hands
• Hugging someone
• Giving someone else a compliment
SEROTONIN: the mood stabiliser
• Meditating
• Running
• Be in the sun
• Walk in nature
• Swimming
ENDORPHIN: the pain relief
• Laughing exercises
• Essential oils
• Eating dark chocolate
• Running
Abilities that will forever benefit you
The ability to walk away
The ability to manage your time
The ability to remain consistent
The ability to self analyze
The ability to learn how to learn
The ability to understand others
The ability to listen
The ability to express your thoughts and feelings
The ability to break down tasks
The ability to adapt
The ability to control your mind
The ability to ask for help
The ability to act upon facts not feelings
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Go ahead and do it to live with no regrets.
"Don't ever compare yourselves to others".
you are BEAUTIFUL and UNIQUE in your own way.
FEAR- Forget Everything and Run or Face Everything and Rise.
It's your choice
The Art of Feeling Good Within Yourself: Embracing Self-Acceptance and Positive Energy
Shaina Tranquilino
August 18, 2023
We often find ourselves seeking validation from external sources, constantly comparing our lives to others, and striving for an unattainable standard of perfection. However, true happiness lies within ourselves – in learning to feel good about who we are, embracing self-acceptance, and nurturing positive energy.
1. Embrace your uniqueness:
Every individual is unique with their set of strengths, weaknesses, quirks, and talents. Instead of trying to fit into societal molds or conforming to other people's expectations, embrace what makes you different. Celebrate your individuality and recognize that your uniqueness contributes to the rich tapestry of humanity.
2. Practice self-love and acceptance:
To feel good within yourself, it is crucial to cultivate a sense of self-love and acceptance. Treat yourself with kindness and compassion by acknowledging your achievements, forgiving your mistakes, and embracing self-care practices that nourish both your mind and body. Remember that you are deserving of love and respect – including from yourself.
3. Focus on inner growth:
Growth is an essential part of feeling good within oneself. Invest time in personal development through activities such as reading inspiring books, attending workshops or classes related to your interests, or engaging in introspective practices like journaling or meditation. By focusing on inner growth, you expand your knowledge, tap into hidden potentials, and foster a deeper connection with yourself.
4. Surround yourself with positivity:
The company we keep greatly influences our thoughts and emotions. Surrounding yourself with positive-minded individuals who uplift and inspire you can significantly impact how you feel about yourself. Cultivate relationships based on trust, support, and encouragement while distancing yourself from toxic influences that drain your energy or promote negativity.
5. Practice gratitude:
Gratitude is a powerful tool for shifting our mindset and magnifying feelings of contentment within ourselves. Take a moment each day to reflect on the things you are grateful for – both big and small. By appreciating what you have, rather than dwelling on what you lack, you foster a sense of abundance and fulfillment within yourself.
6. Set realistic goals:
Setting realistic goals that align with your values and aspirations can boost your self-confidence and sense of accomplishment. Break down larger objectives into smaller, achievable steps, allowing yourself to track progress along the way. Celebrate every milestone reached, reinforcing your belief in your abilities and fostering positive feelings about yourself.
7. Practice self-care:
Nurturing your physical, emotional, and mental well-being through self-care practices is crucial for feeling good within yourself. Engage in activities that bring you joy, whether it's going for a walk in nature, practicing yoga or meditation, indulging in hobbies or creative outlets, or simply taking time to relax and recharge. Prioritizing self-care sends a message to yourself that your needs matter.
Feeling good within oneself is not an overnight achievement but rather an ongoing journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Embrace who you are, practice self-love, surround yourself with positivity, cultivate gratitude, set achievable goals, and prioritize self-care to nourish your mind, body, and soul. Remember that by investing in your own happiness and well-being, you become better equipped to make positive contributions to the world around you.