Splitting - Tumblr Posts

More vent art, this time featuring one of my personifications. Sometimes it makes your issues seem more beatable if you characterize them. Give it a shot🖤

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Ren x Chinchilla: How to Be Me

Pretty messy and quick. Didn't put much into this one, just needed emotionally release. But I thought someone might be able to relate so I'm posting it anyway. Enjoy.

"For someone like myself, in whom the ability to trust others is so cracked and broken that I am wretchedly timid and am forever trying to read the expressions on people's faces."

Osamu Dazai

Here's the reins

Take ahold of me

Please don't let me go

You do the talking

SEW UP MY MOUTH

IF I CAN'T KEEP IT CLOSED

There's a dog barking

Right around the block

And a big ol' whistle blow

RUN FOR IT

I'LL KEEP THEM

OCCUPIED FOR YOU

BECAUSE I LOVE YOU

I LOVE YOU SO

Left me hanging at the station

But you'll be back for me soon...?

I'M ABOUT TO DIE

YET THE ONLY THING

I FIND I'M WORRIED ABOUT

IS YOU.

“Societal Stockholm Syndrome theory explains women’s love of men as a form of bonding to an abuser, made possible in part by the mental-emotional operation of splitting. Because women’s terror of male violence is so great and male kindnesses are so small by comparison, women engage in the psychic defense of splitting. Splitting means that one cannot simultaneously see both the good and the bad in another person or persons. Applied to male-female relations, splitting means that women see men as either all good or all bad, or that we see men as good and women as bad. As used here, splitting also refers to women’s denial of men’s violence and to our exaggerated perceptions of men’s kindnesses. Splitting thus works to keep women’s perceptions of the terrorizing side of men from overwhelming our perceptions of men’s kind side and destroying women’s hope for survival. A result of this splitting is that women separate men into two classes, the predators (rapists, wife beaters, incest perpetrators) and the protectors. This compartmentalizing leaves women unable to recognize the ways in which all men are kind to women (in some ways) while also promoting and benefiting from their aggression against women. All women seem to engage in such splitting to one extent or another. Regarding antifeminists, Rowland (1984) comments: “There are … two groups of men: decent, loving husbands and fathers, and those unmarried, childless and irresponsible men.” The husband who rapes and batters his wife and the father who sexually abuses his children are not recognized; nor is the kind, responsible bachelor. Any husband or father is, by definition, regarded as good; any bachelor as untrustworthy. While Rowland (1986) found feminists to “loathe … the violence and cruelty of men, … antifeminists seem either to ignore this [violence and cruelty], or [to] believe it only exists in the ‘odd’ case.” Having split apart the terrorizing and kind sides of men so that the hope created by male kindness is not overwhelmed by fear, and having denied the terrorizing side of men, women bond to the kind side of men. After all, why wouldn’t a person bond to another person whom she saw as kind and whose threats of violence and actual violence she had denied? The result is that women “fall in love” with our oppressors even as we fear them. For instance, antifeminist women report that men are untrustworthy and are users of women, but they say they like men and find their husbands “wonderful” and “loving” (Rowland 1984). Women may “fall in love” with men because of our need to believe that the terror will end, that we can “tame” or “control” our terrorizers so that they will protect and nurture us (e.g., see Schlafly 1977). Splitting is manifested on a cultural level through societal demands that women love men no matter what they do to us and that women devalue women no matter how good we are. Dr. Edna Rawlings and I have asked students in our classes to describe characteristics of people whom they’ve heard called “man-haters” and “woman-haters.” A man hater is a woman who speaks her own mind, a feminist, or a lesbian: in other words, a woman who has her own voice and doesn’t put men first is a man-hater. By contrast, students are unable to recall any situations in which they have heard someone being called a woman-hater. We ask, “Are rapists and wife batterers woman-haters?” They answer, “Just because a man rapes or batters women doesn’t mean he hates women.” The differential definitions ascribed to terms that should have equivalent meanings suggest an enormous collective need both to deny male hatred of women and to derogate independent female action (which might be used to expose expressions of that male hatred).”

— Loving to Survive by Dee L.R. Graham

When I look arround

I see pieces of you

I see them in the stars..

In the way people smile

And I still can hear your advices

But they come from inside.

I'm in peace today

And I'll wait

For your heart to appease

If it ever happens...

But until then

I pray my guides

That some angel flies

And send thousands of vibes

For the peace in this world

And the peace in my world

Just remembered i drew this umm. A couple months ago. Sloppy gamer Fox McCloud